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Difference between single male profiles and girls and couples
May 23 2018
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OkeyDoke45
7 years ago
Let the carnage commence.
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OkeyDoke45
7 years ago
Okay, I have walked away and taken a bit of a breather. Now I am in a calm place, meadows and heather, all birds a-twitter and the sun shining through. Verily, a cartoonish dairy cow munches on some weird flower thing in the distance. I definitely get that blokes on here can be twits. As a onetime user of Grindr, well - does anybody remember the Hellmouth from Buffy opening up in the final episode (which was rather anti-climactic by the by)? Grindr is like that, only the demons just send you countless ''got any pix?'' messages. I get a bit rankled though when people object to men classifying RHP as a ''sex site'' (which I do also). Even a cursory look at RHPs home page informs you pretty much straightaway that it's (to coin a stupid Limp Bizkit song, which they all are) all about the nookie. Sure, there is the odd ''success story'' link about somebody who met their life partner on here, but the rest is all sex, sex, sex. So, in my opinion, you cannot be too hard on blokes on here thinking that an apple is an apple. You don't go into a cinema screening the latest superhero blockbuster and berate them for not being at home watching What's Eating Gilbert Grape. I accept there are people who use RHP to find their life partner with shared sexual interests. That makes sense to me, totally. But please stop trying to pretend that those that are on here for purely sexual interests are the exception and not the rule. Dating online is full of dickheads - I may or may not be one (I am at least sometimes). Negotiating a nice passage through them is difficult, but such is the price of that passage.
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OkeyDoke45
7 years ago
I just realized how many pop culture references I made in my previous post. Circa 2000 pop culture references, but I was hip once. No way did I listen to Limp Bizkit though.
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Supernova
7 years ago
Quoting 'OkeyDoke45' Let the carnage commence. Pretty obvious hey And of course this is NOT a SEX SITE!!! Geeeeez!!! I come here to make connections with people, create everlasting friendships that live on forever, find new pen-pals, or organize some people to come over for my book club! It's ridiculous to suggest that this site - with all its talk about kink and lewd pics - could be interpreted as a site to find sex. Stupid men!!!! If you want to have meaningless no-strings sex you should all go to E-Harmoney you dummies!!!
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EarthQueen
7 years ago
I wouldn’t lump a gender with a label. Have had some of the best conversations of my life with single men on here. That being said I just think the world that we live in is not sex positive and we are given many strange messages about sexuality and gender specific behaviour from religion, the media and society as a whole from childhood so it doesn’t surprise me to see that reflected in behaviour of some people of any gender. Be it overt sexual behaviour on RHP or ultra conservative wowserism in the vanilla world which I find more trying. - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
7 years ago
Agree that I would totally classify RHP as a sex site. Of course it is. You do have the choice to use it completley as you wish but let’s be real. You don’t see people stating their kinks on POF ....sadly. It would make that vetting process way easier 😂 Also, you and I both know that you had The Bizkit on high rotation. Don’t be ashamed. Sing along ......... This time I'm 'a stand up and shout. I'm 'a do things my way It's my way. My way, or the highway😂😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
It doesn't give license to approach women and trans people like free hookers on a street corner waiting for cock. Sex may be a common interest between us all at the end of the day but without proper approach and manners, you will get fuck all. Some guys will never learn that. The ones that do will go ok here
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RHP User
7 years ago
yes we are here to meet others for sex as well its the way the different groups go about it is what we meant. Have had some great conversations with guys on here. Its how we all approach it differently, Most couples are very respectful (at first) Its more that the way some people approach things. Yes it is a site to meet people for sex and adult fun but doesnt mean you throw out all social niecities in the process.
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Mischeviouslad
7 years ago
This ol cherry again Sure it’s a site which promotes the illusion of free and easy sex.....advertising has done that world wide since the first ad was created. But act like a dribbling horny dog by sending messages of an overtly sexualised nature from a desperate and expectant same old same old horny bloke profile.... and see just how far you get. And that’s no different to the wider world outside of RHP A little bit of Social Intellect doesnt go astray 😎
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mango69er
7 years ago
Well said men. Plentey of cupid sites out there. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
AnnieWhichway's got it... "Sex site or not, it doesn't give license to approach women and trans people like free hookers on a street corner waiting for cock” I have never had a couple or woman message me in the entitled tone some men use. I have had plenty of men message me considerlatly and they're the men shagging the majority of women and couples. Is it really any different to a bar? Your success rate of "show us your tits" is much lower than "Hi my name's (insert name). You look lovely tonight can I buy you a drink?" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
that just because someone wants to have sex doesn't necessarily mean they want to have sex *with you*. "I've got a dick, you're on a website with a sexual focus, therefore it is obvious that you will want to have sex with me, right?" - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
I’d suggest hypocrisy...not specifically by the OP as clearly I want to bone fuck outta her with her partners decision...I am male after all as it would seem 😂😂 But..... It’s funny how many people that actually think there’s something wrong with them if the person that they ARE trying to court/seduce/whatever doesn’t make obvious signs of interest and plays their cards close to their chest..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
Err...autocorrect, when exactly did the word consent even appear to be similar to decision ?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Phoenix
7 years ago
Is this eBay?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting 'DeepPassion' Is this eBay?? - Posted from rhpmobile On if you can bid for women, couples or trans for sex on Ebay?Last time l checked you can't. Which means a nice message and conversation is required the secure the goods/service.If you are incapable of such, l would suggest bidding on one of the love dolls that are on Ebay to secure for for your selfish pleasure. Or perhaps a large dildo if you are that way inclined.Good luck
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RHP User
7 years ago
I have never sent a message that wasn't polite and considerate and had some thought put into it. Hasn't done me any good in regards to meeting people. Feels at times like we all get tarred with the same brush regardless. Yes it is a sex site. You are delusional to think it's not but one still needs to maintain a degree of decorum. Maybe I need to be more crude, rude and disgusting. Being polite doesn't seem to help.
