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Do you feel like you have changed?
December 30 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've always been a bit of a twit.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Or maybe not changed but become more accepting of myself. Like Funlover I've always marched to the beat of my own drum, good or bad. Maybe that's what your friend tried to say through their poor choice of words....maybe it's not so much that you've changed but their perception of you has changed because you're more confident. What do they rather, seeing you unhappy and struggling within yourself coming to terms with life? Ppffft know what I'd rather..... Either way Looking4 so long as you are happy should be all that matters to your friend....the reasons why may be a mystery to them but they should be happy you're happy. And welcome to the Cult!! Lol xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Exactly - "I'm a lot less naïve than I used to be, a lot more open minded and my self confidence has grown immensely." I've also grown due to personal experience that has come about since my separation and family and friends that have fallen on the wayside since. I know my true friends now, can see artificial relationships for what they are, see friends in miserable relationships, understand why they don't want to 'jump ship' but wish to god they knew that it's OK after the initial pain. I joined RHP as soon as I separated so it's hard to link the change directly to here, but a definite eye opening influence in my growth. But just a part of it. I would say the main influence of RHP has been better understanding of what I used to be more judgemental about softening due to the raw truths people share here. For all of you that have been so raw, I thank you C xxx
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DynamicCouple36
11 years ago
Yes we certainly have changed. For starters we know what we dont want. We have also "wisened " up to how people operate here and the fact that there are so many photo collectors and guys posing as couples / females. We have become a bit cynical of it all. However, have met a few genuine people.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't get it. What have you been saying to these people? Anything different? Are you telling them about your sexual experiences? Maybe it's because you are happier or more confident now which makes others feel as if you have changed. Otherwise how long have you been on RHP as I thought you were new?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have changed for the better. I see many shades of people now and don't take anything at face value anymore. I've let my inner spirit free and with that has come a huge awakening both sexually and mentally. Ive met many truely wonderful people here that have helped open my mind to so many new experiences and even more possibilities. I have made some true friends that will forever be part of my life. My 'regular' friends have commented that my whole demeanour has changed and want to know my secret. My confidence has increased, I seem to have lost years as the comments I often get now are that I look up to 10 years younger than my age. I feel good about myself and love life again. So that is a big YES from me and welcome to the RHP cult....LOL SFxx
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Considering this is the first and only site I'm on..... I think that I've discovered more about myself, my wants, my needs, my turn ons, and my kinks....Always been open minded, (didn't realise just how open minded I was but) and have never been one to judge, but for me it's all about self discovery......I also, have meet/spoken too some awesome people, I find I'm looking at some things a little different now......💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I don't get it. What have you been saying to these people? Anything different? Are you telling them about your sexual experiences? Maybe it's because you are happier or more confident now which makes others feel as if you have changed. Otherwise how long have you been on RHP as I thought you were new? I first joined in July but only met one person and decided I wasn't ready for this. I rarely used to log on until October when I started meeting more people and reading the forums. They have often been a good way of dealing with all the changes and choices I have made recently. I am happier and more confident and tend to take less bullshit from the people who profess to care for me. For the first time in years I tell them to back off and let me live my life. I suppose this is seen as a big change. I don't discuss my sexual experiences with them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nope not me I'm still as blind as ever n as dumb as a shit carters horse when it comes to females n reading between the lines:) but fuk these forums are the best outlet a single daddy can have (sad I know) I'm looking forward to meeting some nice lady's I've had the pleasure to speak on the ph with over the last few weeks :)) and yep there are couple arses I'd like to grab (prob wont but lol) just a shy guy I guess...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've learnt a lot about many different topics (thanks to the forums) and I think I've also learnt to be a little stronger within myself. Thicken this skin up, so to speak. But essentially I am still just me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Being on this site and seeing all the sexy RHP'ers made me want to physically improve myself and in doing so it completely changed my confidence and self esteem!! Wingman and I first met before I joined RHP and he still comments on what a different person I am now
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RHP User
11 years ago
pmsl ,,,,,,i first joined rhp as a male ,,,,,,4 yrs later im a transexual woman ,,,,,,,,think i might have changed ,,,,,,,just a tiny bit ,,,,,,,,xxxxxxx catherine
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Missb4u
11 years ago
I'm going through changes... I have more confidence and yes a thicker skin but am still essential the quiet shy girl. Have found it easier to express an opinion on a range of topics via the forums which I stalked and lurked around for months before posting. It also has given me the motivation or kick up the arse I needed to get back to serious exercise and find my body 😳 some fat lady ate it...lol... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was before joining RHP. I've always been an attention seeking exhibitionist. I just do it while having sex now.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I swear my dick gained like 3" :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Very impressive Stir.
