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Double identity....
September 05 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have seen this a lot and it is perplexing and insulting.........I will fuck those sluts....but they're not relationship material.Its because of the encounters I have had on vanilla sites I come back here.....do I trust me in general much now??
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RHP User
11 years ago
You mean like half the men on here. I remember a woman saying that she was in contact with a guy through RHP and through a vanilla site.... But he hadn't t clicked to the fact she was the same person. It turned out he lived a fair distance away.... So through RHP he was willing to travel for a bonk but not interested in meeting her as a potential relationship. I remember she was quite miffed at that. Lol. Sorry.... That hasn't got anything to do with your question. Oops. No, someone who has a fetish or even a strong kink will never be happy with a vanilla person as quite often they hide that side of themselves. I think women would be more successful in letting that side of themselves go for a man... But a man will eventually be compelled to act out his fantasies... And usually behind his partners back. How is that it double standards!! :p
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think a long time ago this question was asked and some men commented that they didn't think women on a swingers site would be able to remain faithful. This was the reason why they would not consider an RHP woman relationship material.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have come across quite a few people who have an RHP and a more vanilla profile on another site. Quite a few of them seemed to just be casting their net widely, looking for similar things but on different sites. Some were looking for primarily a sexual relationship like NSA or FWB to tide them over until they found something more permanent. Most were very open to the possibility of a committed relationship starting with someone from RHP, although most were not hopeful it would happen.not sure about the "socially acceptable" part of it, although I understand what you are getting at. Sad that so many of us still feel the need to keep strands of life so separate.Regarding your question about settling for something vanilla? I did that. I was with my ex-wife for a total of 12 years after having been in this lifestyle for a few years before that. She was not open to it and because I loved her, I found it surprisingly easy to leave it behind. I personally never felt my life was diminished at all or that I had settled. Probably because I walked into that choice with my eyes open and knowing it meant an end to swinging. I would have been quite happy to remain with her and out to the lifestyle but that was not to be. Now the relationship is quite finished and has been for some time, I do ask myself if at this point in my life would I be prepared to give it away again. Although I would very definitely prefer to find and love someone into this lifestyle, if I fell that totally in love again, I very much suspect I could give it up again happily. As one of my favourite TV characters said once, "the heart wants what the heart wants"I think I just stated what my preference would be but you never know what is around the corner, as Tad Williams, an author said,"he who is certain he knows the ending of things when he is only beginning them is either extremely wise or extremely foolish; no matter which is true, he is certainly an unhappy man, for he has put a knife in the heart of wonder"just my thoughts.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think it is equally likely that you have it arse about.That is, they play the vanilla card until they get a root, then evaporate !Sucks either way, There are however a surprising amount on the vanillas just looking for a fwb. Been there done that !
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RHP User
11 years ago
Unless you are on this site looking for relationship material? Why not just enjoy that they are on here and wanting some fun. If they are looking for something Vanilla so be it. Didn't think RHP was marketed to be a relationship site. But I'm sure plenty have formed relationships here but probably didn't go looking for it. We all have double indenties, is the persona you portray here the same you do as work? If you were on a vanilla site would you say you were after the same things you were after here? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
My RSVP profile is maybe a bit more risqué than rhp... Because RSVP profiles are so deadly serious I don't want a vanilla woman from that pond, so I naughty'd up my profile to scare off the vanilla princesses... And guess what ? IT WORKS PERFECTLY !! Hp xo 💌 Not a RSVP reply in 6 months...
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RHP User
11 years ago
HP; I did a similar thing. My profile started with. WARNING; THIS MAN HAS FULLY FUNCTIONAL LIBIDO ! It kept most of the white picket fence crowd away, garnered a bit of abuse and the occasional meet ! 👍- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
eharmony or whatever the hell it's called FFS, wake up you lot, double identity......thing is you only know what you know, regardless of what you espouse
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RHP User
11 years ago
well I am on a variety of sites, and dont see the problem. If I happen to meet someone on a vanilla site whos a bit kinky, and it works-great, If i happen to meet someone on RHP who is also looking for something a bit more serious, well -great!
