Does it matter who asks the question?

March 02 2023

I’ve noticed in the forums that the tone of replies will be different depending on the ‘identity’ of the poster, be it an incomplete profile, gender, race, sugar dating requests, attached vs unattached, etc. Does it matter to you, why?

Comments

  • Obi1kenietzsche

    Obi1kenietzsche

    2 years ago

    Internet anonymity as the OP does not shield one from scrutiny and subsequent comment, and of course, subsequent comments by readers are similarly subject to If someone wants to be a dick and post deliberately antagonistic or obviously inflammatory questions/statements/opinions on the forums, then they should also expect to be held accountable for that, and taken to task occasionally. This should irrespective of all the various factors regarding profile details and the like, but it IS always interesting when the OP’s subject matter is not in the least congruent with their profiles. It’s a tough crowd here in the sandbox. 😊

  • Ms_silk

    Ms_silk

    2 years ago

    I'd think it's the same as when you screen the profiles of people who have messaged you. The longer you have been on here the better you get at knowing what profiles are fake or misrepresenting themselves. So regular forum commentators will just directly call them on that.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    2 years ago

    Kinda: If you person hasn't put an effort into their profile how on earth are they going to put in any other effort into anything else, IE Posted forum topics, in the bedroom etc, yet they expect posters to take them "seriously". Many posters are not fools here, including you OP. Let's keep it real. 👏 Ms Foxy PS I'm quite happy to make sand-pies in the sandpit. 🥧

  • deepestpurple

    deepestpurple

    2 years ago

    Men are treated as pests until proven otherwise

  • Flirty2020

    Flirty2020

    2 years ago

    How can the “tone” of what one writes in here, give any clues as to one’s identity and gender? The written word is often misconstrued and therein lies the problem. If English is not one’s “mother tongue” this may impact on the tone and may result in the recipients getting the wrong meaning & impression and reacting in completely the wrong way and not as the OP intended. Who is writing this message ? Mr or Mrs Flirty ? And does it really matter?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    2 years ago

    I wrote a long comment to this really AWESOME forum post Nightingale8 . . . but in writing it I realised how often these forum posts are used to validate how individuals see themselves, and I’m as guilty as the next person of that. So I deleted the comment.. .. So instead, I’m going to share this utterly brilliant article about how the internet is shaping and then reinforcing stereotypes and how over time, that exposure intensifies toxic prejudices.. .. https://study.com/academy/lesson/how-prejudice-discrimination-are-perpetuated-online.html .. And to answer your question, Nightingale8, if the “it” in your question is referring to the bias that people are showing by not being more tolerant in their “tone”, then I’d have to say “Yes. Yes it matters to me. Although I’m far from perfect, and can still benefit from ‘tempering’ my own words from time to time, it does scare me to see some toxic and increasingly dangerous social norms being reinforced again and again in this forum. Unchecked. Unapologetic. Reinforced by others. It all matters”. .. Thank you for asking the question.

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    2 years ago

    Yes ' l noticed the style of grammer can change quite noticably in some profiles.. Do l think it matters ? Yes ' you think your talking with one person when it suddenly dawns you're not ? I find that deceitfull ..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    2 years ago

    The forums can be a bit like Mos Eisley spaceport at times for newbies. Especially new males genuinely wanting to understand who the whole place works. Lots of judgement based on who came before. A tough skin is required to survive which shouldn't be the case on any forum really but it is what it is. Some of the more jaded regs can have a piss poor attitude that spoil it for newcomers at times which is unfortunate for the ones who are innocently asking questions or trying to be playful.

  • Mrs_Deep_Love

    Mrs_Deep_Love

    2 years ago

    The forum is supposed to be a bit of light entertainment.

  • EarthQueen

    EarthQueen

    2 years ago

    I don't care who asks the question as long as its not about dogging.

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    2 years ago

    Some people ask questions to find some friends, one friend can matter, profiles list the sexual enjoyment with new friends finding each other, in a lifetime a handful of friends is worth the thousands who hopefully found theirs and even one friend matters, if one person in a lifetime matters, then there is two friends that matter, so yes it matters who asks the question, maybe we all matter, some will invest emotions, risk sharing themselves, whether the negative venting and insults intended by some and understand some people are ill and if one person who is I’ll and answers the question, does it matter if that one person matters and then does it matter who asks or who answers matter, yes because caring heals I’ll health and healing even one person matters how many people in answering this question matter ? Every one does. What was the question sorry, Dreamtime helps to find answers to the meanings and meanings teach us to understand some things are things and none of those things matter, just one person means everything is nothing and understanding one person means that finding the best in them is the answer, just one person asks the question matters if the answer matters, understanding it’s a person, not a thing and things don’t matter only who. Sorry what was the question? Mado Mado Tara xx

  • Libertine001

    Libertine001

    2 years ago

    Just to keep things lighthearted. Check out the link to know what each sex goes through. https://youtu.be/pInk1rV2VEg Libertine

  • Lostyanumber

    Lostyanumber

    2 years ago

    From 49 comments down to 44 & back up to 53... Ya get that. 😜

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    2 years ago

    *Looks around* 🫡🧐 Where did OpenmindedLass go too? I enjoyed reading her posts. Ms Foxy *Heads back to making sand pies. 🐈 💩 🥧 🥧

  • Obi1kenietzsche

    Obi1kenietzsche

    2 years ago

    A good example of why people comment the way they do on here might be found by perusing the recent “Glory Hole Sydney” post. 🤔

  • Obi1kenietzsche

    Obi1kenietzsche

    2 years ago

    And further to that, raises the question of whether one should have to be verified in order to start a topic.

  • Lover_Boytoy

    Lover_Boytoy

    2 years ago

    Unfortunately it is different.

  • sweetnyorkshire

    sweetnyorkshire

    2 years ago

    I think the men don't comment what they really think and instead comment what they think women want to hear.

  • AWomanWithNeeds

    AWomanWithNeeds

    2 years ago

    The answer would entirely depend on whose asking. Which answers your question (by me at least). I'll respond to a post before I'd reply to a message though.

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    youngsyd_cpl

    one year ago

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