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RHP User
11 years ago
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Stir_it_alot' I swear my dick gained like 3" :p - Posted from rhpmobile SF
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'kinkarella' pmsl ,,,,,,i first joined rhp as a male ,,,,,,4 yrs later im a transexual woman ,,,,,,,,think i might have changed ,,,,,,,just a tiny bit ,,,,,,,,xxxxxxx catherine SF xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'kinkarella'pmsl ,,,,,,i first joined rhp as a male ,,,,,,4 yrs later im a transexual woman ,,,,,,,,think i might have changed ,,,,,,,just a tiny bit ,,,,,,,,xxxxxxx catherine Would you say you are the woman you always were?
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RHP User
11 years ago
that would be a no, not that I'm saying some or all present here are conditioning to be or are conformists. For me though, no.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Sensory_fun' Quoting 'kinkarella' pmsl ,,,,,,i first joined rhp as a male ,,,,,,4 yrs later im a transexual woman ,,,,,,,,think i might have changed ,,,,,,,just a tiny bit ,,,,,,,,xxxxxxx catherine SF xx I hope you are having more fun now. Enjoy and stay safe xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've certainly come out of my shell.
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Mr_MrsAraps
11 years ago
I have certainly learn't a lot about myself from the forums but still have a tiny bit of wingman in that I am shy and sometimes don't read women well. Shesh how hard can it be .... lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
What a beautiful thread 💋 There is nothing more joyful in this world than someone experiencing personal growth... They are like flowers blooming... Congratulations on your journey L4Q 💋💋 Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well..... Works for all the other guys doesn't it?? :p But in all seriousness...I've grown tremendously within myself since I've joined. But I've actually gone backwards in time a little. Surprisingly enough I used to be a very confident guy, and am slowwwwwwwwwly finding that again. I love who I'm growing into, and am beginning to love who I was despite the odd mental thunderstorm that plagued me. Life's good :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
most definaitly ,,,mesmerised even more woman than i thought id ever be ,,,,its the lovely people on rhp that have accepted me ,,,,,,,and others ,,,,,that have made my transition as wonderful experience that it has been so far ,,,,so to all the beutiful accepting people ,,,,,,,,i say a very big thank you all ,,,,,,,,,,xxxxxxx and big trans gurl hugs ,,,,,,,,catherine
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madotara69
11 years ago
Weight going up and down, Not necessarily RHP, lifestyle has and work has changed to much slower pace, and we have moved a couple of times during the time on RHP, and we have moved further out of town to suit work travel, it is different, though we have changed things around a few times over time, so we are use to the changes for that. How we are with people won't change. Communicating to people within the forums and messaging, I have had to change. Normally with people me, not so much Tara am used to the story telling and banter to other story tellers. It may sound strange, though there is a lot to learn about people when they open up and speak with memories, compare and what meanings to them is fantastic it is life in peoples thoughts, the spirit within people and one can learn to trust others through it all aswell. I could not type, found it frustrating even finding each letter to each word. So early it took a long time to add thoughts to the forums, and not having the pace with typing keeping to the thought (to speech) it can be hard to keep hold of the whole idea, and easy to wander to something else throughout which changes what was meant in the first place. Time plenty, the people in these forums are interesting some brilliant all sorts. I don't like giving up on something unless to a reason, then I will stick to things and better myself to adapt and for people I want and feel the need to be a good communicator because of some of the things people have to share with stories is amazing. It is hard to find that with people who are reserved to limited speech. I believe the forums are for sharing stories, and for a long time I was a little less confidant to open up, 1 there was a feeling that it had to be short and sweet, then I thought fuck it, it is not the chat rooms, it is the story tellers rooms. If some don't like reading the longer posts they can scroll past, for the ones who like to read a story fact or fiction, why favour the ones who don't. It is quite a change, though if we don't life could get pretty dull, same for us people. Dunno Maybe the story tellers are the ones who take the time and interest for the person they take to bed and make, share some stories to sex. Worth being a story to remember. Now go on kiddies scroll past, as us story tellers are in no hurry to share some time with the good people here in the RHP forums. Quote wiki..an online discussion site where people can hold conversations in the form of posted messages. They differ from chat ... I like to discuss things and tell it like a person would who is interested with some description, it can be seen then. Makes for good conversations. Big change and really enjoyed the benefits that are coming with it. And that is the people in these forums. Mado Mado Tara xx
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On_Safari
11 years ago
You and I have similar stories.....ceot for your hot body we could be twins!! Lol yes RHP has made me somewhat more honest with my family and friends. I don't hesitate (on the grounds of being diplomatic) anymore to say "You're entitled to your opinion but none of you are living my life, I am. I am not asking you to like it or for your permission, it's my life and my choices and come what may my decisions. And so long as my ex and the girls are ok, then everything else will be ok." Nothings holding me back anymore.....I'm free.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm with you in that people have commented On my changing, my response is only dead People don't change. Like yourself I'm also going through a divorce And it's a life changing moment , I'm Loving the experience and this site and All that it has to offer. It's nice being More assertive, more in tune with ur Sexuality and the biggest thing that my Seperation is teaching mr is that life is Far too short to put up with people and Things that bring you down. This year I have ended my marriage,and ended 2 friendships that drained me like my Ex did. I know that as I'm beginning a new Chapter in my life I will make some New and awesome friends that r on the Same page as me. I say good on you for the change what matters At the end of the day is your happiness. I wish u well
