M43
Derailed life = no chance?
March 24 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
I wouldn't say your chances are non-existent. But to be honest, after reading your profile, I think the type of woman who would be attracted to you is very specific, before you even mention the "living with parents" angle. But hey, it has been proven to me time and time again, that there is somebody for everybody out there, so don't give up hope. Good luck!
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
One on my friends was living in his car, wearing daggy clothes and was busted ass broke.... and was the most successful guys I've ever seen when it came to talking to, attracting and seducing women.... he even took some back to his van! BUT.... he has vision, and has turned his life around very successfully, and I believe a big element of his success with women and with life is HOW he expresses that vision and passion in conversation. So look at it this way...... you're in a hole, looking up and see the sky...... where does the sky end?!! ;-) DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
So you're not up for a one night stand unless she's a big girl. Because you'd be too embarrassed to introduce her to your friends? I think that's your deal breaker there. The fact that you live with your parents isn't really an issue in my opinion. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
Hah! Thats awesomely poetic mischeviouslad. And yes, at least I'm not living in a car. I do believe i have a good base to start from. I'm university educated and an excellent worker, but I've stopped trying to find jobs and started trying to find a career. Hopefully it wont take me too long. Thanks for the uplifting viewpoint though. I'd love to know what about my profile would cause only specific women to be interested. My tastes are very broad, with the exception of getting bored with women who think missionary is the be all and end all of sex. Is it my look and physicals, or is it something I've written.
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
DG, that's a cool answer.... very positive.. I like! OP - full disclosure is very honorable, but make sure it's positive. There's a difference between saying: I have to live with my parents because I don't have a job, and I need to refocus and taking the financial pressure off myself by temporarily living with the folks..... Good luck
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think there is too much info on your profile. Also you contradict yourself in what you are in interested in and looking for eg: quoting from your profile I'm looking for someone who's in it for the long haul, but likes to have fun. Having said that I'm not up for one night stands or friends with benefits Also I fall into the big girl category possibly at a size 18. But I can tell you I find using the words BIG GIRL a huge turn off. Try re-wording it to very curvy or some thing like that. except maybe some experience with a big girl. Just my opinion and well this is the forum.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
It's not the changes or the living at home that will make or break...it's the whole attitude. I read your profile, and yes it confuses me. OK, I get you want to be yourself, be honest and all that , but really talking about BBW's like that is not cool. I read it in an offensive way...sorry but no woman I know, being a larger size would want to be an "experiment" nor lower their dignity to be with someone who would say something like that... Why would you say and do something like that for? Are you ashamed to be with a BBW or somefink?? I was with a man once who spoke of his other lover in this way, and it absolutely stunned me, the way he spoke of her in such a derogatory manner. It turned me totally off him. it was his whole attitude about it and the way he put her down for her body shape...disgusting really! It made me sad. :( I get to how some men only are appealed to smaller framed women and every one has different tastes in body shape, but come on....seriously, a woman is NOT an experiment there is more to a woman than her body shape. Like attracts like, positive attracts positive. Chang your wording on your profile and your probability chances, may increase. Good luck.. Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
