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Disappointing Friday Again

June 12 2015

Was really looking forward to going out and watching Funkoars. Good Aussie hiphop who always put on a good show. Been getting amped all day. But as per usual my friends pull out last minute. So now I'm left with reserve plans going to see some band I've never heard of at some venue I've never heard of, rolling the dice on an evening that could go either way... Could be worse I guess, could be stuck indoors or soloing at the local again. There's a dude behind the bar who I can nearly call a mate considering how often I'm reduced to being a bar fly at his corner. That's if my reserve doesn't fall through too... Hanging for that confirmation phone call...

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RHP User

10 years ago

Peachy XXX

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RHP User

10 years ago

Just go do what you want to do? Sure its great to go out with friends but if they are going to change plans at the last minute and I really wanted to see a particular band, I'd go alone.

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cleopatrababe

10 years ago

Dont depend on others do it alone u may meet someone ...actually meet a woman like the old way .. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

10 years ago

Quoting 'GypsyWildNT' Just go do what you want to do? Sure its great to go out with friends but if they are going to change plans at the last minute and I really wanted to see a particular band, I'd go alone. ..... ever considered that your friends might be part of the problem? ..... do a social experiment ...... go to a different place ...... with a different mindset (positive ) ..... alone / or with a wingwoman from a different segment of your existence i.e. an acquaintance that you like not necessarily interested in ...... do it differently ... i.e. have very few drinks .... dance if you do no normally dance (if on tables care required/ fill in the appraopriate JSA) .... talk to everyone ..... be happy and flirty losing the sense of expectation ... > threat ...... maybe RHP needs a desperate and dateless Friday/Saturday schudule for different locations ? ...... better still, adapt the 'Traveller' to identify a pub / band / concert for like minded souls to join you ...? good luck ....

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Dryphuz

10 years ago

Quoting 'GypsyWildNT' Just go do what you want to do? Sure its great to go out with friends but if they are going to change plans at the last minute and I really wanted to see a particular band, I'd go alone. I almost did, but i would feel a bit weird. Its not a big venue and in the end, while i would have got to see the band, it wouldn't have been much different than sitting at the bar on my own. I just wasn't in the mood for another night surrounded by people but not talking to anyone. Its really hard for me to socialise without the comfort of friends as backup. Since its rare for me to feel like socialising at all, its so disappointing when i end up doing nothing on those days when i have the energy for it. Iin the end my secondary fell through too and i had to go to my tertiary... Board games with my family... Fun, but not really what i was looking for. It'll probably be months before i feel like going out again and the same thing will likely occur...

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neapolitan_guy

10 years ago

Mate l'd gone solo, was the shoe sold out anyway l've got into plenty of sold out shows "got room for just one more". There'd be done dozens and dozens of times l've gone solo even to gigs interstate to not miss out. As a punter it's about experience that l selfishly couldn't miss. I got let down a few times and accepted no one l was supposed to go with were disappointed l didn't do what they were doing, l didn't change the plan they did, l just caught up with them another time and had a new experience to share. I let them do their own thing I did mine and we meet up another time. About a simular age as yourself l noticed this then l came across Died Pretty song "Everybody Moves" helped me accept those around me were shifting into different directions work relationships family etc, so l just used this song to understand changing times, works for me anyway. Also when l wondered should l go because l won't know anyone l remembered that l was going to a room full of punters, diversified like minded people with a simular interest, where l don't have to try and translate what l like about ... these people get it and may get it more then me so talking with them can only be interesting. Bit of food for thought perhaps. Cheers

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RHP User

10 years ago

I've gone out (i.e. at night) probably once in the last 8 months. There's always someone out there with a better sob story than you

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RHP User

10 years ago

My last comment was meant to be tongue in cheek and wasn't a dig or attempt to trivialise.

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Dryphuz

10 years ago

Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' My last comment was meant to be tongue in cheek and wasn't a dig or attempt to trivialise. Didn't take it that way, but thats a shame that you haven't been out in months. Even if i don't get to events i at least get to a barbie once every month or two. My sympathies for your situation as you were to mine... Also thats a really awesome bodysuit! @ 1Adam44: I'm working on it and thank you for the encouragement and sense of perspective. Maybe next time i will just force myself to go and see what happens.

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RHP User

10 years ago

The trouble with going out with friends is every decision goes to the committee, music you hate, pub you hate, food you hate, just for the company ? That sucks. I love flying solo and fair dinkum from others perspective you are far easier to talk to as you don't have a wall of "friends" to scale before they can talk to you, much easier, no cock blockers, drink sponges, or fuckin snapchat junkies. And......... no witnesses

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