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Does anyone still enjoy the simple things, one at a time?
January 14 2014
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luvsilver
11 years ago
Simple is as simple does. I am with you Licentious.I can multi task very well at work but as for my relaxation time it is a different story.I do not understand it ,not able to do it and don't want to do it. Mr Luvsilver
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RHP User
11 years ago
Modern technology has all but wiped us out of leading "A simple life." We use Dildoes where fingers used to surfice, and a Fleshlight instead of a hand.. advancements in technology are superb, but when it stops us talking to each other....What's next? 😳
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have a youtube show in the back ground, currently a episode of QI, in between emails with my family and commitments, while popping in and out of here to comment on this and that, with the phone in the left hand pushing out the occasional text, and friend on relay chat exchanging interesting tit bits. Oh and I also have a project I am working on that gets about 15 min an hour. If i had a radio that would be on as well. Some people cant stand it, but I definitely need the stimulation. I have not watched a movie in a very long time, with in minutes of it starting it has lost my interest. Its not an attention problem as when needed i find it easy to put in the ongoing effort. But when its me time I relax this way and would have it no other way.
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
OP - brilliantly written - thumbs up!
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madotara69
11 years ago
One could fiddle your diddle, from their side of the world, you could feel it in yours. Probably would rather not talk too much, just get into things. he he Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm a self-confessed techno noob. I do the basics, but that's about it. And even some of those I'm pretty slack with...I've had people question me as to why I don't always reply to texts straight away (if it's something more urgent I'll respond quickly, otherwise it might take me awhile depending on what I'm doing and my mood). With regards to social networking, I look at some people and wonder how they actually have time to do anything else, since they always seem to be posting either on facebook, or instagram, or twitter, their blog or tumblr, or snapchatting, or whatever other thing there is these days. They never seem to 'switch off'. They talk about stuff they've done so they must be finding the time somewhere, but you do get the impression that they need just about every aspect of their lives validated by its presence somewhere online. It's not surprising that it contributes to the development of narcissistic personality traits.
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Apart from it being bad manners, I like to enjoy the company I'm with, or what I'm engaging in, whether it be a movie, a book, a puzzle, or a conversation..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Totally agree OP, and perhaps we are old fashioned these days, but so be it. Leave the phones at the door, live in the moment :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I often find it difficult to keep my work out of my home because of the nature of my job. If I'm watching TV, I'll often be on the laptop with some work-related stuff going, and the TV relegated background noise. However, on my downtime, I do enjoy the simple things, like partaking of one of my hobbies or reading a book. CheersJAB
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love the simple things in life... being a techno nerd the simple things are most definitely the best. Making your own pizza from scratch... including dough.Sitting in the park with a book.Camping in bumfuck nowhere with nothing but a camp fire and a hole in the ground. I agree with you OP... is sad when people miss what is in front of them because of distractions like smartphones and facebook etc. SG
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madotara69
11 years ago
I believe this stuff as LD mentioned is on the list of addictive tendencies. I think it is on it's way to public attentions in the mainstream of medical sciences, being published as we speak. Gambling is classed as an illness, an addictive one. Poker machines alone tell their own stories. Surely there is people here that council to these things, I just here these things in the news or interviews on ABC talk back. And a friend has mentioned it, quite concerned to it all. Don't know, see what comes of it all. In the mean time chat with the kids about it and keep up with where they are at. We all still talk a lot, watch a few movie's, play silly games. This computer is in our living room, RHP is a comfortable distraction. That's what I tell myself, it does not cause any problems here, some entertainment with people that are sex addicts too. hehe Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you're camping in bumfuck, why do you need a hole in the ground ? 😄😄😄 Reminds me of a couple of laborers that I used to work with... We had a new kid start with us, and they were asking him if he had a gf... No. Did he wank... No. Had he ever sucked cock... No !! The poor lad was pretty freaked out at this point... One of the guys took pity on him... Said "sorry, we were just teasing you" He then asked him... "If you went camping... And woke up with a condom hanging out of your arse, would you tell anyone ?" The reply... "Oh god no !!" The laborer says "we're going camping this weekend... Wanna come ?" 😄😄😄😄😄 Poor kid didn't come to work again... Hp xo💌 Because you're worth it...
