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Dating
October 31 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
While i do enjoy spending a lot of time with my mates, I'm also a sucker for outings with a good female companion!Movies, love fine dining, theater shows, comedy shows, concerts and of course weekends getaways! I must admit however, that I'm probably the only one out of my close 20-30 mates who enjoy most of these outings. To most of them they don't consider it manly I guess, or it could be that they're simply just not interested in those sorts of outings, but then again their thirst for enjoying the finer things in life is not as big as mine.As a matter of fact, I'm organizing with a few close girl friends at the moment to attend some of the spectacular events being held in Melbourne at the moment for the Day of the Dead Festival!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Being a spectator just seems too much like watching someone else have all the fun. So I've never been terribly involved in traditional male bonding, just a few mates around for videos, now and then, with partners always welcome. I enjoy going out, just me and Jennylee.
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cbdlivin
12 years ago
In my last serious relationship, used to go out to dinner weekly, movies, plays, the gallery but that of course relies on finding someone with similar interests.I enjoy going out with good company, but finding the good company can be the problem :-)B
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RHP User
12 years ago
As the male part of a couple I think you just need to find the right type of guys. I too enjoy a full life. It involves time with male friends and on my own but definitely involves the company of women. I couldn't imagine not spending time with them. I clearly want to have sex with them( hence being here) but the movies, hanging out and other quality times with both girls who are friends and girlfriends is just too good to pass up. As a woman deserving respect you should expect this too: guys who can't get off the couch to spend time with you don't deserve you anyway Best of luck here Bx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have an awesome date planned for the next woman I deem to be a fair possibility of becoming a regular thing. It's definately not a first date thing though
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Smilingwithfun
12 years ago
To me that is the great difference. Dinners,movies,galleries,weekend's away of a romantic nature. With mates its mates pursuits.Its a balance you have to get right in your life.
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Lifes_great
12 years ago
Never been into the traditional male bonding thing. I enjoy a going out for a meal or movie every now and then. I play guitar in a band so like to do that every week or two. It's a rare occasion that I drink so I seem to be the designated driver on most nights out. It could be an age thing but I tend to enjoy doing things during the day on the weekends and then relaxing at night, cook a meal, watch a movie.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
hit a beautiful beer garden, platters, drinks in the sunshine... perfect first date in my opinion. It's relaxed, non-commital (e.g. can leave when you feel like it without offending anyone). Progressing from there it'd be a week night dinner, then if they're good enough I'll do a Saturday night date. Dating is so important and I LOVE the social aspect of it, so if a man doesn't want to then they've got no chance with me. That being said, I "date" my girls a lot. In fact I'd go as far to say that I date them 3 times as much as guys. To answer your question though, I am a very good judge of character and I generally won't even bring up the idea of dating if they haven't mentioned something along the lines of dinner/movie etc. Some guys, especially the ones in their 20's are ALL about their bromances... bro's before hoe's - it'll never change until they realise they have a void in their life which their mates can't fill. By then of course, especially in Adelaide, they've fucked and hurt the majority of decent chicks they come across and none of them will touch him with a barge pole. So they hunt the younger ones... same old cycle here. Sorry, I digress. Anyway, that's my rambling 2 cents.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I can honestly say that I prefer nothing better than hanging out with my gal than sitting around in a pub with my mates. We all need our own time with our friends, but they don't give the same mind and sexual stimulation as she does..Lol.
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chevtrek
12 years ago
short answer dinner as long as its good food love those weekends away
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RHP User
12 years ago
Perfectly said, Adelaide is too small to burn any bridge lmao.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm not sure but maybe it is mind set. In relation to all those things you mentioned you liked doing....it sounds great and perfect to me if i'm with someone i love in a relationship. Just my opinion....but in my opinion this particular site is a sex site and not a dating site. Coming back to mindset...i feel if you make the adjustment to what you are after then join a specific site that caters for that then you're prepared. Maybe you should consider joining another site that fits your purpose. There are dating sites and even sites that cater for your needs or doing more with a man that isn't about sex. Just a quick simple view.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Life has more to offer than a string of orgasms. Albeit, it's always a nice end to the day...and start...and for lunch..and, and, ermmm...:D. What do I like to do?? Hmmm, a magician never reveals his secrets.. ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I love to do that stuff when i had a gf,movies galleries, bowling, outdoor stuff, and doing that stuff can show you that someone may be worth keeping around or in a relationship it is the glue and keeps the spice in the relationship(apart from healthy sex life). guys are built in many different ways,some love cars and gym and the pub, others like arts, movies dinner more than the first group but a good balance is key, some time to themselves, some time with mates and of course time with their new interest or long time partner,If the guy is always at the pub and with mates instead of spending time with you there is perhaps something lacking that can be worked on,as they should want to allocate a good portion of their free time to you,part of being a good partner to someone is doing stuff you ahte becasue you take an interest and want to make your partner happy.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm a closet romantic, I'd love to dance with a woman in amongst some of the fountains in New York city, Id love a romantic boat cruise drinking yummy summer drinks, but in all honesty I'm more likely to be found at a pub overlooking water of some kind where I can feel totally comfortable in casual shorts and short sleeved shirt. There is no better date than when both parties are 100% relaxed.
