Do many unicorns have regular couples or prefer new people each time?

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  In my previous life I was a unicorn to couples :) I've had some amazing experiences and some really terrible experiences. I never went in with a 'one off' approach because I like connections. To be very honest, the experiences that were great happened if the couple were in sync with each other and there wasn't jealousy from the female half of the couple. Equally, the guy has to be respectful of both his partner and the unicorn, too much either way can have some serious consequences. I've had the male of a couple literally ignore his partner and it took a lot of effort on my part to include everyone. Similarly, I've had experiences where the female has made it virtually impossible to have a relaxed play ( one giving me feedback as we were playing such as 'he likes it when I ....') If you're not getting repeat visits, ask for feedback or do some open and frank reflection. If you were a unicorn entering into a couple, how would you feel? What did you as a couple do to make her feel welcomed? Feel sexy? Did she have much time where she may have been an 'observer' to you and your partner? Down time as a unicorn in these situations is quite detrimental to the psyche. Did she feel like an intruder? Just my thoughts Mary xx

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Hey Mary, Thanks for the input. I actually meant more that we tend to steer away from a second meeting with the girls that just rush straight to sex. As a unicorn, you have the power to set the first meeting on your terms so I was more curious as to why most unicorns tend to skip the getting to know you and go straight to sex? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  swingalingson

  8 years ago

  The secret to finding real unicorns is knowning where to find them and then hunting them down. As a couple swingers club are the perfect place to study these random creatures. Why because single women do not pay much to go to a club. If they do go to a club you know they are very genuine and looking. And if they happen to go by themselves then they have guts to meet couples. Swinger clubs are safe nuetral grounds for all. And if one can not talk about sex and the lifestyle in a club that may have sex happening thru an event then where can you chat about the lifestyle. So my favorite place to find real keen unicorns who are really decided and interested in couples are swingers clubs. Also the unicorns are hard to get for a reason and couples do have to have some game and be able to socialize to perhaps make things go further or to see the unicorn at another location for perhaps a fun encounter. So chat..flirt and make that first impression count. Try not to be the couple who thinks that because they are a couple women will land on their lap. Cause that does not happen. Harness the unicorn's attention...embrace it and respect it. You get more flies with honey.

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  AnnieWhichway

  8 years ago

  Quoting 'CheatMeal' Hey Mary, Thanks for the input. I actually meant more that we tend to steer away from a second meeting with the girls that just rush straight to sex. As a unicorn, you have the power to set the first meeting on your terms so I was more curious as to why most unicorns tend to skip the getting to know you and go straight to sex? - Posted from rhpmobileII don't think it's relevant Wether a unicorn or single playing 1 on1. It's a personal choice of the person. Basically if there is attraction at the first meeting or even if not, feeling like some sex, I'm here and I've made an effort getting ready, let's play if everyone is on board. Being a person that can play as unicorn (one of those labels there.....) or an extra wheel as a male, or as a female or male in a 1 on 1, it's my choice in the moment. But whatever role I'm playing, the sex is always nicer the second or more time around. So let's get the first one out the way and look forward to the next and better round? And yes l very much like the variance of the roles l play. I've only realised how lucky l am to be able to experience all those.

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  MsJonesy

  8 years ago

  I'm not sure if I am following you correctly OP. Are you saying you will play with a unicorn who is expressing (and actioning!) play on the first meet......but then steer away from them for any other meetings? If so, I am confuzzled by the logic; if they are okay for you to meet at the play date and you three take it to sex straight away, why would that rule them out of a second date? Makes it sound as though you apply judgement after the fact, based on them being comfortable with first up play meets...but you don't apply that judgement prior to playing with them (nor to yourselve for taking them up on the offer?). There's a phrase which might fit that description of behaviour, but I am not going to utter it here because I don't know you and the circumstances; but its uneasy judgy territory you are stepping into (when I use 'you' please invoke the plural). My preference is usually to meet first, get to know each other a little, then if everyone is on board make a date to catch up again....and that time may or may not include sex. Its a joint decision, not just mine. But I rarely play on the first meet, just not my thing. I have a close and ongoing arrangement with two beautiful couples and our time together is also far more than just jumping on each other. I can also add I have chatted with quite a few couples who are very uncomfortable with forming an ongoing friendship; they are the ones who are seeking a unicorn for one or two meets. Its an interesting world we live in :-)

