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Do men prefer a lady to be Sub or Dom?
April 09 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
women should be my equal....in life or in the bedroom....or interest just wanes..... i prefer a lady be a 'lady'....... and that no 'games' be played.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is equal not an option?
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MissSarahCurious
13 years ago
I agree with MrsTri, for one. A lot of men just don't play at D/s and don't care for for it at all.Secondly you also left out the possibility of Switches.Do you mean men who are heavily into D/s or those who just dabble? Either way, join a site like alt.com or CollarMe and you'll see there are fairly equal numbers on both sides.Or do you mean to gather a list of which men respond here as Doms or subs themselves?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I like women to be submissive when it comes to sex being the male half of this marriage.Mainly i like to find out what it is that truly turns a woman on in her mind and find out where her limits are then make/tell to do the things that she enjoys while gently taking her to her limits and seeing her Enjoy her self and that makes me enjoy myself.Seems a win win solution.
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lovman8
13 years ago
If the lady in question fucks, it really doesn't matter to most men, shallow non selective creatures we are
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DonnaBrett
13 years ago
It should be an equal thing..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Nope. I prefer her to be my lover.
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RHP User
13 years ago
...words that are conversationally ubiquitous in the realm of BDSM, that question is virtually impossible to answer as the dialog within the confines of that are very unclear. If you are speaking in broader terms...I can only say that I enjoy the company of a feminine woman that is comfortable in expressing all the diverse aspects of her sensual and sexual personality freely, this too will translate into how she chooses to uniquely define herself. | I doubt if too many men would argue if she just happend to jump up on top, pin their arms down and tell you they are about to take you for the ride of your life...and similarly I enjoy a perhaps modest soft laugh if I whisper something absolutely filthy in her ear. | Just be yourself...everyone else is taken.
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RHP User
13 years ago
there's no preference for me, i love both...... all depends what the mood is i guess.however the transition between sub and dom in the same love making session i find really sexy. the constant reversal of power, combined with words
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well, let me think about that one for a moment - Oh, had to read our name again and I realised I love submissive women - especially naughty ones like my wench who go out of their way to earn a spanking - lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have only ever been with sub women, I have nothing against Dom women just hasn't happened.Certainly open to the idea, to not be in charge might be really liberating.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
13 years ago
It must be equality all the way...in the bedroom and out of it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
From my own personal experience, most guys love a woman to take charge in the bedroom. Whether that be bending him over and fucking him, tying him up, of being on all fours and waggling her arse at him saying "Fuck me hard and pull my hair".
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RHP User
13 years ago
As the topic suggests, I prefer an equal, someone who challenges me and enjoys to be challenged. I know some guys prefer submissive types while others prefer dominant types, i've had both but have found the only thing that works long term for me is an equal.
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RHP User
13 years ago
seeing your going to get a different opinion from each and every different person personally i switch....it all depends on the person im with as to whether im Dom or Sub or Equal for the time im with him although i do think a lot of men like to think they are Doms....they just dont realise the woman has control because most of them dont know what they are doing when it comes to D/s play Hugs
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'coodi_yowie' there's no preference for me, i love both...... all depends what the mood is i guess.however the transition between sub and dom in the same love making session i find really sexy. the constant reversal of power, combined with words um ... yum!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
depends on who i'm with and the mood we're in. And sometimes, when we're feel particularly kinky, we just fuck and don't worry about who's dominating who... oh the shame of it! I can't beleive I just admitted that
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RHP User
13 years ago
Felonius,that was shameless,ya wanna be tied up...we can make that happen..x Hugs H
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RHP User
13 years ago
If we are talking BDSM then it is important to find out what your lady friend is into before grabbing a flogger and getting stuck into it. As a female dominant I have played with male dominants with no complaints. Just like anything that goes on in the BDSM world, you lay out the ground rules first and everyone is happy.If we are talking vanilla then it is mostly irrelevant. I wouldn't call a sexually confident woman dominant because she is able to tell the guy what she likes and how she likes it, however, I know that some people may think of her in that regard. Same for a woman who allows a guy to take charge in the bedroom. I wouldn't be too quick to label her as a submissive.
