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Do your friends know you're a swinger?
July 12 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
It will bite you on the bumonly talk with people that are already in that life.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The one person I share all with is one of my friends from work. She is about 12 years older than me and extremely open and non judgemental . Recently went to Bali together and too many cocktails by the pool soon saw me spilling my guts!! She now looks for the signs when I walk into work to see if ive been out having fun and then wants all the details!! She is also my safety net. Whenever I am going out and meeting someone new I have to leave all details of where when and who with her. I couldn't imagine confiding some of those things to anyone else and am so lucky to have her to listen and support me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
as you remember,a secret is no longer a secret once it is shared.It doesn't matter how much you trust someone,once it's out,it will have a life of it's own.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I share absolutely everything I do on the scene with all of my friends. It's a big part of who I am (this life style) and if I could not share that it would be like not telling your family you are gay.... I would hide such a big part of me that it would not be worth the friendship. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
theres only one who gets the most details....the others i leave guessing.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nope!
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
I prefer that people who are not in this lifestyle not know what Mr Cheeky & I do when it comes to swinging - Tamworth is too small a place and how people love to talk! Plus with our jobs, we certainly do not want ppl knowing.... Too many judgemental people. Plus I can be very open, but Im also a very private person.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Of course I'm single and don't have that much to loose should my lifestyle become public knowledge. Sometimes it can actually be a bit of fun shocking people... I was just having a Skype conversation with my ex about our pets, when he "happened to mention" he was seeing several girls. I wondered out loud if he was at least seeing them all at once, asked when his last bi orgy was, and told him he absolutely MUST try a DP next. His response? "Shit, dude, I don't want to know!" Having said that, I do respect the privacy of my playmates very much.
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inspirit
11 years ago
Most do, They are friends..right! If they were too judge me then they would not be my friends. My friends love me for who I am not for what I do. Sometimes they cringe lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have tried to tell people and their brain explodes and you have to say you were just joking.They will come back with 21389083901 questions and have a lustful desire to know more, but repress it cause they are well repressed! :(
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flimac
11 years ago
I'm not ashamed of my lifestyle and if some one judges me.....well that's not really my problem. In saying that I don't advertise it and I don't meet people who live where I work (smallish town). But most if my friends know I attend clubs and really the rest is up to their imagination!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Esp on a gay/lesbian site where their forums would be loaded with "Coming Out' stories or tales of being caught out e.t.c."Hey Family/Friends, Listen-up coz I think it's time you all knew about our sex life...We're actually Swingers by orientation. So what do you all make of that? God! - I'm so glad I got that off my chest".Pick your audience and Secrecy and Privacy are two different things..Make up a "RHP" sticker for the rear window of your vehicle to test the waters.
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RHP User
11 years ago
of our work friends (all female) know we have an open lifestyle. None of our family do though and we want to keep it that way. The best way to maintain secrecy is to adopt the Hells Angels motto, 3 can keep a secret if 2 are dead, lol.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'tickled_kink'.Make up a "RHP" sticker for the rear window of your vehicle to test the waters.What would happen if I "Liked" RHP on Facebook?
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
Tickled kink - too too funny - I Like it x
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've got a few friends who know I like group. It's good to be able to express myself freely to someone. But no. I want that private - Posted from rhpmobile
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Pleasure_Palace
11 years ago
All of our frends and family know and as far as I know they are all 😎with it 😀- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
We were very close about the freedom hubby approved of or even encoraged she was also on a dating site and we discussed everything BUT ..... Then she met a new boyfriend 3 years ago who is a religious wowser no make that an arsehole who is a religious wowser and she told him and after him saying how unnatural it is what I do for months to her which she told me the same then she went and told 1st my mother then my father then my other sister . Since then my mother hardly talks to me my father is still funny around myself and hubby but my other sister is great oh yes I haven't talked the the offending sister since .So I would defiantly say that be very careful who you tell as circumstances change and people get influenced by partners - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Some of our friends know, but they are true and trusted friends who have been or are on sites themselves. I would be quite happy to be more open, but there are a lot of people who judge, misunderstand and feel threaatened by sexually open lifestyles. One of my bosses is a player and very open about her lifestyle and adventures, she is a vivacious woman in her late 40's, ballsy, down to earth and my first go to person who will get things done or give me direction. She has been Bullied severely from upper management since our organisation joined with another, It's horrifying to see and has been devastating for her. So I suppose it's a matter of be wary and ready for the consequences if you come out to anyone.
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RHP User
11 years ago
So why supply them with ammo to shoot back at you should that ever happen.. ? Like minded people, well' that could be different..
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GunnaBHot
11 years ago
We never tell anyone who might know us!! We also like the fact people would walk pass us in Woolies and wouldn't suspect a thing!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'girlhavingfun71'I haven't talked the the offending sister since .So I would defiantly say that be very careful who you tell as circumstances change and people get influenced by partners That is some betrayal.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I called one of them so excited the morning after my first Bi girl threesome and said you'll never guess what I did last night!!!! Lol, she was probably thinking to herself....great, and we're sharing a bed tonight! ( she's is not Bi and is very very vanilla) I've never felt judged and we've always talked openly about sex. It's important to have people in your life you can truly be yourself with.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes it was I guess I don't have to hide it but we still do naturally and mum has only ever bought it up once all I said was it is fun I'm not hurting anyone and hubby is ok with it she shook her head and walked off probably praying for me but she still try's to have little as possible to do with us I guess we are the black sheep of the family - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I have been known to let slip here and there. Usually among close friends, never amongst family. I try to limit the details for the reasons mentioned above- ammo, jealousy, judgement etc.
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RHP User
11 years ago
A couple of my mates know a little of my goings on, but my best mate and his wife love hearing of my misadventures her in particular 😄 Not much that those two don't know about me, but I trust and love them both explicitly. Hp xo
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Beachlover1999
11 years ago
It's not the truth that worries me but the potential distorted gossip, god forbid RSVP is hard to take with some!!!!! ;))))) Waxed pussy...... Shhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!! Lol Pink saying this month 'The whole world should be a nudist colony' is outrageous for some!!!! There is also the feminist, boundary pusher in me, that says feck it, I am who I am try it you might like it!!!! ;)))) I want to be in the nursing home with great memories and have lived to my potential!!!!!! ;))))
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RHP User
11 years ago
You are extraordinarily hot DING26. Yum!!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
…for us it's definitely something we will keep only for our like minded friends on RHP.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for the feedback everyone, so interesting hearing others opinions and experiences. I have only shared limited details with a couple of very close girlfriends, but I'm such a candid person otherwise that I struggle with not sharing sometimes! I love to tell all!!! But, I have to appreciate too that some of my friends may not be interested or want to know, so I guess it's about finding that balance.Certainly food for thought as well about how relationships change and what people do with information they have about you after that change happens...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Both my sisters know but no way will I ever tell my brother LOL and just a couple of besties who are non-judgmental and love me for who I am :D that's why they are besties! :D :P
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