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Do single women enjoy playing discreetly with allready coupled men?
September 23 2010
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RHP User
14 years ago
Awwwhh.. I love cryptic puzzles! My guess.. is that single women like the security of knowing that there is less risk of being stalked and stringles encounters are a genuine possibility when dealing with a couple... plus... the other woman... I mean.. who wouldnt enjoy that opportunity.. to sandwich in between two real lovers and get a sneak peak into their very intimate world? It's just so romantic... all the stuff that entices ladies :p..... But then, therre are the freaky women who think it's their job to cut the grass while they're at it... nobody ever likes them! Do you hear me?? :p Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
I don't quite understand your question??Are you asking if single girls like playing with attached men while their partner is present??Or while their partner is home with the kids and oblivious to it all??Im sure some women don't think twice about playing with attached guys...but me personally...I won't go there...unless the wife has told me herself that it is ok...or she is coming along to join in.JMO...BJxxx
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tank__girl
14 years ago
And as a single woman, Stalky hits it on the nose! "who wouldnt enjoy that opportunity.. to sandwich in between two real lovers and get a sneak peak into their very intimate world? It's just so romantic... all the stuff that entices ladies :p..... " So very true, I think it's a pretty special thing being invited into a couples 'intimate world'....and all very exciting! As I have been there before, on the other end, as a couple. I was happily married for 7 years, together for 14, into threesomes for the last 8 years or so of the relationship. We 'did' encounter a few freaky women though...OMG!....Just what I was always looking for hehee he.. Goooood timesss! Now seperated for almost 2 years, and juuuust getting over it....? I am very happy being a single and free woman, for the first time in my life....lol...which I seem to be saying in almost everything I write on here..? Hmmm, it's cos I 'am' happy. Very much enjoying the company and bodies of lovely couples, having weekends away, holidays here and there, it's fantastic!! So, no I do not desire a man to plant right now.........or aaaaaaaanytime in the near future! ( Unless you are that HOT Rhino saving guy living in Africa off 60 minutes on Sunday night!!?? Then I'm ready to marry you....! ) Quite happy fucking other peoples happily coupled men for now...... ......so don't worry girls, there'll be no grass cutting here! I do desire a man to cut my grass though, something I do miss about men.....my lawn is getting outta control!! Pffft....who needs I man, I always used to do it anyway..?? lol...hmmmm, I just need a mower...over to ebay!
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tank__girl
14 years ago
Although, reading from BJ's angle......I have played with one married man, discreetly. And I don't think I'll do it again no. It was very bad. Do unto others.
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RHP User
14 years ago
bootycallgirl , thats the way to enjoy single life ...no hassles , no drama .. no lawn mower !!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I always said it was wrong, no way. Face it, the man is going to play around anyway, I am single, not my fault or problem for that matter. The already coupled man is not going to ask for more than what I want to give. I am obviously fulfilling a need that his partner is not and nine times out of ten the man is not going to get all bent out of shape and jealous if I want to play with another. He is not likely to expect me to be in a serious committed relationship with just him. And then there is the man who's wife has a terminal illness and can not have sex. Is he then meant to go without or pay for it? He still loves his wife and would not dream of leaving her to die alone but hey, he still has needs as well, still wants the comfort of a warm body. What about the women who are going through menopause and have just reached the age (more a mental state that age) whereby they just do not want sex anymore? And this does happen...often. God forbid not to me ! The husband has been with his wife for thirty years, they have a life together, shared children, memories and businesses. Does he go without as well? This is a situation that is certainly not black and white. There are varying shades of grey. Do not condemn all married men or those that play with them as you do not know all the facts of the situation. Fionabee
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' I always said it was wrong, no way. Face it, the man is going to play around anyway, I am single, not my fault or problem for that matter. The already coupled man is not going to ask for more than what I want to give. I am obviously fulfilling a need that his partner is not and nine times out of ten the man is not going to get all bent out of shape and jealous if I want to play with another. He is not likely to expect me to be in a serious committed relationship with just him. And then there is the man who's wife has a terminal illness and can not have sex. Is he then meant to go without or pay for it? He still loves his wife and would not dream of leaving her to die alone but hey, he still has needs as well, still wants the comfort of a warm body. What about the women who are going through menopause and have just reached the age (more a mental state that age) whereby they just do not want sex anymore? And this does happen...often. God forbid not to me ! The husband has been with his wife for thirty years, they have a life together, shared children, memories and businesses. Does he go without as well? This is a situation that is certainly not black and white. There are varying shades of grey. Do not condemn all married men or those that play with them as you do not know all the facts of the situation. Fionabee I dont judge married men that play around....when the reasons are as you have said...where there is a real need for intimacy...but a desire to not wreck the homelife.I get it.But...i make a point of not knowingly getting involved.I have unfortunately been in the position of having a relationship with a married man.He told me he was separated.It wasn't until his wife kicked the door in of my flat trying to kill methat I realised he was just a lying piece of shit.THOSE are the married men I avoid at all cost!JMO...BJxxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Nine times out of ten the 'coupled' man isn't getting what he wants from his woman because he's a kinky mofo, has a penis, and probably should have never got married in the first place! Whether you choose to fuck him or not is your prerogative, but I can still imagine the dramas if the shoe was on the other foot.As for single guys, sorry to burst your bubble ladies, but we're not all out to stalk you if you give us the time of day......unless you're a masseuse, then I'll stalk you :p
