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Do women love to take what that woman has got?

January 09 2014

I ask this as every time for as long as i can remember if i walk into a club or pub and i have a woman on my arm , i get absolutely eyed off ! Stalked and hit up so much it is not funny especially for the lady i have been with , Now i go into the very same venue on a different occasion same night ie friday night, and i go in alone or without a girlfriend i do not get a sniff of the action as i would with a girl on my arm??? Guys have you noticed this also?? Ladies do you love the challenge?? Or is it a case of "takes money to make money " so to speak?? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Isn't it the same if a guy is walking around with a dog or baby? Means that you are not a player but a stayer. As for your scenario above maybe women figure there must be something good about you if you are with someone. Actually I have also heard men say that if you go to a bar with a wedding ring on you will get hit on more. No idea if that is true.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Actually I have also heard men say that if you go to a bar with a wedding ring on you will get hit on more. No idea if that is true. I just watched a Seinfeld episode about this. George was hit on by every hottie at the party while wearing a ring to test this theory. "I see you're married, which is such a shame. I really have a thing for bald, short, funny men. *sigh*" He throws off the ring and she looks at him in disgust again! LOL back to normal George!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I know a husband/bf can't or probably won't do anything about it so I can admire them without them hitting on me because of it. And if they do I have a legitimate reason to say NO! (Unless they are in an open relationship, but that's only ever happened once) And if you are a single guy I'm immediately more guarded with how I visually interact with you if I'm out with friends because I don't want to invite you to hit on me.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Haha yes definately puppies pull chics haha - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I will never be interested in men who has a girl on his hand ,Never !...he is taken already for the nite or whateva so whats the point

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    your invisible, is that what your saying. And further you must frequent the same den by the sounds of it. Re it takes money to make money, not sure about that one. Just have to do things differently to the majority, the majority work for the system. Not that deep really, just a hypothesis - Enjoy

  • kickoutoflife

    kickoutoflife

    11 years ago

    Maybe its the ' I want what I cant have' thought......the thrill, the chase, the naughtness etc

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    "and i go in alone or without a girlfriend i do not get a sniff of the action as i would with a girl on my arm" The answer lays not in what you have on your arm.... but how you behave when she isnt. DG

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'CravingTouch' I know a husband/bf can't or probably won't do anything about it so I can admire them without them hitting on me because of it. And if they do I have a legitimate reason to say NO! (Unless they are in an open relationship, but that's only ever happened once) And if you are a single guy I'm immediately more guarded with how I visually interact with you if I'm out with friends because I don't want to invite you to hit on me. Why don't you want the single guys to hit on you?? As for you OP I have nothing...I check out all males just because you have a girl on your arm doesn't mean I cant use you as eye candy and undress you with my eyes. But that's where it would end for me as I don't hit on attached men. Are the women actually hitting on you? or are they being comfortable and friendly because you are being perceived as a safe bet, not a threat, not going to hit on them because you have a GF??

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I've had one too many bad experiences with men in pubs/bars/clubs where my night with friends has been ruined by overzealous single men. I've come to decide that those environments are not conducive to me meeting the kind of people I want to meet. I'm very sceptical when it comes to being "picked up" and generally men who try, get stung. This is what has happened to me countless times before which explains my current attitude: I catch eyes with someone who looks interesting, he approaches (or I approach, calm down everyone), we have a drink, chat, get to know each other a bit, then he blows it by suggesting I leave with him now and go fuck him in his car. Or, then I decide I'm not interested after getting to know him a bit (I'm stupidly deep and complex and seeking the same so can be terribly picky) but he's too drunk (or stupid) to take no for an answer and I spend the rest of my night playing hide and seek trying to avoid him. Also, I'm usually out with friends and not looking to meet anyone, just wanting to be relaxed, and pay my attention to the friends I'm with. If I go out and I'm looking to meet new people, that's a different story, but it's rare that I would go to the pub to do it! Single men can be a bit like those annoying flies that keep landing on your face despite all your frantic waving them away. Now I know there there are piles of really great normal guys out there, and I am tarring all of you with this brush, I'm sorry for that, but it is what it is.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I am with you. I don't want men hitting on me just because I happen to catch their eye. I also used to be incredibly guarded around single men or groups of men when I was out. But I think I am loosening up a bit in my old age. I some how feel more confident of saying Nope dude you ain't getting any and having a laugh with the guy.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Yeah this is true, I am working on lightening up *inhale exhale*. Once you've seen a seemingly charming man turn in a mere moment into a predatory animal prepared to drug a drink to take an unwilling girl home, you can never un-see that. Forever on guard of me and all my friends when out. Makes me prefer having everyone over to my place to drink really. Oh yeah, wasn't I lightening up? Think I need assistance...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Yes i suppose majority thinking would probally be flirting with a number of ladies you just know they flirt allright but with extras !!! And at least four times that i do remember a woman has in conversation calmly mentioned "god i need sex bad" or close to that line haha there the ones that make you go wtf!!! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • blond_gypsy

