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Disappointment...
March 07 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well I sincerely hope you sent him a text saying that you don't want to see him again because he was shithouse in bed. To be honest I think if more women spoke up these guys would realise that they are hopeless in bed and do something about it. Do people care if thy are crap in bed? Is this the real reason why men go from woman to woman. Lol. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe he was nervous and unexpectedly finished? Or was it a few kisses, a quick clit rub then hop straight on for the main event?- Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
Welcome to the wonderful world.......... of advertising.Its very easy for people to promise big.... especially if they feel that such promises are necessary to stand out from the crowd of who they see as competition.DG
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
Yep yep yep!
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RHP User
12 years ago
As to why I don't meet....
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RHP User
12 years ago
yes had it happen recently
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RHP User
12 years ago
Did you ever think that maybe you should of said something at the time? Or cheekily brought up "hey... what happened to you going down for hours".. etc.... I'm just saying maybe it's not ALL his fault....... Ok Ok if you went down on him for a period of time and he didnt retaliate then you can complain...(btw these are just examples)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I really like hearing/reading these sorts of Forums-these are the ones that really educate me that this sort of stuff happens out there in the big wide world..... I must say I am fortunate enough your Post has not happened...had The Disappearing Act so I guess you feelings would be kinda the same...DISAPPOINTED..and that sure does suck... I'm guessing that this happens to the best of all of us... I am so sorry to hear what happened. Please don't let one situation turn you off from meeting some really truly Amazing men...They are out there. :-) I wait to hear from others so it can educate me, for when I am placed this similar situation. Foxy- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I told a guy he was a lazy selfish waste of time. He spent weeks begging to redeem himself. I didn't let him, but hope the next gal got better treatment.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It takes two to have great sex, maybe he is thinking the same thing about you? Funny, you always hear about men here being the dud root, never the women - but then if a guy said anything untoward he would be shouted down and instantly dismissed as a whinger and a liar.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Welcome to the wonderful world.......... of advertising.Its very easy for people to promise big.... especially if they feel that such promises are necessary to stand out from the crowd of who they see as competition.DGYou go to a party and see a sexy girl across the room. You go up to her and say, "Hi, I'm fantastic in bed, what about it?"That's Direct Marketing.You go to a party and see a sexy girl across the room. You approach her to get her telephone number. The next day you call and say, "Hi, I'm fantastic in bed, what about it?"That's Telemarketing.You go to a party and see a sexy girl across the room. Your friend goes to her and says, "Hi, my friend over there is fantastic in bed, what about it?"That's Advertising.You go to a party and see a sexy girl across the room. You get up, straighten your clothes, approach her and pour her a drink. You open the door for her, pick up her bag after it drops, offer her a ride, and then say, "By the way, I'm fantastic in bed."That's Public Relations.You go to a party and see a sexy girl across the room. She comes over and says, "Hi, I hear you're fantastic in bed, what about it?"That's the power of Branding!
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
....so when she gets to the Market Research part... you'd BETTER be good, and not just think you are.......... or her product feedback will screw up all the other forms of advertising and marketing. lolDG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ding26'yes had it happen recently first for me , since I have been on rhp I do not mind if a guy cums in five seconds so long as he sticks around and tries again. A girlfriend of mine meet a guy off here recently, the guy said he was a kisser and actually turned his head away when she went to kiss him. But he still wanted the fuck, without the kiss. I am very specific on my profile and before I meet, I ask, do you kiss on the lips do you go down? only to find that you get NON of that dispite the bullshit they say. what is the point of getting on and two thrusts your off and out the door? Its hardly worth taking your clothes off for. I agree with Meeka we need to text and say, was that good for you? cause it was sure not good for me> No point trying to get them to stay and finish you off, as they always have a fishing thing, a sports thing, a meeting with mates thing, or a work thing even though they may be unemployed this one guy I was looking for the cold hard cash that should have been on my dresser table. Once bitten, is not to bad for a year plus on rhp. but WA has its own little tom toms going fellas, so you fuck up and it spreads like a bush fire in Summer. Its not about being bad or good in bed, its about being considerate and its MUTUAL pleasure. Even if its a one night stand. Read the signs, not just the verbal language. But then some men do not care , if you have a hole then you are all they want, and they dont give a shit about the person attached to said hole.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' It takes two to have great sex, maybe he is thinking the same thing about you? Funny, you always hear about men here being the dud root, never the women - but then if a guy said anything untoward he would be shouted down and instantly dismissed as a whinger and a liar. so any guys of here that I have fucked, please step up and tell me if you had a shit time. goes for popcorn, back in a bit
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RHP User
12 years ago
