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Do i have a problem with wanting to much sex?
April 10 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
A new partner perhaps? Honestly I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting sex everyday... Of course there are times when your libido drops. Maybe having young kids, stress, etc can all effect a person's desires. What does your partner say about it?
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RHP User
12 years ago
OP, thanks for sharing :) I think it's true that some people have overwhelming sexual desires that might be somehow unhealthy or destructive in their lives. I'm not qualified in any way to comment on that, in terms of your post. I wonder about the quality of the sex you have with your partner, when you do have it. Do you both really enjoy it and get lost in it? Or is there tension between you because she rarely wants it and you always want it and neither of you ever feel free to completely be yourselves? Maybe the sex you do have is unsatisfying on many levels, and it leaves you wanting more, more, more. Awesome, amazing sex can make you want more too, but in a good way. On the other hand, awesome, amazing sex can leave you feeling completely sated and content. Do you ever feel like that?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I dont really want to lose my partner. She isn't interested in having sex, so it doesn't matter what i say. If i say something about it, she is less likely to do it. if i say nothing its not going to happen either. No kids but high stress. Im not sure what to do?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Fair enough. Has your relationship always been this way? Maybe you need to really chat to your partner about why she doesn't want sex more. I am sure more experience forum members will be able to advise you on this. :) All I really wanted to say is that your sexual desires are normal from the little that you have said. If anyone needs a little help in this department its your partner possibly, not you. There are people who have sex every day and some times more than once. That is normal for them. Half their luck hey. :D
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have found there is only so much sexual energy in each relationship . When you want it so much you don't give her a chance to want it . She may have started to look on it as a chore as she knows your always wanting it , instead of having a choice . There's nothing wrong with wanting lots of sex but like anything there needs to be balance. If you are starting to think it is no longer a balance in your life but has taken over ( and the fact that you are asking all us) suggests that's it's now a problem in your life. Good luck and I hope it all works out
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Mr_MrsAraps
12 years ago
Its perfectly to have a high sex drive and if matched with the right partner then awesome.My first question (okay a have quite a few) is how honestly and frequently have you discussed your miss matched libido with your partner as it sounds a simple problem but without work from both sides can easily grow into a relationship killer.I assume your partner knows your on RHP which if she does know would make discussion easier though know I am not judging you either way.Have you thought about discussing it also with a professional as there is nothing wrong with getting advice and just talking honestly about it. They may say perfectly normal or yeah thats an issue there. You also have the option of including your partner in the discussions with said professional.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ok when we have sex its only for reproduction purposes only(which killed our sex lives). We both enjoy it once we get in to it, but its a process getting there. thats a whole new topic lolEven when i have great sex im ready to go again shortly after. I was hoping this would decrease as i get older but its getting worst. I crave it ofter and that could be a huge problem?.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks for the feed back! When i talk high sex drive i mean super high lol. If i have awesome sex ,i will go finish myself off again over the great sex i just had. lol. Maybe its time i chat to a pro.... not that kind?????? a physiatrist.
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
Quoting 'fbudi2011' I dont really want to lose my partner. She isn't interested in having sex, so it doesn't matter what i say. If i say something about it, she is less likely to do it. if i say nothing its not going to happen either. No kids but high stress. Im not sure what to do? Just throwing this out there.... and the fallout lands where it may... and be honest..... Were you ever compatible sexually? Has that changed?Does she feel desired and even rewarded for expressing her sexuality with you?!Does she make comments relating sex to a chore... or, obligatory?Do you whinge about this with her?DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes we were. whats changed is that we had been trying for a baby for years and it has become a chore. So that thought of having sex for enjoyment has gone. As i said thats a whole new topic.
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wingman2014
12 years ago
Hi fbudi , first of all if your relationship is special to you then take the advice already given. Be honest with her and do what ever it takes to save it Every one is different , and I am in a similar situation . For years we argued over sex or the lack of . To the point where on several occasions we were on the verge of separation. It made home life almost unbearable with constant tension in the air. As a last resort I turned to looking for a FWB . I was racked with guilt at first until I realised how much my home life improved. Because my sexual appetite was now being satisfied it meant that there was no more fighting over sex at home.It is not something to take lightly in fact it is hard work in effect leading a double life . It is a big step to take and you will cop a significant amount of flak from others who disapprove but they haven't walked a mile in your shoes. Just something to consider anyway . Good luck And I hope things work out for the best Wingman- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Time to get a harem together, if you dare..
