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Disrespectful messages
February 04 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Clearly this pork chop has no respect. Hope you blocked his ass Whether you have kids or not, you still respect women and people in general. At least that's how I was brought up,
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
The moment I read the "hehe".... it creeped me out. He probably thought he was being funny, while testing how thin the ice was....but it was a fail moment as far as you were concerned and thats all that matters. DGD
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
There are women out there who would have caved. At least he said sneak in and not break in.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Please refer him to the "Ninja fuck" forum for instructions. He clearly has no idea. FOXY
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I'd like to hear from women who would say yes to this?? Why on earth would anyone let a total stranger into their home with children??? Males me feel rather ill !! Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have had that offer before, and I had the exact same reaction as you did L4Q. Whether these people have children or not themselves, I have no idea, but it obviously shows a total lack of consideration, courtesy and common sense. But then again, I do know of women who have done it, so I guess you can't blame them for asking! Still, so very NOT cool in my book!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'The moment I read the "hehe".... it creeped me out. He probably thought he was being funny, while testing how thin the ice was....but it was a fail moment as far as you were concerned and thats all that matters. DGD Completely agree with this. (No, really)
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RHP User
11 years ago
before "months". My 2 cents
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cougar4fun
11 years ago
I had a similar scenario, but mine was that I told him I had my kids on my own as my husband was away, so could not meet up, his idea was for me to leave them unattended while they slept and sneak out for a few hours. I too saw red, I sent him a rather heated message back and blocked him. Some people are just so stupid it is scary. I reacted the exact same way.
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
You did say he had a twisted sense of humour. It could have been humour. A hope it works humour. It is the limitations of the written word. You can't see the expression & feeling of how someone is saying something. I'm not defending him, neither will I crucify him.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
ERRRRRRRRRRRR Hang on........a sense of humor is one thing, BUT to push the boundaries when there is children involved is not humorous, not one bit in my eyes. This was clearly disrespectful, not only to the OP but her child also. The OP said she had her son in an earlier message - did he not read that??? He must of, because he said "he will be quiet". It's not OK. Foxy
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gazpacho
11 years ago
He did say sorry. I'm guessing he doesn't have children and has no idea of the potential for distress in finding mummy in bed with a stranger. Cut the kid some slack. He's an idiot. Who here can say they've never been one? Hugs Gazpacho
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' The moment I read the "hehe".... it creeped me out. He probably thought he was being funny, while testing how thin the ice was....but it was a fail moment as far as you were concerned and thats all that matters. DGD Hehe ALWAYS creeps me out!
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's possible he was making a clumsy attempt at flirting. His intentions might have been fine but I have to admit that his approach really lacked finesse. That alone would be enough to make me roll my eyes and decide on the spot that he wasn't someone I wanted to get to know any more. The other angle for me is that mild air of desperation. You chat to a guy for a while and then all of a sudden his approach turns mildly sleazy. Instant turn off, instant shut down from me. So ... I wouldn't have been offended in the slightest by his comments. Everyone is different and the comments alone don't make him an awful person. But ... I'd have decided straight away that I didn't want any more contact with him, for the reasons above.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yup, the guy was just swinging for a home run. Thought with his dick, not his brain, which yes makes it creepy and alll kinds of wrong when kids are involved. Any guy with a brain and respect would not make such a comment the moment you mention you're with your child/children. Hope you realise he showed a true side of him. Time to toss this one in the bin. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
..it comes back to what is morally acceptable behaviour.Clearly, to some it is OK to make that late night call when kids are around..whilst it appears that to those that generally dominate these forums, it's not. I share your side of the fence..I don't have kids..and it's not cool.Nice to know I'm amongst the moral majority. Here at least..
