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Does Online Communication vs In Person Communication
May 06 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ok all you guys that know me offline. go ahead and answer I hope I am the same, but you just never know LadyT putting on her helmet
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RHP User
11 years ago
WYSIWYG Same offline as online, maybe just a tad more bashful in RL. Online just brings out more of the confidence in me - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is what you get..... I do find that if I don't get the feel online, then I won't meet offline......
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'LadyTuscan' Ok all you guys that know me offline. go ahead and answer I hope I am the same, but you just never know LadyT putting on her helmet LadyT, it would make GOOD sense that you chat to me and then let me meet you so the OP can give an unbiased opinion is there is any difference in you.I am open to tactile bribes to present the result you want
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am completely different offline....I am a thirty year old leggy ,blonde.....oops sorry I meant a short brunettte....no I tell a lie.. I can be whomever you want me to be chameleon me :-) xx Q....as for Lady T....funniest woman I ever met.and an intellectual......the thinking crumpet :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quick wit is something I like and is something which you can't determine in the online world- nor the tone of the comment - and if the technology does not work things can pear shaped which happened to me recently -as for T that's a whole new thread- but even more hilarious in real life than online :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think it's quite plausible that someone might be completely different offline to online. Some people just aren't great writers. I know my spelling and grammar are generally ok - I know my they're from their from there's... But I sucked in school when it came to English. I think the environment you're physically in whilst writing online might have an effect on your mood when compared to being in someone's presence that you're attracted to. I personally love face to face communication over written online stuff. There's so much missing from written communication, ie verbal vs non-verbal, that the receiver of the intended email/message etc might just be missing out on the true vibe of the person. I think literary style could give good indicators as to what that person may genuinely be like, but it's not always the be all and end all. I guess that's why we have photos, videos, and cams to help with all that before you meet. Can't say I've met a lot of people from chat online first and then in real-life to compare though. So my thoughts are all just theories... Cheers
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Yep I think I've depicted myself pretty well, I don't really change when I meet someone. I'm easy going, open, can talk and hold a conversation with just about anyone, if anything I'm probably a lot funny face to face.....
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Enjoylifealways
11 years ago
I am much better in person than I am online. Written communication isn't my strength. I am much better with my mouth than my fingers ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
online & offline. Mrs_AJ
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RHP User
11 years ago
I determine a lot off an apparent sense of humour, good grammar and spelling, and general flow of conversation...but I have met a few people from here and vanilla sites that were awkward and difficult to communicate with, but they seemed genuine and nice, and they were awesome in person, and once met, relaxed into 'text' conversations. I can be awkward messaging some people and I often give the benefit of doubt for that reason. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Probably a little less cheeky till I get to know someone better.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
What if they're a "really nice guy and writing isn't their thing"
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RHP User
11 years ago
I try to be consistent on or off line and do not get it right all the time. Some do not respond, so I suppose that is talking volume's.Does that mean they will be prone to direct the silent treatment at you in person.(I am only silent immediately post orgasm) And does blocking you mean they will lock you out of the house? lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seeing and hearing me in person would have to be very different from reading my words online imo. The ums and pauses while I search for the right words, stutters when I'm feeling intense and can't get out what I want to say would likely give a very different impression. Maybe not though. That's just what I imagine.
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RHP User
11 years ago
and I swear a lot more too!
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's all about perception, we can never see ourselves as others see us....and who we are with one person,is not always who we are with another....sometimes I read a post and just shake my head,because I know,it just aint necessarily so...exaggeration and spin are alive and well on the fora :-)xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
As well as some others. The vast majority were as they come across and a few even better. I take what people write in a positive way, I only take the negative if they are very clear about being negative.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've met quite a few... and it was a pleasure to do. Most of them are gone now. I was looking through my phone recently and realised how many. Tuscan is special and as feisty in person as she is on here lol. Not that I think any of you needed to know that from me LOL! . Quoting 'Qefenta2' It's all about perception, we can never see ourselves as others see us....and who we are with one person,is not always who we are with another....:-)xx Q I agree Q. People see us differently... and... they inspire different parts of ourselves to come to the fore. Cos we are all of those parts, we just don't shine that light or share that darkness with everyone.