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
Quoting 'fbudi2011'....whats changed is that we had been trying for a baby for years and it has become a chore. So that thought of having sex for enjoyment has gone. As i said thats a whole new topic. OK... is that what SHE says... or what YOU say?Its not a whole new topic... it IS the topic.... but just one element of it... just as you being in here is another element.And without the full picture... we cant give you the full answer.DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
We too went through many years of fertility issues and it's really hard and i feel your pain . I think you both probably have some issues from all that time of trying But you can come back from it , we haveand are stronger then ever , the key is honestly and communication . We now have the best sex life we have ever had in our 16 year marriage , and have lots of naughty fun together !! Hehe Don't give up , it's hard work getting on the same page but well worth it
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RHP User
12 years ago
.. you two haven't REALLY spoken about this eh? SHE doesn't know you are on here no? Would it be ok if I had a try at pleasing your lady OP? One of two things will happen... 1) either she will develop her LOVE of sex again.. or... 2) she will realise what a stud she has in you.. (sarc) I wouldn't be onto her 24 hours a day to fck.. Like you obviously are.. When Draught is on tap mate, I usually prefer Bitter! *shrug* Just telling it as I see it
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RHP User
12 years ago
Take the baby making off the table. (Although the table worked for me but that's beside the point). You are on RHP looking for sex and trying to conceive with you partner? I don't have a crystal ball but my alarm bells in my head are ringing loud and clear. When/if you have a child, your mis-matched libido will the least of your troubles. It's great to hear that you have thought about seeking a professional's advice. I'm sure the situation you speak of is really quite common and they will be able to help you see your dilemma from a different perspective. Kudos to you for being so open here on the forums. Good luck and may the force be with you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hit the gym everyday that will tire you out and suppress you libido and when sex does come your way you will explode!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Seek professional help,it seems your best course of action,just a suggestion,jsk
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is good that you are thinking of seeing a professional. Be honest with your partner and see if her lack of sexual desire is due to religious reasons or because she feels down that she could not get pregnant. Talking with her, perhaps with a professional might help. I recently read about Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous in the papers. Perhaps they might be able to help.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'fbudi2011' Yes we were. whats changed is that we had been trying for a baby for years and it has become a chore. So that thought of having sex for enjoyment has gone. As i said thats a whole new topic. Hey fb, maybe slightly OT but I would like to share my experience with youwe tried for years to have kids, IUI, IVF, and in the end the stress on both of us, but more my wife was beyond comprehension, in the end we went to a naturopath, changed a bit diet slightly but the best bit of advice he provided was 'stop trying so hard', have sex because you love each other not to have a child, and bingo we conceived.I know it is difficult to get it out of your mind, as the desire to have a child is so great it is painful, but look at planning a holiday, just to get your mind of itMy suggestion would be set up a really nice environment, candles, soft music, etc etc etc and just 'make love' forget having sex, step it up, it worked for us, the best time we ever had together was the night we conceived, hours kissing and foreplay etc etc etc etcI hope it works for you as I know the emotional roller coaster you are both experiencing you might find this fixes both problemssorry if I went OT good luck
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RHP User
12 years ago
Like you are quite normal. Your partner has been focused on the baby making process and do all the enjoyment has gone for her. Meanwhile, you want it more because subconsciously you need to feel wanted more because there is more to lovemaking than baby making, you are trying to over compensate and prove (in your mind) that you are still wanted, needed, loved, desired. Men's sexuality is all tied in to their identity as a man. You just need to relax. Forget the baby making and bring back the joy and spontaneity- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think that your relationship is in real trouble OP.It is not just that you have mismatched libidos,you say you don't want to loose your partner but it sounds to me that there is a huge gap between you both. You both need to do a lot of work to bridge this chasm and it already may be too late.Please seek some couples counselling before you even consider having a child. Do you really think that because there is too little sex with your partner you can solve the ''problem'' by introducing a third party into the mix...problem solved....that is not even a bandaid solution OP. ''We do not go to bed in simple pairs,even if we choose not to refer to them,e still drag there with us the cultural imedmentia of our parent's lives,our bank balances,our sexual and emotional expectations,our whole biographies-all the bits and pieces of our unique existences.'' Angela Carter. If you both genuinely love each other then seek some help.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank you all for your words. I will take them all on board. :)