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RHP User
13 years ago
For the most part I like to be in charge, but on occasions I like the woman to take control too. Bit of variety ... which is the spice of life, right? Anyway, the important thing is both parties enjoy the experience.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am Dom so obviously the answer to your question for Me is I prefer somone sexually submissive. I specify SEXUALLY submissive because over many years I have noticed that often sexually submissive girls are very organised, focussed and IN CONTROL in their day to day lives, often being in positions of high stress and responsibility...to many of these ladies it has been a source of great relief to let someone else take control sexually. Whilst I am generalising, often it is the case that for her, finding a sexual partner who understands her needs and respects the incredible gift of her submission, has spin off effects in that it gives her life balance and harmony and enables her to cope with the demands of a hectic life. A good Dom or Domme of course, therefore understands, respects and appreciates that she needs a strong, guiding hand sexually so that she can cast off the shackles of her responsibilites and put her sexual needs in the hands of someone she Trusts. Interestingly, when it happens, it is the most natural thing in the world and it begs the question...who actually has the power in a relationship like this ? I will leave that to far greater intellects than Mine to answer. Thank you for the thoguht provoking topic vix. RR.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'lil_bit_angelic' Quoting 'coodi_yowie' there's no preference for me, i love both...... all depends what the mood is i guess.however the transition between sub and dom in the same love making session i find really sexy. the constant reversal of power, combined with words um ... yum!!! haha, it's a recent discovery..... geez, where have i been all these years... with the wrong people obviously!! i've found a good teacher, and i'm the pupil..... shit, i guess that makes me submissive then?!......but i do like to throw her over the school desk and give her the what for too!'where's that cane'...... now, who's been a VERY naughty teacher!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Rough_Rider4u' I am Dom so obviously the answer to your question for Me is I prefer somone sexually submissive. I specify SEXUALLY submissive because over many years I have noticed that often sexually submissive girls are very organised, focussed and IN CONTROL in their day to day lives, often being in positions of high stress and responsibility...to many of these ladies it has been a source of great relief to let someone else take control sexually. Whilst I am generalising, often it is the case that for her, finding a sexual partner who understands her needs and respects the incredible gift of her submission, has spin off effects in that it gives her life balance and harmony and enables her to cope with the demands of a hectic life. A good Dom or Domme of course, therefore understands, respects and appreciates that she needs a strong, guiding hand sexually so that she can cast off the shackles of her responsibilites and put her sexual needs in the hands of someone she Trusts. Interestingly, when it happens, it is the most natural thing in the world and it begs the question...who actually has the power in a relationship like this ? I will leave that to far greater intellects than Mine to answer. Thank you for the thoguht provoking topic vix. RR. What a profile you have! Not my thing, but I can soooo see how it could be someone's thing. Very, very enticing words ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'coodi_yowie' Quoting 'lil_bit_angelic' Quoting 'coodi_yowie' there's no preference for me, i love both...... all depends what the mood is i guess.however the transition between sub and dom in the same love making session i find really sexy. the constant reversal of power, combined with words um ... yum!!! haha, it's a recent discovery..... geez, where have i been all these years... with the wrong people obviously!! i've found a good teacher, and i'm the pupil..... shit, i guess that makes me submissive then?!......but i do like to throw her over the school desk and give her the what for too!'where's that cane'...... now, who's been a VERY naughty teacher!! Why do I suddenly feel like I've been standing outside your bedroom window watching something I shouldn't have been ??? :P
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RHP User
13 years ago
So much for trying to keep a low profile...! shhhhh pinky !!
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RHP User
13 years ago
a lady should be both but should also know when it is the right time to be one or the other same as a man should know when he needs to take control and when to sit back shut up and enjoy the ride
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RHP User
13 years ago
Its all up to the people involved in my experience most women want a man in charge not a indecisive inept sparrow ( cums in two -10 mins ) type of man if that's what you want to call a man . Treat your lady with respect in all other aspects of life in the fuck treat them like a portion of meat and don't only think of your self and she will love you for ever ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Rough_Rider4u' So much for trying to keep a low profile...! shhhhh pinky !! As if that chest could EVER keep a low profile!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Vixen Vixen Vixen ........This is the wrong spot to talk about this !!!! LOL ............ I would say to you that most good folk here and I mean it dont get the whole role play Dom / sub play. They see it as derogatory and as putting one or the other sex down and dont get the underlieing play themes etc etc. .Chasing did you just crap out a thesaurus ???? LOL ....... yes I meant it to sound just like that cowboy !.Try Fetlife for this stuff much warmer audience..Brae
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RHP User
13 years ago
two of my favorite people mentioning two of my favorite things flogger and fetlife mmmmmm Hugs
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RHP User
13 years ago
Switch for sure!!! Best of both worlds:)
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RHP User
13 years ago
We all have to be neither and both.
