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Double meanings
July 30 2015
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RHP User
9 years ago
Perhaps it's true, men can't multitask. They see a picture and lose the ability to read!
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RHP User
9 years ago
the saying goes "you cannot control how other people act....only how you react..." Applying this theory we see you cannot control those who choose to bypass any wording in your profile and make the assumption that "you're dtf(down to fuck)" but you can control how you perceive this..... But one thing you can bet on.... It can be used to screen out those worthy of ANY reply to any approach they may make.... However.... They could just be interested in the 30% off sale at the EBay store you bought it from 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
There's plenty of.folks who don't even read the profile and just look at the pics. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think it comes across as being a little contradictory, if not an ego buzz - not judging, jus sayn - given the predominant nature of the site n all.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Darling the short answer is yes,the long answer is yessssss😜and they are so distracted by your gorgeousness their eyes fog over and their fingers tremble as they press their buttons on their phone or slightly damp with drool ,keyboards 😘xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
there's a sign wet paint please don't touchlaw of averages suggest now matter...we all know what happens next.
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RHP User
9 years ago
You innocent little petal. Quoting 'willowtree_2'Am I sending out crossed wires by putting up a sexier pic with a profile of not looking? You are not sending mixed signals at all. Don't you know by know that these men in question never even make it to your profile? Odds are they didn't even check your location, let alone your age...
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RHP User
9 years ago
All of us women like the attention our photos gather, whether it be lingerie shots, fetish shots, semi nude, shoes, a lovely smile etc.....we LIKE guys looking at us. Or we wouldnt have photos up. Its your choice as to whether you are here just for the social aspect or want to meet people. RHP can be different things to all of us. Your pics are gorgeous, so men will still message you regardless. As Jules said, Wet Paint syndrome...... I say, What other people think of me is none of my business. Luckily, as Ive been pulled up before for some of my preferences but if you are happy with how the site is working for you then keep doing what you are doing. One day a message might come through that piques your interest and who knows? But its entirely up to you how you use the site xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Going to a bar in a short skirt and low-cut top does NOT automatically mean you're looking for a date or are "up for it" either. I've been told before that saying I'm bi on my profile or mentioning I'm a unicorn is playing games, considering I'm not looking for couples. One couple actually abused me and told me I was being deceptive. Tough, I'm not changing how I present myself to please others. Do what makes you feel good and sexy, willow.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Our lovely men folk you know, the little brain down there is dominated by the biggest stimulation. If there is a nice sexy piccy, all ability to read or hear goes out the window. When they have a wank. They close the eyes and the hearing goes up a cog to be able hear someone coming. Only one sense operational at one time........
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RHP User
9 years ago
You should and can put up whatever you want. It can be a very tricky subject because everyone has the right to express themselves as they wish. Nothing gives anyone the right to behave in an inappropriate manner but common sense tells us that if you put up sexy photos you will be looked at and receive messages despite whatever you write in your profile because there are people who just do that. And so what if you send out a double meaning, that is entirely your choice and right. Guess the pointy end and most controversial bit comes when someone complains and rants that people contact them even when they say not to (not saying your post is a complaint either just a legitimate and valid question). You just can't control the reactions of the masses or the irrational and no amount of appealing to common sense will ever change that or nanny state laws. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Insomnian
9 years ago
Although I have heard the common complaint that men and woman half the time don't even read what you write on your profile. They just look at the pics and send a message.
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nattyocean
9 years ago
For this reason i actually tried to upload a photo of my favourite place and make it my profile pic instead of my boobies and it was rejected 😕 I then emailed as to why this was and was informed that the photo did not meet the specifications of photos (which I didn't realise included a must of having at a minimum a body part included) so as a compromise I have now changed to my legs rather than my boobies but potato potato (different pronounciation implied lol), still get messages despite what my profile says 😑 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Willow...... I think you are sending mixed messages....... but to yourself. Sure, the profile words say don't contact..... but, you have a purpose for changing the pics.... whether you know or admit it, or not. So theres only one question to ask yourself. Why are you changing your photo to a "more provocative" image.... if not to gain attention? 2c
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
You're assuming that most guys read the words.........
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RHP User
9 years ago
I agree with you kiwi, thats what I was thinking and why I wrote this question. But I do like Meanders take on it with dressing sexy when you go out doesnt mean you are on the hunt.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Any people messaging you and subsequently complaining about the fact you're "misrepresenting" yourself (like I experienced) have a problem grasping the "You can look but you can't touch" concept. I think most of us are familiar with the phrases "She's a cock-tease" and "She is leading him on". They are often used when a woman isn't even communicating with the person(s) in question and is minding her own business. Willow, it's not like you are messaging guys saying "Hey, come check out my sexy pics, and btw I don't want you, ha fooled you!". Just because we have pics of our naked breasts up for all to see, doesn't mean we're inviting anyone to touch them, right? On a different note: It would be great if you could choose "No-one" in the Seeking drop-down box, but I guess that wouldn't be lucrative for RHP.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Meander you say "Just because we have pics of our naked breasts up for all to see, doesn't mean we're inviting anyone to touch them, right?" Fully agree that just because they are out you aren't inviting people to touch, but what about having your naked breasts out on a site primarily created to facilitate sexual relationships or having your cock out on a male profile. Photos are used in the same way words are and therefore could be seen as an invitation to consider and sending a message just as much as words do. So maybe putting up a photo showing your naked parts is giving a message whether intended or unintended? This goes to both sexes. just a shame most don't read the words that accompany the visual :)
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tall60
9 years ago
hi willow...i presume the friends u want to keep in touch with and the forumites will know who u r by yr nicname...your profile doesnt encourage contact or give any details regarding sexual preferences etc ...so why not delete your pic(s) as an experiment and see the result...should give u a definitive answer to your question about mixed messages and peoples reactions to your profile.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
to having "seeking no-one check box" is groups. I have only groups checked and works just as well. Maybe wont if you are a woman. My legs got tired being stuck in the air so went back to my old normal piccy. Traffic increased straightaway but contained by the groups thing. Bit like Willows old age handicap. Just because we are not looking for action doesnt mean we cant put up a photo that represents our mood.