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BrightBubbly
12 years ago
Coming from the other side of the issue, I have been down this path.Trying for a baby killed our sex life. For me it was all about temp taking, timed intercourse, fertile times of the month and all of that. After a while we got onto a Fertility Clinic and it only got worse. Then it became about all the same things AND the injections and blood tests and appointments.It is seriously hard to feel like a sexy desirable woman when you feel your body has let you down in it's most basic function.Have you moved onto a clinic ? After more than 12 months you need to see your GP about the next step. Has she fallen pregnant and miscarried - that also opens up a whole set of other "self" issues.You have gone the complete opposite direction and trying to show your virility by being super hyped about sex too, it is the strongest toughest male that becomes the alpha and can take any female in his pack he wants.If you are at a clinic you need to get in to see one of their counsellor and now. Honestly, if you leave it much longer without addressing these issues there won't be much of a relationship left to salvage...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sometimes my husbands smoking habits used to put me off sex, and I have an enormous sexual appetite.
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inspirit
12 years ago
Welcome to the forums. Lots of advice given here and great advice. Thing is, have you really looked at your situation clearly and understood it? As some one said you have a lot going on and have only disclosed one element today in your opening - which I see you may have an addiction. However striking one out a few times a day isnt an addiction. One step at a time.....NOW... if you were in Perth... we could test out this so called addiction. I reckon I could cure it hehehe
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RHP User
12 years ago
No doesn't smoke. No offence to anyone ment but firstly i haven't posted my full life story or full story about my relationship. why ? this is a dating site?. i just was asking how much is to much? Im not asking for help with my relationship. Im not asking for guidance on how to live my life. None of you know of my relationship or me. (i dont know why people think they have all the answers? Your experiences are your experiences). So please stick to the topic of " Do i have a problem with wanting to much sex?"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'fbudi2011' No doesn't smoke. No offence to anyone ment but firstly i haven't posted my full life story or full story about my relationship. why ? this is a dating site?. i just was asking how much is to much? Im not asking for help with my relationship. Im not asking for guidance on how to live my life. None of you know of my relationship or me. (i dont know why people think they have all the answers? Your experiences are your experiences). So please stick to the topic of " Do i have a problem with wanting to much sex?" People brought up all the other relationship factors because your current situation is complex, and it has a significant and direct bearing on your question. You can't separate the two.
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RHP User
12 years ago
OP for posting on your thread and wasting your valuable reading time.
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inspirit
12 years ago
wanting sex all the time is NOT a problem. If it is can you let me know and we can go to Sex Anonymous together and do a 10 hail mary's.
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RHP User
12 years ago
. I didn't start this topic to talk about my relationship problems.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
No need to be bitter.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya77' OP for posting on your thread and wasting your valuable reading time. re-reading your post and comments, my opinion is, it is an attempt at self advertising that went wrong,I'm kinda with Ms F that I am sorry, but I am sorry I wasted my time responding to such a post and didn't see the ulterior motive up front
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
OP.... Not sure how you can separate 'your problem' and the relationship it's a problem within. To consider that you can separate them.... is foolhardy. And remember....All advice given has been offered because you asked for it, with (deliberately?) limited (selected?!) information. Take it in spirit it has been given DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Inconceivable - by Ben Elton. A hilarious book written in diary form about a man and woman trying to conceive and the way that they perceive different outages on life!!! About the trauma she was experiencing, and the, well, frustration he was. Very eye opening - and in true Elton style, fantastic social commentary. Just like to add - there's no such thing as wanting to much sex. It's just how you go about getting it that can be a problem. Mrs B- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey buddy, firstly good on you for throwing it out there hey, takes a decent person to do that. i wish i had had the guts to ask what you have. I have a massive sex drive and as a younger guy i didnt have the tools to discuss the issue of lack of sex with my ex . so the most important thing is to keep comunicating with her and dont shut her out. she probably wants you as much as you want her and you may just be missing the signals from each other. stay true to her and work at it. take it from a guy who diddnt. i hope you both end up on the same page work for it and good luck
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RHP User
12 years ago
if its fun, fulfilling, and unreal you can never have enough !! kind of like a great woman riding your face ...... yeah yeah .