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RHP User
14 years ago
Or, at least the ones I have had anything to do wth. They havent lied to me. I know exactly where I stand with them! I know they are married and I am not about to get sucked into a web of lies. I know they just want sex and nothing more. That is far more honest than the single guy who leads you up the proverbial garden path only to drop you in the pile of bovine feces he has piled up for you. Fionabee
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RHP User
14 years ago
great words xxoo
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RHP User
14 years ago
congrats we have a winner straight down the line
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'SWEETIEPIE2010' No Ms B they haven't lied to you but they've lied to a fellow woman and their children. This is my problem with them. They are risking the emotional happiness of their babies for a fuck. And i would never do to another woman what would end my world and destroy my childs family and happiness if it were done to me.and those that dont and cant hav kids ?? There must be dif shoes?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'casualfriend' Quoting 'SWEETIEPIE2010' No Ms B they haven't lied to you but they've lied to a fellow woman and their children. This is my problem with them. They are risking the emotional happiness of their babies for a fuck. And i would never do to another woman what would end my world and destroy my childs family and happiness if it were done to me.and those that dont and cant hav kids ?? There must be dif shoes? It would be nice to live in an ideal world. Unfortunately we do not. Who is to say he is a lying cheating bastard? Maybe the wife doesnt want him but does not want anyone else to have him either. Perhaps the marriage is not based on love. Perhaps she got pregnant and he "did the right thing" So they can not fix things and they divorce before he plays around. Do you, in all honesty think that the kids will not be crying themselves to sleep then? Sometimes sex on the side is the only thing that stops the man / or woman, from leaving. We all crave that intimacy and if you dont get it, life is pretty bleak. Consider yourself lucky that you have such a great relationship. All marriages are not so good. There is no clear answer, no black and white, only many shades of grey. You can not judge someone else unless you have walked a mile in their shoes. Marriages like these we are discussing are not open. The man can not ask if it is okay if he gets sex on the side, the women are likely to take the kids and leave, taking at the least 50% of the assets. If she gets all bitter about the deal and finds a really good lawyer, he may only get fortnightly access visits for the kids he now has to pay 18% of his income for having. You may have one couple you know of where the kids cry themselves to sleep, think of all those poor kids who listen to their parents fight furiously and often. Sex may not be the most important thing in a relationship but when you are not getting it...or made to feel dirty and disgusting for wanting it...it does assume gigantic proportions. I look in the mirror at the end of the day and I see a person who has contributed to society in a big way, a practical way. When my married friend comes calling because his wife has turned him down again and he has not had sex for three weeks or more but he stays becasue he loves his kids, I will not adopt a holier than thou attitude. I will not be so sactimonious, smug in the arms of MY secure relationship. No way! I will hold him, love him and make him feel good about himself again. I will let him know, with my body, that yes he is a worthwhile human being, he is a great friend, he is not scum because he wants sex!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hold their men hostage with sex? I mean if they are not interested in their husband sexually then why in god's name can they not let him get what he needs from someone else? They use guilt (we're married, we have kids but I don't want to fuck you). Terribly unfair. Some guys put up with it and live a miserable life with a woman who CLAIMS to love them but obviously doesn't. Makes no sense to me at all. Masturbating is not as satisfying as the feel of another body against your own. Then when the guy has finally has had a gutfull, goes out and finds a bit of the intimacy that he's been starved of, she comes down on him like a ton of bricks. As far as I'm concerned he's not in the wrong, she is. We're not made of stone, we all need affection and if you're not getting what you need from the person who supposedly loves you then get it somewhere else. Maybe that's why open relationships work. If one is not interested in sex for one reason or the other, they are not denying their partner a simple basic need. That shows more love than the person who withholds sex as a punishment or to just be nasty and then has the gall to get upset when their partner has sought pleasure elsewhere. Where is the love in that? I don't believe that ANY married man can tolerate that kind of neglect for any length of time. Women can't either. But how many women or men for that matter would be happy to let their partner get pleasures from someone else when they are neglecting their partner's needs? Sweet
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RHP User
14 years ago