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OkeyDoke45
7 years ago
Quoting 'Auflaurer' AnnieWhichway's got it... "Sex site or not, it doesn't give license to approach women and trans people like free hookers on a street corner waiting for cock” I have never had a couple or woman message me in the entitled tone some men use. I have had plenty of men message me considerlatly and they're the men shagging the majority of women and couples. Is it really any different to a bar? Your success rate of "show us your tits" is much lower than "Hi my name's (insert name). You look lovely tonight can I buy you a drink?" - Posted from rhpmobile I don't know, has the ''can I buy you a drink?" line ever worked? I would be interested to hear - for a friend. To me it has always smacked of ''Can I buy you something that will help part the beef curtains?". I'm fairly sure that, were I a chick, I would tell somebody who tried that line to fuck off. I have used the slightly less suggestive ''I'm going for a drink, would you like one?". Mind you, that one never worked either.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Because Ive met some lovely respectful guys who are compatible sexually ( and are still friends) I am not interested in the guys who message with such wordsmith like gold nuggets such as " Hey, I can pop over before work if you like, just leave the door open" or "Is there a park near you where we can meet when its dark". As Annie said, there are some very real looking sex dolls nowon the market that will never say no.
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RHP User
7 years ago
It's been working for many, for years. But again, the guys it works for are also the useual suspects here though, shagging the majority of women and couples. It's not the words. It's that the words don't convey entitlement. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I think you're beginner right, OP, with your observations and naturally grouping people into types.Must be human nature, that. I thought it too, 5 years ago. Which shows, there's not many new ideas under the sun. You didn't mention it, but, I've long noticed that couples on the forums possess a lot more of the holier-than-thou than the other types...in general, of course( that's the problem with generalising, it doesn't apply to everyone.. ).I've assumed this is because couples don't require emotional support or validation from strangers...they have each other for all that...and so, can afford a more brusque, businesslike manner. This people watching's interesting, anyway. It's like sitting in a big shopping centre, sipping your coffee, and watching the world go by.
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RHP User
7 years ago
You are lovely just the way you are And she is out there :-)
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks pip. To be honest, it's not in my nature to be like that.
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codsworth
7 years ago
Nobody loves to help Women, couples, men Profiles that list anything but your sexual preferences are exceedingly rare I don't understand how you people expect single guys to talk to you about things other than of sexual nature or invitation If Thats All Your Profile Mentions Now i get there are real blockheads who open rather impolitely But regardless of how its shaped, its going to be the same shit when we are given nothing else to communicate with Its made 100% worse by the fact that women dont look at profiles And on top of that a template introduction is also a ticket to blocked town or abusevill So we are expected to not only hand craft a delightful and polite intro but it must also be personalized for everyone we are interested in... Only to face constant rejection I have had about 3 people respond to me positively in the last year And only one of them gave me the respect of showing up to an agreed meet Its fucking brutal as a single male Its the same story everywhere We can't even go to the swing clubs or events Its either direct ban on singleM or murderous door prices and hard limits on numbers or invite only directly from the grand phu bar When i first joined this site, i thought i was getting into a amazing community of people who are free from the traps of standard society, people who can openly discuss their sexual desires or needs and enjoy sex But its really not the case Its an exclusive hot or not club thats shattered into a unlimited spread of picky closed vip exclusive rooms that all require their own hidden rules and passwords to access... oh and don't forget the genetic passcode, hope you rolled well on your birthing chart So, tell me How can things improve What does this mythical respectful chat from women look like? How can a guy be polite and get attention at the same time How to you chat with people that you are interested in sexually about garnering their interest in return without anything but sexual information available - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
What you have there is your screening method... 1. Profile that’s all about the sex is going to be all about the sex....so if that’s not appealing move onward....sure some good people are gonna be left behind doing so but who really cares?? Not I...if their profile is shit then I won’t be bothered....it’d be like going to see a hooker and because you think you’re in the house then you gotta take one of them.... 2. Expect nothing....higher expectations are usually subconsciously exposing the possibility that this site is your only avenue of meeting people....so spread your eggs around a few baskets and expect nothing from those whom you message...no reply is a good sign that it’s a no.... 3. Don’t see rejection as a label “you’re a bad person”. Sites like this can really test a person resilience....but no one says “no” to mean you’re not worthy of it...you’re just incompatible in their mind....but your next profile you message may just be your next ex wife!!! 4. Fake profiles/scammers are everywhere....so when meeting or trying to organise one organise a meet as a plan b...not plan a...that way it’s not a wasted effort...by plan A being not the meet of the lady, I don’t mean in a dismissive way either....my own means as an example...I drive interstate transport, I’ll organise my plan A as a trip away for the weekend(if I can) that way I’m going for work as my plan A and the meet with the lady a plan b...no loss if she chooses to change her mind or she’s disingenuous...but they rarely get a second chance as I’m an unforgiving cunt like that :) These tips will do for now....the talking bit can be left to another day, as we’ve hijacked the thread enough already - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'OkeyDoke45' As a onetime user of Grindr, well - does anybody remember the Hellmouth from Buffy opening up in the final episode (which was rather anti-climactic by the by)? Grindr is like that, only the demons just send you countless ''got any pix?'' messages. Every time I think that women and couples have it easy, I just remember how dire it is trying to find (safe and respectful) ongoing playmate type interactions with men for myself. It's next to impossible. Suggestion for frustrated single males: Go on some random hookup site like craigslist or locanto and put up an ad pretending to be a single female or couple. The sheer amount of utter garbage that will fill your inbox instantly will make you lose all hope in humanity.