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DynamicCouple36
11 years ago
I (Leslie) get many messages like that when I am in the chatrooms in here and on another site. It is as if the majority of the "single" males ( I call them Meerkats ) assume that because one is on a swingers site that one is a slut and that as such they can treat one in a disrespectful manner, make obscene comments and that one will then open ones legs on command. It is obvious that we are dealing with some messed up people. What is also obvious is that they don't think before they type. Probably impossible to do when they are horny. I just add them to my ever growing block list, but still receive dozens of unsolicited messages daily. "Single " guys have taken over and hijacked these sites , just as they have some swingers clubs A great money maker . I say "single" because many of them are not. I would never allow any of them near my house or my kids. It's just far too risky. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your deff did the right thing there :) we must show self respect n the care factor for a child's safety regardless... I've had sim offers and declined :) like you I'd never the lady's and thought it showed little self respect for them let alone me... Anyway my offer for coffee is still there :)
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Missb4u
11 years ago
I get this all the time. It still floors me. I can't believe any parent would have a stranger in the house for some sex while the kids are there but some obviously do. It's so disappointing to get this message. Things can be going great, easy flirty banter and then bam! Fucks it all up. I have even been invited over to a guys place "once his kids are asleep" ummmm no thanks, that's just a little awkward. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
thinking with his little head. I'd put that in the 'pushy' basket. Inviting himself to your place I mean, let alone when your kidlet is home. Cheeky in an unattractive way. Best to be very clear about your boundaries. Boys sending messages while on this site really don't think clearly sometimes. Poor dears. NEXT!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Silly season..he should just stay home and have a sneaky by himself !
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yeah I reckon you might have / but your entitled to as you said he has a twisted sense of humour and he was most likely just seeing if he could persuade you. You said No , it was still No so move on Life is to short to get your undies in a twist over a message on a sex site
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RHP User
11 years ago
My policy is and always will be.... If I don't want you to meet my kids....then I sure as hell don't wish to meet yours....unless:- we've decided together to take things further and become a couple. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree, it is totally disrespectful of him to invite himself over and even more so if she has kids in the house. Having said that, I have actually been invited to a woman's house (never met her prior to the invitation) and once I got there, she advised me that her kids were asleep in the other room. I didn't even know she had kids! I was happy to sit on the couch and have a chat but respectfully declined the invite to her bedroom. I didn't want to be the one going at their mum when they walked in. So if old mate had had a similar experience, maybe he thought nothing of trying to "sneak in" after the kids were asleep...just saying.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seems to me there's a certain section of men destined to shoot themselves in the foot every time. ? looking4quality.. I dont blame you for feeling the way you do. Seems the guy was living his fantasy which didnt include the natural instincts of a mother. I can see you felt your child ' in his eyes ' was being put aside to make way for him which for any caring mother is non negotiable. You reacted the right way..
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MzKarma
11 years ago
That my kids are adults. I would hate to have been in this position. Hugs to you and your child, protect them as much as you can xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Out of time.....NEXT!!
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sex_and_romance
11 years ago
As a part time dad to 2 young girls, I'd have to say that as far as I'm concerned, this is not AOK. First time meet and greet in your home with young kids there ? It's definitely not something that I'd propose or consider. Sounds like you dodged a bullet there... I agree with paint me: "next" If you look at it from a numbers perspective, that's one less frog on your way to a prince.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Rooster357' I agree, it is totally disrespectful of him to invite himself over and even more so if she has kids in the house. Having said that, I have actually been invited to a woman's house (never met her prior to the invitation) and once I got there, she advised me that her kids were asleep in the other room. I didn't even know she had kids! I was happy to sit on the couch and have a chat but respectfully declined the invite to her bedroom. I didn't want to be the one going at their mum when they walked in. So if old mate had had a similar experience, maybe he thought nothing of trying to "sneak in" after the kids were asleep...just saying. My jaw is on the floor! Glad you had better judgement than her!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Pork chop hehe love it ....