men complain about women being a starfish,not liking to give oral but expecting it.Do I think they are liars whingers and complainers?Absolutely not,and the reason why is because some women have told me exactly this.Perhaps there should be a selfish lovers site,it's not just a gender based ''thing''. Have I been disappointed yes absoluetly,should I have stopped and said please leave,probably.But it takes me awhile to process exactly what happened sometimes and yes I have said after the fact,no I dont want a repeat. Have men turned up to meet me and been not exactly how they represented themselves,yes....photos ten to fifteen years out of date,and one man was more,much more than a little overweight.However I also think that it sometmies takes courage just to meet someone and perhaps some people are in denial about how they actually look. Maybe they never glance in a mirror or gaze at the image of themselves taken so long ago and really believe it is still how they look.At least you can always say thank you but no thank you,and all you have wasted is a little time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Omg you bought back memories for me and it still happens sometimes with other couples and some women. When I was a single lady I met with heaps of men but slept with nearly none of them. I'm not fussy but I do expect people that I get intimate with to be open and honest. Some would turn up looking 20 years older than thier pics, heaps fatter and others looked completely different and were not the same as what they said when they turned up. If they are not exactly what you expect and are different to how they sold themselves then give em the old heave ho and tell them to get on thier bike and ride home. There are plenty of others that will suit you and you deserve compatible partners. Unless it's 100 percent as expected don't go there. Remember you are worth everything that is promised and don't settle for anything less. Just because you meet up and take the time out of your day does not mean it has to happen. Never schedule a meet when you have little time. Always have enough time to take in and process what is in front of you. You can always say no.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Leela, I had the same experience with a girl before. She would have multiple orgasm in 5 minutes and then had to stop. Someone told me she was faking as no one can have 2-3 orgasms in 5 minutes. How can a guy tell?
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RHP User
12 years ago
MOOKA...Pretty sure it ain't me. Too many have told me otherwise. But I do agree it takes two to have great sex. :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Peeps, always under promise and over deliver. Always. Disappointed peeps, always tell them directly if it was crap - unless you're concerned about their reaction. Imagine a world where we always got better sex than we were promised and everyone who was crap got feedback. Better sex all around :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'PrincessLeela'MOOKA...Pretty sure it ain't me. Too many have told me otherwise. But I do agree it takes two to have great sex. :) Umm PrincessLeela, you do realise that men will say anything and everything just to ensure a repeat meeting? A guy will compliment a woman on being the best screw he has every had, even though she never moved or did anything thru the entire performance, just on the off chance that he might need to get laid again. The mantra of 'never burning bridges' is quite apt to this lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' Quoting 'PrincessLeela'MOOKA...Pretty sure it ain't me. Too many have told me otherwise. But I do agree it takes two to have great sex. :) Umm PrincessLeela, you do realise that men will say anything and everything just to ensure a repeat meeting? A guy will compliment a woman on being the best screw he has every had, even though she never moved or did anything thru the entire performance, just on the off chance that he might need to get laid again. The mantra of 'never burning bridges' is quite apt to this lol I'd be bloody speechless if this were the case with me.I agree it takes TWO to have great sex...no way in hell would I want to be an "Option" if he thought I was shit in bed.I like to think I am a great lover...I'm a giver and pleaser. To me if a guy did that to a woman, isn't that sort of like lies and deceit towards a dud root for a repeat meeting??Why bother for 2nds..... FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
We've all been in some sort of weird situations before and doesn't make us feel good.For me, the best description I can give is...... "Should've just been a blow job".FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
Isn't mutual respect as important as mutual pleasure?? I have had conversations with men about the sex not being the best. Yes, its a sensitive topic but if you remember they are a human being who has feelings, a history and bring their own demons to the table surely its not hard to offer feedback in a way that doesn't cripple them for future encounters! When i've had the conversation, i've just said, hey it seems the attraction we felt didn't translate well to the bedroom. Then i ask if there was a reason, if i could have improved anything i did. Hell if i'm a crap lover, i want to know! And no one improves without feedback. I guess one of the costs of casual encounters is that no one wants to take the time to invest in another human being. Maybe it's just the "cost of doing business" here on RHP
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RHP User
12 years ago
mmmm . well we are always honest we tell the cples before we meet that i am a big man .... we say it on our profile we also tell them i am a diabetic and do have some man problems with an erection ... we tell them that i use a strapon and that my tongue is a deadly weapon ..we find being up front with other cples is the only way to go ....that way they can decide to take things further ...even cples who state they arnt into obese ppl that honesty as far as i am concerned and i appreciate there honesty .... better to know upfront then get a big let down on meeting ..ty for listening ....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Why waste your breath, if they build up expectations then don't deliver, put it down to experience, why lower yourself by speaking ill and degrading that person, it doesnt make you a better person just a chump, overtime they may realise it is them not the others(women), they may not be receptive to learning if you are too critical.