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RHP User
7 years ago
When you read a single guys profile and it reads "looking for sex, any race, age or size".. And there are many. When I read profiles I look for something that tells you a bit about the person, not his genitals. Ive lost hope recently and for the moment Im only here for the social events. They are great ways to meet people by the way. Instead of paying 100 bucks at a club, first look for the social meet and greets on here. Thats one way to get involved with a likeminded community of people.
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RHP User
7 years ago
The social meet and greets are a great way to meet people and there are single guys allowed. I love the holier than thou comment! Yes we have each other for support and it may be easier not easy for a couple and yes get invited to private functions but that’s for a reason. The one private party we attended our first, there were a few select single vetted guys there who were charming thoughtful and lovely to chat to. We have been stood up and ghosted as well by single girls it’s not exclusive to single guys trust me. We have been rejected and told not experienced enough or I am intimidating to other women. Everyone’s opinion will be different on this site. For us we have met some beautiful single girls and lovely couples and are not interested in single guys but that’s our prerogative. The funniest offer we had was from a single guy that could only meet on a Friday at lunch and could we host? That was his opening line with only a dick pic! There are some profiles that are just sex based and some that look for a connection and ongoing fun. This topic certainly has created some discussion and shows that we all individuals with different opinions and none are wrong.
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The_Phoenix
7 years ago
The thing I find about this experience is that many regulars post about how Men approach women. I’ve witnessed some utterly disgraceful messages from men to my friends. Obviously at some level the approach works. For many though, especially those who seek a baseline connection as a minimum, this would come across as sleazy, chauvinistic and piggish. No excuse for that sort of behaviour. I’ve only ever been polite and friendly. I’m perfectly happy with how I approach. Very much like KJ though, the non overtly sexual messages I’ve found tend to be ignored as well. Although I haven’t messaged anyone for about 2months. Still, the Qld meet n Greet will be fun. There’s a few regulars coming I’d just like to say hi to. Will be a great night. Annie, completely agree. I think my new alias threw you off 😝 Not B.B. anymore DP - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting 'codsworth' Nobody loves to help Women, couples, men Profiles that list anything but your sexual preferences are exceedingly rare I don't understand how you people expect single guys to talk to you about things other than of sexual nature or invitation If Thats All Your Profile Mentions Now i get there are real blockheads who open rather impolitely But regardless of how its shaped, its going to be the same shit when we are given nothing else to communicate with Its made 100% worse by the fact that women dont look at profiles And on top of that a template introduction is also a ticket to blocked town or abusevill So we are expected to not only hand craft a delightful and polite intro but it must also be personalized for everyone we are interested in... Only to face constant rejection I have had about 3 people respond to me positively in the last year And only one of them gave me the respect of showing up to an agreed meet Its fucking brutal as a single male Its the same story everywhere We can't even go to the swing clubs or events Its either direct ban on singleM or murderous door prices and hard limits on numbers or invite only directly from the grand phu bar When i first joined this site, i thought i was getting into a amazing community of people who are free from the traps of standard society, people who can openly discuss their sexual desires or needs and enjoy sex But its really not the case Its an exclusive hot or not club thats shattered into a unlimited spread of picky closed vip exclusive rooms that all require their own hidden rules and passwords to access... oh and don't forget the genetic passcode, hope you rolled well on your birthing chart So, tell me How can things improve What does this mythical respectful chat from women look like? How can a guy be polite and get attention at the same time How to you chat with people that you are interested in sexually about garnering their interest in return without anything but sexual information available - Posted from rhpmobile What, so how do you chat up someone in the outside world because out there you have fuck all information on the person. Nothing.Yet because in here, you can read a little sex background you think you need to just converse with sex talk and nothing else.Use your imagination. You are conversing with real people not sex objects
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
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RHP User
7 years ago
You didn't follow my tip on clearing out those extra lines, when replying with quote, did you! 😂 😂 😂 🍑
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RHP User
7 years ago
..That was a book, Annie.
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codsworth
7 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' nothing wrong with long right ? the difference between here and the real world, is you have so much more information at a glance lets take 2 difference scenarioschat up your local public facing job person (like a barrister) , he/she is cute and you make polite chat, you get instantly the visual info that your attracted you can quickly test the waters with a subtle flirt, maintain eye contact or other things to check for potential returned interest you can repeat test and slowly build a connection with repeat visits, then invite detail exchange for future interactions the random chatup, you approach someone who is about their day, in the 1.5 seconds you have to grab their attention you can quickly gather vast information, body language, clothing choices, their current activity and more give you lots of information about a person that we instinctively use this makes approaching people easier as we have already identified things before the mouth even opens "hey nice band X shirt, i love Band X" or similar is easily enough for a conversation to start, once in a conversation you can allow your personality to grab their attention and trading numbers translating a conversation to a direct pickup is harder, but its still a thing i thought it would have been pretty clear from my LONG post that the rules on RHP are different to RL you get one shot or less thats fine the trouble is, people expect to be approached like its RL but dont give us any way to do so the common profile is a picture of genitalia or other raunchiness followed by a list of sexual desires or demands and no other information if you present yourself as a sex objectguess how people are going to talk to you on a hookup site
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Wasn't commenting on the length of your post. Merely the length of it when l quoted it. It doubled the spacing. Yes you are right about RL scenarios. But my point is, respect here is no different to other dating sites like RSVP. Your opening line there or here should not be sexually orientated, the same as RL
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RHP User
7 years ago
Codsworth i have to disagree with your view.RHP is real life We are looking for decent genuine people to meet for dinner drinks and yes sexThe opening line needs to be socially acceptableIf you even go to swingers club you still have to be politeim not sure how you think RHP isnt real life?