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
Lady T is an extraordinary lady :-) Online communication - you can be anyone you want to be.... I prefer face to face, person to person - what you see is what you get... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
ask the peopel who know me,still I believe I am the same online as of line......just so lovely
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Missb4u
11 years ago
I don't think I am as in person I'm an introvert and pretty quiet. I like to sit back and people watch and let others do all the talking you learn heaps about them that way. And I love stories 😃 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' I am completely different offline....I am a thirty year old leggy ,blonde.....oops sorry I meant a short brunettte....no I tell a lie.. I can be whomever you want me to be chameleon me :-) xx Q....as for Lady T....funniest woman I ever met.and an intellectual......the thinking crumpet :-) Lady T....the thinking crumpet! Love it! : ) What a shame Crumpet is such an underused title now.I always think of the late, great Barry Sheene's reply when asked what was the best thing about his life as a motorcycle racer."The best thing? Why, the crumpet of course."
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RHP User
11 years ago
met a few people who I have communicated with and mostly found people the same way they portray themselves online. I don't generally get far with people online who type one word answers and can't converse in text. I find I just can't get a good feel for those sort of people. I do wonder if they are like that in real life. I get told a lot that I look just like my pictures and I am the same offline. I am told I am funnier in real life and my candidness is pretty out there. What I type is like dictation, I type how I would talk.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Tuscan, Q, Lovinit and Funlover are exactly the same as their posts and I think I am too. I've been told so many times.DG is actually a lot more bearable in real life.
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RHP User
11 years ago
They tell me my bark is far worse than my bite.. Just the way I am I guess' .. so I'd say yes' what you see is what you get . Just dont take me too serious.. One thing I do know is Im a positive thinking person who finds it hard to suffer anyone who dwells in the negative... Happy Jay
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RHP User
11 years ago
I met a person whose profile and messages to me were eloquent, insightful and absolutely hysterical. However, when I met him in real life he was quiet and reserved. I've also come across the opposite, you can't always tell.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is he variable:-) :-) xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
bareable xxQ
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' bareable xxQ I'm sure he is able when he's bare.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I met a person whose profile and messages to me were eloquent, insightful and absolutely hysterical. However, when I met him in real life he was quiet and reserved. I've also come across the opposite, you can't always tell. I think to some degree we all have some masks or parts of our personalities we hide to strangers. I believe that the best expert of the difference between myself on and off line is those who have me me as I cannot be 100% objective about myself. I try to describe myself as a tactile person and not "how bout a feel luv" type guy.ANY TAKERS???
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RHP User
11 years ago
and say that mine online persona differs slightly to how I am in real life. I am naturally a reserved/introverted personality and to top it off I have social anxiety which really screws with my interpersonal relationships because people naturally assume I don't like them or am disinterested when in actual fact I am just fearful of speaking or being around groups. To go out to a bar/social situation and talk to a girl or hell even a guy for that matter, gender is irrelevant really, is near impossible without generous helpings of liquid courage and even then it is a struggle. The online thing has helped me to get over the greatest hurdle which is the first contact and being able to meet someone and start a conversation. Once I have been able to chat and build rapport then I find i'm generally ok, still isn't easy but I am a lot better off. I am not fake online, they are still my thoughts and words but they are more the thoughts and words that I would like to say in a public forum whereas in reality I would not feel brave to speak aloud. Takes me a little time to warm up to individuals but groups are definitely a hefty challenge for me. But don't fear the introvert, they're just no good in orgies ;) lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
most people online are more confident...a side that will come out in real life once the person is more comfortable.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Stop taking liberties with thoughts of my nudity Pervs. I have feelings too you know! Like tired, and hunger lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Tuscan, Q, Lovinit and Funlover are exactly the same as their posts and I think I am too. I've been told so many times.DG is actually a lot more bearable in real life. Considering some of the things I write.