To be honest, after reading your profile and being a smaller framed woman, I wouldn't touch you with a ten foot pole after reading it....it's touched a slight nerve with me, sorry I don't take to kindly to any man with an attitude about BBW's like that. Now if your wording was different, I might think twice...you are not a bad looking man in my eyes. Now if a man I met off here was not working and his whole attitude was appealing, yeah I would be attractive. It's called emotinal intelligence..use that as an advantage. DG said some sound advice there.... Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love you Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy'To be honest, after reading your profile and being a smaller framed woman, I wouldn't touch you with a ten foot pole after reading it....it's touched a slight nerve with me, sorry I don't take to kindly to any man with an attitude about BBW's like that. Now if your wording was different, I might think twice...you are not a bad looking man in my eyes. Now if a man I met off here was not working and his whole attitude was appealing, yeah I would be attractive. It's called emotinal intelligence..use that as an advantage. DG said some sound advice there.... Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
even really read your profile, it was just a mish mash of words that contradicted themselves. As Kiss said, you need to sell yourself, not paint yourself in a negative light.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your profile exactly as it is....it is how you view women and women should know what you think of them...I am sure there will be a queue at your door of big girls wanting to pop into your petrie dish .....now I am going to join Qefenta in her cave for a nice calming cup of chamomile tea
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RHP User
11 years ago
I know of guys who have ticked some of the boxes you mention - had their own place, careers, fancy cars etc by the age it was more or less expected. It may be a tick or two in some people's estimations but it's no assurance of scoring a whole buncha sex. As it happened, I met the most awesome women on RHP when my life was more of a mess. Now that I'm working full-time, living in a great house away from the parents, and am generally being a productive member of society... things have slowed right down. If it makes you feel any better OP, there are a lot of guys your age in their own places who are spending the evenings alone too. They just pay a crapload more rent in order to do it... or worse... have a mortgage. *shudder*
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
My friends are a bit judgmental (not all but a few) and after years of knowing them their opinion is going to be important to me. Having said that if i really like someone its not going to stop me, but that doesn't mean i wont be a bit hesitant. The reason I'm interested in something short term with a BBW is because i don't even know if I'm physical compatible with a BBW and that's what i would be interested in finding out before i commit to a relationship. I'm sorry my profile comes across like that. I thought "big girl" was the gentler euphimism (changing that as soon as i finish this post). Maybe I'll leave the whole friend embarrassment thing out. Funny thing is my sister is very curvy and she's never told me my choice of wording is offensive. Maybe she's been thinking i have no interest or am turned off and I'm using the term negatively as a result. Even then i don't know why she's never said something. I honestly didn't know and I'm sorry if i offended anyone. It was not my intent at all. @ Ms_Silk i should probably just delete that first red sentence entirely. Its a remnant of the profile builder. And thank you, i value your opinion (thats why i asked) and again sorry. I had no idea my terminology was offensive, i don't think I've ever had to talk about it to someone who was curvy before so I've never had anyone tell me that was offensive. Except my sister and i have no idea why she never corrected me.
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
I've also shortened both my "about me" and my "what I'm looking for. I tend to be very verbose when typing. Remnant of university life i guess. @kissk: I'm not putting anything on my profile about it, but if i have to tell someone about if via messaging I'l definitely remember your advice. Its nice to know about my profile and how it stands up, but since i see there's a forum section for this i don't know if the Mods of the board might get annoyed if that's what this thread turns into. I'm still ineterested in my initial question though. So to recap and return this thread to its original purpose; What is the view of women on men who are unemployed and live with their parents at my age? Absolutely undateable or just less attractive.
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just_Adam
11 years ago
I know your pain mate, my life has not been too kind to me at all recently and Im very much in a transitionary phase atm. Not looking at your profile (not homophobic or anything) but from what some of the women here have said you have much bigger issues to deal with before you worry about what a woman thinks of your financial situation. Were mostly here to have some fun, not get married and settle down, so its not as important as you think, especially if you word it the right way or have good reasons for being in your situation. But yeah, you might want to check yourself...good luck.