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I rejoined the seething throng in march this year, i noticed (!) that they all seem so deadly earnest on the vanilla sites, and I knew that I wasn't in the correct frame of mind for a "relationship" at the time. I don't play games with people and especially not with their emotions, and the last thing I wanted was to attract the interest of a woman who was wanting to play for sheep stations... So my opening line in the about me was "blowing my own trumpet, mmmm never been able to reach..." If you read that, and want to apply, you're not playing for sheep stations, you're just playing... I'm in a much better headspace now, if I do say so myself... 😛 Hp xo 💌 Solo trumpet player...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Does it really matter ? A while back I Googled a few user names .. Surprise Surprise !!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I think a long time ago this question was asked and some men commented that they didn't think women on a swingers site would be able to remain faithful. This was the reason why they would not consider an RHP woman relationship material. As unfair and duplicitous as it is this has to be close to the mark ... it is quite the conundrum wanting a sexually expressive and liberated woman for a monogamous relationship ? The ease with which a woman can find a willing casual sex partner if she chooses to in places like this would make it difficult for all bar the most self assured to not harbor lingering doubts of infidelity.
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RHP User
11 years ago
"Personally I would prefer to start a relationship with someone I share an open mind with regardless of where we met. I don't believe in labeling someone because of their sexual experimentation"FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm on vanilla sites like RSVP and Pof. But just because I list myself on those sites as looking for a relationship, doesn't mean I'm going to settle down with just anyone, or the first one that comes along. In the long term, yes I'm looking for a relationship. In the short term, I'm quite happy making friends. But where does any dating/sex/relationship site specify a time frame that labels it "in a relationship"?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
natural these days to put ones self on multiple dating sites and see more than one person.It's easier to meet people over the net then it is to met people naturally.Until that "talk" of lets be in a "commit relationship" people are free to do what they want.Gosh If I met someone and they too were into me and wanted to follow up on a committed relationship, I would delete myself and I hope they would to.I would remain faithful to them cause that would be the right thing to do, well in my eyes it would be.I totally understand why some people feel the way do.I've seen and read it all too often on here how easy it is to cheat and people are on here without their partners knowing.FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lets face it ? We are all sluts in the bedroom but lady's on the streets? So point is we all have that double side in us don't we;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
So..... A lot of men would feel as if they would not be able to totally satisfy a woman on RHP because the assumption is she is very sexual, experimental and can and possibly does, have sex any time she wants..... So how can one single man satisfy her? Better go off to a vanilla site and find a woman who is unaware of what the world has to offer when it comes to sex ... They will be easier to please, or I can teach her, or they will be happy with a monogamous relationship. Is that right?
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RHP User
11 years ago
On second thoughts... Is this because this is actually what a man would do? If he could have sex any time, any place, with who ever he chooses.... Would he give that up for a monogamous relationship? We often project our own values onto others... Is this what is happening here? Personally I think a lot of women would give up "all this" (insert eye roll here) for someone they were in love with. Sorry Coops, I don't know this for sure, but I think most women get to a point where casual sex becomes an absolute bore. We want more.... Men also get to this point as well... But seems to me they don't arrive as quickly as the women.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sirlurkalot' But just because I list myself on those sites as looking for a relationship, doesn't mean I'm going to settle down with just anyone, or the first one that comes along. In the long term, yes I'm looking for a relationship. In the short term, I'm quite happy making friends. - Posted from rhpmobile My same thoughts as well.FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Harrisson68' A while back I Googled a few user names .. Surprise Surprise !!! Why would you do that for??What did you get out of it??Is that your own insecurities/trust issues??FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