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes thank you! That's all I needed to know
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi FBudi,I have been in a similar place for about 4 years now, are you sure your sexual urges are not a symptom of your relationship? It has been around 3 months since I was intimate with my wife and I too have a ridiculously raging libido. She has a poor opinion of her self image and despite my best efforts to let her know I find her as sexy, and desirable as the first day we met she continues to withdraw physically and emotionally. She has stopped seeing me as desirable too unless she is really trashed and messy, at this point I am pretty turned off: Bad sex is worse for a relationship than no sex. I realise that this is as much about me as it is her, but I just can't help feeling that I am the only one that wants to fix it. Reflecting on this leads me to reason that lack of intimacy manifests in cravings of emotional contact. The thought of being with someone new in either an emotional or sexual way makes me feel alive and excited in a way that I have not experienced in years. This makes me crave either or both constantly. Knocking the top of it works for a really short period of time, after that the frustration increases even more: It's like when you were a kid and your folks got you a cheapy GoBot instead of a Transformer. At first you were happy, until you realised how much better a Transformer would have been to play with, making playing with the GoBot a lament. I really want to play with a Transformer all up in this hood about now... I guess I ended up here in the hope I could find someone with who is wanting the same. I don't want to take advantage of anyone ones situation, just to experience the thing that appear to be missing from life in a mutually beneficial way. Maybe this is a fantasy or maybe it isn't. If not then the next step is a lot more drastic. I don't want to entertain that thought just yet.Long story short: Whatever you do - you own the consequences. And don't buy your kids GoBots - one day it will ruin their marriage.Ben
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'jasxxx1' if its fun, fulfilling, and unreal you can never have enough !! kind of like a great woman riding your face ...... yeah yeah . Thanks this is wha i want to hear about!
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RHP User
12 years ago
got it....you just wanted justification for your being on here. Well why didn't you just say so in the first place.
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inspirit
12 years ago
After much deliberation with my multiple personalities we would like to let you know THAT thinking about sex all the time IS in FACT extremely unhealthy!!! Take it from me...My willy fell off, my pecs became huge gazzookas and now I have to be a bloody woman putting up with men who want sex all the time!!! Be scared be very afraid my friend. The fucking hormones will do your head in!
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Mr_MrsAraps
12 years ago
Quoting 'fbudi2011' Quoting 'jasxxx1' if its fun, fulfilling, and unreal you can never have enough !! kind of like a great woman riding your face ...... yeah yeah . Thanks this is wha i want to hear about! Why even bother asking the question if you are only looking for someone to tell you what you want to hear.So then, is this what you are after....Yeah being a sex addict at the expense of every other aspect in your life is the best.Let me know how that goes for you in a years time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I find that I need sex quite frequently too, preferably at least 3 times a week and even tho I can satisfy myself it's just not the same as physical contact with another person. I often find myself day dreaming about sex or playing out scenarios in my head. If it weren't for RHP I'd go crazy as I'm single and can't find a regular guy who meets my 'requirements' lol. My gfs often laugh that I need a man harem to keep me satisfied :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm sorry to hear about your relationship. It sounds like u are truly torn. When it comes to sex, at times men and women can be worlds apart. Sometimes women want intimacy not sex. Can't say I'm one of them but most of my gfs are. The baby making sounds like it took the fun out of it for your lady. There could also be some other under-lying emotions that tie in with this guilt, failure, sadness???? I cannot judge though but it sounds like its more an emotional thing for your lady. My suggestion - start being selfless and "making love" to your lady sans sex!!! Let her know u want her without wanting just to have sex with her. She may feel like a machine!!!! Romance, intimacy, caressing, kissing - no sex! Build up to it slowly. Make it a special treat between just u too. Hopefully she might "relearn" she's a sexual beautiful being again. On the FB or Mistress front - Ive been there to fill that need for men in the same situations (usually post babies). It's great at first but then they develop an emotional relationship with u which is not good. I thought I would merely enhance those relationships - in the end I had to stop because it was heading towards jeopardizing those relationships. Tread with caution!!!! Good luck darling. Lolly xxx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
