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Curious about different standards
January 30 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would agree with that statement some what. It isn't so much as the standards drop, it is more that a person is wanting different things from a swingers event to a one on one meeting. Yes, I may have sexual relations with a gorgeous young 25 year old at an event... But I wouldn't meet them privately. I mean I would actually have to talk to them if I meet them then. Wouldn't I? Being a little facetious there, but my comment is true none the less. Standards may appear higher as well as people are making a judgement based on a picture and some words... That is different to meeting someone face to face.
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RHP User
12 years ago
My wife and I were just discussing this on the weekend. At a party you are in the moment, turned on etc and just going with the flow. I recently heard in a podcast that when you are turned on your 'gross' factor is drastically lowered. As in you will do things turned on that you wouldn't normally. Such as anal sex, tasting your own cum and hooking up with someone you wouldn't normally hook up with.Then there is also the fact that you have met them and they may be a lovely person and hence become more attractive and/or you don't want to create a fuss by rejecting someone face to face 'eww no'.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nice thread OP! I'm also intrigued now :) The last time I played with strangers at a club I remember thinking 'eeew' about 1-2 of the guys and that I'd just keep my distance in the fray. Easier said than done! If I recall correctly some of their bits ended up in/on/around some of my bits, albeit briefly. One on one there's no way I'd go there. The things you do in the heat of the moment ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ok I have not been to a swinger’s party, not my thing. However I need to have some sort of guideline when meeting first on line. So u base your judgement on…..chats, emails and spoken words on the phone. Often the photos you see are younger then the man who speaks with you and some people look much better in person then on the photos, and so I try to get us much feedback as possible from the person on line. For me all this takes a while, most important is the phone call, I drive on the sound of the voice it tells me a lot, and when my intuition says it’s ok I am not against meeting the person. In person this is much easier, as u say about swinging, I mean all are already had a bit of alcohol which makes people easier to jump over a bit of a hurdle and then you mingle and chat and look at people you get a much clearer picture in a very short time.
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jensta
12 years ago
And Why wouldn't they be? I have to like & connect of some level with a person to have Sex Not going to let ... someone I have no Attraction to Touch Me! You Know What! Sometimes I think Men forget for us Woman Sex is Internal ... your Penis is on the Outside So if us Woman want to be Fussy about who we let Enter our Bodies We Will ...
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RHP User
12 years ago
was a beautiful phrasing of something I struggle with,thank you
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's darker at swingers party. When you meet it's about a physical attraction. Meeting during the light of day in public who don't know what your meeting for allways puts up barriers. It's like your looking for faults. At a swingers party everyone is there for the same sorta thing- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'jensta' And Why wouldn't they be? I have to like & connect of some level with a person to have Sex Not going to let ... someone I have no Attraction to Touch Me! You Know What! Sometimes I think Men forget for us Woman Sex is Internal ... your Penis is on the Outside So if us Woman want to be Fussy about who we let Enter our Bodies We Will ... Well said!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well having external gear is very vulnerable you know !And personally i'm very particular into where and whom I insert it !The man said it was just an observation, lighten up !OP I would suggest adrenaline and like excitable bodily chemicals might have something to do with it !
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RHP User
12 years ago
DG, I have formed my view based on personal experience. I have had sex with ladies at swinger parties, both attached and single. When I have viewed their profiles, in some cases, they are not even looking to meet single guys privately, and the ones that are, are looking for younger more fitter guys. Also I have witnessed older guys than myself having sex with younger women and vice versa. Meeka and Jensta make good points as well. I agree with jensta that the standards have to be high, because let's face it, there are a lot of guys who are members on RHP who are just idiots and have no idea how to treat a woman. Alcohol has never been a factor at any party that I have attended.
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jensta
12 years ago
Your Welcome Freya Glad you Like 50zcool Many think because we are on here we don't have the right to be fussy ... Of course we do ... I do not put everyone in the same basket many men are fussy too ... thats great ... I like that
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RHP User
12 years ago
In real life, animals, especially humans, make incredibly fast assessments based on an ability to collect massive amounts of data, fast. Gestures, smells, other chemicals, environment, behaviour of other pack members, etc before we even talk to someone. Online, all of that is stripped away. So people apply some additional 'criteria' to make up for all the lost sensory information.Plus... in the heat of the moment, people fulfil a need that is different to something that take some warming up.I disagree (I would, wouldn't I - I'm a man), that the invasive nature of sex for a women makes them more discerning. Clearly they are.... but I'm not sure that's the reason.
