F55
Didn't see that coming!!!!
April 12 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Most guys on here are partnered. Why do they lie? Because the guys that tell the truth dont get any action, therefore they lie. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
No I haven't and hope to never ever get one. I just don't understand the lies, because the truth ALWAYS comes out! I have had attached guys contact me and say their partner will never know. My answer is always no, I do not want to be dragged into anyone else's lie. I hope you are ok Ashlee xo - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
It wasn't a wife but an ex girlfriend,she remained a friend,and was in his house when he was out..she knew or guessed his password and hacked into his computer ..she called me and ranted non stop..I told her that what she was doing was illegal and if she did it again,I would contact the police.....Yes most often it's the wife..the status of separated can be a bit misleading....it's a grey area if a couple haven't really sorted their issues.. sometimes it can be a bitter ex...I hope you are ok Ashlee..it comes as a very nasty shock,on many levels.one being that you trusted this man the other knowing that someone else was also hurt by his selfish actions hugs xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'simple_desires' Most guys on here are partnered. Why do they lie? Because the guys that tell the truth dont get any action, therefore they lie. - Posted from rhpmobile Well I can say you're wrong there......... and so can my FWB
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
I dont believe you can bullshit yourself and get away with it. So why try that on anyone else...... their gut instinct will often catch you out anyway and it won't end well when the lie is uncovered. But then.... I'm single..... in here and out in the real world....... so its pretty easy for me to be honest. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
its a general statement not absolute - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Telling someone you are as widower is so low. What a douche bag. A RHP friend of mine received a call from the pregnant girlfriend who was about to give birth any day. And this bloke was seeing more than one woman on the side... Quite happy to forgo the condom too from memory. :-/
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RHP User
10 years ago
A very good reason to withhold sex for quite some time. If they are genuine they'll stick around.. If not you won't see them for dust after ... I'd say ... Maybe at least three months of dating... ? What do you reckon girls?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'simple_desires its a general statement not absolute - Posted from rhpmobile Generalisations are skating on thin ice and a good way of casting a slur as you wish. As I asked earlier is your generalisation researched or pure guess work? It only takes one exception to show how shallow your argument is...honesty got me my FWB along with her respect.Ashlee123 I'm sorry you got taken in by a scumbag, please don't think all men are like that...be careful out there
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RHP User
10 years ago
And it was 6 days before his wedding .., he told me he was out drinking with his mates when in fact it was his bucks night and he got that pissed he forgot to delete his message which included sending me naughty pics . 3 am I get phone call after phone call then message after message so glad my phone was on silent we hadn't played just planned on hooking up! He weaseled his way out of it and they got married I believe . But ..... The worst was a phone call to say the man you had been seeing for the last 3 years had passed away .... By his wife .. Double whammy :( truly thought he worked shift work he covered it well . We even spent 3 valentines days together !! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Both genders can and do play that game.
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Missb4u
10 years ago
had a phone call once from a chick that said she was his girlfriend and had one message me through Facebook asking how I knew her man... It's never pleasant.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'll back what Jack_Denials is saying. I'm married, play alone but my wife knows all about it as the people I play with know all about my wife. I "get action" from time to time, could always do with more, but that's not always because I'm married, they may not like me for many other reasons. The bottom line is I know some lie, but I don't lie about myself or my marriage.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sorry for going off topic with this thread but I had to have my say.