    blond_gypsy

    11 years ago

    I think it's a psychological thing, and not a magical attribute of having a partner or something to do with women being inherently catty. You can experience the same effect on a rare night when women are the last thing on your mind and you're just determined to have fun. I remember discovering this when I was 19 and out with some of my hopeless mates who would hit the town for the sole purpose of finding someone to go home with. I was the only guy who just wanted to have a good time, and guess who got all of the female attention?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    .... and what is the answer you get that keeps you asking OP ... for as long as you can remember nonetheless ? While I agree there is an element of truth in the "hungry dogs" analogy kindly proffered by the resident whispering pussy, I think it has more to do with the way the 'food' subconsciously behaves than it does with your alleged propensity to suddenly lose all control and act like a desperate and depraved zeta-man the moment your arm is free of a female companion ?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    My mates all want to borrow our little guy, he is a chick magnet! Happens whenever I walk our dog alone too. I agree, it's partially a stability thing. I'm sure it could be explained better by a psychologist but basically it's possibly one of two things. One, you are assumed to be taken so they can look at you safely without fear of being harassed. And two, some women do like a challenge because if the guy with the baby/pretty girl stares back it's validation that they are attractive. That's a rather crude explanation and doesn't factor in anomalies but it's hopefully half an explanation. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Playful2looking

    Playful2looking

    11 years ago

    I dont think it is a case of wanting what the other woman has its more that single guys on their own look like left overs. Somwthing that other women dont want. Also they watch your partner and your body language. They can tell a lot about your personality.We tend to judge a book by its cover. If a guy has a flash car and has a lot of women hanging about him he looks succesfull. Where as us guys know he's a prick and treats people bad. Girls seem to have a bad gene which attracts them to the wrong guys. Girls tend to avoid guys on their own they never think beyond that there may be reasons why he is out on his own business trip or just out for a quiet time and is looking for someone new to chat to.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'lickandsuck123'If a guy has a flash car and has a lot of women hanging about him he looks succesfull. Where as us guys know he's a prick and treats people bad. Girls seem to have a bad gene which attracts them to the wrong guys. A guy like that is an instant turn-off for me. And I'm with kalifornia69...I'm not interested at all in guys who I can see are with another woman. There's no point.

  • madferrret

    madferrret

    11 years ago

    i think us fellas are a softer touch when we go out with women from the start of the night, we probably dont swear as much and if weve anything about us well find a seat for the girl ect, whether shes a date or just a mate .our w hole demeanor isn't predatory or testosterone fueled.lets face it we are different around the ladies.. Hence i think women will be easier to talk to knowing you wont necessarily jump there bones.op if shes telling you something as honest and personal as that maybe shes planting a seed in your mind for when she sees you without your one on your arm....... it was enough for you to post it on here?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Yes, it does happen ? Took my new FWB to a bar in town a few weeks back where we bumped into one of her friends out on a girls night . Even though we sat near but not with, the exchange between the group and ourselves was notably upbeat and flirty. Even a quick rub on my shoulder as one walked by was pretty obvious which my GF pointed out but laughed off.. Pretty harmless really. I think I was probally a good flirt because they felt safe..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100'Means that you are not a player but a stayer. Quoting 'kalifornia69'I will never be interested in men who has a girl on his hand ,Never ! Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' The answer lays not in what you have on your arm.... but how you behave when she isnt Quoting 'blond_gypsy'You can experience the same effect on a rare night when women are the last thing on your mind and you're just determined to have fun. Quoting 'twentyfourteen'I agree, it's partially a stability thing. I'm sure it could be explained better by a psychologist but basically it's possibly one of two things. One, you are assumed to be taken so they can look at you safely without fear of being harassed. And two, some women do like a challenge because if the guy with the baby/pretty girl stares back it's validation that they are attractive. What they said.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    A mate is alwsys telling hey that chick wants u she was into u:) but what I tried to get across to him was simply never confuse a lady being nice with a lady wanting u... Yes his married I'm not n guess that's the difference of understanding

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    To understand the workings of a woman's brain !

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    More than likely it's because you look more confident and happy when you walk in with a chick or two therefore more attractive as opposed to walking in alone. Though, if I saw a guy with one, two or more women with him I wouldn't even bother giving him a second look.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Numerous times when my daughter was just a few months old and I was out and about I had to go into a parents room at a shopping centre or similar and at first the women all looked at me like I had 2 heads, being the only guy in there and all, but once they saw me changing my daughter, heating her bottle, feeding her etc etc the difference was night and day. Now that she's older and can talk I might have to use her as my mini wing-girl. Not really, I keep my worlds waaaaaaaay apart :-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Maybe they are just dog lovers?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    You didn't have a puppy nor a gf for me to take note ;) just sayin' x - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I'm her pimp daddy ya'll :p - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    ... it's because women are just like men - inherently lazy & looking for short cuts. Oh he's got a girl, I don't need to waste my time getting to know him... clearly a good one!!!