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Do men crave sexual attention.
March 26 2015
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
when i have been "attended" to as you put it Meeka, i feel a lot sexier than if i have played the male part. If that makes sense. Obviously a different feeling at the time physically, but mentally for me, the receiving gives me a mental high more.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sexiness. A guy told me once that he never felt sexy. Well not in the same way that as a woman does. I wonder if that is true for most men?
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Smilingwithfun
10 years ago
Not sexy so much, as satisfied, in a sexy way.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Yes in my role as a male, l could never say i felt sexy. In my role as a female, yes defintely both before and after sex. But thats me and i am a bit different mentally to everyone else. Be interesting to hear another guy who gives and recieves. Great thread Meeka.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's called Swagger, when I have had awesome sex, Oh yeah I swagger And lets not forget the idiot grin with a good dash of smug ! After being buggered though yes it's more of a glow or would that be an ache ? Either way it's all good. I know something you don't know
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RHP User
10 years ago
I always presume women feel sexy because of the effort us males put in to make them feel that way. ? I'm gunna stick my neck out here and sound on myself.. ( I'm not ) but I am aware when I have the attention of females who react sexually to the way Im pampering them ... But do I feel that same way... Hmmm, no, not in the same way. There are times when I get horny just talking to someone... But it takes someone special to make me float on cloud 9..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' I know something you don't know What what????????
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RHP User
10 years ago
.... I think that we all like attention .... the attention of an assertive (not aggressive) femme fatale ..is 'hot' ... ..... men are so highly sexually geared that we are usually the ones giving the sexual attention .... female interest tends to be more of a response to male attention (if it is welcomed) .... and if a femme focus's on us then things usually escalate pretty quickly ( males have a faster response rate .... they come equipped with a built in gauge that goes from 0 to ready in about 15 seconds ..... I guess in the 'wild' .. you might only got one crack at an opportunity .. before help arrived ! ...lol)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Sexiness. A guy told me once that he never felt sexy. Well not in the same way that as a woman does. I wonder if that is true for most men? I'd say this is how AnnieWW has ended up in heels, that's the only way for us men to feel sexy. I think the closest I get is to feel desirable. And I'm happy with that. You do tend to walk with a little bit of 50zcool's swagger after a good night / morning / park / beach encounter but only when you know you've just left someone else glowing after ravishing them. And I think it links back into the desire part. When you've just left someone with shaky legs, a throbbing clit and almost begging to be ravished again..... you know you're desired. And you swagger accordingly.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Whether we crave it or not, it's nice to get that attention from time to time and in general, I find that Australian women are not very connected sexually and don't do well at making their man feel sexy. It's an observation after years of travelling and experiencing different cultures/ethnicities.
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TallBaldSexy
10 years ago
....must be the additional post aerobic endorphin rush - maybe - but(t) I do feel more flirty and more easily engaged & attuned to Ms random sexy lady walking by. Not sure if that's sexy OR just wanting more of the same :-) ??????
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RHP User
10 years ago
The need to feel truly desired is a need for both males and females at times ? It's not that different to have a need to be excepted in a new job or group or any different for friends to reach out for ones help (that's being needed) so I'd say YES man need to feel sexy as much as the lady's like a man that finds her sexy
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RHP User
10 years ago
a friend of mine told me that after meeting an awesome lady he had been talking with for a few months, he couldnt keep the smile off his face. Theyve kept up, so I surmise that he was feeling "Happysexy"
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madotara69
10 years ago
Jean-Girard and 50zcool Annie, I think I get what you mean, I am in touch with my feminine side, maybe it is what guides me to what it is to give, in return receive feeling sexually desired. Meeka, I think for a long term relationship, it's that full circle of giving and receiving is needed to crave the sexual attention and feeling wanted. So yes to both and it is easy to feel that way while seeing Tara has that sway in her hips after ravishing me and I just don't lose sight of that and she knows it, I want to attend to that again. Of course keeping our relationship centred in life, is all the other stuff of give and take to keep the ball rolling, I get a feeling of devoted to that and brings the swagger to the glow. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Some like attention, some dont, not really a gender thing, more a personality trait. In my younger surfing days I loved the eyes on me and I played to it. I knew how to strut and show my stuff. I still have a good body but I am not under any delusion that I am sexy. Yet sassy me up with some admiring praise and ill happily suspend my disbelief. After all sexy is in the mind and playing make believe is a whole lota fun.