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Most of my friends are from RHP. It's a lifestyle in real life Manners and etiquette are required at times. Even at a gangbang......
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
At ALL times, not at times
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codsworth
7 years ago
Xena and Annie You guys seem to think i don't understand Or that im defending the blockheads when im not I understand the need for etiquette and i believe i use it myself quite well To demonstrate, this is a direct copy paste of my last pm "hey there My name is .... i am super interested in meeting with you, you seem to be an amazingly open woman who knows what she wants, a beautiful combination it also sounds like you host some wicked parties and i would love to get involved in those too im very open minded and i think we would get along very well if you would like see or know more, please just ask i am happy to chat about anything you like" Hand crafted, for her I urge you to reread my posts and understand what I've been saying has not been an argument against good messaging Ive also tried to illustrate the difficultys for the single Male for better perspective One of the biggest challenges is your profile content directly impacts what attention you receive Lets play a game Lets assess your profile with a simple male mode scoring system. If i look at it and get turned on, you get an erection point If i look at it and think of something that enables respectful dialogue you get 1 social point Your pic, is a nice shot of your tits in sexy lingerie with a collar on Tastefully done in a luxurious BnW shot ... Congratulations, 1 erection point awarded A great start Additional pics, are all similar to main Beautifully taken erotica ... Excellent, 1 erection point awarded You have 1 pic of the beach, more confusing than relevant.. possible accidental upload?..potential topic ... 1 social point Your stats seem accurate when compared with images, you listed many sexual interests, majority of which i like, no hidden information of concern ... Interest maintained, 1 erection point Your bio states your looking for people to play with as you desire to experience your new playground ... Hot, 1 erection point awarded Total score 4/5 errection points 1/5 social points So where does that leave us With horny brain in 5th gear and social brain in reverse This is the part were you receive some horrible messages I've made the mistake of sending messages with horny brain engaged. I'm only human, at least i know mine were decently written and not to terrible Ive been shown examples of just how bad they get, its depressing Now if we look at my bio, its not that different, pretty sure id score low on social too and i wouldn't score nearly as high on horny, you pics are just way better But the thing is .. im male Nobody looks at my profile unless i ask them too AND only if my first message+pic is good enough to not be auto blocked So its grossly irrelevant In the real world you know full well what reaction you're going to get if you flash your tits or pussy at people Why expect a different result here ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'codsworth' Xena and Annie You guys seem to think i don't understand Or that im defending the blockheads when im not I understand the need for etiquette and i believe i use it myself quite well To demonstrate, this is a direct copy paste of my last pm "hey there My name is .... i am super interested in meeting with you, you seem to be an amazingly open woman who knows what she wants, a beautiful combination it also sounds like you host some wicked parties and i would love to get involved in those too im very open minded and i think we would get along very well if you would like see or know more, please just ask i am happy to chat about anything you like" Hand crafted, for her I urge you to reread my posts and understand what I've been saying has not been an argument against good messaging Ive also tried to illustrate the difficultys for the single Male for better perspective One of the biggest challenges is your profile content directly impacts what attention you receive Lets play a game Lets assess your profile with a simple male mode scoring system. If i look at it and get turned on, you get an erection point If i look at it and think of something that enables respectful dialogue you get 1 social point Your pic, is a nice shot of your tits in sexy lingerie with a collar on Tastefully done in a luxurious BnW shot ... Congratulations, 1 erection point awarded A great start Additional pics, are all similar to main Beautifully taken erotica ... Excellent, 1 erection point awarded You have 1 pic of the beach, more confusing than relevant.. possible accidental upload?..potential topic ... 1 social point Your stats seem accurate when compared with images, you listed many sexual interests, majority of which i like, no hidden information of concern ... Interest maintained, 1 erection point Your bio states your looking for people to play with as you desire to experience your new playground ... Hot, 1 erection point awarded Total score 4/5 errection points 1/5 social points So where does that leave us With horny brain in 5th gear and social brain in reverse This is the part were you receive some horrible messages I've made the mistake of sending messages with horny brain engaged. I'm only human, at least i know mine were decently written and not to terrible Ive been shown examples of just how bad they get, its depressing Now if we look at my bio, its not that different, pretty sure id score low on social too and i wouldn't score nearly as high on horny, you pics are just way better But the thing is .. im male Nobody looks at my profile unless i ask them too AND only if my first message+pic is good enough to not be auto blocked So its grossly irrelevant In the real world you know full well what reaction you're going to get if you flash your tits or pussy at people Why expect a different result here ? - Posted from rhpmobile Thanks for the critqueYou have just highlighted another difference!We look at a profile and assess if they would be a decent genuine couple to meet. You look at get an erection.We take classy pics you get an erectionYou read our likes you get an erection.Your profile reads really nicely and no offence taken from it at all.Not all men respond that way and it has dwindled off thankfully one comment thoughNot once did you say when you look at our pics or read our profile they seem nice people id love to meet them. Or that Xena looks amazing and has obviously put a lot of work into her body and clothing!.We are on two different pages even planets i think.