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
Have you ever looked when at a eatery at other tables. The number who are looking at there electronic device, no conversation with who they are with. My son views me as a fossil as I don't have facebook, twitter etc. There was a great Calvin cartoon where his dad payed cash for a book, it had a clothe binder & a hard cover. He called his dad a subversive. I'm off to buy a book with cash. Cheers
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Is it really so different..... OP... have you ever masturbated while looking at visually stimulating material?! Are you appreciating the visuals.... or the sensations you are giving yourself?! Just a thought.
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RHP User
11 years ago
While I'm socialising I leave my phone in my pocket and engage conversation and my surroundings as much as possible. But when I'm home alone it's a different story, it's not uncommon for me to watch a movie, mess around with Facebook or browse the forums here as well as reading a book or magazine. Because I work long/weird hours I try to cram as much into my spare time as I can, it's a bad habit of mine that I've had since I started working at 15.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I often have up to an extra 8 kids in my house but since Xmas rolled around there is little noise ? They sit n talk via the gadgets rather then speak the words ? There kids r all besties but fuk I can't stand the silence lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes still dont understand when i see people who are constantly to busy on their Fones /gadgets no longer engage with surrounding activities ... well when i am out especially on date i wont touch my fone , i am all yours kinda thing (showing respect )... i completely concentrated on the people i am with and if i see the people infront of me touching their fone bit more than 2-3 times i would just nailed them with words.
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RHP User
11 years ago
:p - Posted from rhpmobile
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precious142
11 years ago
is how I like to live life outside of work.......Turn off all devices for a change and see how pleasant watching a movie or having company (un-distracted) can actually be!!!I have walked out on rude people who feel the need to talk, text and/or FB when we are supposed to be having a fun night out...or a meet and greet.....and when I have friends over, they know the rules in my house.......
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RHP User
11 years ago
You have to move with the times....... I'm an old fashioned gal at heart, if I'm chatting to you can I have your attention etc. I don't use my phone while trying to order a meal, phone's on silent at friend's places, the doctors, blah blah blah. But I'm attached to my mobile, I'm always texting, my kids, friends, work etc. I do agree it's nice to have the simple pleasures of company. Just learn to balance it all. Don't stress the little things. Did you ask your friend why he wanted to "tablet away" maby he wasn't enjoying the night? Just a question
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was curious as to whether anyone would have some insight to something I do. I can hold a conversation and have no problems with relaxing and not being fixated with something. When it comes time to sleep tho, I cannot fall asleep unless I have something going. I need a tv, music, back tickles .. anything. I always put a movie on or my tv on sleep, but I do not watch it. I roll over and go to sleep, as in my back faces the tv. If my room is in complete darkness and I am left to my own thoughts I go insane. I cannot stop thinking. One thing leads to another, and I can lay there for literally hours on end.
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precious142
11 years ago
Quoting 'Lisa102013' You have to move with the times....... I'm an old fashioned gal at heart, if I'm chatting to you can I have your attention etc. I don't use my phone while trying to order a meal, phone's on silent at friend's places, the doctors, blah blah blah. But I'm attached to my mobile, I'm always texting, my kids, friends, work etc. I do agree it's nice to have the simple pleasures of company. Just learn to balance it all. Don't stress the little things. Did you ask your friend why he wanted to "tablet away" maby he wasn't enjoying the night? Just a question If he's not enjoying the evening, make an excuse and leave........but then that's another thread!I have moved with the times, but cant see the need to be so compulsive with gadgets.....My friends are amazed that I actually squeezed my crop of oranges on a manual squeezer last winter - brilliant therapy - and toned up the biceps nicely too - thank you!Just did a 3 day roadtrip across the Nullabor - yaaahhhh! - no phones ringing......well, only till there was reception again, but it was so nice to be able to talk with my co - driver, sing along to CD's and enjoy the view!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'scottish_fun' I was curious as to whether anyone would have some insight to something I do. I can hold a conversation and have no problems with relaxing and not being fixated with something. When it comes time to sleep tho, I cannot fall asleep unless I have something going. I need a tv, music, back tickles .. anything. I always put a movie on or my tv on sleep, but I do not watch it. I roll over and go to sleep, as in my back faces the tv. If my room is in complete darkness and I am left to my own thoughts I go insane. I cannot stop thinking. One thing leads to another, and I can lay there for literally hours on end. That is a very common problem. We condition our selves to an environment that triggers our brains to expect sleep. If you find that it is a problem then you will have to train your self out of it. May take a week or two but just turn the TV off. Eventually your brain will learn that its time to sleep and you will find that you no longer need the TV on.