M42
Does it matter to you if the other couple are established or just friends?
February 25 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
For us,when we did swap and play with other couples (we are trying to conceive atm so limited to women or just foreplay) we always preferred that they were a 'real' couple.Part of what we liked and found appealing was that it was spicing up their love life as well, it was also great knowing that they would have awesome just them together sex later and that it would be a sexy memory for them as well.Just our preference :)Michelle
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
That our best experiences have been with couples whose relationships have had a few years to develop.
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RHP User
12 years ago
it matters. we dont play with couples that arent coupled 24/7. we have yet to see an FWB couple who were as close and comfortable with each other as a full time couple usually are, and yea, we like to think we've spiced another couples sex life up as well....
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RHP User
12 years ago
We've played with 'fuck buddies' before and it hasn't worked out well. They don't have the same care for each other so if one is uncomfortable the other doesn't seem to care. We enjoy seeing a loving couple bond sexually so that goes out the window and it has gotten weird post meeting. The guy has started contacting my wife or the girl me....... they have nothing to lose so they don't worry about being dodgy.Only attached couples for us.
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RHP User
12 years ago
We find that its much more fun and sexier if its a couple thats real and stable, we’ve played with a few people in our years of swinging, some have been couples who thought they were stable till they had their first romp with another/others and they found that it effected them way too much,so stable is always best we think, also we’ve played with singles girls sand guys and I personally think that because we are 100% stable and honest,open and we tell each other everything no matter what,that we can find it a huge turn on, also when we’ve asked that same question to singles and couples we’ve met the same answer is always the couple/couples are always best being in a stable and loving relationship.. So there you have it,hope it helps you in some way xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Logic tells us long term partners are safer to play with, But in reality couples in a long a term relationship can have issues, can get jealous, etc. Fuck freinds that get together as a couple we have never experianced any of the above, they know they meeting up for sex without issues. They will also have incredible sex together afterwards as well. But thinking back yes they can be problems as well.....soft cocks or blow in 2 minutes. Oh well, guess it depends on the people. Meet and chat first. We wont rule either out, even if one is cheating which quite often is case...thats their problem not ours, but it can prove a good safety net as they dont want to take anything home.
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RHP User
12 years ago
They're connected is fine by us, either married, defacto or just Bf & Gf. We've met a few couples who have been together for a number of years, have kids together, but not married. So to us just because they're not married doesn't mean that much, as long as they fit our desire is what matters.n
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RHP User
12 years ago
Wife and I have been together 11years and like the idea of a coyple in a stavle relationship. I think it's about a mindset. Also looking for a nice curvey lady to play with #hinthint- Posted from rhpmobile
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Two_Tarts
12 years ago
Genuine committed couples who also value that they have a primary relationship which comes first is important to us. This is just a bit (ok, a lot) of fun on the side and we want everyone involved to have a similar perspective on why we are all here and a strong connection to their own partner so that we avoid some of the wierd stuff. We have seen "teamed up fuck buddies couples" where they use a couples profile to get in with other couples but then the guy (usually) starts to try and arrange secret side dates with all the other women and has to be told where to get off. Yes, we know that can happen with long term committed couples as well but it seems much less common as they have something real of their own at stake and a partner of their own to tell them when they have gone far enough. If we wanted to invite solo predatory guys into our lives we would advertise for them directly.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks for all the responses from you lovely couples. We've only ever been with other established (married, defacto, long term bf/gf) couples and love seeing that care between the couple and, like others, the feeling that we're spicing up their lives as well as ours. I love the little bonding looks and caresses when swapping with couples, like the couples are letting each other in on intimate moments, really enhances the experience for me. I think many of the comments confirmed my suspicions that fuck buddy "couples" (loose term there) are probably more drama than they're worth.