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  These posts are all great! We have only been to a club once and it was really quiet but they told us it was a really slow night. MsJonesy, we've had great encounters but I was referring to the times when someone dodges all kinds of pre-meets. We are very happy to play on a first meet but I was asking if the preference is for quick sex or ongoing meets? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  MsJonesy

  8 years ago

  I'll summarise my previous post for you ... Ongoing meets.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Firstly, where did you find these girls? We're first in line of a very intrigued queue!! When deciding to go meet a couple, I would go out with the intention of sex. I would always meet in a public place first to ensure the safety and comfort of all involved. If we had chemistry on the first date (and I felt safe and comfortable) I was happy to head back to their place and play. If it went well and they requested a return visit I'd happily comply. But in my experience though over a couple of years, only roughly 50% of couples contacted me again. Of those, I found 20% were lovely yet too demanding ( either wanting to play every other weekend or expecting me to be available within a few days notice), 10% had one member of the couple driving too much of the interest, and 10% became stalkers (in my definition for the purpose of this discussion that means texting me more than 2 times a day every day of the week .) The other 10% became firm friends, many great nights were had and many more are yet to come! So in answer to your question, I think it depends on the initial meet and compatability. I think unicorns are happily single bisexuals who seek couples for sex and intimacy with out strings, or the emotion and excessive connection that may arrise from one on one sex. Just my thoughts and experience! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  We met these girls on this site and another similar site. I'd say we've met half of the girls before playing and it's only been one that didn't proceed to play (either on that day or in the future). The other half we chat for a while and obviously they feel comfortable enough to invite us straight over or come straight to our house. We will always push for a meeting first but that's a preference and definitely not a requirement. I guess the comparison is a woman that enjoys other women but prefers men. Having said the above, it's not like we expect people to proceed. It might only be 10% that even respond to an email. Of the ones that we chat to, maybe only 25% proceed beyond kik. This seems pretty normal... Just look at Tinder! We have our assumptions about the motivations of others but it can be bad to assume. Our thoughts are the most of these ladies are "dabbling" with couples and they are probably also meeting singles. The couples might be more of a "once in a while" thing and they have regular single FWB or partners that they build longer relationships with. No idea if this is correct and of course, everyone is different. We have people send us messages or ask why we only play with women and I think the assumption is that we are insecure or this is driven by Mr.... In actual fact it's because Mrs is more into women than men and we knew each other for a very long time before the connection really took off. For this reason, we would never judge someone for their motivations and even the crazy experiences are fun and leave a great story (a women who's husband was hiding in the next room!!". Great story but one of the "will not pursue a second meeting". In regards to being too demanding, that's subjective. Some people like to be pursued and other like to be left alone. Trying to figure that out is a shot in the dark. RHP is the dating game all over again :-)

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  boobsandbusted

  8 years ago

  We have found one ,and we sure as hell hope we will remain good friends and have regular catch ups for a long time to come , Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  It sounds like most people have the preference for ongoing meets. When I (Mr) was single, it was the same dating people. Everyone is looking for a relationship but with so much choice on internet dating, it's rare to find people with the attention span to get to know each other. That's both men and women. I can only imagine how overwhelming it would be for single girls on here. With dozens of messages per day, it would be hard to focus your attention on one person or couple at a time. For us, we tend to only talk to maybe one or two people at time but being the couple, we're the ones initiating the contact so it's easy to control the amount of attention.

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