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LetsFrolic
10 years ago
Constantly crave sexual attention.. but i have a big sex drive naturally and i train hard which stimultes testosterone and libido more and ive never really had a sex.life - Posted from rhpmobile
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lovman8
10 years ago
but I do get a great feeling on well being and vitality after a good session. And I have a great feeling of contentment and even feel a little smug if I know my partner has truly enjoyed herself and showers me with sexual attention. So to answer your question I do crave sexual attention.
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LetsFrolic
10 years ago
Meeka i get all of those feelings.. i never feel wanted though.. im always single.. its very rare i get to meet up and have sex.. too many girls judge.. dating is dead.. so i. Here. . Alot more judgements. . Just seems like couples perving on profiles to stimulate their relationship. . Or guys pising as couples to try get some.. i refuse to decieve... So i get nothing off this site but i was hoping this site was different. . It was my last resort and already spent too much money and time on it getting nowhere. In fact all ive ever desired in life is yo be wanted and feel sexy and have lots of sex.. im not greedy.. i like to play servant to a cleopatra as well.. alot of the time actually. Never experienced an ffm either which is a big dream.. or an orgy.. would love a bi orgy. But alas if i get a response let alone a mesaage or number and then to hope the person is honest and not a time waster.. and then hope the vibe is right and things go well... lol then after that really hope its ongoing. Meh im just a waste of a soul and sex drive.. destined to wank and see assholes treat their girls like shit and feel pain for it - Posted from rhpmobile
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compressor
10 years ago
I think we all want to feel desired and that we are sexy plus we are good lovers
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Fit73' Whether we crave it or not, it's nice to get that attention from time to time and in general, I find that Australian women are not very connected sexually and don't do well at making their man feel sexy. It's an observation after years of travelling and experiencing different cultures/ethnicities. That is really interesting Fit. Would be very interesting to hear your thoughts on other cultures. Who seem to be more in tune sexually, etc.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'LetusFrolic' So i get nothing off this site but i was hoping this site was different. . It was my last resort and already spent too much money and time on it getting nowhere. In fact all ive ever desired in life is yo be wanted and feel sexy and have lots of sex.. im not greedy.. i like to play servant to a cleopatra as well.. alot of the time actually. Never experienced an ffm either which is a big dream.. or an orgy.. would love a bi orgy. LetusFrolic. What are you waiting for then? A woman to take your hand? Enough of the self pity and get out there and mix with people face to face. There is a bi-orgy being held tonight in fact. Are you going? You can go to swingers clubs on single male nights. Have you been? Did you do to the last meet and greet night? I have met probably over 100 people through this site at sex events and normal social drinks nights. I have never done the online dating thing....... takes to long and is too awkward and blah blah blah. So in meeting people this way I have kinky friends I can socialise with and go to sex clubs with. Look on orgy orgy orgy dot com and get yourself invite to the next party. You never know. You may even see some of us there.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Haven't read all of the comments preceding this.... however.... Because most men are ego driven as a function of their personality, most men crave sexual validation. Thats different to just craving attention, because attention feeds validation.... which is a facet of ego. Men use sexual attention to prop the ego..... "we had sex, therefore, I must be desirable...and... I must be good at sex". Ego...... isn't always right..... because ego isn't real. (and yeah..... I expect a few nark emails from this one too )
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'll be the first to admit that... For a long time and occasionally now and then but nowhere near as much - I used to hinge my self worth, self esteem and my happiness upon having sex. I felt worthless, and just shit...I'd spend my days sitting online perusing profiles in an effort to just have one of them light up my eyes....such a waste of time really, as I soon learnt it wasn't the attention from another that I craved....it was the attention from myself that I NEEDED. However.... A rich sex life still an important to me; it's not the ONLY thing and am finding it's simply a bonus to both me and any prospective lover... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Sex is easy to find........ But someone you really want to BE with..... doing everything... and nothing. Thats much more difficult. And you have to find that in yourself first.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Love sexual attention, but in moderation. Sure there will be spurts here and there, but not to overdo it.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I guess women are more emotionally engaging creatures (not denying that men have feelings here) where men are more do it to produce an end result ... sort of, not well expressed.So women can 'feel' sexy in a nice dress and heels, getting attentive looks, where men dont get the same attention because women dont openly ogle, perhaps. They are more subtle.We all feel horny, and engage and do it in the end. But men are more dick centric. Men tend generally to be the aggressors, and women the responders, so women 'get' the attention so to speak.So in my experience I dont get the same attention I give to the fairer sex, and they acknowledge, most of the time that I work far harder in the bedroom than they do .. but it can vary obviously. Men crave sexual attention, all that posing and chest puffing swaggering and boasting etc (whatever) to gain a womans attention (read get into her knickers) but in a long term relationship the emphasis changes. The sexual attention desired becomes much more deeply and emotionally integrated.I would gain immense satisfaction from knowing I had pleased my woman, my needs came second. If I had been satisfied, and she hadn't, it was less satisfaction for me.However ... when faced with a 'lover' who doesn't care enough to give reciprocal attention, the emptiness of it becomes painfully obvious. But some hot RHP'ers are giving me some very fun happy moments .. just saying .. :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hence, men shower females with sexual attention... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'LetusFrolic' Meh im just a waste of a soul and sex drive.. destined to wank and see assholes treat their girls like shit and feel pain for it and I would say that your attitude is a big part of your problem. The 'oh woe is me I'm such a nice guy not like all those other assholes why won't anybody love me' routine is not attractive at all, and it indicates an entitlement mentality and other things that would make many women very wary. Until you change your thinking and your attitude, you will struggle to find a woman that wants to be around you for an extended period of time, let alone for life as you are hoping for.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Lookin4FunPpl' Love sexual attention, but in moderation. Sure there will be spurts here and there, but not to overdo it. In moderation?? No. I want some sexual attention everyday. Just because you tell someone they are gorgeous, or kiss them and touch them and or give them a hug, cuddle up on the lounge, etc, doesn't mean that it has to lead to sex. Right? Everyone would like to feel special and desired everyday. And why not?
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madotara69
10 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' Quoting 'LetusFrolic' Meh im just a waste of a soul and sex drive.. destined to wank and see assholes treat their girls like shit and feel pain for it and I would say that your attitude is a big part of your problem. The 'oh woe is me I'm such a nice guy not like all those other assholes why won't anybody love me' routine is not attractive at all, and it indicates an entitlement mentality and other things that would make many women very wary. Until you change your thinking and your attitude, you will struggle to find a woman that wants to be around you for an extended period of time, let alone for life as you are hoping for. I have read LetusFrolic comments as well and I will speak for myself and not for the many, that his attitude has been of befriending women and wanting to share and discover sexual desire and attractions, he wants to treat a woman with respect and equal her own person, his disappointment is of the judgemental attitudes of women, is precisely held up by such an inciting negative opinion. I get what he has been saying and live by many of his meanings and have no trouble with sharing it all with a woman over an extended period of time. Perhaps a man expressing affections to a woman hit's a nerve and an attitude accordingly. Mado Mado Tara xx
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freddyawsum' I guess women are more emotionally engaging creatures (not denying that men have feelings here) where men are more do it to produce an end result ... sort of, not well expressed.So women can 'feel' sexy in a nice dress and heels, getting attentive looks, where men dont get the same attention because women dont openly ogle, perhaps. They are more subtle.We all feel horny, and engage and do it in the end. But men are more dick centric. Men tend generally to be the aggressors, and women the responders, so women 'get' the attention so to speak.So in my experience I dont get the same attention I give to the fairer sex, and they acknowledge, most of the time that I work far harder in the bedroom than they do .. but it can vary obviously. Men crave sexual attention, all that posing and chest puffing swaggering and boasting etc (whatever) to gain a womans attention (read get into her knickers) but in a long term relationship the emphasis changes. The sexual attention desired becomes much more deeply and emotionally integrated.I would gain immense satisfaction from knowing I had pleased my woman, my needs came second. If I had been satisfied, and she hadn't, it was less satisfaction for me.However ... when faced with a 'lover' who doesn't care enough to give reciprocal attention, the emptiness of it becomes painfully obvious. But some hot RHP'ers are giving me some very fun happy moments .. just saying .. :) Freddy has nailed it for me.I can actually feel both sides of this topic. From the female feelings(to the best of my ability) to those that the male feels. I just cant put it into words properly. But yes the women put a lot of effort to be as sexy or desirable as they can, grooming and selecting outfits and shoes, hair and nails. (Fuck, it takes me 2 hours!)And they can see the result when their playmate undresses and is there with his hardness when the moment arrives and can feel him inside her, leaving her with a glow of satisfaction for a time after. And if the safe sex thing is forgotten for a moment for the sake of the arguement, the feeling of his cum inside her adds to that feeling of sexiness.For him, slap on a shirt and pants, clean fingernails hopefully and clean undies one would hope and out the door to meet.And I'm not down grading the wooing and the seducing etc and the wonderful feeling of foreplay and intimacy but once you come and withdraw, you experience the feeling of a job well done(hopefully) and a job finished for a while with satisfaction. That's my opinion it from where I sit. I know its generalising a bit and I may be a bit off the mark from the female perspective because I don't pretend to know all about you lot. It's just from my mind. So dont crucify me, I'm just trying to explain there is a big difference between what each gender experiences and for me, I can appreciate it to a fair degree.