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
I wont quote. It would end up a 2 part book. Xena. Perfectly put illustrating the gap between the 2 Codsworth. Nice enough personal message but you see you have jumped straight to the desire to be involved in the parties. I'd have left that part out and just focused on the person. In all opening convo, middle ground must be found, sex is secondary in establishing connection. And lm not categorizing you with the disrespectful males, just pointing out your earlier statement regarding striking up convos using the sex part of people's profiles
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RHP User
7 years ago
Your observations are pretty much spot on Xena, and Annie is also spot on. People treating rhp like a sex site will have little to no success. If a proper convo cannot be had online it'll be no different in person so why would there even be a meet up.. It probably bursts most men's ego bubbles to hear it but rhp isn't all about dicks vagina's and no strings sex, rather it's about people with potentially similar interests. Saying that, everyone is after different things and entitled to be so, As a user of rhp one needs to be free of judgement and understand people have a right to say yes or no, that's my 2cents - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I think its great we are all individuals and have different opinions and i think thats fairly obvious!
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tcm70
7 years ago
As I’ve only been on rhp for about a month and havnt had the pleasure to chat to any women yet I can’t vouch for what women are like here to chat to. And I’m not here to chat to males so I won’t get to judge how other males communicate. I agree with KJ1971 above though and don’t want to be tarred with the same brush simply because I’m a single male. I know what some men can be like in real life, so I don’t doubt there would be some here that would be as subtle as the blunt end of an axe in conversation. So regarding the conversation side of this discussion I guess I have no relevant experience on rhp yet. As for the profile side of the discussion tho, I find that women’s profiles are all uniquely varied, some can be quite vague. Some are very precise. But the majority of women’s profiles to me seem to be insinuating that they’re looking for sex. Some women’s profile even state the length of cock they want, I’m sure they aren’t going to take a 9” cock out for dinner or to the movies. So to me I think this discussion is unfairly aimed at single men being the main culprits for acting like excited little puppy dogs and expecting to get sex by simply tapping on a keyboard. I know by speaking to women in real life that have had experience on dating sites that they can get an overload of attention from males, whereas males don’t seem to get very much attention at all, most probably due to the influx of attention that the women receive. I myself treat this as a dating site with the intention of finding women that will enjoy my company and have sex with me not because I expect it, but because we have made a connection in some way and they want to. If I want to just have sex then I can easily just go and visit a parlour or even tap on the keyboard to find an escort. I say it all comes down to the individual, but the good thing about the site is that you can just scroll on if you don’t like what you’re seeing/reading etc. it takes all types to make a world but as in real life situations, there’s always someone you will like, and someone that you will dislike. That’s why we can make choices I suppose.
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Magicmicah
7 years ago
I'm here to find true love's kiss!! Isn't the weather great today ? Let's have Anal ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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lookintoplay_qld
7 years ago
we noticed guys think were in town your on this site she's easy lets catch up no previous contact really pisses us of there's needs to be connection not just a random fuck
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lookintoplay_qld
7 years ago
we noticed guys think were in town your on this site she's easy lets catch up no previous contact really pisses us of there's needs to be connection not just a random fuck
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RHP User
7 years ago
Finally someone has actually said what I have been thinking since I have been a member. I do take offense to the rude and arrogant assumptions that if you are single and on this site then you are up for fucking anyone who messages.To add to this I find that single guys think that single women don't work and don't have a life, they sit around waiting for the message to meet up and just go for it. Apparently single women must be desperate. Then there are the married men who are cheating on their wives - I would categorise most of them - not all of them - into a different single male category. I suggest that they watch way too much porn in their spare time and assume that single women will get it on with anyone, any time, in any location. The older ones seem to have a fixation especially, that if a single lady has a flat mates or house mate/s - if they happen to share a living arrangement are into it or want to get into it with their share mate. Has anyone ever heard of introductions, pleasant conversation, similar interests, meeting and seeing if there is any sort of chemistry? I'm pretty sure that if an unsavory single lady put it on a male for a quick fuck they would be first to run the other way.
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Checker
7 years ago
Well, if you look on the bright side you can eliminate the mouth breathers straight away. At least your not wasting a few dates or months or a few years to realise that a person/couple are actually a bit orrible. Now, excuse me while I check my intersectional oppression chart. White, tick, male, tick. OMGoodness I'm SO offended. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Tcm70 Of course you disagree You read the wrong signals Not single guy bashing just highlighting the difference between men’s and couples profiles Thanks for being a prime example You see a preference as a sign it’s all about sex lol Too funny! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Not sure about other guys but yeah there are some dicks out there ruining it for the rest of us. I dare say though that despite the large number of women on here on what it is ‘generally’ a hook up site, its the men that are having to constantly message the women. I have sent countless messages, all respectful and attempting to engage in conversation yet I rarely get a reply. So its the same as all the other sites and every day life really. No complaints Just an observation. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I see you are one of the many that want to tar us all with the same brush. There are genuine nice guys on here, sometimes people just need to read their message and not just assume it's just another dickhead.