No wonder people like myself usually remain silent! To many Doctor Phill wannabes! Once again i will try to ask it a little clearer for those who didn't understand.Please can i hear your stories on "Is it a problem wanting to much sex?" P.S. Having a high intelligence, high academic skills and the like, doesn't mean your better than any other person. ( Not saying that any of you kind folk are like this, but just saying. ) P.P.S If i have wasted your time posting this, well how about lets look at your life and remember your on a dating site sitting behind a computer all day. Reading about other peoples lives and posts. lol Relize your wasting your own time!Hiding behind a computer because you dont have the self worth to live in reality.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ParisLolly' I'm sorry to hear about your relationship. It sounds like u are truly torn. When it comes to sex, at times men and women can be worlds apart. Sometimes women want intimacy not sex. Can't say I'm one of them but most of my gfs are. The baby making sounds like it took the fun out of it for your lady. There could also be some other under-lying emotions that tie in with this guilt, failure, sadness???? I cannot judge though but it sounds like its more an emotional thing for your lady. My suggestion - start being selfless and "making love" to your lady sans sex!!! Let her know u want her without wanting just to have sex with her. She may feel like a machine!!!! Romance, intimacy, caressing, kissing - no sex! Build up to it slowly. Make it a special treat between just u too. Hopefully she might "relearn" she's a sexual beautiful being again. On the FB or Mistress front - Ive been there to fill that need for men in the same situations (usually post babies). It's great at first but then they develop an emotional relationship with u which is not good. I thought I would merely enhance those relationships - in the end I had to stop because it was heading towards jeopardizing those relationships. Tread with caution!!!! Good luck darling. Lolly xxx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Amarella' I find that I need sex quite frequently too, preferably at least 3 times a week and even tho I can satisfy myself it's just not the same as physical contact with another person. I often find myself day dreaming about sex or playing out scenarios in my head. If it weren't for RHP I'd go crazy as I'm single and can't find a regular guy who meets my 'requirements' lol. My gfs often laugh that I need a man harem to keep me satisfied :P Thank you for making a comment on the question that i asked.
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RHP User
12 years ago
its sounds like she has closed down and put a wall between you herself and the sex. The only way to fix the problem is to remove the wall one brick at a time. This means open communication between the two of you over the long term.You will more than likely find out that its not about the sex ,its her mind that has shut downn and you need to find the key through understanding. She may even have eluded to "the real" problem but feels your not listening .I wish you all the best- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
God I hope it's not a problem as I'm a sufferer as well !! Although it is a problem if your not getting any which is you and me both !!! HELP NEEDED 😉- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Unless I explain in full detail and my partner did the same. Then you could easily see what is wrong. . I ddnt start the post to ask if my relationship is going well. Besides when I'm single getting loads of sex. I still have The same feelings of wanting lots of sex. Which brings me back to the question I was trying to ask.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey mate, sounds like you guys need a holiday or something... A man wanting sex everyday is normal man. Personally I don't know you survive. You sound like a top bloke... All the best!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks, that's very kind of you.