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RHP User
13 years ago
would love to be dominated by a lady... Anyone
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RHP User
13 years ago
its just fun to be the boss
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Madame_Sex' its just fun to be the boss Absolutely!
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ruby_blossum
13 years ago
Ahhhh....slowly but surely the forums begin to revert....If I was ever going to consider a sub lifestyle, it would be a Rough_Rider.......Nice to see that chest again
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RHP User
13 years ago
ive worked as a bdsm mistress and from statistic speaking men seeking transvestites is very popular and women to dominate and or humiliate them is the next most popular if yr not into into transvestites also anal is another
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RHP User
13 years ago
just so i dont get questioned re my first comment ive been in the bdsm scene for many many years i started of as a sub then switched to findi could no longer enjoy being a sub so now im a mistress this is in role play of course but in my personal sex life im a switch deff not to submissive but not extremely dominant though more dominant than sub lol again i lean more towards the dominant side i love to please but i also love to tease again in role paly im a mistress i do not enjoy being the sub at all as its a completely diff scene than vanilla sex in fact theres no alot of sex as such its so much more than that most dont understand what bdsm is due to negative views and judgemental people fun bdsm to those who really have no idea about it or just like to blind fold the lover dont confuse it with a true sub willing to do anything to please his her domina or the domina willing to bring the best out of there sub we all are unique in our rolls but sumular in our beliefs there are sites u can join and meets and groups that are people that r serious about there roles whatever it is in the kink world im not living a 24/7 bdsm life unlike some of my friends but bdsm is never far from my thoughts if u knew how many submissive men are out there seeking a mistress u would b suprised and i guess its easier for women tha men and so it should b we deserve at leas tthat lol
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rough_love
13 years ago
they can be either... doesn't bother mebut either way they will submit wether they like it or not (They always like it)
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chevtrek
13 years ago
I like being the DOM but have no problems leting her play that role
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RHP User
13 years ago
Depends on my mood and the lady friends mood I am with.I love nothing more than being forced into submission and having a lady take charge teasing, playing and being in charge. On the flip side I like the power involved.As she walks in the door there is a note telling her to go straight to the room, undress and put on what ever clothing I have laid out. She may see me or maybe not. As she comes out of the room I will be waiting. Maybe she will have a glimpse of what I have prepared but then again I am pretty quick at putting a blindfold on ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'd much prefer a woman to be who she is when it comes to this kind of power dynamic during sex. Whether she's a sub, dom, switch or something else. I'd be much more engrossed in the sexual experience if she was being authentic to herself than if she were performing in a role I couldn't believe. As Shakespeare quipped, to thine own self be true.
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RHP User
13 years ago
im the female here and the sub, my husband loves to be dominant and his reasons are exactly what you say lovingCouple1, it has nothing to do with being in control, we have tried to swap places a couple of times but cant seem to do so without laughing our heads off, we always end our session with our preferred roles, i love being the sub because i love it when my husband explores my body and learns how i can be pleased and stimulated in all my spots especially my Gspot, he has learnt how to give me multi orgasms,
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RHP User
13 years ago
I prefer women that are sexual dominate when seducing me. Think it stems from most of my lovers have taking me they way they wanted too--and i'm happiest when they can be who they are. It's why I prefer/like sexual honesty, its the only time people cant judge you for what you want and like--though I do like when given the nods to do the little things that every man shouldnt have have to be asked to do, (act like a hungry brutish cave man that can't get enough). Then again, there's something to be said about being the teacher-scolding the student/lover for soaking her knickers in class once again. Gold stars for the brave.
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RHP User
13 years ago
driverrtd is a dom but i missfi want to try domme so we are looking for a submissive woman to join us
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RHP User
13 years ago
Versatilty comes to mind, what happened to surprise and change,that is the journey of any sexuall relationship. Most people on here have been in a relationship before,a 1 way street,hence why we are here enjoying whatever the journey may be. Switch woo hoo! I find it more of a turnon when there are no expectations and people go with the flow. Of course everyone has boundaries but never say never!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sexy fun is just what it is ????Why feel guilty about it ???It is just being a human being ?Enjoy your existence ......Fulfill your life !This is magnificent !Life is beautiful !!Nicky XX
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RHP User
13 years ago
for me there is no better feeling than to have a dominant woman use me how she pleases!! i do anything to make her happy and let her do what she likes!! love to please a woman they way they deserve to be! i think women are the superior sex
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RHP User
13 years ago
role play and certain times during a cexual session one partner or the other will be more in charge of whats happening. I'm the most happiest with a equal who gives and takes jsut the same as me.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Dom all the way ... not so much as a second thought....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Although that's been my experience, and I've been thinking more about the lady being the domme which I guess is partly why I've come on here!
