RHP

RHP User

F47

Delicious anticipation

March 03 2014

The anticipation of an erotic encounter...it's one of the things I love the most about sex. It's like travel....for me half the fun really is in the getting there. I love it so much that when I can, I will often purposefully draw out the time before play. The having coffee, having dinner, having a few glasses of wine, having a conversation...all fully clothed (well at least partially clothed anyway) and not touching the other person at all, pretending that everything is mundane and innocent but in my mind thinking about what's to come and knowing that they are as well. For me it's all part of the foreplay, and of course if you've been exchanging naughty texts / emails / phone calls beforehand then even better. Is anticipation a big factor in sex for you? What sort of things do you do to heighten that anticipation?

Comments

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    by someone fucking in your head?? LOL I love it too! The funny wuzzies, the day dreaming, the cloud 9 Take me away TAA!! Till we meet, again Mr.ChocolateMudCake eyes..........mmmmmmmmmmm The date and dessert is set! Foxy

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    I keep my messages and calls really short and sweet. Too much can spoil! Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    from when the door bell rings, to when I open it and see them there with cock in hand. be still my beating heart for ten long seconds.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I went through a time in my life when the thrill of the Chase was more interesting to me than the Sex that followed . Where the first Climax was an Anti-Climax . Once I knew that I'd successfully chased down and caught the Rabbit , I wanted to go and chase another Rabbit . The thrill of Anticipation far outweighed the inevitable end result . I was like the Cat that catches a Bird , plays with it and then leaves it without the Coup de Grace . My perspective has changed somewhat since then ... GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    11 years ago

    Yes the nervous tension, the butterflies in the belly, the thoughts running around in your head, the first smile, the first look into their eyes and the temptation of wanting to touch, but not doing it.......yes it is overwhelming and makes it so much more exciting.... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I can only do it with someone who turns me on in my head, the emails and text messages, the build up of erotic tension... The teasing... The allure... The desire... The passion... All encapsulated in words and then brought to reality when we meet But fuck, it is such an unbelievable let down when she cancels the day before... All those feelings... Of caring, lust, passion, empathy, desire, and more.......:-( There are some simply amazing and So totally sexy women on this site... HOT AS! :-P *now, back to my daydreaming* S'nP

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Is sometimes the better part of pleasure xx Q

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    the sitting near me on the couch the eyes wondering to my breast the not so sure delight will he kiss me in a second or TWOOOOOOOOOOOOO.Ohh its wonderful to feel all this anticipation before the big O.

  • compressor

    compressor

    11 years ago

    the mind is a very sexual thing and gets you very excited before pleasuring the lady

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Which was recently fulfilled (thank you to you know who...) was to go separately to a cinema, and sit next to each other.(we had only spoken on the phone at this point) During the movie, the touching and stroking is limited - no talking, and after the movie leave separately only to catch up for a meal and then "dessert" after.The tension was palpable. I know exactly what you mean LD. It was sublime...... judge

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    The chase is the most important part. The events that take place during the chase can be extremely erotic. With out the full build up and the sexual tension it is just sex, how you get in the mood to enjoy it is the fun part. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Im getting the same treatment atm A few cheeky messages a couple of days go by more messages a couple more days go by more messages arrange a day to meet but not a timeevery little tease you can squeeze in.Im loving it. Thursday is catch up, and we have the intro already organised.I feel like im on an operating table being dismantled slowly. Gotta love it

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'spicyandpassion' I can only do it with someone who turns me on in my head, the emails and text messages, the build up of erotic tension... The teasing... The allure... The desire... The passion... All encapsulated in words and then brought to reality when we meet But fuck, it is such an unbelievable let down when she cancels the day before... All those feelings... Of caring, lust, passion, empathy, desire, and more.......:-( There are some simply amazing and So totally sexy women on this site... HOT AS! :-P *now, back to my daydreaming* S'nP Gosh! a guy that gets it..... Yes I agree that the lust, turn on etc needs to be there and consequently the build up to what is to follow..... pity you're on the other side of the continent ;-)...... I couldn't agree more Luckdragon23....... actually, all the comments I agree with............ just hopping into bed (especially when a man just presents cock out of the blue and just expects you to be instantly turned on) without any anticipation.... lead up with conversations filled with innuendo..... sexy texts..... the lustful looks..... all important to make it better than just sex. ...and MisterGreen.... re "Thrill of the Chase"..... when you first meet someone new, yes it can be thrilling and exciting..... I have been on the receiving end of what you described.... quite disappointing when you find someone you like.... glad your perspective has changed.... Mrs jaz_nurse