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inspirit
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just at a guess you may cope with your high stress by having sex and she doesn't? Maybe you both need to find a way of taking some time out away from your stressful life. Worth a go I would think. All the best :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi fbudi2011,It seems like some of our replies seem to have missed your mark. It would be good to clarify a few things so that we might better respond:Quoting 'fbudi2011'Maybe i need to get help? just thought i would ask the question first.OK, question posed (I'm getting that from the '?').No wonder people like myself usually remain silent!If they remain silent, how would you know that they are remaining silent unless they said something?Once again i will try to ask it a little clearer for those who didn't understand.Sensing disappointment here...Please can i hear your stories on "Is it a problem wanting to much sex?" Many people have responded to your initial question and shared well considered anecdotes of their own experiences in the hope that you might learn from them. I suggest clarifying the difference between ones experience and a story for those of us less academic.P.S. Having a high intelligence, high academic skills and the like, doesn't mean your better than any other person. ( Not saying that any of you kind folk are like this, but just saying. ) Somewhat self deprecating.P.P.S If i have wasted your time posting this, well how about lets look at your life and remember your on a dating site sitting behind a computer all day. Reading about other peoples lives and posts. lol Sorry to point out the irony here, but it was yourself who posed the initial question on this forum. If you held the belief that people on forums have no life experience why would you post in the first place?Relize your wasting your own time!Hiding behind a computer because you dont have the self worth to live in reality. In response to your initial question, sincerely and with no intent of malice: I truly believe the answer may be yes.Ben
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RHP User
12 years ago
LOL never too much!!! But on them unfortunate occassions when you cant have sex..... use your toys and if that fails.......cold showers!!! Depending on whether it is just the physical orgasm or if you need the mind orgasm!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
i feel your pain, my ex wife walked out on me mainly due to the fact that she could not handle and did not want as much sex and felt that she can never please me or didnt even want to try.. when in fact I was patient and tried communicating and tried almost everything I could think of.. even went to the dr and got tested "not surprisingly found out my testosterone level is over 4 times the normal high end.."to be honest with you, some people just can not handle our type.. and it sucks hard cuz when you care about someone so much you just want to share ur self in all possible ways with them and show them ur supper natural gift. personally I have no problem doing it 7 times a day 7 days a week and have tested it for 18 days and was fine.. most girls find that fun for like 8 hours then get scared or cant keep up.. which is ok i dont have to keep going. iv got full control over it now so i turn it on n off when i want to but I would love to find someone "have found a few so far but they have only been playmates.." that I care about more than just a FWB that can keep up..to be honest I wish you both the best, but dont let her make you think you have a problem.. you are both just not as compatible in that one area just yet.. maybe one day you will be or maybe one day you will have another option.. most my married cuzens "have similar problem" just cheat and their wifes know but just dont want to know.. now i didnt want to do that i guess they are older and see that its ok for them to do that but i rather swing than cheat .. personally .. just dont get married yet till u kind of see a light in the issue if ur not married yet.. it hurts soo much to have someone walk out on u just because your everyone elses favorite fucker but not theirs..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lol thought I was some sorta freak but there's others :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well done to you! Well done you have wasted more of you time nitpicking my every word! Lol well done!
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RHP User
12 years ago
For those who didn't understand the question, maybe you took it to far. If I asked what's your favorite fast food was, i would get some story about nutritional value!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hehe....spot on. I always love it when people have a go at others for some such thing, when they are doing the exact same thing themselves.Now, how do I unfollow this thread because it's extremely boring when people only want responses that fit in with what they want to hear.Quoting 'Deckard78' Hi fbudi2011,It seems like some of our replies seem to have missed your mark. It would be good to clarify a few things so that we might better respond:Quoting 'fbudi2011'Maybe i need to get help? just thought i would ask the question first.OK, question posed (I'm getting that from the '?').No wonder people like myself usually remain silent!If they remain silent, how would you know that they are remaining silent unless they said something?Once again i will try to ask it a little clearer for those who didn't understand.Sensing disappointment here...Please can i hear your stories on "Is it a problem wanting to much sex?" Many people have responded to your initial question and shared well considered anecdotes of their own experiences in the hope that you might learn from them. I suggest clarifying the difference between ones experience and a story for those of us less academic.P.S. Having a high intelligence, high academic skills and the like, doesn't mean your better than any other person. ( Not saying that any of you kind folk are like this, but just saying. ) Somewhat self deprecating.P.P.S If i have wasted your time posting this, well how about lets look at your life and remember your on a dating site sitting behind a computer all day. Reading about other peoples lives and posts. lol Sorry to point out the irony here, but it was yourself who posed the initial question on this forum. If you held the belief that people on forums have no life experience why would you post in the first place?Relize your wasting your own time!Hiding behind a computer because you dont have the self worth to live in reality. In response to your initial question, sincerely and with no intent of malice: I truly believe the answer may be yes.Ben
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't think u hv a sex problem. I too hv a very high libido - could easily hv sex daily and often over and over irrelevant of how good the session was and how many orgasms I've had. I just get the most intense yearning!!! This for me can change at times depending I think on my hormonal time, but it never goes below wanting it at least 4 times a week at worst. It's usually soreness that prevents me lol I don't think I have a problem - I know I have needs higher than the average person. I don't think u have a problem either Hun. Accept yourself as a sexual being. Lolly xxx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Did anyone think the OP was vying for potential people to hit up for sex??? Lol Good job OP by sticking to your original story, you've milked out the people you want to contact....- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Calling me a hypocrite would be calling yourself a hypocrite if you look into the meaning more.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was reading your profile and i thought maybe we should chat some more in private. Who knows maybe i am the wave to rock your boat?