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RHP User
11 years ago
WOW to even have sex in the vacinity of kids is a big no no factor....if kids are present an cant be cared for those people shouldnt be makin plans to play at them times an a guy with kids always tells u theres a mother lurking around or hes cheating (not good)....ive been on here only few weeks an not had much luck i think most is to do with needing to upgrade....but still it annoys me the guys who have upgrades ruin it by doing this kinda stuff...........im just hoping i find someone nice soon to chat with cause i certainly wont play around kids an any ladies who do i advise not to contact me......x
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RHP User
11 years ago
I appreciate it. He has been blocked!! Being horny is one thing but I always give and expect respect for me and my home. So as they say in the classics, time to move on. NEXT!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's why you shouldn't chat for so long.Short chatMeetThere interests are differentForget themxxBS
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP your profile shows you as such a nice and take it slow type that i would have to wonder why someone that you have been chatting to for so much time would suddenly say something so obviously disrespectful. Was there no hint of his character in the past communication. Maybe he had a few too many beers that night.
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RHP User
11 years ago
No you're not over reacting. I can;t even imagine the horror of being a kid and waking up in the middle of the night, going into mummy's room and finding the beast with two backs in her bed. You did exactly the right thing.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Welcome to the forums and to RHP Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Was invited over, unaware that she even had a child let alone that the kid was home. Anyway we did the kiss and touch etc on the couch, then she says "we'll have to be quiet, my daughter is asleep in the next room". Needless to say I left straight away. Anyone that would want to have sex with a virtual stranger while their kid is in the next room is not my kind of woman. Simple as that!! You have every right to be upset OP.
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RHP User
11 years ago
SOME MEN JUST DON'T THINK. I was asked to go for a truck drive for a first date as a passenger to Oakey. I said No...I also said are you sure it is not Wolf Creek....hahaha. I then said to him..if you had a daughter and she was asked by a guy online whom she had never met, would you think that was a stupid stupid stupid thing to do? Um yes was the answer. I had said it sounds fun to go for a drive, but only after you have met and established a friendship or relationship. No-one wants to be on A Current Affair with the next horror online dating story. As single women we do tend to be abrupt and angry with our replies to stupidness, we have to defend ourselves we have no-one else to defend us(a partner) so we do come across as aggressive. No doubt thoughtless questions happen everyday on here and other sites. by the way hehehehe also creeps me out oh Gawd how I hate that word.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I lost respect for you with your line "That is so F******G disrespectful". You obviously didn't take enough deep breaths to clarify your insistence and keep the dialogue decent. He was being playful with an option that was not available. That's all.
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RHP User
9 years ago
But it really frustrates us to have an initial communication with someone who thinks a couple of emails warrants meeting and when you suggest they ensure they are comfortable with where we are at with things....they not only send you reply emails with unwarranted tones but then suggest were wasting HIS time and believes were an old man sitting behind a profile....pffftttt not even worth the effort!!!! Have a happy day and enjoy life
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RHP User
9 years ago
We're all different...apparently....so how does one know with you two when the right time is to escalate?? Cos I bet you have a time frame when your interest expires right?? No one is a mind reader.....why think that they ought to be?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' We're all different...apparently....so how does one know with you two when the right time is to escalate?? Cos I bet you have a time frame when your interest expires right?? No one is a mind reader.....why think that they ought to be? Well a couple of emails does not constitute the right time to escalate ......so when one is engaging in communication with potential playmates, one does not go from first base to third with one or two emails thats all were saying really....... generally people will get a feel for when things are moving forward ...and maybe this person overlooked that in our profile it did indicate "patience" ....anyways it was just a weekend vent... were moving on........
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Quoting 'polys' Well a couple of emails does not constitute the right time to escalate ......so when one is engaging in communication with potential playmates, one does not go from first base to third with one or two emails thats all were saying really....... Interesting then, that so many guys (from what Im told)... escalate to "peak" with their very first email!!!!
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Look for the big pair of legs with the labrador tail in the middle
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
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