of people here are on other sites and have slightly different profiles...it does not necessarily mean that they compartmentalize to the point that they think all women/men on RHP/AMM are only useful for sex and not potential ''relaationship'' material...some may think this way...poor them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY' Quoting 'Harrisson68' A while back I Googled a few user names .. Surprise Surprise !!! No I was googling myself to see what would come up....Why would you do that for??What did you get out of it??Is that your own insecurities/trust issues??FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Harrison, I am sure you did it out of curiosity, you know, mucking around one day.... Not some dark mysterious secret. I have had other RHP members recognize me on other sites.... Oh wait. Maybe they are stalkers?? Lol. Seriously I have never given it much thought. SirLurk. Did you understand the question? So you are on a vanilla site looking for relationships but you are on RHP looking for "friends". That is the whole question.... Why are you on RHP looking for "friends" why aren't you on RHP looking for relationships?? Okay its a sex site but the question is why do a lot of men not consider woman on RHP as potential relationship material. The question has nothing to do with which century you may be ready to actually meet someone.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Harrisson68' Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY' Quoting 'Harrisson68' A while back I Googled a few user names .. Surprise Surprise !!! No I was googling myself to see what would come up....Why would you do that for??What did you get out of it??Is that your own insecurities/trust issues??FOXY Sorry I gotcha now !!!!!....LOL :)The statement appeared like you googled a few profile names from here to see if they were on other sites! I was thinking who has time for that - not something I would even think to do.FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'IndefatigableMe' Quoting 'Meeka100' I think a long time ago this question was asked and some men commented that they didn't think women on a swingers site would be able to remain faithful. This was the reason why they would not consider an RHP woman relationship material. As unfair and duplicitous as it is this has to be close to the mark ... it is quite the conundrum wanting a sexually expressive and liberated woman for a monogamous relationship ? The ease with which a woman can find a willing casual sex partner if she chooses to in places like this would make it difficult for all bar the most self assured to not harbor lingering doubts of infidelity. Why would a woman, be an less faithful than a man who has been visiting sexually free sites? Are you putting your own insecurities onto the women you meet here? I have had 3 significant relationships/marriages in my time being 16 yrs, 4 yrs and 8 yrs. Never did I look at or want another man while I was in a committed loving relationship. I am a very loyal person to whom I fall in love with. Because I have chosen to be here and explore my boundaries does that now change my morals or how I behave in any future relationships? No it does not. If my partner wasn't into this lifestyle then I would have no problem leaving it. However, if I found a partner who was already in the lifestyle then that would be a joyous thing to share. IMO having preconceived ideas about how others will live their lives "after being on RHP or any other similar site" means you are limiting your chances of entering the most rewarding of relationships because of your "lingering doubts of infidelity". Sex sites are not the be all and end all of a person, only a small facet of their life and experience. You are obviously here because you have certain needs and desires. Would you turn your back on someone you met here, who you share a strong connection with and are compatible with in every way because you think they can't possibly keep their legs closed or be monogamousclosed as they are sexually liberated? Some of the happiest couples I have met are those that honestly share all parts of their lives, especially their sexuality. SF xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY' Quoting 'Harrisson68' Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY' Quoting 'Harrisson68' A while back I Googled a few user names .. Surprise Surprise !!! No I was googling myself to see what would come up....Why would you do that for??What did you get out of it??Is that your own insecurities/trust issues??FOXY Sorry I gotcha now !!!!!....LOL :)The statement appeared like you googled a few profile names from here to see if they were on other sites! I was thinking who has time for that - not something I would even think to do.FOXY Whilst I haven't googled names, I have come across quite a few women who are on both here and the various vanilla sites. The funny thing is the disparity between profile, I remember one whose vanilla profile read like she is a born again virgin, and explicitly stated she is not after sex and anyone who wants to meet her had better not expect anything past a peck on the cheek for at least 6 dates (her words, not mine). Then you read her RHP profile and she was after anything, male female, trans you and specified NSA sex - even stated she didn't need to be wined and dined before hand. Yes I know male profile in that situation would probably read the same, I just don't read those profile lol Mooks
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RHP User
11 years ago
monogamous not "monogamousclosed"! LOL SF
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RHP User
11 years ago
Indefatigble is actually married...I think he was merely musing about the insecurities of other males.....double standards are still alive and well even in RHP world.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' You mean like half the men on here. I remember a woman saying that she was in contact with a guy through RHP and through a vanilla site.... But he hadn't t clicked to the fact she was the same person. It turned out he lived a fair distance away.... So through RHP he was willing to travel for a bonk but not interested in meeting her as a potential relationship. I remember she was quite miffed at that. Lol. Sorry.... That hasn't got anything to do with your question. Oops. Interesting story...LOL If there isn't one already, we should start a threat: What Lengths will a man go to for a Root? No, someone who has a fetish or even a strong kink will never be happy with a vanilla person as quite often they hide that side of themselves. I think women would be more successful in letting that side of themselves go for a man... But a man will eventually be compelled to act out his fantasies... And usually behind his partners back. How is that it double standards!! :p I agree with the above because there does seem to be a lot of married men here seeking to act out their fantasies. I could be wrong but I think the married women here are mostly being ignored by their partners sexually. Although I do acknowledge the same applies to some married men too. SF