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RHP User
13 years ago
...but I feel as though this good topic is being railroaded. Its knot all about Me ladies ! (fans self - whew!) Lots of vanilla type answers to this question and thats fine. I like slippery halo's paraphrase "to thine own self be true" and for me as a Dom, that resonates because sexually I can act a role, act normal even if there is such a thing, but I would be less than true to myself if I wasnt Dominant in the bedroom most of the time...its what I am, its what I do and I wouldnt change it for the world... Someone above said previously that "they will submit whether they like it or not"...I see that as very dangerous territory...there is a thing called consensual nonconsent...anything less than that may be consideed as unconsenting...perhaps that gentleman would rephrase that statement so as knot to sound like he is taking something that does knot belong to him ? it gives people the wrong idea and stereotypes a Dom as uncaring and inconsiderate when a good Dom is the very antithesis of this. Of course, bravado is very much a part of roleplay and perhaps that is what was meant...I would just hate to think that people reading that would think that that is the attitude taken by all Dominant males. We are rational human beings after all...knot cave Men. lol RR.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'rough_love'they can be either... doesn't bother me but either way they will submit wether they like it or not (They always like it) i would soooo take on that challange....believe me...i Dont Ever Lose!!!! Hugs
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Rough_Rider4u'Someone above said previously that "they will submit whether they like it or not"...I see that as very dangerous territory...there is a thing called consensual nonconsent...anything less than that may be consideed as unconsenting... Of course, bravado is very much a part of roleplay and perhaps that is what was meant...I would just hate to think that people reading that would think that that is the attitude taken by all Dominant males. We are rational human beings after all...knot cave Men. lol RR. I have to agree I have met subbies that have "submitted" no rules, no prep, no safety ......and no they had not intended to submit. At the time it to me appeared just like non consensual sex. Somehow sadly this person convinced themselves that this was all OK and it was all part of the game. Which appeared to me a way of protecting herself. I have met another whom passed out from being flogged, despite asking for it to stop (NO safety initiated) only to awake with the Dom freaking out in a panic above them. He had assured her it would be ok and his experience allowed him to know her limits ..... There of course are varying degrees and ideas of Dom/sub play however I often wonder if this is more the uninitiated and those who are relativley new to this style of play ( for some lifestyle ). Those that I have admired and learnt from never allowed themselves to be unprepared in this way. Submission is a gift. I have always thought of gifts being given not taken. Brae
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RHP User
13 years ago
Great question, with quite diverse answers..as you expect! But for this guy, equality is key...it is certainly nice to be tied up...and then return the adventure?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am just starting to get into this and I'm doing all the research I can. I want to know that when I submit it's right for both parties. There are a lot of guys that want to tell you what they want to do but no concern for safety or the care for their sub. So I keep searching.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I so love the way you put. As someone starting on this journey to find the right Dom. I have an extremely busy and focused life. I too see submission as a gift to the person who will never mistreat that gift.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just read this thread back - sorry thought it was the guys status - so I change mine to sub - women are much better as subs.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Okay, i'll admit i probably should have clarified this a little better in my opening line... Basically i'm not really talking about BDSM, though rather just your typical 'take charge' element that you get in the bedroom. Looks as though as i suspected, most men like a submissive girl
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RHP User
13 years ago
You might be surprised
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RHP User
13 years ago
...when she finds out that more than 60% of men like a woman to take charge in the bedroom.Now if only I could find the statistics on how many like a woman to take to them with a strapon!
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RHP User
13 years ago
way to much fun to be had...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Rough Rider.......When are you giving lessons? doms take a leaf out of RR's book and become Doms ..... how i wish!
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Cat505
13 years ago
It depends on my mood and what fantasies have been running around in my head...lol Now where did I put the whip and exotic man catching net..? Anyone seen where I left my man size hand cuffs.?