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gazpacho
11 years ago
Well, as long as you're doing the typing you're the one in the same person. I guess though that some peeps are not as fluent in expressing themselves using just written words. Obviously my bestest buddy is totally unco when it comes to typing texts, the things he sometimes says.. I have to have thick skin. Seriously though, some peeps resist responding because their typed messages are so often misunderstood, whereas their words, gestures and facial expressions, (and other tell tale indicators) tell me EXACTLY what they mean to do to me. :p. HugsGazpacho
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RHP User
11 years ago
No. It ain't the same. Not always in a bad way. And not for all people. I have a great FWB gal who I like a lot, but who won't speak on the phone other than perfunctory contact. Shy? Some people are very WYSIWYG others are not. But without doubt, the whole experience of meeting, the dynamics, the nuances .... can't be done with just exchanging electrons.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachy' Seeing and hearing me in person would have to be very different from reading my words online imo. The ums and pauses while I search for the right words, stutters when I'm feeling intense and can't get out what I want to say would likely give a very different impression. Maybe not though. That's just what I imagine. The great irony of RHP is that I have meet so many people on here, due to a lot of reasons, and most are just friends. The irony is that when I see the forum stuff and people go at it, I know that if those people were all having dinner together it would be so much fun and laughter. You are a very warm, compassionate woman. funny and such a good wife and mother and you care so much that you often go in a bat for the underdog, even when they may not deserve such loyalty. your also unsure at times, can take things to heart or the wrong way on RHP. As do we all, but I think its your take up the lance for others that often cases the problems. Your the fair person, the give people a voice person. Plus your stubborn as hell once you get your teeth into a bone. You are protective of your privacy and familyyou love well it shows they way you interact with your delightful husband and daughter I think your marvellous
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Tuscan, Q, Lovinit and Funlover are exactly the same as their posts and I think I am too. I've been told so many times.DG is actually a lot more bearable in real life. Stunningly beautiful, elegant and class with a sexy twist. Articulate, smart and feisty and also like peachy stubborn , but I think like her you have had to fight for this strength you now both have. Deeply compassionate of others, nurturing spirit. Wild and wonton and brazen when it suits you, cool and aloof when you need to be. the two meanders the hot and the cool one a clever disguise. Every mans wet dream
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'gazpacho51' Well, as long as you're doing the typing you're the one in the same person. I guess though that some peeps are not as fluent in expressing themselves using just written words. Obviously my bestest buddy is totally unco when it comes to typing texts, the things he sometimes says.. I have to have thick skin. Seriously though, some peeps resist responding because their typed messages are so often misunderstood, whereas their words, gestures and facial expressions, (and other tell tale indicators) tell me EXACTLY what they mean to do to me. :p. HugsGazpacho A man with endless capacity to love. Kind, considerate and very intuitive and non judgmental re sexuality but I would think judgmental of bigots and small minds. dry and razor sharp wit Protective and a old school gentleman deeper than the depth of the Bermuda triangle and sometimes you get lost in that. Funny as fuck when you want to be reclusive at times A man for all seasons
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' bareable xxQ Amazingly smart and articulate and funny Complex deep and a dreamer of wonderful things Creative Warm , guarded and yet warm when you let someone in Madam Mim Compassionate, understanding and tolerant to a point No pushover reserved A lady through and through The queen of the educating posts , words flow from your fingers like treacle over this hot crumpet yes I do love that word myself, makes me think of myself as warm and yummy from the first bite and you are my dear friend, offline and on