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RHP User
12 years ago
We're only down for real couples. We're offering ourselves up, we expect the same in return Trust and honesty is everything in this game as is equality. Have to have the same things to gain or it's pointless.- Posted from rhpmobile
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
We do prefer to be with couples who are stable n prefer to be the non jealous type! We realise everyone gets jealous from time to time, but neither of us are a threat! We want to develop a friendship with most of the couples we play with n enjoy their company
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Cheekyarses' We do prefer to be with couples who are stable n prefer to be the non jealous type! We realise everyone gets jealous from time to time, but neither of us are a threat! We want to develop a friendship with most of the couples we play with n enjoy their company We'd prefer friendships with the people we play with as well. I'd expect that would be near to impossible to develop if there is jealousy in the couple's relationship, or if they were not a genuine couple.
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RHP User
12 years ago
preference is towards couples who are committed, that doesn't necessarily mean married, but together. it seems for us to be more of an easy feeling, a more desire of wanting a good play session rather than just whip it in etc............ but if the moment and the couple is right .- Posted from rhpmobile
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LemonDance
12 years ago
ticks a sexy, trusting, single women into believing he wants an exclusive "relationship" with her...but suggests they will explore together, having fun, meeting and playing with couples together... But it turns out she's the only one being exclusive, as he's still bonking who ever, when ever.... as he really only wanted to create a believable "couple" profile with he,r so he could get easy access to the swinging life style & the sexy female half of other couples??Yes, I got sucked into this situation, glad I realised Infidelity4's cunning plan before I got too involved with him, and before too many others (couples) were also used! I wasn't his first gullible female victim either as he had a previous couples profile, that he told me about, insisting to me, that it was different and was with a woman who he was in an "open" relationship with... I wonder if she knew it was open??Have many of you had or heard of similar experiences to this?Wish I was just edible & not so gullible!!Lem xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
As one of the 'unstable' couples that nobody wants to play with, let me just say, hey!We have a couples profile because we play regularly together (just the two of us,) get along very well, and have similar sexual interests. Our profile lists 'respect' as a central part of our friendship, because it is! Our method when we're meeting other singles or couples is to meet them before playing for drinks, making sure we all get on and are attracted to each other. Personalities are obviously a big thing for us, and we'd like to think we make friendships of sorts.However, we're probably not going to make "come around for a BBQ and meet the kids" friends with a couple. That's not what either of us are on this site for, so maybe if you're after that then fair enough, stick to married couples.I would think as a general rule there would be fewer issues of jealousy arising if you're playing with a pair of FWBs than with an established couple, where one partner might be more into it than the other. But maybe you do get more 'intimacy' from them, so it's potentially a trade-off. I think you can get both from either.We don't have a preference one way or the other. I can't speak for other FWB arrangements, but when we play as a couple we approach it as a team, not as two singles.Mr Tryst (and I'm sure Ms Shout would agree!)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'LemonDance' ticks a sexy, trusting, single women into believing he wants an exclusive "relationship" with her...but suggests they will explore together, having fun, meeting and playing with couples together... But it turns out she's the only one being exclusive, as he's still bonking who ever, when ever.... as he really only wanted to create a believable "couple" profile with he,r so he could get easy access to the swinging life style & the sexy female half of other couples??Yes, I got sucked into this situation, glad I realised Infidelity4's cunning plan before I got too involved with him, and before too many others (couples) were also used! I wasn't his first gullible female victim either as he had a previous couples profile, that he told me about, insisting to me, that it was different and was with a woman who he was in an "open" relationship with... I wonder if she knew it was open??Have many of you had or heard of similar experiences to this?Wish I was just edible & not so gullible!!Lem xx I'm sure it would happen from time to time, gotta say that's pretty low to use someone like that. I hope good ol' karma gets him in the end!