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RHP User
12 years ago
have no problem gettin laid but ive been single 3yrs & have only had i dinner date with a 19yr old i had 2 coffee dates & had to pay for both...wots with that am i showing my age now cos i dont see anything wrong with a guy buyin the 1st drink im happy to pay for the 2nd im not after a husband ..im too old for kids have no baggage just like a date with someone ova 30 but they seem to prefer the company of mates....go figure if i was male id rather look @ my ample cleavage ova the table than drunken mates devouring a steak with their mouths open
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RHP User
12 years ago
My man drives his own truck. Soemtimes he picks me up in the middle of the day and we go and load cattle together :) He is sooo romantic. Really there is a lot to be said for the bed behind the seats of a truck and a good cattle prod.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you enjoy a woman's company then you go out together. Some women expect a free ride, and the princess treatment, and you know who you are. It's no fun having to buy a woman's attention and personally I will not. I have more to offer than a wallet. Money is too cheap.I personally do not hang out at pubs or with mates, but that's probably a single parent thing.Certainly if I did have the opportunity to hang with mates, then I would invite the woman along unless I was ashamed of that woman in public, and that is unlikely to continue.Some on this site have addictions and Bi-Polar Hyper Mania and can be no fun out of the bedroom at all, and every bit a liability in public.If there is a connection, then you get to enjoy company in and out of the bed/tree/plane/balloon/spa/pool/cave etc.So be interesting, not moody and be presentable girls. Nothing like being seen with someone you are proud of.G
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well, to answer your question, there was a time, not so long ago, when men would court a woman by using social events like concerts, festivals, horse racing,etc. But i think that was a little to hard on the new generation, targeted to do anything and everything faster and quicker, not necessarily better but for sure in large quantities to compensate for the lack of quality. If you ask a youngster these days about going to opera or simply go out for a fancy dinner, he will look at you stunned asking ... What's the point? I will end up anyway with 10 minutes of satisfactory F**K later on anyway so why bother... Opera? and listen to those squeaky strings? no way!!! And after that he will mumble " old fart!!! look what he got into his mind... Me at the opera or at the restaurant for a fancy long nice dinner without the promise of a quickie!!!" My chick likes fast food enough so we can get more F*/ per night.The issue is that, in my humble opinion, that at some point we forgot how to court, how to be sensitive and caring, how to impress a woman ( or a man) and drive him/her into heavenly pleasure. Actually the process of dating, courting, a person it's a very exquisite foreplay for the prospective night that is coming. These days unfortunately, this foreplay is done by using "electronic media" and straight questions. So yes, we are dating less because we forgot how nice and pleasurable is the dating process. ( Some of us didn't forgot that but they are getting older by the day).So to summarize, some of us like to date, and simply have a good time out with someone but the trend is to " minimise" this to the strict requirements.