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Does anybody know the cost of a flight to townsville??? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • him_and_me

    him_and_me

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Ubthejudge76' Which was recently fulfilled (thank you to you know who...) was to go separately to a cinema, and sit next to each other.(we had only spoken on the phone at this point) During the movie, the touching and stroking is limited - no talking, and after the movie leave separately only to catch up for a meal and then "dessert" after.The tension was palpable. I know exactly what you mean LD. It was sublime...... judge OH! That sounds like fun. x Me

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I rarely do this with new encounters but with my lover, I send naughty suggestive texts (pics) that get him all worked up and horny and then wait with anticipation for my punishment - cos I know I've been a bad girl. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    If you don't engage my mind the chances are that you won't be meeting the rest of me. If I feel the nervous, usually sexual, tension before the meet then I usually feel it when I meet someone for the first time too. And vice versa. I love the build up, the teasing, flirting, suggestion and innuendo. It really sucks when it doesn't turn out how you hoped it would.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    That disappointment sucks. :( Foxy - combs all her hair over to one side..LOL!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    That oh so desirable tingle that shoots straight to your sexual core. The building of that delicious lust for another's presence. The insatiable desire to have them. All around you and in. This is the anticipation that - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    That only comes with a head fuck. All the senses on full alert in anticipation of the unknown or known. The best mind, body and soul sex I have ever had. The sex that once had can never be un-had and will always be desired (-: - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    The strong, silent type isn't going to get much action from you ladies. I suppose I'll have to speak up more often.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'spicyandpassion' I can only do it with someone who turns me on in my head, the emails and text messages, the build up of erotic tension... The teasing... The allure... The desire... The passion... All encapsulated in words and then brought to reality when we meet But fuck, it is such an unbelievable let down when she cancels the day before... All those feelings... Of caring, lust, passion, empathy, desire, and more.......:-( There are some simply amazing and So totally sexy women on this site... HOT AS! :-P *now, back to my daydreaming* S'nP Unless I have met a person I do not invest any time at all, in the flirt texts the sexy phone calls the zzzzzzzzzzzzz. I would rather have had sex with a person because I meet them offline and there is chemistry. After we have done the wild thing then I like to flirt, tease and play. before that its a figment of your own imagination, your getting all excited about what can be a wisp of smoke, or some dude who is nothing like his profile at all, not in looks, not in age and not in any connection what so ever when you meet. god knows how many women have fallen for some guy far far away to be furrk farrk furking fucked over by their own imagination of what that person can be. now when were talking about real lovers, current lovers then yes, I plan all kinds of dirty games and like to string things along. cyber land and reality are poles apart.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Pursuit and seduction are the essence of sexuality.It's all part of the sizzle...Camille Paglia xxQ

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    People can write anything, especially on these forums and on their profiles. People will never know anyone, until one has met in person. The sad part is, anyone can write and say anything. As far as I am concerned a leopard does not change it's spots, with their past behavior. There are so many people on this site and in real life that can talk the talk, smooth operators. But how does one know?? We don't, that's the sad bit. We only know when we met them what their behavior is like, that is the best predictor. One can ask as many questions, but yet a person can still deceive another. I have met people, who's past behavior is not perfect and given the benefit of doubt. But over time, their actions didn't come anywhere near what they say. Oh well, all I can say is "Thank you, thank you for increasing my bullshit radar" :) Foxy

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    Can only get better and better when getting to know someone and my comfort zone is safe. I have to feel really relaxed with someone and have that same mutual attraction, after the first meet or even after the 2nd or 3rd..as they say "it can only get better and better". :) Foxy

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    11 years ago

    I've done the confusing tail chasing mind games side of romance to death. As it is, it does my head in. I am capable of getting so deep into the twists and turns that I send myself into another realm. A reality of my own making, until something or someone resets me back into the reality of the present. I therefore like it simple. Love is not an intellectual process and we fall into it by accident. I love the sheer brutal animal side of lust, which has just as much chance of a serendipitous result as the intellectual pursuit option. Embrace the lust. It's one of the seven deadly sins. Wallow around in it and feast on it and you'll feel like the King of the jungle. Hugs Gazpacho