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RHP User
12 years ago
In reply 😉 ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
more like,seagulls and chips OP.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'fbudi2011'i just was asking how much is to much?So please stick to the topic of " Do i have a problem with wanting to much sex?" I would say that "too much" would be when my sex life started interfering with other important things in my life, like my job, family or health. If I then were to find myself unable to control it, I'd be venturing into sex addiction territory. I have a high sex drive and would love to have sex more than once a day. As it is, it's one or two days a week, which works well for me and keeps me satisfied. On topic enough?
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RHP User
12 years ago
My husband has a very very very stong sex drive. He is a fitness freak and cant get enough sex from me. It drove me nuts, he would even come home from work during breaks to have sex. Now it was a one way street, and it was all about him and at the time I just got to loath him touching me at all. So I shut down. I would lay there pasive as he did his thing and I gritted my teeth to tell the truth. In the end I told him and told him till I was blue in the face, but he was addicted to my body. so we slit up, and have been divorced ten years now we are back together, and he is the same but he is also more considerate and I have the right to say NO the sex is still one sided but he gets that I need other lovers for my needs when you grow up and you love a person, not just the sexual side of them then you can make a happy compromise. if you have a strong sex drive then you need to consider having two women or three on a regular basis and maybe even get a woman of rhp for a relationship that gets that idea. I got bladder infections all the time, due to his constant demands even when pregnant so guys being to sexual is not an attractive trait. Learn to not put so much pressure on your partner , so long as you have a hand use it. I like sex but not every day, once or twice a week Besides that I am to bloody busy doing other stuff and I can use my hand if I need to.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' so we slit up, and have been divorced ten years
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
OP... you started this topic, asking for viewpoints of others.... ..however in view of the nature of your topic, which IS about your relationship..... are perplexing to say the least.DG
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
SheeeeeshOP... you started this topic, asking for viewpoints of others......however in view of the nature of your topic, which IS about your relationship..... your responses and behaviour are perplexing to say the least.DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'tuscanred' so we slit up, and have been divorced ten years I pissed myself when I saw that go through....blood frued has a lot to answer for lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's not just pleasure. It's a need. A fundamental necessity. For me anyway.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Agreed Misscontrary.. Too much?? depends on whether the sex is mind blowing or whether it has just become routine for the other partner or yourself.. Give me quality over quantity any day.. Oh and if I could... Lots of quality!!! ;) xxTripsxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
From what I have read, I don't think you have a problem with wanting too much sex. I agree with Ms-Devious that if your sex drive was to get in the way of work and family commitments, causes trouble in your relationship with your partner that leads to disagreements or bitterness around your need to have sex most of the time or leads you to feel down about yourself, maybe even disgusted or depressed with the struggle you have because of your very high libido, and you feel like the problem controls you more than it should, or more than you are comfortable with, that's an addiction that you may need help with. In the end, only you can decide what you need to do about it. But if it continues to pose a real serious problem, then seek help. If not, then have fun and enjoy relieving the pressure building up from within so as to speak.
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RHP User
12 years ago
One of your problems is your present partner (Ditch her).Another of your problems is that what you are doing on here will make you a dishonest person(Man up).Well done Sirlurkalot, the observation reveals shortly after your post.
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