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RHP User
12 years ago
did you guys wait and try for seconds? Or did he just think his job was done and left?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I had to go back and double check MY profile to see IF I were making claims I could no longer uphold.. Not that it matters.. I don't get to meet many people anyway.. so.. rather little chance of getting accused of "False Advertising" The BEST advertising is "Word of Mouth" So, if I blow it with lies on TUSCAN, how can I expect to get Meeks in bed?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'zu7bcv' Leela, I had the same experience with a girl before. She would have multiple orgasm in 5 minutes and then had to stop. Someone told me she was faking as no one can have 2-3 orgasms in 5 minutes. How can a guy tell? Bullshit...I can!! and believe me you can tell
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RHP User
12 years ago
who would squirt three times in 5 minutes on.. hard to FAKE that one!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' who would squirt three times in 5 minutes on.. hard to FAKE that one! LOL...YEP would be hard to FAKE that if gushing on your goggles... FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'DickInABox'did you guys wait and try for seconds? Or did he just think his job was done and left? I asked him about "Round 2"...he said "I'm a busy guy"...??? So I lay there after he left, thinking...why the hell did he bother? If he didn't like the look of me, he had plenty of opportunity NOT to go there..... Go figure.... And, no...I wont be asking him for another meet.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Leela,this man just wanted sex.He had sex.You were there, and performed a function.For him it was not about quality,or pleasing you.He came ,he left.I would not take this personally or try to understand why,it just was what it was.
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
He was merely using you as a masturbatory tool.DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
What self respecting guy doesn't come back for seconds (and thirds!)... there is ALWAYS time for desert! We all have our good days and bad days in bed, the key is to ensure the other person has a good day... don't start what you're not ready to finish... the inconsiderate sod! I asked him about "Round 2"...he said "I'm a busy guy"...??? So I lay there after he left, thinking...why the hell did he bother? If he didn't like the look of me, he had plenty of opportunity NOT to go there..... Go figure.... And, no...I wont be asking him for another meet.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' I had to go back and double check MY profile to see IF I were making claims I could no longer uphold.. Not that it matters.. I don't get to meet many people anyway.. so.. rather little chance of getting accused of "False Advertising" The BEST advertising is "Word of Mouth" So, if I blow it with lies on TUSCAN, how can I expect to get Meeks in bed? You were exactly as you said, a nice, funny articulate fella and I hope a mate. I think you undersell yourself for a reason. Its a disguise And you just have to clear a path to meeka but take some explosives, to clear the line of guys and girls , with tongues hanging out.
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RHP User
12 years ago
we've struck this time and time again... ... we think that guys either 'oversell' themselves, or get so caught up in the excitement of whats going on......that they forget the promises and assurances they have given....and go to water.... you need to 'vet' your playmates much more critically and stringently...and make sure that he/you take time enough to at least be on the same page play wise....and perhaps avoid those disappointments.... single, experienced men who arent in a rush to get home will generally take more time and be much more relaxed...and relaxed confident men are sexier than those who are otherwise...