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'justforfunisall'I have come across quite a few people who have an RHP and a more vanilla profile on another site. Quite a few of them seemed to just be casting their net widely, looking for similar things but on different sites. Some were looking for primarily a sexual relationship like NSA or FWB to tide them over until they found something more permanent. Most were very open to the possibility of a committed relationship starting with someone from RHP, although most were not hopeful it would happen. not sure about the "socially acceptable" part of it, although I understand what you are getting at. Sad that so many of us still feel the need to keep strands of life so separate. Regarding your question about settling for something vanilla? I did that. I was with my ex-wife for a total of 12 years after having been in this lifestyle for a few years before that. She was not open to it and because I loved her, I found it surprisingly easy to leave it behind. I personally never felt my life was diminished at all or that I had settled. Probably because I walked into that choice with my eyes open and knowing it meant an end to swinging. I would have been quite happy to remain with her and out to the lifestyle but that was not to be. Now the relationship is quite finished and has been for some time, I do ask myself if at this point in my life would I be prepared to give it away again. Although I would very definitely prefer to find and love someone into this lifestyle, if I fell that totally in love again, I very much suspect I could give it up again happily. As one of my favourite TV characters said once, "the heart wants what the heart wants" I think I just stated what my preference would be but you never know what is around the corner, as Tad Williams, an author said, "he who is certain he knows the ending of things when he is only beginning them is either extremely wise or extremely foolish; no matter which is true, he is certainly an unhappy man, for he has put a knife in the heart of wonder" just my thoughts. Thank you for sharing your experience justforfunisall ... I'm of the same opinion and I am sure many others are as well. Hope you find what you seek be it vanilla or chocolatte with sprinkles... SF
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority' When I rejoined the seething throng in march this year, i noticed (!) that they all seem so deadly earnest on the vanilla sites, and I knew that I wasn't in the correct frame of mind for a "relationship" at the time. I don't play games with people and especially not with their emotions, and the last thing I wanted was to attract the interest of a woman who was wanting to play for sheep stations... So my opening line in the about me was "blowing my own trumpet, mmmm never been able to reach..." If you read that, and want to apply, you're not playing for sheep stations, you're just playing... I'm in a much better headspace now, if I do say so myself... 😛 Hp xo 💌 Solo trumpet player... on those sites they play for sheep stationson this one they play for the pretty sheep, rhp kink land to be honest if you say, I meet this guy on eharmony people will go ohh thats niceif you say i meet this guy in rhp they go, ohh dear he must be some kind of pervert and so are you.even women friends I have off rhp , we all work to make up some bullshit story of how we are friends so as not to petrify straight friends, and more importantly not to have my husbands mates judge him for his wife being on here.and Judge they all do, and so do we for that matterits just covering your arse
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you Freya, I missed the bit about Indefatigble being married. But it actually makes his comments even more confounding when it comes to "lingering doubts" over a woman's ability to be in a monogamous relationship as he clearly isn't keeping up his end of that deal. Yes, you are right, double standards still prevail! SF
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Harrison, I am sure you did it out of curiosity, you know, mucking around one day.... Not some dark mysterious secret. I have had other RHP members recognize me on other sites.... Oh wait. Maybe they are stalkers?? Lol. Seriously I have never given it much thought. SirLurk. Did you understand the question? So you are on a vanilla site looking for relationships but you are on RHP looking for "friends". That is the whole question.... Why are you on RHP looking for "friends" why aren't you on RHP looking for relationships?? Okay its a sex site but the question is why do a lot of men not consider woman on RHP as potential relationship material. The question has nothing to do with which century you may be ready to actually meet someone. Exactly thats why we care, because we feel we are not good enough for a relationship. For the woman who has different expectations Mooka often it is because on the vanilla sites the men can be even more forward than here.....there opening message being what are you looking for....or wanna fuck. I have frequented vanilla sites just in the expectations of broadening my meeting options. I am not here because I am any more sexually adventurous to other women often men who visit vanilla sites say they gfet more sex there.Men here are not necessarily more open to sexual openness or exploration.