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'tryst_and_shout' As one of the 'unstable' couples that nobody wants to play with, let me just say, hey!We have a couples profile because we play regularly together (just the two of us,) get along very well, and have similar sexual interests. Our profile lists 'respect' as a central part of our friendship, because it is! Our method when we're meeting other singles or couples is to meet them before playing for drinks, making sure we all get on and are attracted to each other. Personalities are obviously a big thing for us, and we'd like to think we make friendships of sorts.However, we're probably not going to make "come around for a BBQ and meet the kids" friends with a couple. That's not what either of us are on this site for, so maybe if you're after that then fair enough, stick to married couples.I would think as a general rule there would be fewer issues of jealousy arising if you're playing with a pair of FWBs than with an established couple, where one partner might be more into it than the other. But maybe you do get more 'intimacy' from them, so it's potentially a trade-off. I think you can get both from either.We don't have a preference one way or the other. I can't speak for other FWB arrangements, but when we play as a couple we approach it as a team, not as two singles.Mr Tryst (and I'm sure Ms Shout would agree!) Hi Mr Trys, great to hear your input! I think if we were to meet a couple at a club like you who played as a team, we'd probably play but it definitely wouldn't be anything more than a one-off. We find the intimacy between a couple is a huge turn-on and I don't know if it would be as good if that was lacking. In terms of jealousy, I've seen jealousy rear its head with one couple out of all of those we've played with, so I don't think there are really any jealousy issues with established couples who are on the same page, who keep the communication open and free flowing. If you don't have good communication, you don't have a good relationship.One question though, if you meet a couple together and they say they're only interested in her and not you, or only you and not her, would you have any issues with playing with the couple as a single, or does it not matter? I'm wondering if you have some sort of etiquette around that situation.
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RHP User
12 years ago
we've been approached by 'fwb's' time and time again...and invariably when we say 'no but thanks', one or the other approaches us again as a 'single'...wonder why they dont understand that 'no' is 'no'....or we have an 'fwb' 'cpl' approach us, and one or even both let slip that they are actually married/partnered, but with someone other than their 'fwb'... this is so far from what we want that its not funny...for many reasons...
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madotara69
12 years ago
If a couple are in love, then there is a whole set of boundaries that can effect feelings. It would be fair to believe other couples in love, just know where sex does not challenge love. The chance for all involved to enjoy the feelings with love being the feeling, then sex can be a fantastic moment. For a couple in love sharing to some others without love to each other, seems to feel a little dull, with a sense to beware for feelings.Finding singles who are in touch with us as a couple in love, just wanting to enjoy sex without any prize grabbers, has become a thing. Maybe there is fb's in touch, It does double the chance for things to become awkward, maybe wrong.As a genuine couple, we look for something with love a value, otherwise a free fuck for anyone would fill the message box a lot quicker than the few who still think we are a free fuck, or more to the elusive point, Tara is.Love is grand
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madotara69
12 years ago
correction...Maybe there is 'fwb' 'cpl' in touch.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Otori' Hi Mr Trys, great to hear your input! I think if we were to meet a couple at a club like you who played as a team, we'd probably play but it definitely wouldn't be anything more than a one-off. We find the intimacy between a couple is a huge turn-on and I don't know if it would be as good if that was lacking. One question though, if you meet a couple together and they say they're only interested in her and not you, or only you and not her, would you have any issues with playing with the couple as a single, or does it not matter? I'm wondering if you have some sort of etiquette around that situation. Hi Otori, Ms Shout here, putting in her 2 cts. You say you find the intimacy between a couple a huge turn-on, and so do we. Even though Mr Trysts and I are FWBs rather than together, we do share a great deal of intimacy. This includes holding, kissing and spooning, but also working as a team, where one look shared between us can be enough to read each other's minds. If we did not have this emotional connection, I would not have a couples profile with him. To answer your question: If we were in a position where a couple wanted to play with only one of us, we would let the other decide for themselves, without any issues at all. We play both separately and together and fully respect each others autonomy. We are also quite open with each other about who we're seeing. Yet another form of intimacy. x Ms Shout
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks for the answer. Great to have a FWB couple's perspective on this thread Ms Otori
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