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RHP User
10 years ago
And I obliged 'em all! Yarrrrrrr! Xx Cap'n No Beard
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gazpacho
10 years ago
It's a miracle... Or the zombie apocalypse. Hugs Gazpacho
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was having a wonderful romance (8 months) till his wife rocked up on my doorstep. They had only been married for 2 months when she found out about me. He married her during his time with me and nope we both had no idea. I will never forget the hurt and devastation in her eyes when she learnt that she had married into a lie and we were both gutted. Interestingly enough she took him back and they struggled on for about another year before their marriage ended for other reasons As for me, despite his pleas I never met with him again. So many people were hurt by his deception not just me and her, but a wider circle of family and friends. I vow that to the best of my knowledge I will never have anything to do with a attached person again.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'withoutaclue' Sorry for going off topic with this thread but I had to have my say. yes a bit simplistic I know.It's not "off topic" it's tangential...ya get that
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've never received a phone call from a wife.... But I have voted since I enrolled on the electoral role at 18.... That's kinda the same thing right?? 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
... I got taken home from a hotel by a woman I met there.On entering her flat, I did notice there were man things there, although she said she was single..we had a pretty good hour or two, and having a drink, were about to start round two..All of a sudden.. a car turns into the drive, and she freeks..."My Husband.. quick fuck off out back " sort of shit.."Pffft.."I was naked and NOT about to leave all my shit there and run..HE came in.. and was MAD..Looked like he was going to go me.. so, I stood upp.. still naked and said.."Mate.. you have a problem with your lady.. not me. If you make this MY problem we are going to get very ugly"He stopped and stared at me as I said.. "The lady invited me.. when she asks me to leave I will go" then sat down and picked up the beer... (Which was PROBABLY his anyway) and took a swig..They looked at each other.. then at me..and finally the lady snaps.."Will you leave now please.."I replied.. "Sure.."I got dressed.. took time tying my boot laces.. walked to the door.. thanked her for the sex, and him for the beer.. and left... thinking.. "That COULD have gone VERY wrong"Fck... I would have LOVED to have been able to listen in to what followed in the room...Point is.. WOMEN lie too.MOST of the women I get to meet and play with on here.. AND other places, are married or attached women playing up on their hubbys and partners.In all honesty, I am not even very interested in single women..That is my kink, and may one day be my death..WHY they lie or cheat is not my PROBLEM.. it is my IGNITION point
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was the wife and got the phone call from the mistress. Now that was a marriage ender! Lol Bastard still tried to deny the affair even while i was talking to the other woman. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Start a thread "Who has had a phone call from a husband?" Considering the ration of men to women on here, it would be skewed of course.But in the outside world......... Cast stones. Many a thread in here debating the theory of monogamy of the human species and therefore the reasons that BOTH sexes lie to achieve additional sex in their lives while still totally loving their full time partner. Not here to justify the lies and deceit. We are all responsible for our own actions and the consequences. Just tired of the same thread that appears every few weeks to do some man bashing. Maybe I'm just tired...........
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'simple_desires' Most guys on here are partnered. Why do they lie? Because the guys that tell the truth dont get any action, therefore they lie. - Posted from rhpmobile Well what do i say i tell the truth always but get tarnished by idiots that don't, because woman can not trust a truthful man IM read SINGLE SINGLE NOT ATTACHED OR MARRIED
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compressor
10 years ago
both guys and girls on here should be truthful in what they are saying as there is no point in telling lies to them
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't believe the Op set out to start a man bashing thread. The wording of the Op could have been "Whose had a phone call from the partner ?" but Im tipping she's writing just writing from her own experience. That's all. I have not seen any man bashing posts to date Of course I don't believe it is gender specific, it just is and the thread is about being on the receiving end of a unexpected phone call etc informing that what we thought was, wasn't.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is that the wife actually bothers to ring other women instead of leaving him. They say you deserve the partner you get, but surely people need to have more self respect for themselves than to hang around in a relationship that is rubbish
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RHP User
10 years ago
not only have I had calls texts and emails I have had wives show up on my doorstep and confront me. I have been spun every story in the book and find married guys a turn off. I am not interested in the drama it brings. There is a difference when the wife tells you to go and enjoy her husband with her blessing and someone lying and keeping their wives in the dark. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Fit I don't understand your point. Both women involved have been treated horrendously. By yes someone said it a Douche bag. We also don't know wether she left him or not. She probably called to have her worst fears confirmed and maybe try and get some answers as it would eat away at her. There must be a million and one reasons people stay in 'rubbish' relationships. ...scary thing may be she had no idea it was rubbish. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Theinbetweeners' Fit I don't understand your point. Both women involved have been treated horrendously. By yes someone said it a Douche bag. We also don't know wether she left him or not. She probably called to have her worst fears confirmed and maybe try and get some answers as it would eat away at her. There must be a million and one reasons people stay in 'rubbish' relationships. ...scary thing may be she had no idea it was rubbish. - Posted from rhpmobile There is some history with these things. For her to call the OP suggests that she had reason to suspect he was up to something, which suggests that perhaps it was ongoing. I congratulate the women that do leave, but for those who don't, I can't understand it
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am single and I have had the extreme pleasure of meeting 2 beautiful women here in RHP. I had 1 relationship for 2 years with a beautiful blonde and the other for 4 years (she lived with me, once again very stunning and a great very social friend). I had magnificent sex and fun with both women, I can't for another relationship like those two. The Army ended both relationships due to postings. I'm out now and looking forward to settling down. Regards all.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Every relationship is different. Some people will stay, some will go. Its not black and white. There are 255 shades of white alone. Sometimes there is greater courage for those that stay and try and forgive and make it work. Many have an investment of love and emotions that may need a little more investment to reap the rewards for later life. So we need to give those that may want to try and work it, our encouragement rather than call them foolish. Sometimes quitting is an easy way out from what may be a hopeless situation. We can never hope to put ourselves into other peoples shoes and imagine their emotions. Its their choice in the end.