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GezWouldGo
12 years ago
The promises aren't restricted by fucking gender !!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'PoonWouldGo'The promises aren't restricted by fucking gender !!! I did promise to swing of the shower curtain and whistle "Dixie" but the shower curtain broke fat cow here. they dont make shower curtains like they used to. I promise to go down on you till my jaw breaks, I promise to sleep over and make you breakfast and to do your washing, to bring three of my girlfriends over as well ummmm yeah to kiss on the lips errrm to get on top to have a tight pussy to be multi orgasimiccccccccccccccck to be a loud lil fucker when I cum, so the neighbours know your getting sum fingers crossed TR ....trust me
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GezWouldGo
12 years ago
I'd be happy with brekky !
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RHP User
12 years ago
*chuckles* Don't worry too much about me getting in line anywhere. hun.. I dont do "Waiting" Love you to "Hell and back.." *smiles*
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RHP User
12 years ago
i get disapointed when you've been chatting to someone and your getting along well ...the question arises to met up and you never hear from them again WHY.......im sure it happens to both men and women
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5weeta5kandy
12 years ago
I think sadly we have probably all had this happen both male and female, but as OP says when the other party says "I'm going to do this and this and this" and you are looking forward to it and then none of those things happen, yer it leaves a bitter taste in your mouth. I like others do not care if a guy either can't get it up or cums in the first minute yer nerves and meeting strangers can do weird stuff, but its the out and out lies that disappoint the most.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I found, with this guy, dosnt please me.it's all about his need- Posted from rhpmobile
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
12 years ago
Hell yeah had many a guy turn up and blow and go..... usually younger guys so i try not to be tempted by them any more.....its like you have been ticked off there bucket list.... a few have been fine but then i must scare the crap out of them as a second visit never happens and i have to say 2 3 4 5 every visit gets better and better wilder and kinkier ....\Then there is the guy that will let you give them head for half an hour and wont even stick a finger in but will fuck you ... when Questioned on why not...the answer was well who has been there before I'm not putting my mouth there..omfg really....Ok reading this back makes me sound like i must be a dud fuck or something do i post this now lol.... yes because i know i put in 100% effort and im the most respectful person when I'm with someone be it one night or 18 years ......And yes squirting can happen over and over and sometimes you cant control itbut you do have great puddles to show for it as wellI'm a bit more choosey now as to who I'm meeting up with and i will speak up sooner...... why not hey
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have met some women, very attractive at that, with great physiques, who also promise the world of pleasure, best blow job in the world, blah, blah, unfortunately they think their looks will excuse them for a poor performance. Never make a statement you can't back up. Have fun all, and have great sex.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes I have had several below-par encounters - most are fabulous as I really do my research and questioning. But I've had duds from the guy who blew in three thrusts (yes!!!) to numerous guys who have blown "accidentally" from my oral. I do warn them that I am very good at it and try to control not over-stimulating them. It's tough for me though because I love oral - giving and receiving and usually go straight into giving it when I see a cock. I've even had 3 guys who could not cum from oral blow within minutes and then left me in a flurry as they tried to regain consciousness. And yes I have sadly been abrupt and told the bad duds that it's just not kosher. Funny at the time they don't go back into pleasuring me as they believe it's all over red rover. The sad part is I now have to modify my natural "order" of a sexual encounter. Rather than devour that cock I have to hold back and receive the pleasure before I give anything of substance back. Not really my style but I'm trying to get used to it as I really do believe that an sexual union is just that - it's pleasure for both parties. To end though, I have met guys who have been so amazing at what they do and very humble about it. I always give great feedback to boost their self-confidence. This really is all meant to be about joy and pleasure for all isn't it? xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
It was a bit of a running joke in our house for a while!!!! Oh lucky me ! She x
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RHP User
12 years ago
