Do men need chaperones?

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I have been to a few swings and did not know that rule applied. In WA I have not heard of it all . But over there, its a lot better, much more action going on and a lot more people. In WA the few I have been to , well it took so long for anything to go on that I ended up watching the tv. But in all fairness I am just a looky Lu But I think its because women are a tad worried about being left on their own, as so many guys will be coming up to you and asking you to play. Bit like RHP I guess, I woman in any couple gets all the attention. Also your right the green eyed monster is alive and well at swingers, especially if people have not thought it trough, or drink to much. Its implied that they go and do this together, that both people end up with what they want. or it would just be like a swingers for single people, where you shag who you want with no care for anyone else. even when women friends go as a group they tend to stick together and look out for each other. But its not a rule over here as far as I know. I know when I went with you guys, your lovely male friend kept his eye on me and made sure others never bothered me. Made my evening a lot more comfortable, knowing he was around.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Meeks as you are aware Sarah and I have been popping into swingers clubs for a wee while now :-p I love swingers clubs they can be both a melting pot of human behaviours for me to observe or a fun filled night of wild sex. Both give me joy but of late more so the observation of behaviour, it lasts longer. To cut to the chase here is several observations, some are isolated some are more common. I have seen men from couples leave there wives alone "out of play areas" with their wives drinking at the bar all evening with no intention of joining them - these chaps then sneak their way into a group scenario - "couples" on the whole (pardon the pun) get upset at this. I have watched a particular single guy bring prostitutes to clubs so they could get in (I know I know ...... I think it must be he likes "groups and couples) the prostitutes at times get involved but mostly not - yet another "cock" wandering around I have watched men bring females they have just met (yes I am stunned as well) and they enter he wanders of when she shows no interest and he sneaks in to group scenarios - pattern here. Guys in couples who mostly work on (yes I am being very primal here) on a barter system (oh this will win me friends) ie it's a swap! They don't want some one entering into a deal without popping something on the table. There are more but that will do for now As you know I know about women picking up women as Sarah does it all the time. For Sarah and I it's a kink thing. I love watching Sarah pick up another women. I have a voice and I use it were I wish but watching Sarah do her thing is a massive turn on to me. Now sometimes I will also play with that female but on other occasions I may simply watch or not ... On occasion I pick up someone by myself but it is rarely for me at least not nearly as much fun I think sadly guys have a habit of "trying" anything in the surrounds of a swing club scantily clad bodies sexy clothes the sound of thrusting and fucking ...... There are often times in fact several a night where Sarah moves and now slaps wandering hands away - even simply walking by ..... Yes they need to be chaperoned on most occasions Brae

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  are usually created in response to an incident or a series of incidents.....or perhaps the management are trying to ensure that there are not going to ever be any "'incidents" xx Q

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  gazpacho

  11 years ago

  Surely you can pick the single guys after an hour or so. They're the guys who use a means of entry, a couple of blokes, who park a couple of drunk bitches near the bar upstairs, you see them scurrying about, cock in hand, from scene to scene like a bird chasing nectar.... never with their "partner". Like Brae, I love watching how people behave. These guys are cheeky little monkeys trying to sneak a quick shag before the troop leader runs them off. Brae and I should do a David Attenborough style doco. Lol - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Imagine the alternative Meeka. A party where there were no limits to the solo men who could attend, and no restrictions on what they could do. I can imagine all sorts of things going wrong that could reduce safety for others and increase legal liability for the club. And I don't think it's just generalising. I think lots of people have had experiences - I know when I've been to clubs, men have frequently ignored various rules. A small example, if the door's closed you're not welcome to watch or join in, yet I've had men open the door and watch, and even walk in and start touching me. I've never had women do that - if the door's closed they stay out. If I was open to someone joining in, as I have been at times, I'd be in the orgy room instead, where it's (pretty much) a free for all. Rules help people know what to expect and know how to navigate different situations. And because people are different and want different experiences, good rules that are well respected mean there's something for everyone. I hate to say this because I think it sounds mean and it's a bit of a generalisation, but lots of men can't / don't / won't behave appropriately in club situations and I think the rules are there to manage that. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I haven't said anything about letting single men in.... just that couples are supposed play together and always be together. Isn't part of swinging having sex with other people?? So the answer is no, men can not be trusted to act appropriately on their own then? Isn't the fact that these men have a relationship enough of a reason to assume that they are decent guys who will act in a respectful manner...... until proven otherwise?