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
I dont think the OP is man bashing....just relating her shitty experience with yet another married guy pretending to be single.I am sure there are many married women on rhp pretending to be single as well. Is it many men dont give two hoots if the woman is married and lying? I dont know. Yes, I have had contact from the 'girlfriend'.....told her to re-direct her anger at her guy who was lying about his relationship status. We ended up having quite a nice chat with her crying down the phone to me. She knew we had only met for a coffee and I wasnt keen to take it further (I had a feeling he was lying)....and she ended up thanking me for listening.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Fit73' Quoting 'Theinbetweeners' Fit I don't understand your point. Both women involved have been treated horrendously. By yes someone said it a Douche bag. We also don't know wether she left him or not. She probably called to have her worst fears confirmed and maybe try and get some answers as it would eat away at her. There must be a million and one reasons people stay in 'rubbish' relationships. ...scary thing may be she had no idea it was rubbish. - Posted from rhpmobile There is some history with these things. For her to call the OP suggests that she had reason to suspect he was up to something, which suggests that perhaps it was ongoing. I congratulate the women that do leave, but for those who don't, I can't understand it There is some history with these things..........She had reason to suspect he was up to something, which suggests that perhaps it was ongoing ??? In my particular case, It was all about timing and being in the right/wrong place at the right time. My lover was caught by his wife when she passed him in the car going the opposite way along the road during the time when he should have been at work. He didn't notice her. She turned the car around and followed him to my place and watched and waited till he left. Can you imagine how she felt ?. She was a complete mess by the time she landed on my doorstep. And I was a complete mess after she left. There are those that are so complicit and are masters of deception that you really do not have any idea. You can live in a oblivious bubble and not even notice that you are As for those who chose to stay, your not suppose to understand why ....only they need to know
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RHP User
10 years ago
<<< I honest... and attached... manacled...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I got the vilest message from his fiancee. She obviously suspected him and hacked his computer and dating profile. My god the pain in her message was obvious. She must have sat and read through 6 months of our messages, it would have been horrible for her. I felt like shit for being duped by him and all my own pain came flooding back as that is exactly the same way I caught my hubby out. I hope you're OK Ashlee, it's a horrible feeling knowing the hurt you've unintentionally caused.
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RHP User
10 years ago
For some reason I can't see too many men ringing the other man whether it be to accuse them or to let them know they are seeing a cheater.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was confronted by a woman's partner. He found out she was bed hopping and turned up at a planned meeting and of course to this moron it was all my fault. He was the dumbest bloke I'd ever encountered, possessive, controlling and violent. The confrontation didn't end well for him after he raised a fist to start and had the bad manners to ring the police and claim he was assaulted. The female cop that attended was awesome, took control and separated the lady and ended up being the catalyst to get her out of a bad domestic situation. I figure it was an act of fate that brought about a good ending for the lady and I'm not the least bit upset about it. Sure it could have gone very pear shaped and I didn't bother with RHP for a while after but life can go bad just sitting waiting traffic lights to change. - Posted from rhpmobile
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sock26
10 years ago
Iv been the one to make that call after my fiance at the time was in bris for the weekend. Started getting odd txt. Guess he still had my in his phone as she used it for a while over a year earlier. So I played along to ensure I wasn't jumping to conclusions then rang and introduced myself and got the response sorry man it is what it is. So I asked him to get her to ring me when she got back from the shops. Lol.. Not as much fun making the call either
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Dryphuz
10 years ago
is finding out the liars get more action than i do .