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madotara69
11 years ago
I think I can understand where you're at. It's a thing with putting feelings into some sort of sentence, half the words that may describe the feel are in a dictionary and unless one is a word smith to passions for the English language, no one would understand those words anyway and have to look them up, that interupts the flow of that feeling, it's not easy at all. Really the only way for speaking feelings is by way of auto-writing, free flowing writing from the concious and once written then a matter with taking parts and editing into a readable statement, then no emotions are sitting with those words, you may get lucky and get the feel through the style you have shaped those words by some who relate, thereby their own feelings click to yours. So I know how you are feeling, by being in similar places back in the day, roughly I believe so any way. Reading your profile yourself may bring tears to your eyes, because your emotions are with the writing, right at the moment you are all over the shop, decision making is of not knowing the point for direction, as you don't know where things are going to be over this unsettled time. Normal to lifes challenges and you are certainly not alone, many people on sites like this are going through rough times, not many don't fall at times. No one expects you to be some sort of genius of a man, so you don't need to say you are not. Your feelings are not coming through with the description written on the profile page, it reads as you are pulling and pushing your thoughts from I am then I am not, but maybe, then a reason with no expression for it's feeling to describe your meaning to it. Nothing wrong, it's not about right wrong, it's about you, maybe another. so don't fault yourself and drop any further than you are now, you have given an honest shot at putting yourself up, that shows. You have tippy toed around the point for what you would prefer for the type of lady you seek. Just say it straight up you are looking for a larger motherly caring type of girl that would comfort you, settle into the times ahead by your side, not emotionally fuck with your head by getting in amongst the fashion show for attracting men to keep you on your toes. A woman that will love and care to you. That is what I see to your description written, though you are writing for feelings being low for confidence, self esteem not to intellect, you have skills, just your scenario that could change tomorrow. It looks as though you are prepared to lower your standards to suit your moment, and is it study, a course or career start in the mail room for the first run of the ladder? in for a while it seems your goal is distant. I'm just asking you to take some thought for the chance a lady that responds as the type you are looking for, is not just some idea for filling the time in, later to be someone you would see differently when up and confidence strong. Because I get the feeling from the stutter and reckoning challenging the truths you seem proud, probably known for by friends, family, who know your personality. Yet you seem to be of low esteem to count on them, you are isolating your self from them. Now you enter this digital world, comfy for the time ahead, keep you occupied in the social spirits for some insanity. Yet your conscience is fighting your concious to your reasoning for hopes things will turn into a loving relationship later, as you feel you have little to offer for the girl of your dreams. I would not have written to such depth if I did not think you were in need to convince your self to the challenges your heart is giving to your pride for honesty, character, personality. You still have all that, you carry it with you through all challenges, you can't just lose who you are, only believe others would see you of less, they won't, they will see you down and out and all the negative expression you cast, but they won't take your person away. You seem like a decent bloke, fighting with your pride because you are in a rut. Don't disrespect yourself so that you can reason with lower standards to your character, the man you are. Just because things are down. You would hate yourself if you do that, and you chance hurting a lady who may have felt for you and come in with an open heart, by seeing the decent guy your fighting now. It is for her to my thoughts for concern, you have choices and you did the right thing asking and being honest, so shall I out of respect. For her I could not keep from the answer to just you. If I am wrong, I sincerely apologise if any offence is taken, it's not my intentions to do so. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
You make reference to your intellect and I can see that you know how to string words together and express yourself well. Thirty one is still young. Many people, particularly men, don't mature emotionally until well into their thirties and your references to presenting a girl to your friends shows you have some growing up to do. I didn't get myself together until I was approaching forty. In my late thirties, I was working as a nightfiller, stacking shelves for woollies, when I met the woman I was to marry. She saw something in me that I didn't know was there and didn't care that I was pennyless. Now I have a pretty good life. It could still do with some improvement but we keep striving forward and I wouldn't swap my lot with anyone.Definitely lose the references from your profile about the 'big girls' and try to lose that attitude all together. If you find a larger framed woman sexy, go with it. I think they're sexy too and they usually make better companions than the 'trophy' girlfriend.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nothing wrong with the OPs profile. Most of us on here keep saying how much we want the truth and honesty and this is what the OP has done in his profile and somehow we aren't happy about it? There's big girls and then there's petit girls just like how there's big guys and slim guys. What's in a word? It's all about how you choose to take it I liked his profile and I think he should not change it. It didn't sound disrespectful at all. He is an individual, why must we all be the same or conform to what the regular posters think is right? There are guys out there and girls too that have their fantasies eg I might secretly want to get it on with a girl but would I introduce her to my friends? Probably not. Now, what was the original post about btw? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' Your profile exactly as it is....it is how you view women and women should know what you think of them...I am sure there will be a queue at your door of big girls wanting to pop into your petrie dish .....now I am going to join Qefenta in her cave for a nice calming cup of chamomile tea Maybe there are people who would be embarrassed to introduce you to others.....just saying........ beauty is skin deep. I have nothing more to say.....yes stop giving him the heads up let him shoot himself in the foot before I get my gun.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Have a cuppa chamomile my dear,:-) :-) :-) xxQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
The way you talk about "big girls" in your profile! As if they are a particular brand of spaghetti sauce that you've heard about but not yet tried. News flash drongo! They are human beings with feelings! Maybe they would be embarrassed to introduce such a loser as yourself to their friends! Lives with parents, no job, gamer... If this offends .... Tough I find your profile offensive - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Shazza85' Nothing wrong with the OPs profile. Most of us on here keep saying how much we want the truth and honesty and this is what the OP has done in his profile and somehow we aren't happy about it? There's big girls and then there's petit girls just like how there's big guys and slim guys. What's in a word? It's all about how you choose to take it I liked his profile and I think he should not change it. It didn't sound disrespectful at all. He is an individual, why must we all be the same or conform to what the regular posters think is right? There are guys out there and girls too that have their fantasies eg I might secretly want to get it on with a girl but would I introduce her to my friends? Probably not. Now, what was the original post about btw? - Posted from rhpmobile You are looking at the improved version, it's a work in progress
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
I made heaps of changes based on what ppl said here and none of them saved... Now i have to do it all again... No idea why the changes didn't take.