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Interesting, a few more replies than I expected and quite varied. A few people have understood directly where I'm coming from and a few are touching on different topics. There's a huge difference between being engaged and multitasking. We're all in mixed societies, some have pressures and others don't, and everyone has a different form of relaxing. Personally I work in management six days plus run several businesses, I'm constantly managing multiple tasks at once. I'll relax through fitness, masturbating, therapeutic hobbies like writing and art, having a drink with my favorite music playing or simply gas-bagging my frustrations away with a friend or family member. What I'm referring to directly could also be broken down into separate topics; however overall I'm querying whether there is a new standard of stimulation required in our time with how we've evolved (am I old fashioned? - ironically one of my favorite drinks) or is there a social illness/meditative problem injecting itself into society. Examples elaborated: My housemate who uses his tablet to for Facebook at dinner parties is 1. Not picking up the device when there is a notification or action required - he is surfing, and 2. It is constant on most occasions, he must live in both worlds. It does not matter whether it is his friends or mine and he seems to always enjoy himself. My ex-housie "The Candy Crusher", her eyes would be fixed on the game the entire time during movies, possibly looking up occasionally at new characters or sex scenes. It's not necessarily that she simply isn't visual person because from time to time i'd get asked "Oh what was that, what just happened? where are we now?". I could understand this during mindless TV that gets repeated every second night and you simply know what's happening due to predictability or you've seen it 300 times before, or it's documentary related so you only take in what's of interest like a study book. To me though, a movie is an art form, it's visual and audio art, every sound and scene created distinctly for a reason. Then again, maybe I'm just the dumb-ass who agrees to watch movies with other people because they know I take everything in and am reliable to recount anything they missed. The Friend Texting lover - again, you sit down to watch a movie together, and in my scenario this is two people who do not live together, you're over for each others company, you agree on a movie, cuddling and company is the prescription and doing something together - why is the phone in the hand 100% of the time texting friends - I begin to question whether MY company is good enough? Or am I simply just not with how things work now. We could always both text, just turn the movie off, sit in silence in each others company and communicate with others, yes, that could be fun... Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'Is it really so different..... OP... have you ever masturbated while looking at visually stimulating material?! Are you appreciating the visuals.... or the sensations you are giving yourself?! I would slap this into the "Whole other kettle of fish" basket haha, and slap that fish slippery.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I put it down to people are scared of missing out on something exciting if they aren't logged into every type of social media device all the time.I feel very sorry for those who can't hold a conversation without being distracted by their phones. If you can't give me your undivided attention, and that not only goes for conversation but watching a movie or dining out etc. so we can bitch or compliment it together, then obviously you don't enjoy my company. Oh well, plenty more people out there who do . Did that actually make sense?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I grew up in a family that always had meals together at the dinner table. The TV had to be turned off no matter what and we sat together as a family till everyone was finished. We said thank you to who ever made the meal and did the chores and then scampered of again to do our own thing. The first time I stayed over at a friends place for the night I was in absolute shock, his mum brought out the plates and we ate from our laps. They were all grasping their knives and forks like barbarians and the TV remained on. At the end they all place the plates besides them selves, or the floor. They did not even put the knife and fork properly on the plate when done, and worse of all they left food on the plate they did not want to eat. Then sometime later his mum came to collect it all. I said thank you very much for dinner and got a strange look from my friend. I was fully expecting to have to get up and help tidy up but everyone remain seated and continued to watch TV while his mum did all the cleaning up. Does it really mater how you behave, some would say yes, others no. It is up to the individual to decide the level of social etiquette they wish to use. Old habits are hard to change, I still when done put my knife and fork together, I always say thank you to the cook, and I always help with the cleaning up. I hate having the TV on when eating together and much prefer to eat at the table than from my lap. If people have been brought up a particular way then that is the way they will behave, I do not think people are wrong or it is a social illness. It is simply a clash of behavioral expectations. If it annoys you then you must find people that are more in tune with your expectations rather that want others to change to suit you. By the way as I have been a games programmer for all my working life and some, I will point out that games have the same level of artistic merit as other mediums and have a lot of work and effort put into their creation.
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