2EssesExploring

2EssesExploring

M51 F39

Desire to swing when single or part of a couple

May 30 2021

Thinking about my desire for sex play over my life I realise that I’m only really attracted to it when part of a couple. The years I’ve spent when single the desire to explore sexually in a One plus more than one just hasn’t been a strong driving force. I also didn’t like one night stands when single. As part of a couple this seems to change. I enjoy the sharing aspect with a partner and the release from jealousies and ownership that comes from exploring. This seems a little contradictory as surely I enjoy the fact that I am “owned”. Also within a couple I enjoy exploring situations that may be deep or shallow. For me I guess when single I was either focused on healing and/or self development and sex for pure hedonism just wasn’t part of that. I’d like to hear specifically from other people who have indulged in swinging as a couple about whether the desire to play was just as strong when they were single?

Comments

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    4 years ago

    When l was single my sex life was pretty ordinary. Mainly because I was a pretty shy who lacked the cofidence to approach any girl. This meant l relied heavily on any girl making the first approach... One xmas ' a friend at the time ' walked in where l was working to wish me a merry xmas , l thanked her and leant in for a friendly cheek kiss . That lead to amore intimate kiss ' which lead to dating ane who later became Mrs Sawadee . Now long time married with the usual up's and down . I started to think of things to put some fresh life back into our relationship. When l suggested opening up to sexual adventures with others ' she was all for it saying " why not' ill try anything once " With her birthday only a few weeks away' we discussed our alternatives , l suggested a hotwife experience which she thought was a wonderful suggestion and easier to organize because of the ready access to suitable males.. We looked through many profiles before she found a guy she found attractive. Everything went to plan and the meeting incredibly hot. She / we were on a high for days.. On a personal note ' watching your love one enjoying herself was a liberating experience. That was the beginning of our " other life " and have now since enjoyed other experiences... Not alot ' as both of us are selective . Not over the top selective' but we do need some sort of attraction.