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RHP User
12 years ago
god ur arrogant arent u not everyones a princess if a man invites u out for a coffee surely he can afford $3.50 for a bloody coffee
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes sex site, but doesn't limit the bigger connection you can make here. I love feeling the build up - the anticipation. I need to know a man can make me laugh and have fun, then I feel like I can be more open sexually ... I wanna eat ice-cream in the park, dance, lay under the stars and tell stories, go rock climbing, skiing, surfing!! (I can't do any of those things by the way, except climb - well I did in high school) the list has gotta be endless ... There is so much fun to be had!! :)
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CrackUp
12 years ago
I love all those things Blue Eyes.. and others as well, camping, fishing, crabbing, etc. I actually don't mind what I do, as long as I am enjoying the company of who I am with. I would like to think any future partner I find, will have a balanced approach, spending time with his male friends.. spending time with our mutual friends and spending time with me, in all manner of pursuits. Variety is the spice of life...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Love to do all those things if I could actually find a woman who either a) wanted more than non exclusive or casual b) wasn't damaged/scared/running from previous relationship pain, or c) actually appreciated those things. The dating/courting dynamic has changed for sure, but so has the expectations and what's on offer, and what's appreciated and what's no longer appreciated. A lot of people out there who want everything but will give nothing in return. I know a lot of my mates won't make the effort now because they feel they're just being used or played off against others. If you want it, you have to give it out....both people need to be taking equal amounts of risk and exposure to vulnerability, otherwise its never going to work.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Very true, sometimes it does feel like you're getting played off against another. But it's equally true that despite that, you have to give, without ANY expectation of getting something back. Cassandra-Jayne, there is nothing better than having that bit of a connection before you start a sexual friendship with someone, I think it allows an openness not seen in instant hookups (for want of a better word)
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
12 years ago
I have chatted a bit about this lately and have been able to get the guys side of the story to it as well.... I hate meeting someone and then you get zero replies .... i usually only meet someone if i can chat to them in the chat room like i would a real friend .... the first time you do anything its often less than the best experiance usually for me feeling rather unforfilled.... so im ready for a call back as the second time at least you both get off.... by the third you get the idea what turns the other on. So saying that doesnt put me in the im looking for a relationship or im totally against it... Its saying im an adult and if we get on well in some areas then why not keep enjoying why not go see a movie or just hang out as adults that talk. So if the guys think that a 2nd meeting means we are ready with hooks out waiting to catch you well you could be totally wrong and its ... only that your going to miss out on alot and you will never know as well. So thats from my side of the story im not all women on here either everyones looking for something ... some how thou a one night fuck isnt that great for anyone ,unless its totally random not thought about or a fantasy .... thats from a single girls point of view id say
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RHP User
12 years ago
*puts hand up!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
If guy won't buy you a coffee I think you can prpbably assume that he feels like "taking".A friendly fucking session can be great fun, if its honest about that.....just a friendly fuck. Say it how it is and let the lady decide what she is up for.I hang out with girls who are sometimes friends, fwb or lovers.....thats about friendship, which is giving, and giving again...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mr. Dolphin here. I enjoy hanging with the guys and still play sport but I have always got bored with the shallowness of some male company and when single (not now) I would crave female company and would (did) go on dates all the time. Even if we all knew that sex was not going to happen (more fun if there was a chance though lol) Anything involving eating, drinking, music or nature works for me. Mrs Rainbow and I hang together all the time, we actually live and work together 24 /7 we do most things together and get on great. Not all men are yobbos! I’ll probably cop it for that one lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Most guys I have been with want the whole package, not just staying at home and getting as much as they can. Sex is fantastic, however, it's not the only thing and if that is all these boys and I mean "boys" want, it's time to move onto a man. A man will want sex, however, he will also want companionship and adventures outside of the bedroom.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I do owe you coffee and breaky,
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RHP User
12 years ago
hahaha bloody tight asses :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
I enjoy doing all those things but sometimes it can get too much. Where is the excitement if you are constantly doing things like going for coffee, meals, movies. Too much of a good thing can become just as boring as sitting around watching tv all day if you do too much of it. Balance is the key to keeping things spicy.
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RHP User
12 years ago
once asked a woman out and took her to WA art gallery. Oops bad move apparently, I just wanted to do something different. Bugger it seems I can't get a trick right. I want to do things that are a bit diferent and somehow this makes me a SNAG. FFS I scratch my balls in public just like any other man but if I want to do an interesting activity that doesn't lead to sex straight away I am too nice a guy..... Sure I can do a cup of coffee and a shag but its more fun gettting to know someone a bit better before getting my gear off. Mike
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RHP User
12 years ago
I went out to dinner and drinks with a friend from 'the bakery' last night. A nice Indian meal followed by some Sudnday afternoon jazz (on a Saturday evening lol) a few drinks and me walking home with my heels in hand (ok ok he was walking with me and believe me that was much easier than a cab - one of those you had to be there stories) However we both had a nice night (well there havent been any complaints from him so far) My point is sometimes guys (and gals) want the GF (BF) experience without the trappings of a traditional relationship.....still not over my sugar high...no wonder I cant sleep Kisses Focus
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Nathan41
12 years ago
I took a date of mine to Lady GaGa Concert in Brisbane because she want to see it i but it not really my type of music i enjoy heavy metal but i did it because it was a fun thing to do with her it only cost $160 which i don't see as been much.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry, but I have to agree with beneath blue eyes on this one. I used to work on Sydney harbor doing party cruises, etc. and especially around now (Christmas), I see droves of women looking smoldering HOT walk on the boat.... And the guys have t shirts and blue jeans. The women are on the dance floor working it, while the guys sit around the bar and..... Drink. Being an american I must ask, is this some sort of tribal dance, where the women dance around the fire while the men decide which one they are going to drag off to their cave? I see PRIME MEAT being ignored. These women are BEGGING to be had, and you guys just....drink, and want to fight when the bar man won't give you any more 'piss', because you are too shit faced to stand up. Even though I was a staff member, I still had lots of women who would drag me out on the dance floor (who am I to complain)? And proposition me, but being that I could be charged with some sort of sexual offense, I would have to retreat, crawl in to a corner on the boat somewhere, and chew on my feet. So guys...... Say the Aussie woman wants to get laid... Then give it to her, but take her out and give her the good time SHE wants, you might get laid and then some......
