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Do reviews help or hinder??
August 02 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
Most of the time it's just too much information. We are happy that you're fucking lots, we expect it, we might even enjoy hearing about what you've done, but we have no need or desire to know who you've done (or how much they felt you rocked their world.) Their testimonial means nothing to us - even worse, it's a turn off if we don't personally find them attractive!One or two that leave something to the imagination might actually help, if they convey "this person/couple is real and I/we enjoyed meeting them". Otherwise it kind of reminds us of websites who plaster user reviews all over their site - it's a very low form of advertising, and actually has the opposite effect by making it look cheap and tacky. The worst are the weird pimping cliches like "don't pass up the opportunity to meet so and so!"They're well intentioned, and maybe they work on some people, but lots of reviews (or sordid ones) are red flags for these fuddy duddies.T & S
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'tryst_and_shout' Most of the time it's just too much information. We are happy that you're fucking lots, we expect it, we might even enjoy hearing about what you've done, but we have no need or desire to know who you've done (or how much they felt you rocked their world.) Their testimonial means nothing to us - even worse, it's a turn off if we don't personally find them attractive!One or two that leave something to the imagination might actually help, if they convey "this person/couple is real and I/we enjoyed meeting them". Otherwise it kind of reminds us of websites who plaster user reviews all over their site - it's a very low form of advertising, and actually has the opposite effect by making it look cheap and tacky. The worst are the weird pimping cliches like "don't pass up the opportunity to meet so and so!"They're well intentioned, and maybe they work on some people, but lots of reviews (or sordid ones) are red flags for these fuddy duddies.T & S
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chevtrek
11 years ago
Its the old kiss and tell I always tell them at meeting no reviews and I wont either. I create devices to stimulate and don't want others to know what they are. Plus what you do is private.
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
must agree with Tryst n Shout on this one.what doesnt appeal to one may appeal to anyother and visa versa...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Perfectly said tryst_and_shout! Couldn't agree more! L- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
with you oh so not fuddy or duddy....like a plethora of pulchritudinous friends on a profile ,I find it very off putting....Shrinking Violet
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RHP User
11 years ago
You're referring to the validations, like they're a reference for your CV. It's not a job application. - Posted from rhpmobile
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JessicaRabbit
11 years ago
I tend to disagree with the majority it seems, I really like reading them. I have a lot of validations (I have been on the site for years though, not that I need to justify myself). When you're meeting on your own it can be great to do a bit of research into the person to make sure they're alright. I have to say though, I don't tend to like sexual validations as yes, they can be tmi. I tend to write about their personality and something that I found attractive about them. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It helps people to know that you have meet that person. I tend to just say I meet the person and they were as they said they were. I think I have one sexual one, but only after asking the man could I put it up there.Also if they have met people I know that makes my decision a lot easier.I like the ones people do of me, makes me feel spesh!
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
Any non-template validation shows that there was lots of good will flowing after all was said and done... That's a sign for us that the people behind a profile are more likely to be good people. And I like to see where folks have been before in case they're not so careful about the risks they take...
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Advertising..... selected by the profile owner.Its just GOTA be true..... right?!!!DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Validations are not about your conquests or explicit details of your activities but more a sign that you are real and genuine.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Definately not a sign of the more the merrier for me!!! I don't like the thought of another notch on the bedpost type deal!!! Gypsy💋- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hello ;-)
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loveto128
11 years ago
We both like to see a few validations and are more likely to message people who have some validations.We look for things like, fun intelligent sexy people in the validations.We have found there to be so many time wasters who are dreaming about swinging and (I think) never actually get out there and play, I much prefer to talk to those with a knowledge that they are not pretenders or someone trying to coax their partner into playing.I have also found the strike rate with first timers is quite low and I just don't have the time to have endless chat and go out for coffee.
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WhispersAndMoans
11 years ago
Its interesting that people are confronted by the idea that people might have numerous sexual partners validating them when that is what this whole site is about... finding sexual partners. We understand that there is a whole subculture here who are keen to find the right partner / extra / extras and not have to meet any more (we too are keen to make a connection and not to have to interview and train ad nauseam). There is also clearly a culture for whom notches on the bedpost are not confronting at all; the more the merrier.So what works for some is not going to work for others.For us - one or two is probably a good thing, particularly when they focus on the things we are looking for ( ability to converse and interact in response to clues verbal and non-verbal) but it would bot push you over the line like a well written message would. Lots would probably make us think a bit harder. Just goes to prove the point that psychology is deeply ingrained and somewhat screwed up!
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RHP User
11 years ago
We are still relatively new and we can tell u that before we had validations we could not find a date to save our lives. Since we have been validated....well let's just say no issues. Say what u like but in our experiences validations have made a huge difference. There are SO MANY time wasters/fakes on here, validations and verified profiles are the best way to sort through the "crap".That of course is the negative side of the experience. We have met so many cool people on here that have made us feel so welcome in your awesome country, we love this site for what it offers and look forward to many more experiences. Keep checking our validations you will see we are worth meeting ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm with fun_flirtycouple, makes it much easier to find folk who are genuinely up for meeting. Not that those who don't have validations aren't, it's just that there seems to be a high number of people for who this is just a fantasy. Would be great to be able to search for validated members too!- Posted from rhpmobile
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