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RHP User
11 years ago
#and here is a nice cuppa for you too dear....very calming is chamomile :-) xx Q
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
And I'm drinking a big one right now.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I read your profile before you changed it and frankly, you have deserved the bollocking you got over your comments regarding bigger women. I hope you may have learned something from those comments, and that you have a think about whether you can actually change your attitude towards those women and not just treat them like some particular type of car you want to test drive, with your mates' opinions determining whether or not you buy it. If you can't treat them like people with feelings, and you can't ignore your friends and tell them where to go if they judge a potential partner of yours solely on her appearance, then don't even go there. All you will do is end up causing a lot of hurt. Anyway, I am also currently living with my parents. Not ideal when you're trying to meet new people, and not come across as the loser you sometimes feel like when you look at others with their seemingly wonderful and together lives (of course appearances are often deceiving). But it depends on what your goals are and how you frame things. I'm mostly living back at home so I can afford to go to uni full time (there are some other reasons but they aren't things I tell people until I know them better), and nobody has rejected me because of that. So, it depends how you use this time living at home and what you intend to do now and in the future.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' #and here is a nice cuppa for you too dear....very calming is chamomile :-) xx Q Qefenta...think I need it! I do stand by my opinion...and its just that....only my opinion....But I did voice it a little harshly......that's not like me....so I apologise for thatBad day..very bad news...but no excuses
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
That's just ludicrous. In fact my reservations would be because i might hurt the feelings of the woman I'm with, when she sees that judgemental moment of hesitation i know i can expect from a couple of my friends. MY only major concern for myself is how much I'll miss some sexual positions and whether others will give a different feeling. There IS a physical difference and I have no idea whether I'm going to like or dislike that difference (one of my fave positions is lifting a girl off the ground and holding her up against the wall for example). You can't say thats an unfounded basis to experiment first. Who knows i might like it more and decide that's what I'm looking for in a partner from now on. I consider my joblessness to be far worse than any concerns of size. Imagine an ideal setting. I introduce her and no one pauses or says anything. She goes on happily no problem, no awkwardness. Imagine the same situation from the other side. She introduces me and someone asks what i do for a living. Now even if no one bats an eyelid when i have to tell people I'm unemployed i feel like crawling into a hole and dying every time. Its so embarrassing. Jayjay hit the nail on the head with that comment whether she was angry at the time or not. I don't feel she needed to apologize at all. I guess I'd badly misstated/misrepresented myself originally. As i said earlier in the thread i had no idea "big girl" was derogatory. I would have expected my sister (my primary female role model) to have told me by now and she's never even flinched when I've used the term. And i know she's sensitive about her weight. And its my friends I'd be embarrassed for, not for any woman i might introduce to them. Now i do value their opinions, ill founded as they may be, but if they hurt the feelings of someone I'm with they will get a stern talking to first opportunity i get. Why did i start this thread in the first place? Its not supposed to be about my profile at all. Its supposed to be about whether all/some/none women think jobless/living with parents/no car is a deal breaker. I'm getting the impression that no car is the least problematic of those and I've rather overestimated the importance of the other 2 as well, but not by as much.