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RHP User
12 years ago
I like to go to the flicks ,have coffee as i am a big coffee and banana bread drinker/eater ,cook dinner for someone special ,go to beach ,go shooting ,video at home,go to pub,dinner now and then.Going on a date dose not always have to finish with sex ,i like to get to know someone ,you can learn a lot about people by chatting and not having the experience of wanting sex.To me this seems the whole problem of dating ,people assume sex is always involved/expected after a date and it can sometimes ruin a great date.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Never been much one for the pub with the boys, if I do go to the pub, it's the boys and their partners/kids kinda thing. Sunday sessions, a bit of pool, or just sitting around in the beer garden talking crap while the kids play.One-on-one, it's dinner, coffee, movies, watching a band, modern-jive dancing...all the good stuff. When time allows.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I like my self going out to listen a concert in a park or doing some rock climbing to see how the girl move or simply a good exhibition so much more interesting and like that you ve got all ready something to speak to!
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
I couldn't be with a guy if he didn't like to go out n about!! If his mates are more interesting then me, then he could have sex with them!
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jensta
12 years ago
Friends with benefit's ... to me mean's Doing things together make the connectionMakes for the Hottest Sex ... xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I actually prefer the company of a great woman to my mates any day of the week. I just don't get the "hanging out with my mates when there is a sexy gal waiting for me" thing. As for a date- I prefer to meet at a bar in town, then if it goes well, walk to a restaurant (doesn't have to be expensive, something fun and with lots of atmophere), then perhaps some bar hopping after that. I find that if there is sparks, a kiss happens after dinner while walking to a bar. Almost without fail! LOL
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RHP User
12 years ago
Enigmaoflove where does it say this is a sex site??? what i see is it's a dating site....just saying..lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'jensta'Friends with benefit's ... to me mean's Doing things together make the connection Makes for the Hottest Sex ... xxx That's it Jensta....well said. In that sentence "Friends" comes before benefits, "Benefits" comes in after friends. Be friends and do what friends do. Go out and live, be flirtatous, laugh, and have fun together, as said by Jensta, "makes for the Hottest Sex".........YUM
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi All, same here...I drink socially, but I don't hang out at pubs. Watching sports drives me nuts as I'm active and can't sit down looking at dumb-a$$es running around!!I'd rather be out with my chick, dinner, movies (hell...even chick-flicks sometimes)...a nice drink, walk on the beach...but I draw the line at shopping together!! No way jose!!! lolWe tend to stagnate, though...us men..after a while..I do realize that!!!
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abcplus1
12 years ago
We love to take a girl out on a date....just can't seem to find one on this site.
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RHP User
12 years ago
wow, im not a dinky dye tru blue oz, but to answer your question, I do like to date and I do like to hang out with the boys.different athmosphere when im among the boys, we can talk about what we want, we chat about the hot waiter, about the boob size of our female counter part, and on ocassion share tips on how to please the g/f on bed!, we cant talk about this with girls around, ( yes i know there are girls out there who even join men during this type of conversation , no issue there ).when I go to date, depend who I am with, I like arts and intelligent conversation,so Perfoming arts and Museum always work,At night its about canddle light dinner with the girl, get to know what she's like over dinner table.weekend, is the beach, always love to rub the sun block on their body and get her to relax and unwind.