Let us just suppose that the male half has spent his life building up a multi million dollar business. He has done this...not her. He has helped with the kids, around the house, given her everything her little heart desires. Then, in her forties, the perfect two children grown and gone, she decideds that she has done her duty and sex at "her age" is disgusting. NO MORE! How does he "Fix it"? She wont listen, doesnt care but is not about to let him play the field either. So he fucks off and looses half his business, half his home, half his super, half of all his assets. He has worked his arse off all his life. Yep. Fix it or fuck off. Two good choices. Now lets look at a 30 year old male. He works hard, helps with the one child, loves his wife. She works as well. He wants sex often...like most 30 year old males...she does not want it very often at all. Maybe once a month. She has a low sex drive. Could be hormonal. How does he fix it? This is hormonal so she is not going to react favourably to any open talks about sex. In fact she is going to go off her nut and use what little sex she gives as a weapon. She may even use the child as a weapon for control. So he fucks off. Loses his home, his child. Oh yeah he gets visitation rights.Yay! All because he wanted more sex than her. Now. Man meets woman,they fall in love and get married. She ends up with a serious illness and can not have sex at all. She is too ill. Fix it? or Fuck off? Nothing is so cut and dried. Men cheat on their wives for many different reasons. It is not only because they are horny and would fuck a knot hole in a stump. For many men the decision to cheat is really very hard but the need for human touch becomes so powerful. One can only masterbate for a certain length of time before it ceases to be enjoyable. We are driven towards intimacy from another
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Mr_MrsJones
14 years ago
Quoting 'SWEETIEPIE2010' Then get divorced, fix it or end it. Don't be cruel and deceptive cause carnage and live a second rate life. Fix it or fuck off That's it ladies and gentlemen. There are any number of excuses to stay in a sexless or loveless marraige. I don't want to loose my kids, I don't want to loose too much money, I still love her etc, etc. At the end of the day the situation will cause pain to those around you wether you stay or go. You will loose money wether you stay or go. You will have issues with your kids wether you stay or go. There is more to a marraige than love. You can love a person to bits but if you don't or can't respect and trust each other and communicate with each other honestly and respectfully then the marraige is a sham. It is unhealthy for each partner and any children that are involved. Cheating is a cop out and it just makes things worse not easier or better.
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RHP User
14 years ago
alot of muggles dont see any difference between swinging and cheating.WE know there is...but try changing someones mind once they have it set.YOU CANT!!!All you can do is accept that you dont think the same way...and you dont live your relationships the same way...so we have to learn how not judge each other....and move on.Even within the swinging realms...there are lots of different opinions on what is right and what is not.Live your own life...and let others live theirs....and if you dont like how they live theirs...dont get involved...JMO...BJxxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
None of us are perfect. I least of all. The point I am trying to make here is that those of you who condemn the married man or the single woman for sleeping with a married man are standing in judgemnet over others. I have said before and will state it again....There is NO BLACK AND WHITE, ONLY SHADES OF GREY! The catogories of men mentioned in a previous post, I personaly know at least two men who fit into each category. How many more there must be. These scenarios are not as rare as you all presume. None of you know what has gone on in these men's minds, none of you know what is likely to go on in the future. None of you know what has driven them to cheat or how much they have castigated themselves for their base nature. Walk a mile in thier shoes and try not to be so judgemental. One size does not fit all. Back to the original question. No I do not desire my own man to .....PLANT. If and when I enter another permanent relationship, it will be on equal footing and if I do not give him what he needs or wants then he will be able to talk to me about it. Many men are not so lucky. Many women are not so accomodating. Plant? What an odd way of frasing things. Does this mean the we women are just waiting to get our hooks into a man and then change him, mould him as we see fit? If that is the meaning then the answer is an unequivical NO! When I do meet said paragon of male fortitude, why would I want to change him into something different and then not be the man I fell in love with at all. For myself, it is not a matter of enjoying playing with a man who is already coupled at all. I choose each friend on different qualities and whether or not they are married does not enter into the equation. It is based on personality and that all essential spark of attraction and desire. Some are married and some are not.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'SWEETIEPIE2010' Quoting 'MissBJ' alot of muggles dont see any difference between swinging and cheating.WE know there is...but try changing someones mind once they have it set.YOU CANT!!!All you can do is accept that you dont think the same way...and you dont live your relationships the same way...so we have to learn how not judge each other....and move on.Even within the swinging realms...there are lots of different opinions on what is right and what is not.Live your own life...and let others live theirs....and if you dont like how they live theirs...dont get involved...JMO...BJxxx You're a wise woman. Not trying to change minda, just trying to say .......lets not sugar coat anything here, lets call it what it actually is and not fuck around with excuses and justifications. Love heaps, Sweetie xxxOh....I didn't mean that you werent trying to change anyones mind...but you have your opinion...as you are entitled...and fionabee has hers...I have mine...and everyone else has theirs.None are right...none are wrong...I personally don't play with married men whose wives dont know...and thats my choice...but i dont judge them as i hope they dont judge me.Even with swinging...I prefer to play with a couple together...just in case all is not as it appears to be.Viva la difference!JMO...BJxxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
as a married man my wife and i play alone so i feel that sum married men get a raw deal ,if your partner is cool with it then get into it i reckon
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