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LetsFrolic
10 years ago
Meeka ☺ .. will look up that site.. im on the list for nbo parties.. ive been to swingers clubs.. you just feel like youre waiting in line as a single male unless its arrows.. then im meat thats stalked.. ill look up that site.. havent been invited to any meet n greet or parties off here.. most groups say no single men or they make you feel like absolute shit for safety unless youre an asshole.. since im not it just appears unfriendly to be honest. - Posted from rhpmobile
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lil_bit_rusty
10 years ago
... I think that (Warning: General assumption being made!) (Salutes General Assumption) describes most single, and a lot of attached, males (especially when you think of the hand tremors being in the vicinity of the groin area). Meeks I think that you answered all of your questions in the OP.Yes, yes and yes. Other than a one night stand/very short term/casual fling (even then you are wont to feel wanted, if only for the duration of the fling) any relationship based upon something other than mutual desire is, in my experience, doomed to failure.As soon as one side starts to feel undesired then it's call the Dr. to pronounce time of death. Tag it, bag it and attend the wake in hopes of hooking up like in Wedding Crashers. Sorry if that comes across as too negative, for anything less than a committed/long term relationship that's the way I see it. Dependent upon the time/emotion invested in said relationship then for sure, desire and attraction can be rekindled... sometimes. As for how I feel after I've been ravished in the bedroom...Well usually I'd be Bambi legged, a little unsure of what time of day/night it is, and I'd have a foolish grin that no amount of rubbing out... I mean, off... I mean... oh you get the picture, could get rid of. Okay, on to sexiness.There are Two kinds as I see it.1). The absence of sex sexiness.To me this is the most important one. The sexiness one feels (male or female) within themselves.Whether you think of this as "I'm feeling/looking good," or, "Daaaammmn! I look/feel good in these jeans/shirt/suit," doesn't matter. As long as YOU feel good and think you look good then it doesn't matter what others think of you. I'm a firm... believer, that if you feel good/feel that you look good then you'll find others that think you do too (and hopefully they'll like to feel you as well). I believe that sexiness is a state of mind and starts with the self. You need to feel sexy within yourself before others can find you sexy. There are exceptions and certainly one feels more sexy if others find them sexy. 2). The post coital glow sexiness (or semi hard, ready to go for round Two/Three/Four/More sexiness).So, post orgasm and feeling that I've given as much satisfaction as I've received, I'm likely to feel very sexy indeed... I mean, I've indulged in sexual activity with (hopefully) a mutual outcome... why wouldn't I feel sexy? (Drunken one nighters may or may not be the exception here of course... shame/remorse, not sexiness may be a common feeling... although, I have experienced some awesome drunken sex from time to time) I can definitely identify with the body glow Meeks, and the swaying/swaggering walk (or is that just due to the muscles screaming in protest at being used in an unaccustomed/unusual manner?), it certainly makes the miles travel faster on the walk home/to the bus stop/tax rank, not caring that you're wearing last nights rumpled/stained/torn clothing. And certainly... good sex breeds good sex. Having had it, you want it again. Cheers Rusty
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RHP User
8 years ago
At least a little attention. Men are just the same as women. If my partner isn't showing intetest then it makes me feel like shit that's for sure. If it were the guy not showing interest im sure his partner would Be thinking straight away he's cheating. (Just assuming) or maybe not. From personal experience I was with my partner for a very long time and when you get told to fuck off non stop when I tried to play around with her that's kinda the point of thinking about the relationship. Can only be told so many time until I did fuck off. After 6 years. She didn't like being told to fuck off when I didn't want sex. Which was very rarely And after I did eventually fuck off she was all over me. Can't win sometimes. If a women shows me some attention why wouldn't I be happy. - Posted from rhpmobile
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