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Do men think they are wild in bed?
April 14 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Or should I say we are not "sexually compatible" instead?
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
I don't. :D - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm often left in awe when I see what a woman with more experience on the kink side has done. I just stand back and say well I take my hat off to you....there's no way I can show you something different hahaha.
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RHP User
11 years ago
DG, I am not talking about someone haggling. I am talking about guys that are genuinely put out or surprised that a woman would say they are not kinky enough.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I've told some men they weren't tall/single/non-smoking/compatible etc. enough for me, they wrote back trying to convince me how wrong I was. Actually, much more than some. I've learned to say they're just not who I'm looking for, as the groin wants what the groin wants. Even then there are those who try to tell me they are much better in person and will give me multiple orgasms...
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' DG, I am not talking about someone haggling. I am talking about guys that are genuinely put out or surprised that a woman would say they are not kinky enough. Not many women would shyly open the door to a horny bloke, rearing a whooping strap on, have a cage full of tangled bi men, walls in blackboard paint with sketches of all types of debauchery, and three hundred computer monitors covering the forum kink and fetish topics.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' DG, I am not talking about someone haggling. I am talking about guys that are genuinely put out or surprised that a woman would say they are not kinky enough. So when theyre "put out"... they'll respond in one of three ways...... * Silence/acceptance* abusing indignation for their rejection (its your loss/ screw you/youre probably a lesbian anyway) etc* defensive haggling and overselling of their god given abilities and why they should be considered. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Exactly.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just don't like being rejected....they can't believe that you wouldn't wanna bonk em...strappy and all:-) xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sometimes DG. But often I really think the guy is really taken a back by it. They seem to think because they are into anal, and maybe smear their lovers in chocolate every now and then, or blind fold them, and do it doggy style while giving them a little spank, that this makes them really kinky. So the response has been not one of silence, nor of abuse, and hasn't really been one about overselling their abilities........ as I don't see someone as being kinky having anything to do with abilities. I think it is maybe that men are more used to being the kinky one........... not the sweet feminine little shy girl that I am.
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madotara69
11 years ago
That may have sounded a little unnecessary....** three hundred computer monitors covering the forum kink and fetish topics, every site on the planet.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hey, I have had first dates where the guys have sat and stared at me like bambi in the headlights. And I swear I only spoke like that because I assumed that they knew what I was like from the forums. But hey, obviously talking about anal sex over a coffee is considered weird or something.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meander, no it isn't that they are trying to convince I have made a mistake. It is more like they are offended that I would even make the suggestion.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Do men think they are wild in bed? I'd say most would believe they are, but whether that's the case...lol. Depends if their ego has been fed. In my case I've come to find that the shy quiet girls put the ones that try hard and flaunt it to shame. So in terms of predictability...its not always what you see is what you get. If you told me you didn't think I was...well that's your choice. Yes I'd try to change your mind at first seeing that the guy would be interested in you and to prove otherwise, but I'd take it on the chin. That's just how it goes... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
But men know what their capabilities are or at least how far they are willing to go and understand there maybe others that will go further. There's a very good reason why I've never contacted you, Meeka, in an attempt to get you naked. Bloody scary woman.;)
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I believe it is more of a case of gobsmacked! I seriously don't think some men like to hear a woman talk about her kinks so openly. Just recently on a first meet and greet, the man actually called be a player because I talked about different things, had knowledge and secretly I think it threw him off line. I don't think he expected me to say some of the things I said. I asked him why he thought I was a player...his reply "you know so much, I have never met a woman who can openly talk" I replied "well I have to thank the forums and the players I have met, they are the ones who have taught me all the things I know and plus I don't play with peoples emotions to get a root"...I don't think he expected that answer either. We also talked about kinks etc...his eyes just grew and grew and grew...and here I was thinking I was vanilla. Meh - decided after that, not going there. So from that example ,I don't think some men like it and want to have more control over the conversations or situations.. You know the cave man thing... Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
The only problem I can see I'd have is not knowing what level of kink we're talking about. If you ask to s@#t in my eyeball then would happily accept not kinky enough for you. For me I haven't got a problem with someone being a bit too much for me. I think I'd be more interested in what kink-level I was assumed to be.
