M59
Double Standards
July 11 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
what you're asking our opinion on..........how to keep your lifestyle under wraps of the public??
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RHP User
11 years ago
What do I ask...how do you get people to believe you are allowed to play when your profile says married and you want to be honest with your wife?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your profile is very brief. I feel you should update it and explain your situation. Ladies will then be able to understand your situation if your up front and make a decision if they want to converse with you. I have recently started seeing a man who I met on another site who is married but in an open relationship. He put this in his profile so I knew from the outset what his situation was. I too had put in my profile that I was seeing someone and in a Poly/Open relationship. I find that if you know the situation from the beginning it makes it a lot easier. All the best, Ms NC2147- Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
If you swing...... swing with just the woman, if you can. Problem solved? But what does being a sex worker "for essential reasons" mean?- DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not much chance to swing in a small mining town, i am trying to find like minded people for us both. And essential reasons...stuffed back, mortgage to pay, kids to feed and keep warm
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's lovely to hear you talk about your wife like that. I think what I'm hearing you say that she is happy to watch you with another woman, but when she's not there she'd rather not know? You will indeed find that many women here won't believe you when you say you are allowed to play solo, especially if they are not able to actually ask your wife. And even then, some women won't meet attached men, whether their wives know or not. I have no tips for that I'm afraid, but rest assured that you're not alone. And as other couples here will tell you: The only way to be discreet when living in a small town is to keep the action well outside its borders. Good luck.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' It's lovely to hear you talk about your wife like that. I think what I'm hearing you say that she is happy to watch you with another woman, but when she's not there she'd rather not know? You will indeed find that many women here won't believe you when you say you are allowed to play solo, especially if they are not able to actually ask your wife. And even then, some women won't meet attached men, whether their wives know or not. I have no tips for that I'm afraid, but rest assured that you're not alone. And as other couples here will tell you: The only way to be discreet when living in a small town is to keep the action well outside its borders. Good luck.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' It's lovely to hear you talk about your wife like that. I think what I'm hearing you say that she is happy to watch you with another woman, but when she's not there she'd rather not know? You will indeed find that many women here won't believe you when you say you are allowed to play solo, especially if they are not able to actually ask your wife. And even then, some women won't meet attached men, whether their wives know or not. I have no tips for that I'm afraid, but rest assured that you're not alone. And as other couples here will tell you: The only way to be discreet when living in a small town is to keep the action well outside its borders. Good luck.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'EzGoingCouple' Quoting 'Mesmerised' It's lovely to hear you talk about your wife like that. I think what I'm hearing you say that she is happy to watch you with another woman, but when she's not there she'd rather not know? You will indeed find that many women here won't believe you when you say you are allowed to play solo, especially if they are not able to actually ask your wife. And even then, some women won't meet attached men, whether their wives know or not. I have no tips for that I'm afraid, but rest assured that you're not alone. And as other couples here will tell you: The only way to be discreet when living in a small town is to keep the action well outside its borders. Good luck.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's just the way it is. Be patient, there will be a woman out there somewhere who doesn't have an issue with attached men.
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RHP User
11 years ago
What I read was...there is unresolved issues still on the home front...clean that up first, sort it out then do what you have to do...its about being ethical and honest not only to yourself but to others also...its not really fair if you bring another into that..Best of Luck and as others have said there will be someone out there, just don't be in a rush cause that will f*ck everything else up... FOXY
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Playful2looking
11 years ago
You guys are very brave. I get the impression that your wife is a sex worker because the money is needed. or she enjoyes it. In her head she has seperated the love and sex. The sex with her clients is just that sex and a job. Now the swinging part of your relationship is tricky why do you want to swing and does she. If it is just for fun then cool but if it is because she is getting heaps of sex and you feel like you are missing out on some. then its discussion time. You say she doesn't mind you having sex with other women when you are swinging together. but i get the impression she doesn't want you to go out and have sex on your own. I think she does mind you doing things solo without her. She maybe scared of loosing you. You see she is doing her sex for money or need where as you want to do yours for fun. Girls don't always clearly articulate their needs not in male speak. you guys need to think about what you both want and draw up some bounderies
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is a small town??? Lmfao - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Does your wife feel guilty that she has sex with other men (for gain or otherwise) and therefore feel she should allow you to do likewise (rather reluctantly it appears)?.I'm unsure about a contract of such flippancy, and if you love her as you say, do you then require other women for sex as I'm sure your charge-out rate would be modest as you're a man..Finally, perhaps a larger town if your worried about local gossip and is there no other work for women in this place apart from sex work?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'NewCouple2147'Your profile is very brief. I feel you should update it and explain your situation. Ladies will then be able to understand your situation if your up front and make a decision if they want to converse with you. I have recently started seeing a man who I met on another site who is married but in an open relationship. He put this in his profile so I knew from the outset what his situation was. I too had put in my profile that I was seeing someone and in a Poly/Open relationship. I find that if you know the situation from the beginning it makes it a lot easier. All the best, Ms NC2147- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
As long as you are honest with each other it shouldn't be a problemMy hubby knows I have playmates to satisfy my needs as long as I am discrete and don't tell him the details he is fine I have told him often that if he wants a playmate to go ahead but he doesn't want oneI can understand being a sex worker out of necessity and as long as you can separate Work and play there was never a problem for meI can relate to a small town and small minds but I think there are a few people who would surprise you so you may be able to find others to play with or you may need to go out of town for funBut Good Luck anywayDrop me a line if you'd like
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