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DILF ...yes or not-so-much?
March 21 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've gone with Dad-ILF because Father-ILF sounds too much like some skater kid.
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RHP User
12 years ago
As long as there is a United Front and Team..all good. BUT if their kids are rude or disrespectful to me I would expect my partner to say something as I would for them. This is a Huge Topic OP...when two families come together there is a whole dynamic shift of change in a relationship. Blended Families just aren't as simple as we think...Lots of support is required and peoples emotions and feelings need to be considered from the kids, couple involved and even exes...yes Exes! I used to have a rule..No young kids...but after meeting some really amazing people with younger kids...my rule no longer exists. DILF's are HWATTTT...nothing more attractive to see a man interact and show their love for their kids. (twat tingles) Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
I couldn't really care if my playmates have children or not. It only affects me as to the extent of their availability. I'm not drawn to men who are daddy's, i don't melt when they mention their kids. (probably because i've been there, done that) I feel very differently about men i date. In that context i doubt i would be pursuaded to date a man who has never raised children. I rarely mention my children, occasionally if someone wants to meet midweek, or mentions coming back to my place, then i will raise the issues around that. I'm lucky in that i have great support from family who live locally and my exhusband is the always happy to swap days/nights. Would it be true to say that men generally have less time with their kids and so they are not as likely to impact their playdates etc? (exceptions being full time single dads)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Superfox the DILF above is asking about playmates or FWBs. It is unlikely you are going to introduce them to your children. DILF or I think I prefer FILF... Doesn't bother me if someone has children but I don't want to hear about them all the time though. Sometimes okay :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry making assumptions. I assume that a lot of people would introduce people they are serious with to their children rather than casual playmates.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Superfox the DILF above is asking about playmates or FWBs. It is unlikely you are going to introduce them to your children. DILF or I think I prefer FILF... Doesn't bother me if someone has children but I don't want to hear about them all the time though. Sometimes okay :) I like FILF too, sounds kinda naughty, Yep, I'm now officially a FILF To answer the question Messo, I agree that this probably isn't the forum to discuss kids but that doesn't mean that they don't exist. My kids don't live with me but my partner's do. That's not a problem as playmates don't come home.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been a Single Father for 8 years . My Son is now 15 . For that reason , I don't mind if a Play-mate has kids too . Having children means that spontaneity can be difficult . I'm fortunate that my Son is at an age of semi-independence . Just because someone is a Parent, it doesn't mean that they aren't a Sexual Being . If I was to narrow my Search for Women without Kids , I could miss out on meeting Fantastic People . GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't care if they have kids or not, it is harder to find time together and you pretty much need an excell spreadsheet to actually meet ever though. Yet single guys without kids are sometimes that way for a reason. I've found it's better/easier with someone with grown up kids, the understand the pressures/privacy issues/availability issues but don't have so many of those issues themselves.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not really an issue for me as my own children are all over 18. They don't expect Dad to have a sex life though. Funny that. If someone asks about them then yes I talk about my kids but the person I am with is more important at the time.Only gets really difficult when you start a full on relationship and there are kids on both sides. Been there done that and though we both tried really hard it didn't work. Too many issues her kids, my kids, exes and family.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'MisterGreen'I've been a Single Father for 8 years . My Son is now 15 . For that reason , I don't mind if a Play-mate has kids too . Having children means that spontaneity can be difficult . I'm fortunate that my Son is at an age of semi-independence . Just because someone is a Parent, it doesn't mean that they aren't a Sexual Being . If I was to narrow my Search for Women without Kids , I could miss out on meeting Fantastic People . GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile F I L F 2 BOYS. yep, i have bred. beware there are another 2 honkies floating about moohahaha
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have designated play time and it's worked out so far. I have had awkward moments in the past where potential dates keep trying to ring me when I can't speak to them as I'm with my kids. I politely mention that I can only take calls after 8pm. They keep calling ... NEXT ... shows a selfish lack of respect.There are two exceptions to that rule I have and they know who they are. Actually they're DILFS and they 'get it'!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
men I have played with (since starting this journey) have kids and I'm sure the majority of men I will play with down the track will have kids also. Talking about them gives us something else to chat about, we can compare notes, have a laugh or whinge etc, it deepens our connection...well is what I have found with my experiences anyway.I love lying in bed and having a man open up about his life. Seeing the joy and emotion as he shares with me is beautiful and very much part of the Friend factor in FWB.
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RHP User
12 years ago
To answer you question....Well I actually do introduce my "Playmates" (well I call them friends) to my daughter. She is a 17. yr old young lady.. We have an awesome relationship, not an issue what so ever there. Maybe your assumption may be different as some people do not have family/close friends support or no other choices there. Meeting kids when people feel comfortable and safe is the only option from meet and greets...like in my case. My "friends" actually get on well with my daughter, as there is a lot of respect there. Foxy Oh its not like I have "friends" sleep every night of the week because they don't.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
MILFS,DILFS,FILFS....but my fave is the BAVS.
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
I find being a dad is quite an advantage with single women. It represents knowledge, stability, empathy, compassion, and selflessness...... every one a great strength. Now every woman is going to have zero issue with me being a single dad, particularly those with no kids themselves........ but it canbe surprising how powerful an attractive trait it can be to some women in their late 20s-early 30s. DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
I talk to who I want, when I deem I wish to..... my child is my focus when she is with me...... and replies can wait until that priority is asleep. DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
For us, swinging is perhaps more social, we prefer dinners, drinks and play rather than just random sex. Mr Otori has kids and it's great when other couples (who become friends) also have kids as you can do social activities on the "kid weekends". We reserve the adult play meets for "non-kid weekends" only.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ive always been open with my kids and I have introduced them to my "friends" many times. Kids arent stupid so its best being upfront and honest even if the questions are a bit personal and sexual- Posted from rhpmobile
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Newcruiser
11 years ago
good for you Jules im a DILF & believe u should be honest with ur kids
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RHP User
11 years ago
Haven't heard this one before but it works for me if the lady wants to call me a DILF. Because of my extremely discreet life on RHP, it stays that way.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with jules. Being open is the safest way and stops possible embarrassing questions at an awkward time- Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
I have only just learnt what lol and pmsl meansMado
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RHP User
11 years ago
A casual hook-up will be aware I have kids, and the constraints on my time that entails, but won't ever see them.A more involved relationship - as in, hanging out and doing stuff as friends - will be much more likely to meet them, with appropriate boundaries discussed and agreed upon.
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RHP User
11 years ago
ROFLMAO ! Love it !I am a week on week off dual parent. I have a daughter 11 and a son 8.I don't mix my sex life with my family life and that is the way playmates seem to prefer it.It's a non issue for me but does affect availability, too bad, no one has complained.Is it attractive ? I have found women who have experience with children are by far the easiest to get along with. But that is by no means universal.
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Coops27M
11 years ago
I don't have kids of my own yet, but i've been an uncle since i was four and have 19 nieces and nephews and 3 great nieces and nephews with more on the way and i adore having them around and playing with them. They all love their uncle paul :) . Aslong as you can accept their time is for their kids first then its fine- Posted from rhpmobile
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chevtrek
11 years ago
Some like to talk about kids so all is cool But will say this ---A woman friend and I were invited to a house for a 4 some and the kids were in bed at home so I said no thanks and we retreated. So always protect the children no matter what. but its ok to talk about them as they are a big part of our lives..
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Splicey
11 years ago
I only mention I have kids because I like people's responses
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Splicey
11 years ago
... if a man is a father or not is irrelevent when it comes to what we're looking for.
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