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
I've said somewhere before i thought i was kinky until i found myself with a really debaucherous girl. I think all guys do until they've been outclassed the first time, only then do they learn to reign it in and accept that they might not be god's gift to kink. I know I'm not, but i would be in denial if i hadn't had that experience and would probably argue the point too. In fact i think i did until she opened my eyes.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The only thing to remember about caveman style, is trying to remember to drag them by their hair. Dragging them by their feet only makes their bits fill with sand!!!!! ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I wish for someone to speak on my behalf, I'll vote for someone. Until then.... "Every guy" is NOT I!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Hey, I have had first dates where the guys have sat and stared at me like bambi in the headlights. And I swear I only spoke like that because I assumed that they knew what I was like from the forums. Same here, I've certainly scared off a gent or two. Quoting 'Meeka100' Meander, no it isn't that they are trying to convince I have made a mistake. It is more like they are offended that I would even make the suggestion. Gotcha. But that has gotten me the "oh really, I bet you haven't tried..." response. Which usually makes me think "You have nooo idea."I'm as innocent as you Meeka, really I am.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think it's about the ego. The bigger the ego the better and the wilder they think they are. For me I know I have not done half the the stuff that some of the girls on here have done. Yet I consider myself a good in bed. I guess it depends on the definition on wild too. I would say adventurous, open and willing to please is wild but that's just me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
Are you aware of just how many men, have mentioned how afraid of you they are over the years? What 3 or four a week, fair to say? Not to mention all the men that have begged you as well, but there must be something riveting for that to have come about. So why would you think it would be any different to some unsuspecting bloke who so innocently, clicks on your profile? Is it the.... Dreams of ordinary men ? One must ask! sincerely There is an essence in the water There is a spirit in the sky There is a spider drawing webs To crucify a fly The fly is drawing nearer Just as if he knew How we all must fit the pattern (strap on) How the pattern must fit you (strap on) Everybody say amen These are the dreams of ordinary men This is the world that we are living in
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RHP User
11 years ago
Who knew you was so easily moved to tears....hugs to you xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
I read Mr.Circus's post as very tongue in cheek....it's good to have some new blood here.....xx Q for Gladiators are Us
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover71' But men know what their capabilities are or at least how far they are willing to go and understand there maybe others that will go further. There's a very good reason why I've never contacted you, Meeka, in an attempt to get you naked. Bloody scary woman.;) Run Fun, very fast :P
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madotara69
11 years ago
feeling a little jealous, but I know it is an insecurity, but I don't care Miss Q, I want you all too myself. Hey circus ( intimidation look)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meeka Report Abuse | Reply with Quote | Reply Reply Post Meeka100 Woman 43yrs X Hey, I have had first dates where the guys have sat and stared at me like bambi in the headlights. And I swear I only spoke like that because I assumed that they knew what I was like from the forums. But hey, obviously talking about anal sex over a coffee is considered weird or something. Maybe you could be more subtle like gently lick and finger a chocolate donut. More importantly how do you get the quote function to work on these forums ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
That was a balls up
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think it's different with each lover ? Being true to ones self of compatibility will show the degree of how kinky each person is? I've had lovers that felt very comfy with them selfs n me and as a desult the kinky sides of each if us just blossomed into mmm fuk yeh:)) then some that had self issues with comfort struggled to be open to there truest desires ?? It's more about a connection that develops into pure lust rather then hey lets fuk n can i do this n that ??
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RHP User
11 years ago
You know that you are the only man who appreciates my little paddle...:-) :-) xxQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lmao fella your a classic in your writing skills :)) wld love to have a drink with you some time but I doubt I'd drink at all I think I'd be cracking up to much lol... You and your sexy bride are always a delight to read :))
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'bradjm63' That was a balls up See where it mentions "Reply with Quote", take your thingy up to it and click your clicker on it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think a lot of men may not put their kinks here, as it may frighten away the vanilla girls.Its hard enough as it is to crack on to a woman without putting in your profile things like hi baby I love a girl to crap on the glass coffee table, while we sip or chardonnay.come to my place I have a purpose built dungeon that I might like to slice of some of your skin a sliver at a time. I hope to meet a girl that loves my mother as much as I do. I work at the rspca, and see my x girlfriends there eating pal in stead of licking my cock but hey I get to take them out still. It would be RHP suicide to put all your cards out there in one hit. So the kinky boys are there, they just hide it like the sweet little catholic Italian girls. as Alfred Hitchcock once said once you get those very prim English women naked they are a force to be reckoned with.never judge a RHP person by their RHP cover. I know I have met a few of those kinky bi boys who come across like butter would not melt in their mouth. LadyT the a lady in the street and whore in the sheets, make those very vanilla sheets. com on meeks, let those boys at least try to measure up to that strap on experience
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Warning69' Lmao fella your a classic in your writing skills :)) wld love to have a drink with you some time but I doubt I'd drink at all I think I'd be cracking up to much lol... You and your sexy bride are always a delight to read :)) are heading to old Sydney town in July and Mando and Tara and anyone else should come say hi. But stay away from the fricking mini BAR...bankcard nearly melted last time I was in Sydney lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
