Does being attached make it impossible to meet women in Adelaide?

May 12 2015

I've been on this and similar sites for a few years now, and have gotten close to actual meets a few times, but yet to actually occur. So the questions posed are: -Is it just the scene in Adelaide which makes it difficult , or -Is it being honest on your profile that doesn't work? I know, big open ended questions, but after all these years, one's got to ask. - Posted from rhpmobile

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Unless his wife/girlfriend comes along too. I will never ever meet an attached man as I think cheating is very wrong. I will also never believe any man that tells me his partner is happy for him to play with other women alone. On another note, why are you on these sites if you don't go to meet 'n' greets or clubs or actually meet people?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Also, if you lie on your profile, trust me, the women you lie to will work it out VERY quickly. We're pretty smart ya know ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Get rid of that silly mask OP,it just looks creepy in my opinion..You are married and I assume that your wife doesn't know that for years you have been looking for sex outside of your marriage..perhaps that is the real barrier for you...and then there is Adelaide ..the least sexy city in Australia..why not consider a sea change ?😜xxxFreya

  • compressor

    compressor

    10 years ago

    I think being honest is the best way to be no matter what

  • UnclaimedPants

    UnclaimedPants

    10 years ago

    What a load of rubbish re Adelaide.... All you need to know is the right people... As for the op, well a lot of people will avoid those who are not being truthful with their partners for obvious reasons - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Even sidestepping the potential moral minefield and drama that comes from trying to organise meets with married men, it's also just matter of numbers. With there being such a greater proportion of men to women, in sites such as this, when given so much choice, is it really surprising that most women would choose someone single?

  • Twisted_Mister

    Twisted_Mister

    10 years ago

    Dude, the odds are stacked enough against men on sites like this (not bitching, it's the way of the world) without a woman deciding to meet either: 1. A single bloke, with much less likelihood of baggage; or 2. A married/attached man, especially if he's out to play without permission. There are loads of topics and posts around about people who've met others who were married and then had ugly confrontations with their other halves. I won't meet a married woman playing without permission for that reason. I'm not worried about physical confrontations with cranky husbands, as I can hold my hands up pretty well, but I just don't need the drama. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Twisted_Mister

    Twisted_Mister

    10 years ago

    If you arrange a meet in a storage shed, you're doomed to failure! *sniggers* - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    My apologies to all the Adelaidians that I have offended with my poor attempt at humour xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I found it hilarious and was going to post that you've got one great white shark on your line already 😝👍👍 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Freya79' Get rid of that silly mask OP,it just looks creepy in my opinion..You are married and I assume that your wife doesn't know that for years you have been looking for sex outside of your marriage..perhaps that is the real barrier for you...and then there is Adelaide ..the least sexy city in Australia..why not consider a sea change ?😜xxxFreya Its like Clark Kent, no body recognises him without his glasses. I have to agree, I just had a fit of the giggles when I saw that mask. Yes its because your married. Its pretty simple really. When there are hundreds of men on here that can meet a woman when and were she likes. Can be seen in public with her and its not just after her pink bits cause things are grim at home for you. Lie to a woman about this and get found out, then your toast. she will let your wife know in a nano second. Or your wife will throw you out and cut up your clothes. the only other thing I can suggest is be a married WOMAN and then its more sex than hot meals. I love the smell of hypocrisy in the morning.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I understand that I am not everyone's cup of tea and I am ok with that. If ppl do not like my profile, all the best to them, cause my profile is me and not someone else. Being honest is a trait that I hold with high regard as with respect. Storage shed!!! Hmm sounds like someone will wake up in a bath full of ice with one of their kidneys missing.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I think a great many are sexually closed minded to the extreme. I read through these forums and see people who present themselves as open minded to the extreme, they'll do all kinds of things with all kinds of people yet still cling like chewing gum to the oldest moral rules hacked into a bit of rock allegedly carried down from some mountain by a bearded guy a few thousand years ago. "I live by my rules...... but still follow those set down by Christianity thousands of years ago""I'm never judgmental..... unless you break one of the ten commandments""I'd never believe a woman would let her husband play alone.... But my husband lets me play alone""Welcome to our drug support group... oh you take drugs? Sorry you're not welcome here" I'm reminded why I took a long sabbatical from the forums, it's like the sexual high court these days with less sexual freedom and more judgment than ever. The last stigma... The married guy.

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    Did you have to eat crow pie?

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    Storage shed or bank vault?