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swingalingson
7 years ago
On here are extremely educated in swinging. Extremely respectful. And can articulate themselves verbally. I found that people who knock the single guys may have a hidden agenda and knock them to make them look bad. Hidden agendas are sad but they always come out and are brought to light. No need to hate single men. As for wanking on can. Sounds like you have tickets on yourselves.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Some good some bad just all depends what you are looking for. In our experience couples are always going to be much harder to get a four way match where everyone is 100% happy and available. and the timing can be quite difficult to get right, eg if the ladies are on different cycles you can rule out around 50% of the year available to meet straight away and given we usually only ever meet on weekends and you exclude family weekends Christmas, Easter, birthdays etc matching a weekend the other couple are available can be a real hard time. But when it works it can be great. Single guys on the other hand are usually much easier to sort a date with simply because as a couple you only have one extra personality to match up with and are usually free to meet much more often. Yes some are quite terrible at messaging but so are some couples (we have been guilty at times) the GOOD single guys make up for it with a great experience. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
WOW what a discussion you started Xena. None of us will ever know the truth behind people's profiles until you actually get to meet them and hear their story. How you interpret this site entirely up to you and what experiences you get is also up to you. Sure there are singles after one thing and good luck to too them as long as they are respectful. There are people on here who no show and are judgmental. Have experienced it myself. That can come from couples as well.This site has given me some great experiences as well as some big disappointments. I encouraged a play friend to visit this this site to broaden her horizons in which she did . She is highly intelligent sexy and charming but alas she found a new partner in crime and has moved on. Xena you are an attractive woman so don't let the negatives effect your experiences on this site.
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tcm70
7 years ago
Xena, I also think you misinterpreted what I meant, as you state that I took a preference as a signal for sex. If I took preferences as a signal for sex then that’d mean that every lady that is looking for a man wants me then! I didn’t clarify properly what I intended to make as a point. You suggested in your original post that single male profiles are all about sex sex sex and that to you this site is not necessarily a sex site. I merely tried to make a point that some women’s profiles do nothing but insinuate it’s all about sex, like some males, and couples do also, but without reproducing an entire profile as an example I used only a general snippet of something that sprung into mind, and perhaps I should have clarified better, was not even a direct quote and obviously you turned the context of what I was trying to point out. I am not a shallow person, and I have utmost respect for other people unless they themselves have done something to me that quashes that respect. My approach to everyone I meet, male or female is to be courteous and polite. I often get told that I’m very good looking and could have any woman I wanted to, but I always shut people down that say that to me by replying that I only want to be with a woman that wants me in return. I don’t believe that I’m someone that falls into your generalisation of single males. Yes I agree that there are those out there that do fit what you implied, but I also state that it’s not only just single males.
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RHP User
7 years ago
By attracting a certain type of male to part with money for the promise of sex. That's why. - Posted from rhpmobile
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tcm70
7 years ago
Xena, I also think you misinterpreted what I meant, as you state that I took a preference as a signal for sex. If I took preferences as a signal for sex then that’d mean that every lady that is looking for a man wants me then! I didn’t clarify properly what I intended to make as a point. You suggested in your original post that single male profiles are all about sex sex sex and that to you this site is not necessarily a sex site. I merely tried to make a point that some women’s profiles do nothing but insinuate it’s all about sex, like some males, and couples do also, but without reproducing an entire profile as an example I used only a general snippet of something that sprung into mind, and perhaps I should have clarified better, was not even a direct quote and obviously you turned the context of what I was trying to point out. I am not a shallow person, and I have utmost respect for other people unless they themselves have done something to me that quashes that respect. My approach to everyone I meet, male or female is to be courteous and polite. I often get told that I’m very good looking and could have any woman I wanted to, but I always shut people down that say that to me by replying that I only want to be with a woman that wants me in return. I don’t believe that I’m someone that falls into your generalisation of single males. Yes I agree that there are those out there that do fit what you implied, but I also state that it’s not only just single males.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Because this is a sex site, it is a given that whoever messages you would like to have a fuck and is thinking of having that fuck with you. There is really no need to state the obvious. Problem for some of the testosterone fueled guys is that they can’t think properly after contemplating just the bare minimum of information you have provided on your profile. i.e. they noticed the word “female” and almost prematurely ejaculated. Ladies don’t understand this because they aren’t thinking about sex every 12 minutes like most guys are, or every 3 minutes like most male RHP members are. And those males don’t seem to understand that most women are not hormonally primed to fuck anything that moves. So, you should find it flattering that another person is keen to perform all sorts of activities on and inside your body. Don’t take it the wrong way - they are just trying to give you what you came here for.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Younger people with say stupid things of course, some have never had any...! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Talk to me. I'm not most like guys ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
the difference between couples, single men, single women? Nothing in reality.....One thing is the common thing that many cannot compose the communications skills required for proper conversations on line.A writer needs to engage the reader. Doesn't matter if you are man, woman or child. Boils down the personality, upbringing, education.From couples, women and men, I have had all the varieties to read. The three word replies to your well thought out message. I cannot any longer attempt to converse with people who cannot string a few sentences together to respond to mine. It's too hard and I no longer give a fuck.I sympathise with men who do put together a nice respectable message but get no return. Could be that they have a head like a smashed crab. Or the woman has so many messages to pick and choose from that her 3 word response to the one she chooses is sufficient to engage the other party enough to limp along toward a meeting.Couples....... well there is an interesting mix of 2. Doesn't mean that the one driving the messaging is competent to do so. Once again, may string a few words together to engage the desperate guy enough but insufficient to engage the elusive unicorn who discards the clumsy messaging and moves onward to another couple or single male until someone piques her interest with an intelligent conversation. Perhaps why unicorns are unicorns......So yes, easy enough to bash the single males, perhaps at times deservedly because of the tendency to use the sex base as a conversation base. But within this thread there have been well versed single guys that show they can put a decent message together but the forces of attraction may be against them, frustration creeping in and venting here, thinking that the thread is against them when in reality it may be about their counterparts doing the disservice to the general male population.Just remember the days before online came to pass. We had to approach in what everyone calls the real world.Conversation was king for the pickup. At the bar or on the train. We all knew the average looking guys that scored nearly every time because they had the gift of the gab. Walked straight up to the hottest lady and engaged her immediately. Leaving the hot guy with his mates just pondering what could have been.No different here lads. Get the messaging right and that can overcome some serious physical limitations and get your dick in the door.Get the messaging wrong and the hot guy with the 8 inch dick is left home having a wank......
