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Definition of swingers
September 11 2009
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well, I think you meet all kinds of people around here with just as many variations in desires and motivations. To suggest that the majority of people swing because the husband is a lousy root is definitely a controversial statement that can't be sustained. Yep, the "we are here to play" people are the majority but some just haven't found what they're looking for, I guess. Hugs gazza
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RHP User
15 years ago
Couples get into swinger for all sorts of reasons the least of them being "my husband is hopeless in bed reason We have found that most couples we end up playing with have had similar reasons for getting into swinging as us. That is because we love sex and want to enjoy more sex. Can I ask what are your reasons for getting into swinging? And when it comes to 1 in ten ratios -- when you think about the maths you have four people all needing to agree on a whole range of variables and a vast collection of parameters . one in ten does not seem like such a bad ratio after alllady country
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RHP User
15 years ago
hi, its the female of the couple here, and yes there are many couples swinging as the female half wants to experiment with girls or pursue her bi-sexuality but it isnt the sole reason and may not be the majority. in my experience a lot of swinging is initiated by the female but not because their partner "is hopeless in bed" - its because women express their emotions and sexuality easier then men. i must admit that i lead my partner of 6 years into this as i wanted to experiment with girls and now accept that i'm truly bi-sexual. and its nothing to do with my partner's sexual prowess as he is just amazing. like SexyCountryCpl, its because we are both very sexual people and have surging libidos and want to explore sexual boundaries.
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HotOzCouple_cc
15 years ago
But maybe that's just an insight into your reasons for swinging....?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Citysex, agree with your comments so much.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I too am the female of the couple and the beginning for us was not for me to explore my bi fantasies as to be honest I didn't have any....the driver was seeing the pleasure of the other partner. We had talked so much about our fantasies of what he wanted to see / do, what I wanted to see / do that we made it happen. K.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I wonder what your answer is when the male is driving the sexual experience, lousy female root?
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RHP User
15 years ago
why swing I wonder what your answer is when the male is driving the sexual experience, lousy female root?What a silly comment.It is not about who is doing the driving,it is all about the fun to be had along the journey.
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RHP User
15 years ago
We got into swinging for the variety and enjoying sex with others...sex is fun. What gets to us is when the guys cant get hard, there has been numerous posts here about that subject. Also when the guy is so excited he cums in two minutes, we had a bad run hitting these problems 3 times in a row. Its been better lately with some great couples. Our profile states we both are straight and all boxes ticked we are quite genuine about, the amount of times we get told sorry the girls must play even when we dont make the approach. Interesting some research indicates that this is due to male insercurity of seeing his partner with another guy. We are definately not saying that because the girls are bi their husbands are hopeless in bed. Surely after reading each others profiles, seeing photos chatting on the phone and after doing all this, then to be told we only play with one in ten we meet is a bit over top....and you have to think are you serious about playing? We are here to play not get married. We think the odds should be around playing with 1 in 2-3 that we meet, we dont allways say yes either and quite a lot of thought has gone into the others profile and photos. We are meeting to arrange a swing not have a coffee on a Sunday afternoon! Cheers
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RHP User
15 years ago
Why not have the coffee n the swing the same day?
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RHP User
15 years ago
ubd2009 said "Why not have the coffee n the swing the same day?" Exactly Why not? Its also good for a break in between the swing or a wine! as well as after. But not as a coffee club where all you do is have coffee with 9 out of 10 couples!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Wife here. I thought it was a social thing, having fun on the way through. If im not keen on swinging with someone, im not going to just do it for the hell of it. I have to like people to be able to enjoy the sex. Yukk i can't do that.
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RHP User
15 years ago
"Our profile states we both are straight and all boxes ticked we are quite genuine about, the amount of times we get told sorry the girls must play even when we dont make the approach." That's just incredibly bad behaviour by the couple contacting you and I wouldn't even consider swinging with someone who so blatently disregards my choices or my limits. We are definately not saying that because the girls are bi their husbands are hopeless in bed. Good, because it isn't true lol Surely after reading each others profiles, seeing photos chatting on the phone and after doing all this, then to be told we only play with one in ten we meet is a bit over top....and you have to think are you serious about playing? We are here to play not get married. We think the odds should be around playing with 1 in 2-3 that we meet, we dont allways say yes either and quite a lot of thought has gone into the others profile and photos. Have to say I disagee here. Just like it's your right not to include any girl-on-girl play, then it's always going to be someone else's right to choose who, when, why, how and how often. Are you any less serious because you exclude bi-play? I wouldn't assume so....and have you ever considered that it's a polite way of saying "No thanks, we don't want to play with you???"
