Dealbreakers Function

March 17 2021

So it seems RHP has opened up a new function - selecting things from the list of relationship intentions which you don't like. And then those subgroups will not appear in your search feeds. Options include Sugardating, Dom/Sub/BDSM, Hookups, Open/Poly, Relationship, Discreet Affair, Online Fun and more. Personally I would have preferred the dealbreakers to be around (lack of) safe sex and some of the sexual interests. We're not into online fun, it's not what we are looking for but I wouldn't want to block someone because it's one of the many things they like. A discreet affair doesn't mean the same thing to all people, there might be a single mum who doesn't want the kids to be exposed to sex-based partners... Also we recently took looking for men off our looking for choices but added Open/Poly to our intentions - because we'd be open to it with the right couple or lady. It is probably just an experimental phase plus everyone says it's so hard to find a match. But a few nights back we thought why the fuck not? But understanding that so many swingers (early career 🤣) fear creating real connections and it could lead to us being blocked from good potential matches we may have to untick that box. After checking out the dealbreakers list, I don't think it's something we'll actually use but thanks RHP and their developers for trying. Will you tick any of their dealbreaker options? What are your real dealbreakers? Thoughts?

Comments

  • The_Antichrist

    The_Antichrist

    4 years ago

    I share the same mindset as you guys, I don’t think we can have a strict definition of what constitutes our deal breakers as they’re not always a black and white thing. This makes me cautious about supporting such a feature as I think these options are removing what otherwise would’ve been discussed or explored through messaging. I won’t be using such a filter for that reason, it won’t ever cover every nuance that everybody has, and I think it shows a lot about those who desire a quick fix to their screening process....and their ability to have an open discussion with someone.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    I quite like it. Just tonight it weeded out someone who started the chat with a lie. Not saying it's the be-all and end-all but I don't have a problem with it. The safe sex and smoking preferences would also be good.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    Whatever update they did broke the app for me. Can't even reinstall it as its missing from app store....

  • Obi1kenietzsche

    Obi1kenietzsche

    4 years ago

    If I were RHP’s financial controller I would have advised against introducing this particular feature. What is the overall benefit here? Is the underlying purpose designed to improve the “customer experience” of Pie Women and Pie Couples by reducing the volume of unsolicited (but perhaps more pertinently, “unwanted”) messages from guys that they are simply not interested in? And I get it, many guys don’t read profiles, and a lot message without any regard to stated profile preferences or requests. But do you really think that such guys are going to take notice of dealbreakers unless it is enforced? Will this be perceived to be just another sieve to put men through in the great never ending selection game, and another reason to lie (or to leave?) And remember, what falls out the bottom of that sieve may not necessarily be diamonds. Many men on here feel disenfranchised as it is (however incorrect that opinion is) and men, I suspect, make up a pretty hearty percentage of paying customers for the RHP coffers. Where’s “Manly McHard-on” when we need him! 😊

  • SpicyKale

    SpicyKale

    4 years ago

    It seems a bit pointless since it only filters intentions🤷🏻‍♂️ I’m guessing it doesn’t stop those that don’t match contacting you though? As a positive, at least you can filter out sugar dating 🙄

  • badboyhere

    badboyhere

    4 years ago

    I’m with obi1 on this. Financially it seems a big risk. The only thing I can think of around this is that they are trying to tap into the female dating market, to draw females away from sites like POF, RSPC and EHarmony. If I was going to submit a growth plan for the site this is what I would be targeting to try to allow women to feel more comfortable that RHP is not just about sex but also about finding suitable lifetime or lifestyle partners in the site and the new filter function will allow this “safety”. This then lifts the number of active females searching and then as a result will encourage more men to sign up for paid accounts (given this group is the RHP meal ticket) as they can physically see a larger number of active women jointing the site. Just how I would think about growing the sales on this platform.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    It's probably been added as a feature with well meaning intentions however, like any IT database and search. It's only as good as the data it has to select against. I've found that there's so much grey on peoples profiles after you potentially meet them, ie things they might be into/not into you find out after talking to them or getting to know them. If people don't fill in their profiles accurately the search will fail. In addition as @Anti already mentioned, different people may have different definitions of certain terms and so if you say something is a deal breaker you may end up filtering out a match simply because of different viewpoints. In short, no I won't be using the 'deal breakers' feature. I suspect though, it will come in quite handy for people that get messaged a lot and have plenty of choices.