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madotara69
11 years ago
I have read many posts to all kinds of topics about what people expect with meeting others, I can't help but feel many are spending so much focus to what they expect, they are missing what the unexpected may have bought everything they could have ever wanted, most probably what they actually need from others.One could spend all day talking about what they want tomorrow to be, just to find that tomorrow is lost to the next days expectations. And when does a day turn out how you expected it to be, I imagine it would be a blur from one day to the next.I don't believe that is a very exciting way to live. I believe you need to let your spirit guide the way, not peer pressure.Mado
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RHP User
11 years ago
Indef was just adding to my point... He didn't say that was his view! Think you are misjudging him there. But It's one of those things.... Not saying its right or wrong but some men do feel this way. That is, very sexually liberated women on a swingers site would not be happy with a one on one relationship. Therefore they go to a dating site where people are looking for a traditional relationship. It makes sense right? I am sure that is how lots of men think... It's logical. Yes? I often find the simplest explanation is often the right one when it comes to men. As anywhere, if a guy meets someone he really wants, can't forget, wants to peruse he will. Doesn't matter if it is on RHP or other sites. Anything else just means that he just isn't that into you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am talking about evolved men that is..... Not the guys that think a sexually liberated woman is a slut and doesn't deserve respect. Those guys still belong in caves and we wouldn't want to meet them anyway. Right?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just googled my moniker, it has all my forum posts! I am moving to another country, right now!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY' Quoting 'Harrisson68' Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY' Quoting 'Harrisson68' Whilst I haven't googled names, I have come across quite a few women who are on both here and the various vanilla sites. The funny thing is the disparity between profile, I remember one whose vanilla profile read like she is a born again virgin, and explicitly stated she is not after sex and anyone who wants to meet her had better not expect anything past a peck on the cheek for at least 6 dates (her words, not mine). Then you read her RHP profile and she was after anything, male female, trans you and specified NSA sex - even stated she didn't need to be wined and dined before hand.Yes I know male profile in that situation would probably read the same, I just don't read those profile lolMooksHummmm...I would call that a little deceitful and misleading others.Sounds like two different people.FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you had a profile here and a profile on a Vanilla site, and met a person on Vanilla site, would you tell them you are on RHP ??????OR would you leave it, not say a thing?FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY'If you had a profile here and a profile on a Vanilla site, and met a person on Vanilla site, would you tell them you are on RHP ??????OR would you leave it, not say a thing?FOXY Foxy you minx, I have been in that situation a few times. And I have taken the cowards way out and not mentioned being on RHP! Yes I confess, I hid my so called naughty boy persona for the sake of appearances. I actually have devised a small test nowadays. If I am on a date that was generated from a vanilla site, normally the first date (like to get things out in the open so to speak), we normally talked a little about where we live right. Well I also mention the beaches here at Port Stephens and let slip that there is a clothing optional beach here. And I judge the reaction from that, some will turn their nose up and mutter something like '.. must be full of perverts and weirdos..' or the like. Then I know that any mention of RSVP will just not be a smart move lol But most I tell and they normally end up either being inquisitive about the site (and some have subsequently joined) or sheepishly admit they are members too !!! Mooks
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have a very kinky hot FWB who has two profiles on here.... One for pure sex, one for a relationship. And she leads the biggest double standard I have seen.. But she is my gem! She fucks like crazy with multiple men, and has dates with a strict no sex policy from her other profile. She once had a dinner date lined up and texted me to meet her at a park first, have me a blow job because she said she wanted to have the taste of cum in her mouth while on the date!!! And yet they spoke about arts, politics etc during the date with only a kiss in the check to end it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I met my last ex who I was with for 4 1/2 years on RHP and I have met so many of my close friends from the RHP site to.. Male and Female..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Absolutely ! It's the first thing I tell. Without fail. If she can't cope with the knowledge that I'm up front and sexual, then she's pure and simple not for me. Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...- Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
11 years ago
I am on multiple sites to and don't see the problem with it. Once I start chatting to someone on a vanilla site I always mention rhp. Some get a bit freaked by it. Go figure! And I have come across guys that aren't interested on a vanilla site but are quite persistent on rhp or similar site, this definitely comes across as the "you're ok to fuck but nothing more" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Avoid players like you avoid liars. Two in every one of us do.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I thought everyone googled themselves.. At least once !! As for being on other sites... Well so what... They say it pays to advertise !
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madotara69
11 years ago
I joined another site, as an entry level guest (free), I am Vooserfagger a faceless man, not much detail and said something like looking for a fuck. I have never been back to the site, but have pages of Emails with messages from women. I guess it must be all in the name, he heMado, aka Vooserfagger
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RHP User
11 years ago
Definitely have my eye out for chocolate with sprinkles.....and nuts.....and ice cream....and chocolate sauce....basically the whole sundae. But if I found love somewhere, with sprinkles or without, it's worth pursuing :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've been on 'regular' dating sites and never had any luck because ultimately I'm not looking for that kind of all-possessive, 'live in each other's pockets' kind of relationship. I'm not a swinger but still want a regular partner to play with, and for guys to assume we can't be faithful is just blinkered of them. I've remained faithful to a lover even if I only got to see him once a week, and would do so even if I didn't see him for months, if he asked me to. I was faithful in my marriage for 18 years too.I just happen to want a relationship where sex is as important as love, trust, communication etc. That's why I'm here...and still searching.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I guess it doesn't really matter which site a person is on - yes, perceptions do exist - just be honest about who you are and what you seek just dont use the line 'love walking down the beach' - so over that one. The reality probably is that there are always going to be people who think they can lie their way through and it's upto the recepients of such messages to try and be discerning and read between the lines. Ladies, ask a single guy for his home number you will soon find out some truths !