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Playful2looking
13 years ago
Most submissives are strong, powerful people in real life. This is only a game, something to have fun with. I totally agree with this comment as I wonder who is really in charge the sub or the dom. I do find some ladies want to be pleased and arent very good at taking the lead.they just lay there and it gets a little boring. not all just some. I do like it when a women get's horny and humps your leg rubs herself against you while you are trying to cook dinner or fix your motor bike.. thats so cool
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RHP User
13 years ago
Most submissives are strong, powerful people in real life. This is only a game, something to have fun with. An intense game but a game none the less. It takes an extremely strong person to give the gift of submission when it's earned. Wow how true your words are kinkisthenewpink. I know I am a very strong woman mentally and that can turn many guys of, but to true your words are that in the bedroom I don't play sub, I am sub. Giving the different situations though, I can turn it around just like that with a blink of the eye. My ex hubby was never going to get a spanking until after our marriage we had one last session. I was truely the dom one in that one time. He got spanked 50 times each cheek and loved it. If it is done right to begin with and you truely love and trust your partner, everything goes. Happy days
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RHP User
13 years ago
At least in my experience...in my senior exec positions I had the CEO hanging off ny every word and a few male board members coming into my office to be told off... It was around about then I found put i was mostly dominant in bed too... And dominant I have remained until one dom managed to switch me.. lots of guys on here were asking me to domme them before my profile really started to demonstrate that leaning...and now I habe really embraced it, I am really having fun. So I am submissive with my dom, but he is the only dom I have submitted to or likely will. I like sex most when its equal, and I am not given to lying back and " thinking of England" it also depends on the guy, if he is more submissive I take complete control, if he is more alpha I can relax a little more... So what he likes and is like tends to be a larger part of how I am with him. And as for being forced to submit... Ain't going to happen...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Buzz me
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RHP User
12 years ago
I like a woman who can do both, my girlfriend is a great example of this... she is quite strong for a woman and makes a great dom but she also makes a very sexy slave. =D
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RHP User
12 years ago
i see a lot of the word "should" in these comments and wot i think is that you "should" be who you are. sweetbit hits the nail on the head. In the bedroom I don't play sub, I am sub.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Absolutely agree...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Agree with coodi_yowie is what I meant to say...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Easy...both.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well, i am, by and by (or bi, tehe), sub all the way when it comes to being in the bedroom... or any other area of the house, or car or... eh you get my point!But, as i am getting older i am discovering this wonderfully bratty side of myself. When in a D/s situation my bratty self plays nice but in a vanilla situation, i tend to be the one making the calls. i know what i like, and if the guy is going to be quiet about what he wants then i'm just going to take it, he can just be my toy for the night. LOL.i think the question, using the terms sub and Dom is a little vague as to whether you mean in a D/s scene or a vanilla scene and just who takes charge. There is a big difference in my mind.i think kinkisthenewpink nailed in on the head ' It takes an extremely strong person to give the gift of submission when it's earned.'
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RHP User
12 years ago
Definitely depending on whom has the greatest urges at the time! If i feel like peeling a woman to pieces that i want and desiree at that time it should be fine! And I expect the same in return otherwise there is no reciprocating passion and the dominant one feels unwanted! At the end of the day were all just animals!
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RHP User
12 years ago
As has been mentioned "variety is the spice of life" in turns or in the same session, it's all good !
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RHP User
12 years ago
definitely prefer them to be sub. nothing like putting them over your knee and spanking them for disobeying you
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RHP User
12 years ago
That "the Subs really is the Dom in a way", "she lets you take her, she lets you have her because she knows what it does for you and she get off on that power transferred". Any lover I've had lets me be the man when she wants, and takes what she wants when she wants it and hard to measure whos winning and whos losing but because we are all winning by then. It would be a really bad lay (that I'm sure we've all had at some time), if they just laid there like a bump on a log and didn't give as well as they got.But it's just one mans opinion: Personally I like to see the sexually honest woman 100% of the time, be it the demure (Sub) lady that gets off on being pinned and told what to do and what to say, or the sex (Dom) vixen that knows how to take charge and doesn't let up. Yahhaaaa!