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'LadyTuscan' Quoting 'spicyandpassion' I can only do it with someone who turns me on in my head, the emails and text messages, the build up of erotic tension... The teasing... The allure... The desire... The passion... All encapsulated in words and then brought to reality when we meet But fuck, it is such an unbelievable let down when she cancels the day before... All those feelings... Of caring, lust, passion, empathy, desire, and more.......:-( There are some simply amazing and So totally sexy women on this site... HOT AS! :-P *now, back to my daydreaming* S'nP Unless I have met a person I do not invest any time at all, in the flirt texts the sexy phone calls the zzzzzzzzzzzzz. I would rather have had sex with a person because I meet them offline and there is chemistry. After we have done the wild thing then I like to flirt, tease and play. before that its a figment of your own imagination, your getting all excited about what can be a wisp of smoke, or some dude who is nothing like his profile at all, not in looks, not in age and not in any connection what so ever when you meet. god knows how many women have fallen for some guy far far away to be furrk farrk furking fucked over by their own imagination of what that person can be. now when were talking about real lovers, current lovers then yes, I plan all kinds of dirty games and like to string things along. cyber land and reality are poles apart. Yes, like you LadyT I don't do any naughty talk / chat / texts before I've met someone in the flesh, and had sex with them. In fact before that I try not to build up any type of expectation of them at all. I've discovered that some people turn out to be much better IRL, others...not so much...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'gazpacho51' I've done the confusing tail chasing mind games side of romance to death. As it is, it does my head in. I am capable of getting so deep into the twists and turns that I send myself into another realm. A reality of my own making, until something or someone resets me back into the reality of the present. I therefore like it simple. Love is not an intellectual process and we fall into it by accident. I love the sheer brutal animal side of lust, which has just as much chance of a serendipitous result as the intellectual pursuit option. Embrace the lust. It's one of the seven deadly sins. Wallow around in it and feast on it and you'll feel like the King of the jungle. Hugs Gazpacho You have misunderstood what I'm talking about Gaz. I'm not talking about mind games (at least not in the negative sense of that term), romance, love, or an 'intellectual pursuit' here. I'm not talking about denying lust. I'm not talking about making a guy run around in circles for me, to 'prove' himself worthy of me and having him wondering if I'm going to 'let' him fuck me at the end of the night, or any of that crap. I'm simply talking about the time beforehand being an extension of the sex. When you both already know that you're going to fuck, and you make the time before you even start touching each other an extension of the foreplay. You feel the lust and animal attraction but restrain yourself for that bit longer. I find that when you do that, the following expression of that lust and animal attraction is even hotter. Oh and obviously this is also something mainly geared to one-on-one encounters, not group sex or parties or clubs which have a different vibe altogether.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'him_and_me' Quoting 'Ubthejudge76' Which was recently fulfilled (thank you to you know who...) was to go separately to a cinema, and sit next to each other.(we had only spoken on the phone at this point) During the movie, the touching and stroking is limited - no talking, and after the movie leave separately only to catch up for a meal and then "dessert" after.The tension was palpable. I know exactly what you mean LD. It was sublime...... judge OH! That sounds like fun. x Me Hello Me..... Well - the movie was "endless love", chosen not for content (although it was a cute movie) but more for conveniece of time and location..... It went well, once we had both done a tooth count and realised that neither of us smelled like a sewer, we watched the movie...After what seemed like hours of fingers, then arms touching, my "date" was kind enough to move her popcorn, and lift the armrest between us....She also had the foresight to wear clothing that was easily manipulated with a distinct lack (to my horror) of knickers!. I, on the other hand was wearing Bonds, belt, button and zip.... I was surprised, and very impressed at her dexterity under the circumstance. Dinner was spend in delightful anticipation. It was a great way to meet, as if either of us had not been certain... we could have not shown for dinner, or even not instigated any touching in the cinema... Anyone wanna watch a movie? Judge