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Peakey91
11 years ago
Idk I mean if you come on looking for just sex then that's all you will find. But if a guy comes on here looking for a partner and some fun along the way then yer possibly you will find it. It really comes down to how narrow minded about the situation you want to be and how you choose to use the application- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
And found i much preferthe honesty of a site like this. If it's just sex, lets all at least be honest about that! Besides, it's easier having the whole....."are you up for a threesome" conversation here
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am quite happy making friends from other sites as well Meeks. I'm also open to a relationship from here as well. But take a look around at the profiles on here Meeks. They list NSA, or the profile mentions that they've just broken up from their relationship and they just want some "fun". I'm all for fun, the difference is, my idea of fun is go-karting, or going to Winton raceway to watch the races, movies, dinner, etc. what I've found Meeks, is that SOME women will feel less of a woman if I don't try to fuck them. I don't want to feel as though that's expected of me because I'm on RHP. The more vanilla sites, I've found, the women are all good either way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
This topic gets an airing. Op its not just the men that have the double profiles or standards, one thing I have noticed over the years in RHP forums is the comments by some female members stating that they are on here not looking for the long term relationship. Hence the confusion amongst the male species that most women on RHP are not looking for something long term. I met a lady who had a profile on RHP that was totally the opposite to what her profile on another dating site read that she was looking for. Personally I believe some people have this stigma that RHP is just a fuck n go meeting place and not an Adult Dating site.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you are going to be on here and on a vanilla site, why not have the same profile?Hence will stop the confusion, as all the sites one has to be 18+, so why not??After all we are all adults with the same needs and wants. I really don't understand if one knows what they are looking for then, why have on one site one thing and say something different on here.That is misleading/false identity in a round about way to me.Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
where I met a man who has a profile on here and a profile on a vanilla site. Both profiles say completely different things, quite opposite.In the end I was confused as all fuck!!I didn't really know which person I was meeting or having a relationship with.One minute he wanted something and the next he didn't.Just confused me all round as it was a case of "double Identity"This has gone on for 10mths or so.I have to gave it up as he really has no idea what he really wants.So that made it unfair on myself to be put in that situation.I have learnt heaps from this lesson and am weary of meeting someone with profiles on different sites.Just disappoints me.Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Harrisson68' Does it really matter ? A while back I Googled a few user names .. Surprise Surprise !!! fuck it felt good
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just had to do it - my own that is! No I don't post on Trip Advisor nor am I on a Russian dating site as you could assume. Just saying ...... 😏- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes, thinking of going on a vanilla site. Don't know what my profile would say (which is why I haven't ....yet). Reasons? Actually all good. Came on this site, met some great people, had an amazing revelation (thank you even tho you stood me up last time) and realised I could be ready for relationship. Would like the wooing/dating no sex on 1st date expectation. Now (due to aforesaid revelation) I know that for me to choose future partner will have to be getting sexual needs met so that don't repeat history & end up in relationship for the wrong reasons ie sex. Would I tell future partner that I was here? Hopefully. Could I meet future partner here? Maybe. Hoped so. Fell. He was here for what it is. Coloured my future prospects? Yes. Going vanilla? Looks like it. Different sites for different needs. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Having a profile here, helps to encourage open, and honest communication, more so than the experience of a wide variety of sexual avenues. While I agree that it should be how it is, for some, it's a very intimidating, taboo almost conversation that people find it hard to broach. At least here, there's a little less judgement, but more importantly, there's an encouraging habitat that allows people to be more comfortable about expressing their sexuality, and basking in it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mabey it's hard for some people to feel comfortable putting up that they are looking for a relationship on rhp because they may think it will harm their chances of meeting people, perhaps they worry that it will be a turn off, coming across as needy. They use the vannila sites to put across their long term hopes and use rhp to get their short term needs met.- Posted from rhpmobile
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