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Playful2looking
12 years ago
Well It depends entirely on the person I am making out with. How we relate to each other some ladies like to be treated as daddy's little girl; spoilt and loved others want raw rough animal sex. for a lady to be a dom they need to have confidance in themsleves sexually; different from being confident in their daily lives. A man who spends all day telling other people what to do may want to be dominated by a mistress to relieve him of the stress or power.There has to be Trust in that person if you are a sub.Sex play does not have to be related to your normal life. most women enjoy being a play sub when they trust the person. I think the person who seeks to be dominated all the time confusses it with love.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Being a Dominate woman (name says it all right?) I have met men that prefer their woman to be submissive or dominate to them. It is hard to find one that will be submissive though. Some men will do any thing to get their rocks off but when you bring out the paddle and ask "who's been a bad boy?" its amusing to watch their faces drop. I have been married, am currently separated. I have lived both life styles and the "vanilla" style just didn't feel right for me, what can I say, I love telling men what to do and how to do it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
What if I just start laughing... Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
12 years ago
Felonius if you started to laugh at me with that question I'd have to make sure your ass got paddled till it was red and you stopped laughing. Just saying dear
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RHP User
12 years ago
personally i will never date a sub male im assertive in bed and confident so a sub man will only bring my dom out of me and then i am a mean lover who gets selfish i dated a submissive guy once never again ended up demanding all sex acts and didnt give much in return i hated myself for it so i will never go there again i need a equal who can challenge me i could never date a extremely dom man either though who only likes to dom literally there is a fine line a man can still love his ass fuked without being submissive ive been a sub and a switch then a mistress which i prefer if i had a choice id b the mistress in role play only as i get to do things to u not u do things to me lol i do like been taken etc and a bit of aggression sometimes with the right lover but i do love intimacy up close and personal erotica passionate all night kissing touching fun and openess i can b intense in bed i hope that all makes sense i like my men manly strong assertive confident but loving intimate touchy feely passionate with a bit of dirtiness on there mind deff have to opppppen minded because i swim in the ocean not in a paddle pool in bed i get told im intimidating sexually sometimes but its generally by men who arent use to a woman who knows what she wants how she wants it and asks for it without a worry and then turns around and shows u some nice treats being a mistress in the past men seem to prefer strong women or wome not afraid to take control but then as ive read on others views it depends on the person mood etc it would b more equal maybe but ther seems to b more dom women these days than before maybe they r just coming out now they use to b called cuckholds butch etc the men pussy whipped and mumma boys now its diff this is my view each to there own
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
There is nothing better then being dominated by a man who knows what he is doing n does it well! But it also fun to be the Dom for the female and have the man your sub!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I love pleasing my partner, so the idea of being a dominant in the bedroom, um, I just cant get my head around how to play it out. I have been asked to dominate soooo many guys off RHP, and yes it is actually something I am looking into. I love the whole psychological aspect of it, but again it always comes down to me having my walls up. That's not how I am in the bedroom, where I am relaxed and let go. So it begs the question...how should I "play" as a mistress when my real bedroom self is someone who is lively, laughing and cheeky... doesnt sound very mistressy. Further, I havent dominated any guys, cos most JUST DONT GET IT. I find most guys who want to be dominated, are just selfish and pushy and a complete turnoff. Guys and chicks come across as pain sluts, they think whoever can take the most whipping is the toughest of the tough. They dont get the pychology of d/s. Time wasters. BUT I have just found one guy, who I am yet to play with. He has made me feel very feminine, with his respectful, patient attitude, who has not requested anything of me other than he wants me to be his mistress (in a nutshell). Ladies, I can tell you, he has my head spinning, in a good way. To be able to see myself as a feminine, almost vulnerable, mistress, but to also see myself taking that vulnerability to the next level where discipline and instruction is just an extension of the relationship.. hehe firm but fair. Fuck Im squirming in my seat just writing this!!!I have learnt to embrace the inner slut over the last couple of years, now its time to embrace the dark side.Rule 101 of d/s... Sub always has the power, and a master/mistress dom/domme should always feel so privileged to receive the total trust in you, the total submission of the sub. It is a gift.Interesting question OP, I like how it evolved from what you were asking to a discussion on peoples interest in bdsm. Haha, one mans meat is another mans poison. Everyone has their own perception of what kink is, what submission is, so if a guy is asking me dominate them and they really just want to be tied the bedhead with fluffy handcuffs and tickled with feathers, hehe with me, if they ask me to dominate them, they are in for a shock when they find I have removed the fluffy from the handcuffs and my tickly feathers are a riding crop or flogger whilst wearing my 6 inch thigh highs....
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RHP User
12 years ago
I like the best of both worlds..As they both have a great attraction and very enjoyable..
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