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Shazza85' Nothing wrong with the OPs profile. Most of us on here keep saying how much we want the truth and honesty and this is what the OP has done in his profile and somehow we aren't happy about it? There's big girls and then there's petit girls just like how there's big guys and slim guys. What's in a word? It's all about how you choose to take it I liked his profile and I think he should not change it. It didn't sound disrespectful at all. He is an individual, why must we all be the same or conform to what the regular posters think is right? There are guys out there and girls too that have their fantasies eg I might secretly want to get it on with a girl but would I introduce her to my friends? Probably not. Now, what was the original post about btw? - Posted from rhpmobile This is the bakery, and he is saying I want a chocolate éclair with some sextra creamLike me wanting a tall guy, its my preference so I say I like a tall guy. The term BBW has become a bit old , and most women who are lusciously curved do not like it so I think we should call them LCWbig is only good if its BCM as in BigcockedMen we can have a tCm...tiny cocked men I am on a role here lol SCM ..softcockmen darn it now I cant stopany how OP your as honest as you can be and if you hunt for what you want by the drop down boxes then you may get your chance to pork a LCW or an OLCW hats old one like me a lot of men ask to pork older women and we are called cougars, frankly I don't give a hoot what you call me just don't call me late to the dinner table LadyT
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RHP User
11 years ago
The reason he upset so many women was because his profile said he would like to have sex with a big girl as an experiment but probably wouldn't introduce her to his friends......OP,nearly every job that I have ever had was because I did some voluntary work.....firstly it will make you feel valued,secondly you can then say"'I work with...or work at yadda "....you are a fortunate young man,you have many gifts and talents....so what if you are living back with mum and dad....it's not uncommon for your generation at all....my generation ran away from home as soon as it was legally possible...some people called that marriage....so look up at the skyHenny Penny because it's actually notfalling in xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' The reason he upset so many women was because his profile said he would like to have sex with a big girl as an experiment but probably wouldn't introduce her to his friends...... isn't that the truth? so would people rather he meets someone and lie to them about his intentions? I did not see anything negative in his statement and I think he wasn't being derogatory either. Why do most people jump on the negative conclusion? and aren't some of us on here to experiment? are you saying all of you introduce you FBs and FWBs to family and friends? Not long ago there was a thread about BBC and how this person wanted to give that a go. The was no hoo-haa about that I'd say regarding profiles and posts on here, to steal a quote from somewhere "I am only responsible for what I say but how you choose to interpret it is entirely up to you." if we are all to be honest, how many of us set out to meet up with someone for sex and have no intention of contacting that pesron ever again but on parting we say "call you later" or "give me a call later"
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RHP User
11 years ago
that's not what his Original Post was about either....he wasn't asking for help to fix his profile I keep forgetting to even respond to it. To answer you OP, for me it would not be a deal breaker but it would become an issue if you were to always talk down about yourself and started feeling like you weren't good enough etc. having a job or not should not change the person you are and should not determine the person you are. You also don't need t tell anyone unless if you feel like you trust them enough and perhaps want to take things further. And even is you find a regular buddy there's countless things and places you can go to for fun on a budget, picnics, camping, walks, the beach etc
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madotara69
11 years ago
A mate of mine put his new girlfriend on the handlebars of his push bike and took her up to maccas for her birthday. Her eyes were so focused at the smile on his face as they rode off into the evening sky, one of the most romantic moments, a whole bunch of us happened to be part to it. He had money, a car in the garage, a builder. That girl could not give a fuck that he was taking her out for a cheese burger, she did not even know there was a world around them, just him and her nothing else. You are making a world full of worry, over nothing. What is a car, money or any of that got to do with who you are. Some people have nothing and would throw stones at you to think these things mean more than them. If you had a billion dollars in your pocket, how would you place yourself to others then?
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RHP User
11 years ago
If someone wasn't prepared to be seen with me for whatever reason, whether it was because I am older than them, curvy, or if they are attached I'm not prepared to meet them in the 1st place. I refuse to be anyone's dirty little secret. Who cares what their mates think? Surely it's about what you think or like. If they don't support you, then they're not good mates. And any woman who wasn't prepared to be with you because of your living arrangements wouldn't be worth it either.