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' ask the peopel who know me,still I believe I am the same online as of line......just so lovely Every time I hear you or talk to you, well I just smile. A woman that throws her head back when she laughs and it fills a room. Delightfully at one with herself, unapologetic about the full life she lives now. A woman that you can sit at her kitchen table for hours and just have the most wonderful conversations. Fantastic mother and one who loves deeply When you bed a man you give it your all, its about making him feel the most special person on the planet If I was a guy I would do ya , especially on a winters day when you want to curl up with warmth and laughter and love. A big heart and a open mind
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_silk' Probably a little less cheeky till I get to know someone better. Wonderfully honest and generous of spiritPlays well with others, not afraid to try things and give of herself, perhaps to much a times.Has great capacity to love, a restless ness in spirit, waiting for that special person to see the beauty of all of you, not just the sex but the whole person.Has ridden the rocky road but time for smooth waters You can be yourself with this lovely woman ,she would always allow you the freedom to be your true sexual self and would help you with that journey
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have meet so many on here but only a couple have been so different it was a tad interesting, but they were the exception. some I only met once and to be honest when I did my photography for profiles I have met to many to remember. but here are some Meeka, there is the quiet, delightful warm woman who is guarded and rightly so, as she knows the difference between an RHP goddess and reality. Generous in willing to invite people to that other side of her into the sexual Disney land.very smart. Analytical left hand side of the brain kinda girl.A woman that loves, is too loyal and thinks more of others than herself at times. Hp, funny sweet, and perfect gentleman, bit of a white knight I suspect sweet gem. Lovely woman, kind sweet but also smart enough to know what she wants and where she is going. Flash111au. Interesting man, with some great concepts and ideas re women and men. generous and helpful and always willing to lend a hand , especially with my bloody computer. Inspirit. What you see is exactly what you get. Miss organiser and should run her own business as the hostess with the most ess judojudo123 this guy is smoking hot and you would think vain but he is the most lovely guy. Old school manners, always does what he says he will do. Not judgemental and as the women who met him at a meet and greet know, just a real sweetie. Jesica Rabbit: lovely woman, who is well and truly able to hold her own, in touch with exactly who she is and what she wants. Very rare for a woman her age to be so confident and poised without being over confident nor vain. She has every reason to be both Dacougahbitch. The English rose. A princess in disguise but can revert to cockney at the drop of a hat. Class and generous to a fault. My dear friend Rubyred13 , this girl is amazing, love her to bits and is smart, funny and my god sex as hell. Great imagination and wild child. Has more sexy gear that a sex shop. Yet is not into smutty talk , likes to be treated with respect like a lady. But get her naked and ohhh my god! your in trouble. loves curves. Is the tradie poet. Deep , articulate, and the most intuitive man I have ever met. jennylee and her lovely husband. Now those two are just like they are on here, and if you want to see lovethey have it in spades. European Bliss. When I meet her I did not get to talk to her much, she is like one of those librarians , looks like butter would not melt in her mouth, by my god we all know different! Chrissy, funny as fuck and warm and honest and just a fun person If I left off names its just that this post could go on for years lol So really those that are genuine and want to meet people offline, are mostly exactly like they are on here. Its only people that do not want to meet that can become the keyboard warrior and can keep re inventing them selves
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RHP User
11 years ago
As a wise person said....Don't judge a book by its cover! Everyone online tries the level best to get the attention of the other person. Easy said than done... no two people are alike and it is hard to predict what will catch others' attention. In real life, it's different, you can see the expressions, sense where the conversation is heading, ask leading questions. With due respect to all, who base their decision ONLY by reading a profile or a message, broaden your perspective. Just My 2 cents.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Because I just had to Google Madame Mim.... She is very old and ugly,lives in the woods and likes to kill small children:-) :-) :-) well all of that is true of course,except maybe the last bit:-) :-) xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
Cat, a dragon or pretty young woman.