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RHP User
12 years ago
with a person once I get to know them, and that takes about ten seconds I am a looker in the swingers clubs, I love the form shape and the sensuality of people fucking. My artist eye takes over do I get turned on at a swingers, no have I had sex , yes once or twice and could not have an orgasm so I realised its not for me. I love the non judgemental way that people interact at a swingers, how open and honest they are with themselves and others. If they don’t want you, then they can wave you away in a nice kinda way, or most crook the finger to the guy or girl who is attracted like a bee to honey. I am fussy off-line, I am brutal off-line as I know who I want in me and that’s fine, the men I say no to are big boys and so far only one or two got a bit cranky. I never ever take one for the team any more. though I have been known to have a that last bit of chocolate ginger in the box, cause I felt like something sweet and that’s all that was left in the box life is full of interesting compromise And watching Meeka at a swingers is watching the goddess of sensuality and sexuality. You are a braver woman that me , young lady
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank you TR, I know you have said this a few times but I have trouble seeing myself that way. As you know on the night I only really had eyes for one person.... everything & everyone else was just on the periphery. Well except for your Something about Mary hairdo. LMAO!
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RHP User
12 years ago
There are a lot of prejudice online, as you can see the other threads complaining about members on here.They look at the profile and think 'Ugh, he's ugly, I can do better'. Where as in reality you actually get to really know the person rather than just reading the profile and use your imagination.This is one reason why single men get angry when they are coldly rejected- because the rejector think of them as 'Unworthy' merely from reading only couple of lines.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've often thought similar things....online my decisions are based on my limited time and the number of messages I receive that makes it sometimes near impossible to go through. Then there's the chatting time, the get to know you, the phone call "check" and maybe a meet and maybe more.....still a time consuming process which means that any "maybe" online, normally becomes a "no". However , if I were to be in an instantaneous situation when you are meeting face to face, the chatting, chemistry and attraction can be done straight away. I know there are guys I've found incredibly sexy when I've met face to face, but I know if I had pictures and a one dimensional profile online I probably would not have even noticed them . Guys you should do video clips! Voices, smirks, sensual nuances could all be potentially captured then. Go on do it...pleeeease:P Minxy xx
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GezWouldGo
12 years ago
I don't care where I put it .... as long as I get it back !
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'msminx3'I've often thought similar things....online my decisions are based on my limited time and the number of messages I receive that makes it sometimes near impossible to go through. Then there's the chatting time, the get to know you, the phone call "check" and maybe a meet and maybe more.....still a time consuming process which means that any "maybe" online, normally becomes a "no". However , if I were to be in an instantaneous situation when you are meeting face to face, the chatting, chemistry and attraction can be done straight away. I know there are guys I've found incredibly sexy when I've met face to face, but I know if I had pictures and a one dimensional profile online I probably would not have even noticed them . Guys you should do video clips! Voices, smirks, sensual nuances could all be potentially captured then. Go on do it...pleeeease:P Minxy xx Great posts from everyone and this thread is going exactly the way that I hoped it would. msminx3 you are so spot on with your comments that it is uncanny. I couldn't have said it better myself. When you first join adult dating sites, you think that meeting people is going to be easy. As time goes by, you start to realise how difficult it actually is because all you have is a photograph and a profile, both of which may or may not be real. It makes people apprehensive and nervous and wondering if they are doing the right thing by agreeing to meet someone. Such is internet dating. In a way it's a shame it has to be like this because it is probably preventing people from meeting each other who would actually get on well and have a good time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
that is why you need to attach a string to the end of it.No strings attached is so very highly over rated
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RHP User
12 years ago
My standards are different for RHP guys and 'serious dating guys'. As I don't want to run off and marry a RHP or phook buddy I don't need them to be loving, compassionate and willing to treatment me like a princess. I need hot, sexy, fun guys who meet my sexual needs. If there is a c**k being waved in your face at a swingers party... why not. It's already there. You don't have to go out and find it. My standards may drop slightly for a swinger's party but I still need to guy to have a great cock and I must still find them hot and/or sexy!
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