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think you are being a bit harsh on guys who cant get hard or come quickly. They cant help it and there could be many reasons. I thought it was about fun not a contest as to who can last super long. Personally i'd rather have lots of foreplay, i cum then and i prefer not to fuck for hours and hours. Does my already bad back in and gets boring...... from the female!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
OK Its Mr looking2try3 and it has just struck me after reading all this that I must be a dud root! oh dear the pain!!!! Now that i sit back here and re-evaluate the situation i think it may have been Mrs looking2try3 that started all this...... oh lord perhaps the reason she wanted to get another gal into the action was to confirm her thoughts or perhaps spread the pain to other unsuspecting females!!!!!!!!!!!!!! UBD2009 you know us, is Mr looking2try3 just living in a dream (some may say nightmare) that he has any form of sexual prowess!!!!!!!!!.......... and to those others that know me, but are not named here,what do you think, perhaps even those that just want to throw some mud my way!!! Now things are really confussing I have never had to convince Mrs looking to do this ........ she looks like she likes it ..... some may say loves it!!!!!!! Oh no dear friends on RHP I may have to retire from the swinging world ........ to rock gently in a corner as I suck my thumb!!!! I need reassurance , I need a cuddle, a teddy....... oh a teddy mmmmmm (he stops and realises wrong type of teddy). I thank you for making me aware of my short commings , another day another lesson learnt!!! Oh just as an aside Sophie 74 we just saw your profile photo.......... that bottom HELLO!!!!! Applause!! Smiles , hugs , humour and jest........... oh and mwah!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
If you want to swing 1 outta 2 cpls you meet (or whatever the ration).... cant u allow pple to swing 1 outta 10.... and if its happended before ie cum 2 quick.... must play bi etc.... y dont u ask or mention or cover it some how in the emails, chats etc and then u wont be so disappointed..... but at the same time... you shouldnt be dicked around either..... but we all gotta live and let live a bit more roudn here i think sometimes lol.. 2B :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
you give some negative reasons as to why people swing, presuming you are relating to your sex life. we like to think that if you have a great relationship in and out of the bedroom in every way, then why not explore the boundaries of what life has to offer. we can vouch for that.if anything, if the male is a lousy performer, more than likely will be paranoid about his partner being entertained by a male who give her the satisfaction he can't and usually are the jealous , insecure type which shows when in a social environment.the couples that are outgoing, fun to be with and get a kick out of seeing their partner flirt with others, tells us they have a very secure relationship built from in and out of the bedroom. not too many insecure couples on here. obviously a few.
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RHP User
15 years ago
We don't set statistics lol, maybe cos we consider play with others as a special treat? Good luck finding those that suit...Cheers
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RHP User
15 years ago
We got into playing to explore my bi side. Along the way we found we like watching each other being pleasured by someone else. We go into things with the attitude of meeting someone and getting to know them a bit before we play. So it could be tonight we meet up have dinner drinks flirt and go home meet up next time and play all night. For me I need to know the person a bit before I feel comfy enough to play. But having said that we could meet someone out chat for a while and it just all clicks and we go play. So would we be considered time wasters if we do the meet and go home meet later and play scenario? Im very shy so I need a bit of a push sometimes so that might mean going home wishing we has of played but got signals wrong because the push wasn’t there… Mrs Ball
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RHP User
15 years ago
lovingcouple4u What happens in a play situation the other guy gives oral for 2-3 minutes then he expects oral for much longer then has sex and thats over with in another 2-3 minutes...pretty poor form just being there to satisfy himself. We now watch this situation and all finish together which doesnt go down too well when both ladies are excited but havnt been satisfied. Boy who else has heard about it on the way home afterwards! 2balloons Its not a problem for couples to swing with one in ten they meet, and after checking ages, looks, swapping emails asking all that you suggested we find our feelings do get hurt maybe these couples that are looking for that very special couple should be more honest up front....We doubt that we would meet if we were told that before hand. Happy_1 Where did you get the idea from that the under performance of others is related to our sex life? We do think socialising and getting to each important and not taking one for the team, but couple all this with the couples that arnt really couples....playing behind their partners back....etc etc We dont believe there is an answer but simply luck with who you meet. Sometimes Luck is on your side and you meet the genuine swingers.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi all, This thread is getting a little old now.........but I though i would comment.........and I don't usually comment on any of these. 1. Guys with couples........look we have had our share, and there are going to be times when guys just cant hold their load.......and there will be times when they can. 2. I am the Male writing this, and I can say that I initiated for my partner and I to try swinging......she wasn't all that keen at first, but she was very into the bi idea, and has tried it several times, and just loves it......sometimes I am lucky enough to join in, and other times I am on the outer, becasue that is what the other person wants to happen. In short it comes down to 2 things...... 1. Patience 2. Patience All things come to those that wait........or another way of saying it........you have to take the good with the bad. See ya all.
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