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' People can write anything, especially on these forums and on their profiles. People will never know anyone, until one has met in person. The sad part is, anyone can write and say anything. As far as I am concerned a leopard does not change it's spots, with their past behavior. There are so many people on this site and in real life that can talk the talk, smooth operators. But how does one know?? We don't, that's the sad bit. We only know when we met them what their behavior is like, that is the best predictor. One can ask as many questions, but yet a person can still deceive another. I have met people, who's past behavior is not perfect and given the benefit of doubt. But over time, their actions didn't come anywhere near what they say. Oh well, all I can say is "Thank you, thank you for increasing my bullshit radar" :) Foxy Yes... repeat offenders.... my radar is also on full alert.... genuine people are so refreshing.....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I love it.Its not about being rude or sending rude text.Its about using words and turning those words into something else that show's your cheeky character.Its the "push and pull" of banter and having someone who can mentally stimulate you.I have a very playful character ,and enjoy being sensual in my approach with someone i like. Its like you get a text and ask how that persons day is ..... They reply "i am having a very hard day" I reply .... "Im having a hard day thinking of you" Its that type of playful behaviour that can be very fun to all.It also shows your character and shows their character.

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    11 years ago

    I'd love to be able to enjoy the anticipation part, but i don't know how to play. How do you learn it? Is it part of your upbringing..... I mean did you have a role model? It seems to me that there is a sense of child like innocence about anticipation that I have never possessed. HugsGazpacho Quoting 'Luckdragon23' I'm simply talking about the time beforehand being an extension of the sex. When you both already know that you're going to fuck, and you make the time before you even start touching each other an extension of the foreplay. You feel the lust and animal attraction but restrain yourself for that bit longer. I find that when you do that, the following expression of that lust and animal attraction is even hotter. Oh and obviously this is also something mainly geared to one-on-one encounters, not group sex or parties or clubs which have a different vibe altogether.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Gazpacho... Bull bum. You just have to hold yourself back a bit or date more. :P Anticipation like riding on your bike a long way to meet some spunk... And trying to concentrate on the road and not on the girl glued up against your back, holding tight and creaming her panties.... Surely you would feel excited then? It's usually the anticipation you feel wen meeting someone new or someone you don't know so well.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    With people I know or if the chemistry is really strong between me and someone else.... Otherwise I find first dates awkward, and all the online emailing, etc. it's been years since someone has given me that tingle of anticipation. Probably more because I don't even bother to try anymore.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    By that I mean meeting people online.

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' Gazpacho... Bull bum. You just have to hold yourself back a bit or date more. :P Anticipation like riding on your bike a long way to meet some spunk... And trying to concentrate on the road and not on the girl glued up against your back, holding tight and creaming her panties.... Surely you would feel excited then? It's usually the anticipation you feel wen meeting someone new or someone you don't know so well. Sometimes, I secretly insert a butt plug and ride my motorbike like that to a dirty destination with a hard on rubbing against my petrol tank trying my darndest to stay focussed enough to stay upright... squirming around with delight at every set of traffic lights, knowing that those around me are wondering what the fuck I am up to...... but that's not anticipation is it? HugsGazpacho

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Yes! That is part of it Gaz, absolutely. xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Luckdragon is saying that she enjoys that feeling and she deliberately draws it out. So for example, instead of you riding hell for leather to your dirty destination with an butt plug up your butt and an enormous erection. By the way, I assume riding on a motor bike would make the plug buzz? Ooh err... But I digress. So you would draw it out by taking the scenic route to your destination. Maybe stop at a shop or stop to help an old lady across the road. Let the tension and anticipation build. ;-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Funlover71' The strong, silent type isn't going to get much action from you ladies. I suppose I'll have to speak up more often. Did you say something Mr Fun?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Good to know his weakness so I can play it to my strengths And so the anticipation begins yet again for me

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    We all talk about the, the pursuit and anticipation, but what I want to hear is HOW DOES ONE MAINTAIN it?? We know, we have our endorphins hitting an all time high, and can talk till the cows come home, what I want to know it those who say this and that, but how you do maintain it - keep purist and anticipation?? Once that anticipation is reached then what?? Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    You maintain it by doing crazy sex things. Having sex where you might get caught for example. Meeting new people as a couple for group sex is another one. The anticipation of doing something new or meeting someone new can be done here and there to keep the heat up.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Then you become old and jaded.... So you need to find something else to be excited about.