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codsworth
7 years ago
Quoting 'Xena2750'Thanks for the critqueYou have just highlighted another difference!We look at a profile and assess if they would be a decent genuine couple to meet. You look at get an erection.We take classy pics you get an erectionYou read our likes you get an erection.Your profile reads really nicely and no offence taken from it at all.Not all men respond that way and it has dwindled off thankfully one comment thoughNot once did you say when you look at our pics or read our profile they seem nice people id love to meet them. Or that Xena looks amazing and has obviously put a lot of work into her body and clothing!.We are on two different pages even planets i think. i didnt say a lot of things i though about your profile because im not going to do a full write up or critique as that would give others a free pass to message you well and im not going to do the groundwork for others i was simply trying to demonstrate what viewing your profile looks like from basic male view looks like so you might understand why you seem to get the different results from different groups i just had a look at your updated profile, clearly the point was delivered and you did not waste the information :D hopefully you get even less neanderthals now
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SandeGiny
7 years ago
The most recent message I received reads "Free during the day today? I'll give you some sugar for it". Sure this is a sex site but... REALLY?! I work full time. It even says it in my bio (novel). Can't wait till 5? Go to Fyshwick. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I don't know that the generalisations can be applied so broadly. I don't send overtly sexual messages to women, just as I would never make overtly sexual comments to a woman in person. Most people I have communicated with on here are the same way. But a rather high percentage (say 30%) of the messages I get from women want to know straight up how big my cock is & if I have any dick pics. I don't by the way. So I don't think you can tar any of the genders with such a wide brush. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Then why bother. It's just another form Of masturbation otherwise. Not that masturbation is an entirely bad thing...,it's just not where the action is. Surely sex is not what makes the difference between experiences. It's the opportunity to find something or someone to love. Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone - we find it with another.” “It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being. I've loved every woman I've had sex with. Even if it was for only three minutes in the back of a dark club. Mr - Posted from rhpmobile
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Bazingal
7 years ago
Not all "female" profiles are actually females. Could be a single guy wanting to see your cock.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I had sex once, geez I had a sore ass afterwards!
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
So many are misinterpreting the OP... To attempt at paraphrasing.... Women seek fun times and sex.... Men seek out the sex.... And their profiles seemingly reflect that....sure there are anomalies that exist on both sides of the fence, but it’s a reality that’s hard to ignore.... For those who are getting defensive....just be the best version of you that you can be....and be honest with yourselves...if it’s just the sex you want put it out there, if you don’t, you’ll always attract those who are incompatible to you.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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3someparties
7 years ago
The men are just living in it. We’ve seen all aspects of RHP from all the angles. As party hosts, a couple, a single female profile and a single guy profile. And believe me, as a single woman on here the pool of possibilities is SO much more open. A friend recently put up a datefinder for a Monday daytime meet and had nearly 170 offers to chose from. In all our time on here (nearly 5 years) I think we’ve had maybe 2 interests from datefinders as a couple. Basically much like the real world single good looking women will have the most offers of people knocking on their doors. It’s just simply how life works. But in the RHP world the odds are compounded by the sheer amount of men compared to the amount of women. This then compounds the problem as women who may be somewhat of your same level of attractiveness are getting offers from men at the “higher end of the gene pool” shall we say. So they in turn stop considering offers from average, nice guys and instead choose the good looking nice guys. Its just human nature. I don’t know how it all works in the couples realm because on that front we have been a monumental failure. We’ve made all of our connections on our own with very little help from our profile or messaging. A couple of meet n greets, hosting our own parties and getting away from the computer worked a whole lot better for us as once again we don’t fit into the attractive box 90 percent of the people on RHP think they fall into. We don’t even bother messaging any more as it’s just a waste of everyones time. So I feel for the single guys. It’s damn hard to try and make a connection with a woman who has 100 messages from a pool of eager men she can literally take her pick of and move on to the next if it doesn’t work out. Personally I’d suggest not even bothering with the messages and getting out to some social events to make some acquaintances then take it from there unless ur in the top 10 percentile of physical specimens. It’s a harsh world out there, but it’s the one we’ve chosen to play in.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I know that this happens, and more than likely has happened to me, but the last few were definitely real females. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
It's easy. Some women will fuck me, some won't. If I send a to the point message or standard non tailored hello, then yes I may miss out on some of the women up my alley. But it's quick, and I don't give a stuff about rejection, being ignored or insulted. If a woman with 50 jizz covered flap shots gets offended if I ask if she's up for a play instead of asking what good movies she's seen recently, not my problem. On the other hand, I can craft messages, get a pretty similar overall response, but waste a lot more time. Less turmoil, still get laid, that's all I'm after, simple. - Posted from rhpmobile
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PeterNLily
7 years ago
Friendship, conversation, something meaningful. - Posted from rhpmobile
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whale68
7 years ago
I'd say that as this site is marketing itself as primaryly a sex site.. just sign up now and you'll be shagging all these lovely ladies tonight.. is it any wonder that after a period of time guys start to get frustrated with constant rejection? Of course there's low life scumbags out there but then that applies equally to women and to a lesser extent some couples. There's absolutely no excuse for anyone to disrespect others on here but thats life unfortunately there's a massive difference to how men and women think see any of thousands of books, articles, films or studies. All this new technology does is make it easier for the scum out there to give you grief. How you choose to deal with them is your choice. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Minx99
7 years ago