guys may be interpreting what you say negatively. You may say "you aren't *kinky enough* for me in bed..." The guy might be hearing/interpreting: "you aren't *good enough* in bed..." I think that it is more about sexual compatibility.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Who's going to give away all their secrets on here I'd rather have the lady think she's corrupting me :)
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horny68z
11 years ago
Of course we do we are led by our little head not our big head we should engage our brain first not our dicks
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madotara69
11 years ago
Lady Tunksen
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PL1963
11 years ago
You are spot on, I removed a lot of my fetishes, some ladies come on here thinking it is a "dating site" and instantly block. Not good for a guy's confidence. Only thing I don't do is feacies, nothing I've read on here has surprised me, the fact that you ladies discuss your fetishes is great, it gives us guys an insight into the female mind. I meet for drinks last week with a couple and the chick is very straight forward about what she likes and expects of the 2nd male, great. Cheers Paul.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe they feel they haven't had a chance to reveal their true selves. Why would you lay all your cards on the table because let's face it, everyone is judgemental and some of the really kinky stuff can only be done with someone you really trust. But you have have a good radar for it, but saying you aren't kinky enough is almost like a challenge and they respond in a way you'd expect, trying to prove they are. Perhaps better to say nothing or just not interested, but then you may enjoy watching them put up their peacock feathers to try and prove they are the ones you should mate with! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yep just clicked on that No quote Maybe its a tablet thing
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RHP User
11 years ago
My true disease and protector' rare??! Shit yeah,
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RHP User
11 years ago
My point of says yes it is - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
In reality all men would like to think they fuck like porn stars, but in truth. Most men are far less sexually advanced then women. For starts men feel as if it is homosexual to chat to each other, emotionally they are in capable, yeah they might say oh gee I had a good root ( bloke to bloke term maybe). But the conversation ends there, I would say 10%men would make love to perhaps 60% of women :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
While there is some truth to generalisations and stereotypes, that's all they are. They do not define each individuals psychology or actions.I changed my profile a bit cause while I do have a bit of a kinky side, I also want a girl who is also a sweetheart.Everything is retaliative to ones perspective, I couldn't care less where I rate on a scale of kink as long as I find a girl whowho is compatible with what I'm looking for. It works both ways and I think is a mistake to label all men or all women.I've gotten some similar responses from women on here, It doesn't mean I'm going to label all of them.The diversity of different women's personalities is the reason I haven't closed my account.
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RHP User
11 years ago
So from now On I will say, I don't think we have any kinks in common. Or something like that. Obviously saying you are not kinking enough for me is seen as a challenge or that I am implying they are not good in bed. Which is not my intention at all. I suppose any male with straight as their sexual orientation isn't really of interest to me at the moment.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I guess the best easiest way is let em have it in dot point form all the nasty depraved stuff u might be into. If they don't like the sound of it then they would be a little foolish to still say yes. Especially when they turn up for a night of fun and you are all dressed up with whips and chains ready and rocking to go.....might be a bit of a buzzkill for them. If that discussion comes up with a girl im potentially meeting I prefer to be upfront about what I like and dislike and I expect the same. If a common ground can be found to satisy both, all good. if not then not a great deal of point being upset because u have different sexual interests :P :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meeka, unfortunately all guys think they are wild in bed, it's part of their ego. If you say anything less they will get offended and defensive. What most guys need to do is learn about sex not just think they know it all straight away. There is so much more to good sex than just jumping on and wriggling around for a few minutes. If you want amazing sex then you have to spend time building a foundation for that to occur. So sorry guys that one night stand is not going to blow her mind. I'm afraid for now you are just going to have to keep filtering through the guys contacting you and offending some of them. There are some very kinky and attentive guys out there, you just have to find us and please don't judge us by our covers as we're not all Kelvin Klein models. - Posted from rhpmobile
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tamworthguy46
11 years ago
I Only rely remember one time being on a lower level of kink with a woman, I had only just started exploring Adult dating sites, and I was contacted by a slightly older woman , Hey I'm in town next week do you want to meet for coffee.... so we met for coffee, apart from her pre dated public pics by a couple of years, it was all good , A kiss and a hug Hello, followed by some run of the mill banter. My perception of her was, that she was a attractive , semi quiet fairly well off country woman, we left that saying we would keep in touch. A couple of days later I received a message, with access to her private pics, which one of them consisted of her being professionally tied to a bench, her ample breasts tightly bound, and being cut lightly with a razor blade, with blood trickling ! My reply to that was, after a bit of thought was....I'm attracted to you on different levels, but I think that your to kinky for me !, which has surprised me little, I understand the pain and bondage fetishes, but Blood and scars, I can't really relate to. We sort of stayed in contact, saying hello every now and then, but never arranged another meet.....but years down the track, she is still to Kinky for me ! lol......so maybe the people that say they will do anything once, probably haven't thought it out %100 Having said all that , I don't think Meeka would be to Kinky for me though. lol. xo
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meeka your profile is unavailable...so I don't know but on the balance of probabilities any lady with a penchant for strap on's is out of my league!Meander you are definitely too kinky for me...going by some of the posts I have read.I don't consider myself kinky at all...nor do I fee that I am vanilla...sadly I feel like a born again virgin and consider myself to be a common or garden horny bugger...wanting to do it in the garden's not kinky is it?