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' Then you become old and jaded.... So you need to find something else to be excited about. You mean start a collection or something? HugsGaz

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Collect stamps you mean Gazpacho? Or maybe collect notches more like eh? ;-)

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    maybe take up crocheting and make pretty plant holders. A lady took up knitting a scarf and it hit the news. ;) Foxy

  • gazpacho

    gazpacho

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' Collect stamps you mean Gazpacho? Or maybe collect notches more like eh? ;-) Stamps... I bags licking them! HugsGazpacho!

  • Plain

    Plain

    11 years ago

    I will confess its torture, raising the possibilities and your state of mind to such a level by the time you get to the meeting, seduction whatever you are mentally knackered. I dont do it, that is think of the encounter, date whatever you like to call it these days beforehand , there is always tension there regardless in my experience at least. I like to enjoy those moments an d experiences. By the way gazpacho that butt plug riding thing is dangerous, what would you say if you got knocked over on your bike on the way to a sexual encounter and the paramedics found this inserted in your person, answers please.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Don't worry I think Medicare is planning to charge an extra six dollars for the removal of butt plugs and their ilk:-) xxQ

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'MisterGreen' I went through a time in my life when the thrill of the Chase was more interesting to me than the Sex that followed . Where the first Climax was an Anti-Climax . Once I knew that I'd successfully chased down and caught the Rabbit , I wanted to go and chase another Rabbit . The thrill of Anticipation far outweighed the inevitable end result . I was like the Cat that catches a Bird , plays with it and then leaves it without the Coup de Grace . My perspective has changed somewhat since then ... GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile It hasn't changed...remember we have spoke about this.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'MisterGreen' I went through a time in my life when the thrill of the Chase was more interesting to me than the Sex that followed . Where the first Climax was an Anti-Climax . Once I knew that I'd successfully chased down and caught the Rabbit , I wanted to go and chase another Rabbit . The thrill of Anticipation far outweighed the inevitable end result . I was like the Cat that catches a Bird , plays with it and then leaves it without the Coup de Grace . My perspective has changed somewhat since then ... GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile It hasn't changed...remember we have spoke about this on numerous occasions. Change your behavior and look deep inside yourself. No use saying one thing and then behaving like another. It will only brings out the worst in one and others. You are only hurting yourself chasing anticipation and it's not fair others to be placed in the situation of being a bunny in a magicians hat. It's not nice to behave like this and knowing what I know and seeing you post status's like this. It will only land you in trouble and bite you on the bum and put your pants on fire! I have told you that so many times, but yet it's pacified. Foxy Oh and change your relationship status to "in a relationship" , it's bad Ju JU

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    are simply delicious..... Something is unfolding but I am not sure what.....but we often catch each others eye and share a secret smile......there is something refreshing about RL.....:-) :-) xxQ

  • thedevilsfantasy

    thedevilsfantasy

    11 years ago

    I've been waiting to meet a certain person for months now... usually for me I could never wait this long to meet someone... I don't have a lot of patience... or spare time for that matter as I work away... generally if I'm interested in meeting someone it has to happen within a couple weeks or I tend to loose interest in the chase... but for some reason this person has had me hanging on for months with anticipation and longing for the day we will meet.. And so finally that day is almost here and I'm finding that I'm getting extremely excited but also very nervous... A feeling that I haven't had for so long that I was starting to worry that I had become numb and desensitised.. but at the same time I'm wondering what it is about this particular man that I have yet to meet, who is really a stranger to me, that has me feeling this way, what makes him stand out from the rest of the men on RHP... For a couple more days the anticipation, excitement and nerves will build til I feel like I'm ready to burst and then I will finally have my answer... and I little scared that I may have finally met my equal..

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    Lets just hope he's not a devil in disguise? Fingers and legs crossed. Please let us know how it all goes. I have had that, so I get it and understand. :) Foxy x

  • thedevilsfantasy

    thedevilsfantasy

    11 years ago

    Miss Foxy I have no doubt that he is the devil with no disguise needed.. but that's me, like a moth to a flame, I love the heat, it's just knowing how close to get to the flames so I don't get my wings burnt lol :)