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RHP User
11 years ago
To us grammar and the ability to articulate oneself is important, but body language is equally important. Further - we love confidence - and that is hard to gauge "online". - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'CountryCpl4' To us grammar and the ability to articulate oneself is important, but body language is equally important. Further - we love confidence - and that is hard to gauge "online". - Posted from rhpmobile Nice perspective!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' Because I just had to Google Madame Mim.... She is very old and ugly,lives in the woods and likes to kill small children:-) :-) :-) well all of that is true of course,except maybe the last bit:-) :-) xx Q In a Disney cartoon, she was full of vim and had some magic in her
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'LadyTuscan' The great irony of RHP is that I have meet so many people on here, due to a lot of reasons, and most are just friends. The irony is that when I see the forum stuff and people go at it, I know that if those people were all having dinner together it would be so much fun and laughter. The Madam Mim I mentioned is the same one you're talking about. She sings 'Bippity Boppity Boo'. Her character shifts in different Disney cartoons.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank yoooou for all your insights
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'LadyTuscan' I have meet so many on here but only a couple have been so different it was a tad interesting, but they were the exception. some I only met once and to be honest when I did my photography for profiles I have met to many to remember. but here are some Meeka, there is the quiet, delightful warm woman who is guarded and rightly so, as she knows the difference between an RHP goddess and reality. Generous in willing to invite people to that other side of her into the sexual Disney land.very smart. Analytical left hand side of the brain kinda girl.A woman that loves, is too loyal and thinks more of others than herself at times. Hp, funny sweet, and perfect gentleman, bit of a white knight I suspect sweet gem. Lovely woman, kind sweet but also smart enough to know what she wants and where she is going. Flash111au. Interesting man, with some great concepts and ideas re women and men. generous and helpful and always willing to lend a hand , especially with my bloody computer. Inspirit. What you see is exactly what you get. Miss organiser and should run her own business as the hostess with the most ess judojudo123 this guy is smoking hot and you would think vain but he is the most lovely guy. Old school manners, always does what he says he will do. Not judgemental and as the women who met him at a meet and greet know, just a real sweetie. Jesica Rabbit: lovely woman, who is well and truly able to hold her own, in touch with exactly who she is and what she wants. Very rare for a woman her age to be so confident and poised without being over confident nor vain. She has every reason to be both Dacougahbitch. The English rose. A princess in disguise but can revert to cockney at the drop of a hat. Class and generous to a fault. My dear friend Rubyred13 , this girl is amazing, love her to bits and is smart, funny and my god sex as hell. Great imagination and wild child. Has more sexy gear that a sex shop. Yet is not into smutty talk , likes to be treated with respect like a lady. But get her naked and ohhh my god! your in trouble. loves curves. Is the tradie poet. Deep , articulate, and the most intuitive man I have ever met. jennylee and her lovely husband. Now those two are just like they are on here, and if you want to see lovethey have it in spades. European Bliss. When I meet her I did not get to talk to her much, she is like one of those librarians , looks like butter would not melt in her mouth, by my god we all know different! Chrissy, funny as fuck and warm and honest and just a fun person If I left off names its just that this post could go on for years lol So really those that are genuine and want to meet people offline, are mostly exactly like they are on here. Its only people that do not want to meet that can become the keyboard warrior and can keep re inventing them selves Yeah I can tend to be a bit quiet at first. But as the saying goes........
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JessicaRabbit
11 years ago
Quoting 'LadyTuscan' Jesica Rabbit: lovely woman, who is well and truly able to hold her own, in touch with exactly who she is and what she wants. Very rare for a woman her age to be so confident and poised without being over confident nor vain. She has every reason to be both Awww i'm touched! What a great validation, I might get that put on a T-shirt and wear it to events Thank you Lady T, I want to be just like you when I grow up! I was a little in awe of you when I met you and loved that you didn't treat me like a child as i've experienced before... In my experiences, some people just aren't very good with online chit-chat, but are very articulate in person. In saying that, if a person can't hold a conversation online (or doesn't even try) then I'm very hesitant to meet in person and have to deal with awkward silences or forced small-talk. Jessxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Jessica honey bunny...have you thought about why men in particular would be rendered speechless in your prescience:-) :-) :-) :-) :-) hugs xx Q
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JessicaRabbit
11 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' Jessica honey bunny...have you thought about why men in particular would be rendered speechless in your prescience:-) :-) :-) :-) :-) hugs xx Q Qefenta I just assumed they were dumb In all serious though, I used to have major social anxiety and was painfully shy, and I'm still slightly socially awkward if the person gives me nothing to work with then it can lapse into silence. So I understand that it ain't easy! I do still think that online communication is a (generally) a fairly accurate indicator of a person's communication skills away from the computer desk - all spelling/grammar and such aside, it's the content that matters more than the delivery. Runawayjoincrcz, a few drinks definitely helps!
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