However, I'd like the abuse when politely declining to stop. This has come from guys and couple profiles. My profile is explicit and direct. It doesn't mean that I'm a sure thing. Please respect freedom of choice! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
To my fellow single guy that have been labelled sex crazed puppy dogs I don’t think this is a fair label. Advertising from dating sights throws the promise of get sex tonight, hot and horny locals waiting for you, just two clicks away or other profoundly outrageous prmises of sex. So what you have now is a stallion that has been stoked up ready to pound that filly. You can’t blame these guys for being so farward because they act in a way that you think is juvenile or even boarderline aggressive because all that marketing promised these single guys sex. I’m just saying. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I don't agree with the OP.There are frauds out there with couple and single profiles. There are some very nice and respectful single males out there. Yes some want sex but hey that's what this site is about. We have meet couples who are not what they say. Xena you profile pic is extremely sexy so what do you expect from a single male looking at you? He is going to want sex as that is the message you are sending to him. Don't judge until you actually get to meet the Couple/ Single male in person.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Well... I'm a single guy... I think I am polite...I try to be, Oh and my picture is normal...Could be to normal for RHP. Love to hear your thought on pictures. I am single and have nothing to hide so my face is my calling card. Happy to share if asked for a little skin. Not a big selfie kinda guy so makes it challenging. I think some people see RHP as a hook up firstly but then understand that people still need to connect and so dating or xxx we all need the come on so to speak. I get my share of women and sadly most are just to vanilla with sex and then they want to marry you. It gets to serious and is not who your looking for . So singles here I feel may indeed be like me once you get past the hi there and they have a face pick you may find they are better balanced and happy to spend a little time getting to know couples and singles with an open outlook. My last two marriages died because of not being with someone who visits RHP. So I will keep it real clean unless challenged to pick up the pace knowing the devils there in all on RHP. You just need the right op to play... I find that most women and couples do not even say hi to singles...may be why some feel the need to get their jollies while they can...I can get that too... but guys are guys folks when it gets down to it and we were groomed to be assertive...some just go a little past the mark sometimes . Ladies we will do most things for you and when it comes to RHP some of us will just go a little further than most. Other than that I got nothing cuz I do not get mail. Love all you input peep good on you for putting fingers to the keys :0)
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bonefide
7 years ago
Interesting forum, some of the longest detail responses I've read in ages. All very valid response from both sides of the fence. Just go's to show u, we are all not painted the same way. However some like to pigeon hole people due to, profile, and or pics. As many have spoke of, getting out and about meeting greeting people was the norm. In this day and age of communication it gives us a chance to broaden our horizons, when making friends on many levels over a vast area of this country, no just locals. Have had coffee and conversed with some fantastic people due to this site, and respect and enjoy the chat, txt, and meets. Read what u won't into a person's profile, the op did ask our views. It seems there is no hard a fast rule on single male profiles and girls and couples. Everybody to thier own, but words can speak volumes, don't knock something till u have at least attempted it once. Not talking about sex, I'm reference txting chatting have coffee making new friends. U never never know unless u give it a go. Safe happy travels people. Signed SMASHED CRAB. 😈😅
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BiPlay69
7 years ago
I cannot help but feel, that in today's world of rising misogyny, that is seeing what was considered outrageous and inappropriate behaviour being increasingly normalised (much to my disappointment), but also the 'self-centric' nature of the 'me' society we are living in. Living in an age of instant gratification and online communication, an army of keyboard warriors wrapped in an online persona, like a fantasy role play game is seeing many men lose the social skills, the art of conversation and rushing into assumptions that are more reflective of their own insecurities and desperation than the person they are messaging. There really is no excuse for being rude, manners cost nothing. And just like any other situation where we put ourselves out there, rejection is part of the game, taking it with grace is part of how it is played.
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madotara69
7 years ago
If heaps more women said to the single guys asking ,'wanna fuk', yeah sure babe lets fuk now, the single guys would like it a lot. I think most of the couples are blokes looking for another woman to join for a threesome,but doesn't seem to have a wife, well she is never masturbating with him on cam, 24/7 I think the women are a bit frigid ~
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RHP User
7 years ago
I get guys say yo and send dic pics When I say I’m not interested I get told not to be stuck up! You wouldn’t walk up in a bar and say that! If I get a message from a couple it’s more normal and like a conversation. Yes it’s a dating site Yes we are here to meet Just rethink your initial contact I agree Xena huge differences
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HarleyQandMrO
6 years ago
This is a site for swingers, males, female, couple to meet other.liked minded people to eventually have sex. This is not a dating site, we are not on here to meet the love of.our lives ( Try Plenty of Fish). Saying this, there are the few out there and not only men that think because you are on this site, you are up for anything and they are entitled. You will always get these kinds of people and they just need putting back I.to there box and need to take a hint when rejected. This can some times turn nasty, but that is on them.no you for sticking to your guns of what you want from.this site. I have meet couples on here over the years who have become friends, but sex was out of the questions, we went past that. This is not a site to have your soul seduced or taken out to be wined and dine. Talking to other couples on the site and catching up for a drink to see if.you click if a great idea if there are no club / party options. Everyone has their own.reasons for being.on this site and should not be judged or ridiculed for not fitting everyone else expectations. I mainly look for woman as I have no interest in men and have met the.ost amazing beautiful women and gay clubs, because of where we meet the was no epections and things worked out really well.as it was a natural flirtatious meeting. Some staying with me from month to a couple of years. Hope it all.works out - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
6 years ago
The greatest barrier in anyone’s life...... is their attitude It drives their behaviour. Most of the rejection that happens in here and in the wider world beyond (which often drives those people in here thinking it’s easier)..... is entirely self imposed 😎
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