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' You and I have similar stories.....ceot for your hot body we could be twins!! Lol yes RHP has made me somewhat more honest with my family and friends. I don't hesitate (on the grounds of being diplomatic) anymore to say "You're entitled to your opinion but none of you are living my life, I am. I am not asking you to like it or for your permission, it's my life and my choices and come what may my decisions. And so long as my ex and the girls are ok, then everything else will be ok." Nothings holding me back anymore.....I'm free. I've always wanted a sister who is less uptight than mine, lol, and freedom is a wonderful thing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you for all the great replies. It is good knowing that I'm not alone on this journey of self discovery. And as I wish 2013 a speedy "bon voyage" and face 2014 with a new sense of purpose, hope and excitement I wish you all A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR. May the year ahead be filled with laughter and happiness, and for those who want it, love. Life is short, break the rulesForgive quickly, kiss slowlyLove truly, laugh uncontrollablyAnd never forget anything that made you smile.
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RHP User
11 years ago
from a frightened, negative thinking about myself sexual being to a female who is aware of what she wants from this beautiful sexual dance between the two genders.Sex is more in the mind then in a body shape.I have gained lots of Knowledge and my mind is wide open, I will dance this dance I hope for the next 25 years with wrinkles and all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
People are often ignorant to change,that is they often don't understand it and so they label it in a negative way. It's easier for them to try and make sense of it that way. If as you say, you've seen that change for the positive then I'd suggest that's what matters.I haven't been on THIS site for long but having been on others for a few years now, I can relate to the question at hand. I have changed and I have become more aware of human dynamics. In many ways it has validated a lot of things for me and so the change has been welcomed
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RHP User
11 years ago
For me 2013 has been one hell of a year and I couldn't wait for it to be over fast enough as I have spent today thinking over the past 12 months and as I now read this Have I changed my answer would be yes . Maybe not in bedroom or sexually but deeper down . My year started off planning the late stages of my wedding with just weeks before the big day , looking forward to being a step father to a really great 10 year boy who was going to be my little best man , starting a family and doing all the normal things we do . It had taken me a long time to reach a point where I had found someone who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with as my past 12 years were spent travelling the world for and living out of Australia . When everything fall apart in blink of an eye so did my life as I knew it , I have changed jobs , I have moved 3 times , took most of the year to pay off a wedding that never happened ,had a few really good dates from another site but only to be stuffed about I started too think - it must be me am I doing something wrong , am I ready or am I just not showing myself in the best ways , till i met a really good friend who helped me in so many ways to get back out there . She listened as I told her and without judgment and she told me about her ex etc . The friend and I started spending more an more time together and for last few months things were really great the only problem we were meant to be friends but real feelings were developing between us till last week when out of the blue she said we can no longer be friends because we were now to close and she didn't want that so I picked myself off the ground yet again a part of me thinks am I wasting my time ? Have I changed for the better or for the worse ? am I any different in my views or wants or the way I come across to others or even myself or some times shit just happens . I have been told I am a really good guy but a part of me thinks if I am a really good guy why does it feel like no one wants me or even to give me a chance . Guess I put it down to I have a Glass shell and I have a few chips in it but at times it feels like them small chips have turned into cracks running the full length so yes I have changed . I know in my heart I am a good guy and I have a lot to offer the right woman I hope 2014 them chips or cracks can be filled with someone special once again . I wish you all a happy and safe year ahead .
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Of course JayJay all new bro and sissy's.... I'm still co-habitating with my ex for another week. If anyone wants a truly wonderful husband, great lover, kind hearted with no vices (unfortunately smokes but not like a chimney) is awesome and caring sexually and will love my daughters as much as we do please let me know so I can hook you up with him. You need to be happy to make him the epicentre of your universe though and content to work alongside him within the constraints of our fenceline. In retutn you will have a man who will dote on you and love you and you alone. He is totally faithful. Why did I leave him you ask? (Sigh) because I can't build my life around him anymore. (Soft loving smile) and he deserves to be loved better than I can love him. I said to him lastnight, you may have lost a wife Honey but you've gained a loyal friend who will always have your back. I can't fail him that way. ~ Indy on a Mission 🎉🎊HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!🎊🎉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
...bit wiser that's all.
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