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RHP User
12 years ago
when and where sounds like a while scince u been out with a gentlemenid be wrapped to go out to a movie or for a drink followed by being ur slave for the evening. so come check my profile and if u would like to know more about me pls reply
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've invited a couple of men to come to yoga (going on a yoga date tomorrow night).....it's a great way to test out someone's flexibility and turn them on with my deep breathing!! Haha!! Plus its a good way for me to decipher if they are open-minded, willing to try new things and are comfortable being in my company in silence. And how many men are NOT turned on by a woman in tight-fitting yoga gear doing backbends & downward dog??!! Yo-gaaaaaahhhh xxxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sexy Yoga Dating! It could become a trend! In response to the OP, yes, I like to date! I don't want a relationship but neither do I want boring, mindless sex with someone I hardly know and have little or no connection with. I like the build up, the flirting, the seduction. often after that first meeting (coffee!) where you've established that yes, you'd go there, guys are straight into do you want to come to my place on Monday night as their next move...I don't know why but it leaves me a little cold! I'm starting to feel like maybe I'm on the wrong site as another poster suggested. (boring, naive, conservative me!?) Whatever happened to wooing? That's what I'd like to know! I like to be wooed. Woot! Dinner or equiv (as in timeframe and a walk along the beach would be fine, it's not about spending $$) for a second date. Just connecting mentally before going there physically is the key, otherwise I feel like I'm just another fuck.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am a hopeless romantic and a real sucker if I like someone I like to spoil them.ONLY if I am in a DATING/ RELATIONSHIP with that personI'm a giver and have quickly learnt when being vulnerable to takers...!!!!No matter what it is...I like to be creative when dating - I will try anything (well all most anything).Coffees, movies, Art - galleries, drives, beach, ferry rides, markets, live bands etc...as long as it's with someone that I have a connection with and wants to spend time with me.I couldn't be with someone who stayed home all day being a Lounge Lizard or a Tight arss that couldn't even buy a coffee or stayed drinking at pub day and night...errrrrrr NO THANKS!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
As I only spend time with women whose company I enjoy in and out of the bedroom, it's always nice to go out, breakfast,lunch, dinner, surfing, good fun stuff where you can get to know more about each other, if you're a wham, bam, thank you ma'm type of male, then the woman probably wouldn't get a simple coffee, you do get what you choose ladies.
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RHP User
12 years ago
yeah we do love them
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Enigmaoflove' . Just my opinion....but in my opinion this particular site is a sex site and not a dating site. Coming back to mindset...i feel if you make the adjustment to what you are after then join a specific site that caters for that then you're prepared. Maybe you should consider joining another site that fits your purpose. There are dating sites and even sites that cater for your needs or doing more with a man that isn't about sex. This site is what you make it, it's much more than just a sex site. We met on a very similar site and I have had a couple of relationships previously blossom from this site. After all, it's the best place to find like-minded kinky people. Much easier to get your partner into swinging with you!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I love to ice skate, although I never really seem to meet anyone who does! Going skating for me would be an awesome first date.
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RHP User
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'curiousgirl63' Enigmaoflove where does it say this is a sex site??? what i see is it's a dating site....just saying..lol we love u
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think that is a misconception...I dont know of any men that prefer to hang out in pubs.....mind you ......Im not attracted in that style of manI think the issue exists in how you set up the contactIf the blokes sends a message something along the lines of a) " wanna fuck? " chances are he isnt interested in dating...........dont try to convince him otherwise, just decline (unless thats what your in the mood for...and sometimes we are..) b) "loved your profile would like to know more" check out his profile...reply with stuff about you that clicks with what his profile states when he replies...suggest meeting for drinks/dinner any man who is intimidated by having to converse for the length of a glass of champage doesnt get to dinner you can usually tell by what his replies contain or decline because his profile doesnt flick your switch c) be brave (confident, in control, appreciate your worth) suggest going to dinner, find a couple of fav restuarants that you can always suggest. start small before suggesting a weekend away to tassie as a meet n greet (altho someone called my bluff on that recently and agreed to it LOL..smartarse ! earnt him cookie points tho )Of course if YOU send a message that says "wanna ? " ....dont expect him to come back with..".shall we have an evening of fine dining on my yatch followed by...." he will possibly be knocking on your door before you press send.....I think its about setting your standards and letting the guy know what it takes to earn your favour...... most guys are up for that and more inclined to stay around than be a one nighterI recently went overseas with one of my Friends............................altho struggling to find a theatre buddywhat could be better than live theatre followed by great sex......hmmm maybe they dont want the sex commitment ......hmmmpeek performance
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