  • Twisted_Mister

    Twisted_Mister

    10 years ago

    If you ever go to a meet in either location and there's a 44 gallon drum there, just run! Run! Run like the wind!!!!! :) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Mr_Outdoors' I think a great many are sexually closed minded to the extreme. I read through these forums and see people who present themselves as open minded to the extreme, they'll do all kinds of things with all kinds of people yet still cling like chewing gum to the oldest moral rules hacked into a bit of rock allegedly carried down from some mountain by a bearded guy a few thousand years ago. "I live by my rules...... but still follow those set down by Christianity thousands of years ago""I'm never judgmental..... unless you break one of the ten commandments""I'd never believe a woman would let her husband play alone.... But my husband lets me play alone""Welcome to our drug support group... oh you take drugs? Sorry you're not welcome here" I'm reminded why I took a long sabbatical from the forums, it's like the sexual high court these days with less sexual freedom and more judgment than ever. The last stigma... The married guy. Are there people on these forums who stick religiously to the ten commandments? I've been on here for a while, and I haven't come across them. There are a lot of people who think cheating is wrong though, but none of them have ever suggested that's a religious thing. They just tend to think lying to someone close to you is an arsehole move. Which is true. It has nothing to do with open-mindedness. Oh and I'm a life-long atheist, with almost zero instruction in any religion, but even I know the ten commandments weren't laid down by christians.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    love married or attached guys. Turns me on to think I'm giving them what they may or may not be getting at home. I don't believe in monogamy, we're all animals at the end of the day. We have physical needs that if not met, makes for a very unhappy life, so why not be free to enjoy the pleasures of life? I fully understand why many want to stay with their partners, I have no interest in changing that. They get to enjoy a different, fuller relationship with their partner, which is great, and enjoy steamy times with me, love it

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Crows are my favourite birds,but I would find it quite impossible to eat them ,my tongue would keep getting in the way of the swallow xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Hear hear! Couldn't have put it better myself, that kind of judgement should be left for the muggles, not on sites like this, why do people come on sites like this? To be able to hook up with people discretely with little or no interruption to their regular life. They don't come on here to have to abide by old-fashioned and archaic morals

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Even about morality,single women often don't want to be in any kind of a relationship with a married man because they are just not available emotionally,are very time poor,and the single woman doesn't want the lies and secrets that go along with playing with the married...and then there is the prospect of the phone call from the wife or girl friend...so many single men here.why would a single woman choose a married man instead...so it's not so much being judgemental ,but a bit savvy xxFreya

  • Twisted_Mister

    Twisted_Mister

    10 years ago

    Married or attached women. At all. Why they choose to do what they do is their business, not mine. If they say they have permission to play, I'll ask to have a quick phone convo with hubby. It's worked out well a couple of times, and when it's been refused I've walked away. It's about deceit, and attempting to avoid cranky husbands who had no idea trying to burn my house down at 3am. It's just simpler not to go there, as tempting as it's been on occasion. If I was a woman there's no way I'd go there with a married man whose wife wasn't aware, for the same reasons. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • aussian43

    aussian43

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Kisskiss80' I will also never believe any man that tells me his partner is happy for him to play with other women alone. Being attached certainly makes it more difficult. I have been on here about 6 months now and only managed a single hookup. Living outside of a capital city is a contributing factor, so I am counting myself lucky. Despite Kisskiss80's assertion, I do have permission to play. Would be perfectly willing to pass the phone over so she can answer for herself. But even if a lady belives me, as a number of other people have commented in this thread, that type of connection may not be what most women on here want. And they don't want to risk the potential for drama or getting hurt. I would no doubt have a much higher chance if I lied and pretended to be single, unfortunately I have some ethics. Plus, I want more than a one night stand, chances of getting caught would only increase as time goes on.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Absolutely. And who wants to meet up 10am on a Saturday morning or before work because they are the only times they can get away. And you only get them for an hour or so, etc. I like going out to dinner, movies, clubs, hanging out at the beach or going to sex clubs. Lots of married guys can't do that so being with them Is just about quick sex with gets old pretty quick. Married guys are just bit as much fun as they are too restricted.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Married guys are just not as much fun as they are too restricted.

  • uneventful

    uneventful

    10 years ago

    I have entertained two married guys now for the past three years it was set from the first dinner meet... No expectations ... No demands ... No sour grapes if one is not available at times due to any reasons ... with both we have managed regular encounters and not just as an hour sex romp at 10am on a Saturday morning . we have enjoyed extensive time in each others company . Shopping . Sightseeing.. dinner and movies .. one is local .. and one is distant.. and I actually manage more and longer encounters with the distant one than the local. I agree with Mr-Outdoors and I-touch. The morality judgemental police are very prolific on this site .. unfortunately. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Aren't they ever! Mine aren't in a rush either. I saw a married guy for many months and he was always available when I called him, short notice sometimes, and when he was with me, he was completely relaxed, would lay on the beach with me for hours and hours, hold me, he was a great lover, but he never made me feel like he had somewhere else to be, not once. Have a guy the same at the moment, great lover, and always makes me feel like I'm it. Is offering me loads of time and I'm grabbing him with open arms, he's so bloody hot I can't believe my luck. How lucky we are to have social media, which allows us to live this kind of life, the times have indeed changed, but maybe not quite enough yet

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    So you don't see them every week?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Is this what you are offering? Friendship? Can you give your time? Romantic walks Along the beach? Regular date nights to enjoy a meal and a show perhaps? What are you actually offering? From your profile it seems that all you are after is strictly sexual encounters and not much else so you are after people that are here only to bang.... So I don't know why they are shy to meet. Soz.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I find that an lot of women who first come to RHP are here to explore and it's mainly all about sex but after awhile they become a bit tired of that and want ongoing friendships. They want the Clayton's boyfriend. You know, the BF you have when you are not having a BF. Not everyone of course, but it seems like it is a lot.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I love your comments as I am in a similar situation. Come on here to have some fun with like minded people. New to the site and find it interesting that people still judge others. Looking to have some fun if anyone is interested. I need to add some discreet pics and maybe polish my initial attempt at my profile. Fun so far, enjoy Loving