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cnscpl00
10 years ago
my wife and I have agreed to play seperatly, my wife has a FWB male. You know how hard it is for me to gain myself a FWB??? Hasn't happened yet, let's put it that way. I have even stated that a potential FWB can meet my wife so that they can be assured that my wife knows and is more than happy for me to play around. Disappointing but can understand due to the amount of guys lying just to get "some". As it turned out I have actually relieved texts from a husband!!! Yes the husband. She decided to contact me and proposition me, I did question her intentions and ask to make sure hubby was ok with what she was doing, long story short I was asked/told to not pursue his Mrs ever again. So, it's not just the guys as I have found out lying but in some cases the Ladies as well. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not all of us guys lie....I am happily married, I love watching my wife with other sexy Women, she enjoys watching me with other sexy women, yes u are right, there are many guys that are players, love to lie...most get caught out in the endciao from steve
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RHP User
10 years ago
well said
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RHP User
10 years ago
You can't tell me the girls are innocent now can you? I have had married women tell me that the partner has no idea about what's going on while the cats not home Calling the kettle black! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes I'm marred I'm not getting anything at home or on here sex that is send me a message lady's ??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'cnscpl00' my wife and I have agreed to play seperatly, my wife has a FWB male. You know how hard it is for me to gain myself a FWB??? Hasn't happened yet, let's put it that way. I have even stated that a potential FWB can meet my wife so that they can be assured that my wife knows and is more than happy for me to play around. Disappointing but can understand due to the amount of guys lying just to get "some". That's not the only reason you're struggling to find a FWB. It's almost always going to be much easier for a woman in an open relationship to find outside male sex partners, than it is for the boyfriend / husband to find a woman willing to get involved in that sort of situation. For a lot of single women (myself included) it doesn't matter if you have permission to play outside the relationship, a partnered guy just isn't a viable option for a number of reasons.
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RHP User
10 years ago
By males on here that they prefer attached women...less hassle???? So I assume that there is no need to lie about your relationship status...as there are attached males and females looking for action. If they lie you have to assume that they do not have their partners blessing. Sorry but I think that is an insult to their partner... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
That's sooo bad!!..I would be furious! Can assure you am a genuine,openminded honest man..strait down the line and expect others same..meeting,chatting openly sharing a laugh..our desires n needs..being open ,relaxed n uninhibited..exploring.. n enjoying...then having peace of mind after...and indulging again later with no complications..just pleasure!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Shake it off OP I'm sure you will find someone better.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have never cheated on a girl friends and never will. It is disrespectful to all involved - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Since when did RHP become a singles site, preaching about honesty and cheating strangers without knowing their storyline. Getting a call from a partner or ex is simply inappropriate and very lazy, sounds like he wanted to be found out. You do realise the industry behind this site is called the 'Sex' industry ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
This one is a no Brainer for me. I have a shocking memory so I simply don't lie - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Brunnicator' Since when did RHP become a singles site, preaching about honesty and cheating strangers without knowing their storyline. Getting a call from a partner or ex is simply inappropriate and very lazy, sounds like he wanted to be found out. You do realise the industry behind this site is called the 'Sex' industry ! - Posted from rhpmobile Cheating can be expected and may even be acceptable because this is a so-called sex site? Can you explain what you mean?