so sex is about pleasure right? so that means both or all members of the act are getting pleasure... for me sex is not about getting your load off! but it's about pleasing your sex partner. I dont feel satisfied at all if i havn't made the woman blow five times before i do.. dont get me wrong i have had those times when i've lasted 10-15 mins.. but then other times hours.. but hey it doesnt mean its all over! just lot's of fourplay and then ready to go again i say :) I think those kind of guys need to stop being so selfish and arrogant and continue on with the pleasure! there is more ways to please a woman than just sticking your bit in.. really.. a lot of fourplay goes a long way ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I can Honestly State that I have Never Fucked a Girl on the First date! I have however treated Her to some Wonderful, Sensations with massage and lots and lots of Oral Sex whilst using My Fingers at the same time!I do not Care that I haven't stuck My cock into Her, or Even if the lady has touched my cock at all let alone given me a bit of Head!The First night for me is always about My New Lover, getting Her (or Him ) off. Yes I'm Bi-sexual as the profile name suggests...... It's just something I have always done since I was a young Man!I will tell you however that , the inevitable Second date usually ends up to be a Very Very hot session, Again I will take the lead and "Do My thing" but it's not usually long before the Lady wants to take control and give me something back in spades... So maybe the point is Reap in the rewards of what you Sow, in other words it means "everything that happens to you is a result of your own actions "Do the Ground work and don't always assume it's the other person when things don't quite go to plan, God If every Sex Session went as you expected, How frigging boring would that get!As for the "Not Kissing Bit"..... WTF is wrong with these Guys, Unless your a smoker then Yes I can see that as a bit of a Problem if your a none smoker or even worse one of them reformer's lol . One last Comment some Guys are just Dicks and no amount of Training will get them anywhere close to being a Lover let alone a Great lover!
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Culturedanimal
12 years ago
Here are a few ideas people can use to check out the cumming excitment. Make sure they supply a mobile number, even if it is to a "sex phone" and make sure they answer it when the say they will. By all means chat to them on cam, but lets face it people, this site is for sex, not chat as many in the chat rooms believe is the case. If you and them can't get some nudity going it doesn't bode well in terms of being comfortable naked, which incidently is quite usefull when it cums to sex, or in terms of having what they say they have body wise. The chat you get in a chat room is also not much in terms of "getting to know someone" either, just meet them and chat then.....the old fashioned way, tends to be a bit more effective at getting to know someone. Checking out the validations might help a bit as the people who have already experienced the person might have a better idea of what he/she is like. Don't forget to look for what they don't say as that might be more important than what the say. Commit to a Friday or Saturday night, a week or two in advance, if that falls through can't mean they were that interested in the first place. If after all that you still get the odd one who slips through, cut your losses and get out of the road...then tell him/her why on the mobile or message here. These comments come after quite few years in the scene and I will admit that most of my contacts cum from parties where people have checked at what my arse (and other things) look like and how they perform, for real......not from this site. Have fun people
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Naughty_nature
12 years ago
New to all this have only had 1 meet and she is a fantasic woman weve been seeing eachother for 3 weeks now according to her the sex is mind blowing and I say the same about her she makes me smile and laugh outside of the bedroom and groan with pleasure in and every time Im with her I have one aim thats to make sure she enjoys herself any man can have a wank and get his rocks of but to give pleasure and see the look a woman gives you when shes satisfied thats not something you can give yourself so I say if their a dead root forget them and move on till you find the person who gives you what you want. Wefukugood has got it right just because you meet up means nothing if it doesnt feel right then dont go there. Freya13 is right to if someone mirepresents themelves in photos or chat why the hell should it be any different in the bedroom?
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RHP User
12 years ago
It only takes 5 minutes for a man to make love: - Two minutes of foreplay - One minute of sex - And two minutes of patting ones self on the back for a JOB WELL DONE!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' *chuckles* Don't worry too much about me getting in line anywhere. hun.. I dont do "Waiting" Love you to "Hell and back.." *smiles*
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RHP User
12 years ago
I know this is a sex dating site but.... Can we be honest here? If you decide to have sex with someone? It's rare that you cum together, who ever cum's first has an obligation to do there level best to return the favour!?! I'm sure there are people that love sex with " almost" strangers but although I've had my fair share of partners I've only ever been left breathless after sex with someone I really click with! If the sex has been great then you would be a "fuckwit" not to try your best to make sure they want seconds! If you get to the stage that you really are into someone then you will happily make them cum without expecting quid pro quo, but that's called a relationship! Lol
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