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RHP User
11 years ago
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madotara69
11 years ago
A very, very brave man tamworthguy!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Reading through some of the comments from the ladies . Thank god theres a real world where guys and gals get to communicate face to face. How on earth can you knock someone back on words alone. ? Behind that screen and keypad are people who if you cut them they bleed just like you. But then again you are on rhp and theres a ton of dutch courage out there from both sexes. Guys... Dont take these knock backs so serious. After all, you go looking for it making it easy for the ladies to pepper their ego at your expense. Ladies... You have the upper hand and are a target for the masses. Unless really obvious , knocking someone back on the written word alone can be very unfair. Presuming everyone is not what you want because they didnt say the right thing is silly. If you wrote you had a meet for a coffee or drink and it just didnt work out, is much more believable. I've dated short, tall and in between and found everyone had something special to offer including kinks you would never ever guess.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' at least I COULD DIE HAPPY...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I wouldn't get offended, I'm not overly kinky. But then if I saw from your profile that you were, I probably wouldn't message you either. I don't think it's that someone is better or worse, just not compatible. And that's okay. I have a friend like that. We had some sexy times, but she's into things I just don't think I could get into, so it didn't last too long. It's kind of a pity, because we're compatible in just about every other way, but we've remained friends, and I'm not in the least offended that she didn't want to continue what we were doing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've chatted to lots of guys, saying "yeah I'm great in bed, had no complaints", that's usually because there idea of sex is all about them, too selfish to believe there is more... Quantity does not mean your actually anything more than vanilla.... Pushing them to do something simple like sex outdoors, light spanking and OMG... Grow up men... Vanilla is just that, nice occasionally but imagine opening yourself to strawberry, pushing your limits!! Opening your eyes.... I have met a few strawberries willing to learn wanting to try, always great, but sometimes, call it "full moon syndrome" but chocolate is totally in order, fully into pushing yours and there limits, taking over you... Wow!!! Which would you have every day though...?? Or would you just grab the Neapolitan pack everytime and dip your paddle and chains into a little but of each flavour??
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RHP User
11 years ago
Totally misandrist and all spin. Just like the Murdoch empire's total public dismantling of Julia Gillard. Now as were the case, I wasn't under the impression that kink was a contest, though even if it were its not a contest I would care to invest in, much less compete it. This being RHP, and for lack of a better phrasing, a cesspool of human filth, at least from the traditional Christian moralist perspective, sexuality is fluid. Depravity has levels. And they are all perfectly subjective. There is no "try" only do. There's a lot to be said for knowing one's limits. How do you even begin to quantify saying one kink is somehow or more or less deviant and or depraved than another morally or otherwise? We all have our kinks, though it being RHP its very hard to tell, at least at face value, who has crossed that invisible line in the sand between fantasy and reality because when push comes to shove very few people actually meet up, and I guarantee you even fewer are forum regulars. Kinky or not I've come to realize, RHP is a competitive place, where almost everyone has tickets on themselves, I being no exception. Though I doubt very much that anyone game enough to comment on this forum, whether they meet somewhere in the middle or not, wouldn't come close to meeka's level of debauch, man or woman, and to be fair, its more a personal choice. Be who you are, just don't feel the need to compete with others. Though be fair, this is meeka we're talking about. That's very far too the left for us ordinary mortals. The actions aren't important, its the psychology behind them that really matters. Me? I like making people do things they don't want to do. I thrive on making others uncomfortable. I'm about power, and pain and taking people to the absolute edge of a near death experience, there are very people I know who are actually comfortable with that. Hence why I don't talk of such things openly. Its very rare I find someone interesting enough to find to them interesting. Or this could just be the unqualified rantings of a pathological, sociopathic, narcissist but don't read too much into it. Would you call a God complex a kink? I think its more of a personality disorder myself, but I haven't read the DSM-V yet....
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
lol. I stopped reading at the end of the first sentence so I can't be sure how any more errors you made lol ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Extreme pain? Make people feel uncomfortable? Take them to a near death experience? Errrm not for me thanks! I am not particularly kinky at all, and I think I have established that the way I was wording my response was like a challenge... Unintentionally. So from now on I will say I don't think we have any kinks in common. :)
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