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I perhaps misunderstood your question :) But I think some of the others have answered it. Couple or not, it seems there are plenty of examples of men behaving in ways that are unwelcome at clubs. I don't actually care if men are single or in couples. I do care a lot about the way they - or anyone does - behave. Everyone has a different definition of common decency so it's up to clubs to define what common decency means at their venue. Like Ms Q said, the rules exist for a reason. If a club wants to offer more free-for-all experiences I'm sure plenty of people would go and love it. As long as they knew what was expected and allowed it would be fine, I'm sure. I think the issue is much less about men in couples and much more about men in general. I don't think arriving in a couple is a guarantee of a man's good behaviour and so I do understand why some venues say he needs to stay in the couple throughout the evening. Again, I hesitate to say it so bluntly as it makes me sound like a man-hater, which couldn't be further from the truth. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  gazpacho

  11 years ago

  Meeks, those clubs have these rules to make the women who attend feel comfortable enough to relax and enjoy themselves, and come back next week. Guys wandering about the place on their own..... you've seen it at other places, where mostly guys cruise around.... (Sleazy old guys for the most part hehe), and a woman walks in... suddenly there's a marching parade! It's difficult to feel relaxed in that format, yes? Besides, there's an image thing... a couple's only club without the couple's sticking together, so to speak, is not a couple's club. Right? Hugs Gazpacho - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I am imagining our Attenborough impersonations as we describe a "driven female about to mate with a single young buck that has wandered into the herd" And the list ....... Brae

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  Taby_DK

  11 years ago

  We attended Chateau Vino last night as part of a RHP event. It was a pretty busy night with about maybe 60 people in attendance including a few single girls and one or two single guys. At first I was very wary of the men in the club who were not with their partners or those who were single as I have heard all the 'warnings' from various people before. I just wanted to say that I was very impressed by manners and attitudes of not only the men in couples but also the single guys in attendance last night. I chatted in a friendly manner to quite a few men from couples last night and even a single guy and I did not once feel uncomfortable. I did not feel like they were talking to me simply because they wanted to play with me and I found myself having a good normal conversation with one or two of them without my partner around and the men in couples did not have their partners with them either. Now I would never play without my partners permission or without him being in the same room but the atmosphere last night was that relaxed that he felt comfortable leaving me to walk around the club without him and to have a dance and be social while he did the same. While we did spend most of the night together we did not stay together the whole night and the couples we were hanging out with where similar in that the girls and guys were free to wander the club, have a look around and generally have a good time without being glued to their partner for the entire night. I am unsure if this "sticking with your partner' things only happens at the bigger swingers clubs down the coast but there were no such rules at Chateau Vino last night. It was one of the best nights I have ever had in regards to swinging and I'm keen to head back there again soon.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'gazpacho51' Meeks, those clubs have these rules to make the women who attend feel comfortable enough to relax and enjoy themselves, and come back next week. Guys wandering about the place on their own..... you've seen it at other places, where mostly guys cruise around.... (Sleazy old guys for the most part hehe), and a woman walks in... suddenly there's a marching parade! It's difficult to feel relaxed in that format, yes? Besides, there's an image thing... a couple's only club without the couple's sticking together, so to speak, is not a couple's club. Right? Hugs Gazpacho - Posted from rhpmobile True, it isn't a comfortable atmosphere when you feel like the pied piper leading around a line of cocks. Although I kind of assume that married men wouldn't do that? I could be wrong though.

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