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captainkaos
11 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69'A mate of mine put his new girlfriend on the handlebars of his push bike and took her up to maccas for her birthday. Her eyes were so focused at the smile on his face as they rode off into the evening sky, one of the most romantic moments, a whole bunch of us happened to be part to it. He had money, a car in the garage, a builder. That girl could not give a fuck that he was taking her out for a cheese burger, she did not even know there was a world around them, just him and her nothing else. You are making a world full of worry, over nothing. What is a car, money or any of that got to do with who you are. Some people have nothing and would throw stones at you to think these things mean more than them. If you had a billion dollars in your pocket, how would you place yourself to others then? I love everyones comments. I am sure that you have all helped Dryphuz in some way. Maybe you will have a better outlook in life AND look at women in a different light.
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
I've discovered that you should in no way make any reference to body size or type in your profile because even if you ask a completely unrelated question they will focus in on that to the exclusion of all else. And that making such a comment in your profile is a bigger deal breaker than any financial stability indicators like Job/Home/Car Also that adelaide is tiny and there are only a few female members in my age bracket, even less of which are actually interesting to me.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Don't let others decide who you are Dryphuzz, you have all the chances in the world for finding a friend. That's who you are looking for right? No point telling anyone what your mates want, look where that gets you. he he. You have stood your ground, people are only caring for people here that is all. I believe you are confused, not a creep. Maybe spend some time finding yourself, someone you can count on.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The hole your digging is getting bigger by the minute. Below are your comments that just make me want to scream. Realtionships are based on communication, trust, companionship and yes attraction. For a man that is well educated you are socially inept. The reason I'm interested in something short term with a BBW is because i don't even know if I'm physical compatible with a BBW and that's what i would be interested in finding out before i commit to a relationship. MY only major concern for myself is how much I'll miss some sexual positions and whether others will give a different feeling.
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madotara69
11 years ago
MY only major concern for myself is how much I'll miss some sexual positions and whether others will give a different feeling. There IS a physical difference and I have no idea whether I'm going to like or dislike that difference (one of my fave positions is lifting a girl off the ground and holding her up against the wall for example). You can't say thats an unfounded basis to experiment first. Who knows i might like it more and decide that's what I'm looking for in a partner from now on.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Have a shave and then jump on Tinder. If you haven't already alienated all the women on there you can thank me later. And another thing get over yaself and get on with your life. Get a shitty job and a shitty car and a shitty apartment and then party like a muthafucker! Peace S
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RHP User
11 years ago
We all have fallen on hard times, so I know where you're at. There's no shame is telling it like it is..if people/women don't like it, tough sh1t..You know what I'm sayin'? Women who have high expectations are usually the ones who are stuck in the dry docks...lol...take it or leave it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
that in our current socio-economic and political climate, many people experience one or more periods of unemployment through no fault of their own. Stable, secure jobs are not as easy to come by as they used to be. So anyone with a reasonable level of awareness about such things should not judge you solely on the fact that you are currently unemployed. As I mentioned before, it's the additional details about what your plans are now in regards to looking for work / studying / volunteering that are important, and that you can share with people when they ask the question about what you do for work (yes it's a question I don't particularly look forward to either, but as I also said before nobody has rejected me because I'm studying rather than working full time...although that is probably at least partly because I am not looking for a relationship, whereas if I was looking for something more serious then financial matters do become more of a consideration).
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_silk' The hole your digging is getting bigger by the minute. Below are your comments that just make me want to scream. Realtionships are based on communication, trust, companionship and yes attraction. For a man that is well educated you are socially inept. The reason I'm interested in something short term with a BBW is because i don't even know if I'm physical compatible with a BBW and that's what i would be interested in finding out before i commit to a relationship. MY only major concern for myself is how much I'll miss some sexual positions and whether others will give a different feeling. Would you have the same negative reaction to someone who is Bi-curious and just wanted to try it... I really think you're reading my posts with a prejudice and also assuming a prejudice on my part that simply does not exist.
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
i've just deleted the whole reference from my profile because it occurs to me that i can find something casual without pointing out i'm looking for it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
This may not have an edit button , but have that ability on your profile . Life's what you make it , edit your profile is and option , editing an attitude is totally your choice , good luck man .