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blackbig
10 years ago
There isn't a simple solution to this. I have played with married/ attached women without knowledge of their other half. There is different reasons people do things they do. I wouldn't try to teach anyone my religious moral values!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I see Brunnicator's point here. I'm on this site for sex not a relationship and judging from the messages I received I thought that was the norm. My partner does FIFO 4/1 and he has a FWB while away so I'm now looking for one too. We are both aware however we agreed to never discuss it with each other. If someone tells me they are single I will take it at face value, I'm not about to make them take a lie detector. Apologies to whomever I may have offended but this is just my opinion
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
...such a bitter little bunny arent you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
What does cheating have to do with a sex site for swingers and singles or even the sex industry? Makes no sense what so ever. Sorry Brunny, or bitter Brunny, you get no points for that. :p
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ruby_blossum
10 years ago
indicates there are still men out there with the archacic view of "Adult" sites.....that the only way to get a woman is through lying cheating and manipulation.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was on the wrong end of a nasty group email from a very angry wife who's eight year old son found her husbands messages to an unknown number of women that he had been chatting to while away at work. He had said he was single and some of the messages were pretty full on so I am sure I would have been pretty upset if my little boy had seen them as well. Unfortunately this woman blamed all the women who had been chatting to her 'single' husband instead of focusing her anger on him. I answered to to assure her that it was only chat, I had not ever met him and had never intended to meet him and told her that he said he was not attached. She then emailed me back telling me that she doesn't know what he saw in me anyway because she is much better looking than me and blonde and slim and that she had not asked for a response from me because I am a ugly fat dirty slut that tries to steal other women's husband's. So that went well.... I have also sent an email myself when I had found out my partner had been asking another woman to meet him overseas while he was on break from work. I was a bit more gracious myself...not blaming her at all but asking her to be honest with me about their situation because he certainly wasn't telling me the truth. It happens and it seems to me that lying about your relationship status (no matter which partner) is a pretty common occurrence and happens much more frequently than I would have thought before. I am not a big advocate for relationships anymore and this is one of the main reasons. I am not sure that too many people can be trusted even when you have an open relationship. I think it is all to do with the thrill of the deception and the possibility of getting caught. Makes it much more exciting
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Kattss
10 years ago
It's one thing to say you're seperated etc... But widowed?!! Omg what a douche!!... It's so hard in here. You trust you are being told the truth and definitely doing the right thing by everyone... and then find out you are the 'other woman' that just broke the heart of his wife or partner.... It does break your heart too.... Guys man up! Tell the truth!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Brunnicator is attached. That (partly) explains the constant attitude and defensiveness. Brun, did this thread hit a little too close to home?
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RHP User
10 years ago
This topic is one of the saddest I have read. What makes it so sad to me is it is all about lies, deceit and pain. I have seen it too many times both male and female. Why the hell if things aren't right do people have to drag others into their shit. No experience with it personally but I know I would be devastated. Just man or woman up and be honest peoples.
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RHP User
10 years ago
To answer your question, no I've never been contacted by a partner. I very rarely play in hotels and though I'm happy to host, I much prefer going to the other person's place. I guess this has helped me make sure the people I'm seeing are actually single. It's not a foolproof way of course, and I can only imagine the horror. Sad to hear this has happened to you and others.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sorry to say but even the ones that tell the truth still dont get anything im starting to think that 90% on here are duds i dont put pics on my profile that doesnt mean im att.married.or anything else i just dont like how i look in a phone photo shot
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'wallace1305' cheatingI see Brunnicator's point here. I'm on this site for sex not a relationship and judging from the messages I received I thought that was the norm. You thought cheating was the norm? I find that very sad. Luckily there are many guys here who are actually single, but thanks to those who lie about their status they may not be believed.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Meander - You know I am attached as you also know I don't lie about it and am not cheating. So no nerve issues at all but thanks for your concern. Meeka - A paragragh is often used to change direction or introduce a new topic to a written work. I choose to believe you have misunderstood the two different statements and accidentally joined them to create a different perspective. I don't make cheap and uneducated judgements on people I encounter here. I have no right to do so unless I know their individual story. I am wise enough to know an adult website that promotes a sex based marketplace will contain all types of people. It does surprise me that there still are people that get offended by people with different views. If you are cheating then you have an obligation to protect any third party you might seek fwb arrangements with from your everyday. The OP has my sympathy on this point, as I said thats just inappropriate. People, don't taint the well by turning these forums into a trough of sadness and grumbles. Instead of bitching about each other how about you celebrate the colour and excitement that floats around places like this !! - Posted from rhpmobile
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