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RHP User
11 years ago
I met a beautiful man here in the world of RHP. At age 54 he was living with his parents and was unemployed for what I think actually longer than he said. I didn't then and I still don't care that his situation was what it was. I would do it again.I found him awesomely attractive and very dateable. It's the person that is most important!!! Sadly once he was given a job our connection faded as he withdrew mentally and any effort to make time together stopped. The odd lie and many excuses later when he moved into his own place he ended what we had. I was someone to relieve the boredom I think.I can't help but feel a bit jaded and used. He has returned here as a 'professional businessman'...I wish him every success in his life and what he seeks here in the world of RHP. Always be honest, always!!! Don't forget those who reached out when you were down to help lift you back up. Maybe try what we did. I could host, he could when his folks were out, and we used a hotel room for a quite a few weekends. Your opportunities are endless...I agree with DG. "When life knocks you down roll on your back and look at the stars" (Unknown)
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP and Mado,it wasn't the fact that the OP had his preference for "big girls " on his profile....other men have that on theirs too....it was his comments about experimenting that I and other women were offended by,and the comment about not introducing her to his friends.......only a ,woman who has zero self esteem would want that...and Mado ,yes that was a spanking :-) xxQ
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' OP and Mado,it wasn't the fact that the OP had his preference for "big girls " on his profile....other men have that on theirs too....it was his comments about experimenting that I and other women were offended by,and the comment about not introducing her to his friends.......only a ,woman who has zero self esteem would want that...and Mado ,yes that was a spanking :-) xxQ I feel the OP fancies big girls, has some issues with his own self esteem, and has tried to show the innocence for the words he had used. If he had run off throughout this thread, yeah sure he was offensive, though he has given his best shot at defending and listening to all posts, including the ladies he has upset. Surely that counts for something and we can't forget the topic is of asking to himself, he is not trying to be rude, I don't think so. I certainly would not be having this argument if I thought he meant to offend you and the ladies here, it's the reason the ladies are offended is of my concerns.
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RHP User
11 years ago
He was honest in what he said in his profile...that is his thinking....Q going back to my cave
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yer just fuck em - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'd lose any mention of gaming in the profile because that can be a real turn off for some, I think for the over analysing 'wimin folk' here its better to not mention it at all, then at some future point in time when you have her back at your house after a few drinks just flip on Black Ops 2 hand her a control and break it to her that way :) I'd also not try an put yourself down too much because you may find that in reality you have a lot more to offer than most, remember confidence is key. M
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RHP User
11 years ago
well mate ive not read what you put on your profile but im thinking it wasn't that great going by some of the commentsdon't worry about what your mates think you are the one that needs to be happy you will never be happy if you chose a woman on what your mates think living with your parents isn't the best but you wont be there forever I live with my sister since I split from my ex and im 42 its not the ideal situation and makes it very hard to find and date women but I'm not going to be there forever.so hang in there it will happen may be not tomorrow but it will
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Quoting 'SereneOne001' Your opportunities are endless...I agree with DG. "When life knocks you down roll on your back and look at the stars" (Unknown) Heres a saying I quite like.... When life gives you lemons, make orange juice and leave the world wondering how the hell you did it. Think about it. The mystery, intrigue and creativity locked up in that saying.... says a LOT about the positive aspect of the human condition that inspires others.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Dry,you asked and then you actually took some advice and changed your profile.....much betterer indeed....and you continue to post....hugs xx Q
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
Talk about putting your worst foot forward. Still probably gonna struggle though. Adelaide is just too damn tiny. Not distance wise though. Think i could still really use a vehicle there. Taxis are too damn expensive for regular use.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Dryphuz' Talk about putting your worst foot forward. Still probably gonna struggle though. Adelaide is just too damn tiny. Not distance wise though. Think i could still really use a vehicle there. Taxis are too damn expensive for regular use. Chin up, it is a flat city, a pushy gets around quite easy. Your world will get larger once you don't see yourself so small.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wow I was really touched by what you wrote Sereneone001.....someone once told me a women can be with you when you have everything....but the woman who is with you when you have nothing, is the woman worth fighting for.
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