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RHP User
9 years ago
the way I see it no harm in being flirtatious and asking the question anyway is there - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Yourmindormine'what about having your naked breasts out on a site primarily created to facilitate sexual relationships or having your cock out on a male profile. Slippery slope there! Firstly, I don't have my genitals out, but that's not even the point (see below). This is starting to border on "your asking for it". A bar is an adult please where plenty go to hook up too, but I'm happy to take it further. I've been to the Couples Club several times with no intention of playing. Sometimes because I just wanted to watch and chat with people (mostly the staff), but more often because I was asked by newbies to (figuratively) hold their hand. I dressed up in sexy clothes, because you do in a swingers club and also because I like to look beautiful and sexy when out. That actually pissed some people off, including one woman who told me I should get the fuck out if I didn't want to fuck her and her husband and not lead them on (I didn't even look at them). At some orgies I attended where they make you be naked just to be there, they will give you a red string to put on your wrist if you just want to watch. It's meant to be a clear signal. Unfortunately for some guests there being naked equaled sex, and once or twice someone had to be firmly reminded a bare pussy is still not an invitation to stick your hand up it. My thoughts.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes, will give that some thought. Possibly something in that theory. @Tall60, I dont want to be a grey ghost on here as Im active on the forums so I like people to have some kind of idea who is behind the profile. Ive had heaps of different pics up as my profile pic from just my knees, face to boobs out and my lingere. Suppose Im changing it up depending on mood as Annie mentioned. ( and a fair few of the messages recieved start with "I know youre not looking but..." I should have put that in my op.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Of course I get sending a message to someone who states she doesn't want them and sticking your hand in her vagina are different things. Just trying to illustrate.
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RHP User
9 years ago
You have every right to dress as you please, be naked, have whatever you want on your profile but the question was does it send a double meaning. I completely respect a person's right to dress and present as they please and this is no invitation for anyone to do as they please. But as a realist, we live in a crap world sometimes where incorrect interpretations exist. Willow can put up whatever photos she wants but there is always going to be some dirtbag who doesn't respect that doesn't invite them to disregard her preferences. Just like your experience at the club, your choice had one meaning for you but other interpreted that another way and were rather unpleasant when the meanings didn't accord. Shame on them. But I think we have to accept, rather regretfully, that there is always double meanings mainly due to how people interpret behaviour and unfortunately they make bad assumptions. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Willow...... I think you are sending mixed messages....... but to yourself. Sure, the profile words say don't contact..... but, you have a purpose for changing the pics.... whether you know or admit it, or not. So theres only one question to ask yourself. Why are you changing your photo to a "more provocative" image.... if not to gain attention? 2c Pearls of wisdom right here
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nuff said.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Do you actually want no messages at all? So as not to confuse people who have little time to read and comprehend all that prose (4 whole text...Who has time for that!) Because there are numerous settings available to change that: I want my profile visible for others to findDon't accept new messages I've used both at various times. Though not presently as the few messages I get are easily dealt with - as they're either, people who don't read profiles and SPAM (short pointless anonymous muck) or a follow up on a post in the forums.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Most guys will look at the picture first. And then as the late Robin Williams said God gave man a brain and a penis And only enough blood to run one of them
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RHP User
9 years ago
Messages. Who cares, unless OP you feel you must answer every single one of them, what a chore that would be. Now for your mistake write out "No thank you!" 1000 times. You know the answer, Man see, man do words because man is special, man now cross finger.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Perhaps they are reading the profile but sending a speculative message hoping to pique your interest. After all, you don't ask, you don't get. Not all of us guys are thoughtless bodies attached to a cock. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I message frequently with some friends Ive known for a while on here, so if I do the " not accepting new messages that will prevent my friends from messaging.
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RHP User
9 years ago
One tip? Change the "Back for an encore" heading to "Closed for business" or something.
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RHP User
9 years ago
And just to reiterate, Im not complaining. Just seeing a big rise in messages when I changed pic to a more provocative shot,without changing my profile wording just shows that it does send a mixed non verbal message I suppose. Irrelevant of my reason for putting the pic up.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Can I just ask how you get your profile to say you were last online 16/7 but you are on now? What settings did you use because Ive never seen that before on a profile. Is it a new function we can access?
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RHP User
9 years ago
My profile and tag line has worked... But I haven't put nude pics up for many years. As others have said attracts to much attention.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Just watched a show last night in relation to eyes, mind and dating. Three guys (tricked to the experiment) and two ladies who were wearing same clothes and lipstick and hair style. Ladies were switching chairs with ample of excuses so the guys would not notice and the guys were totally oblivious to the changes or switching. Afterwards all these guys said that they are usually observant but on this occasion. Expectation in your case is double sided. Yours and those that come to visit your profile. As a conclusion of the experiment above it is true that what eyes see is not always what it appears to be. It does come down to expectation and more so on a site like this where visual appeal speaks louder than intentional reason for being here, which is normally written in text. Now text is a shape as well, but not in order of charm, curves, colour expected to be seen. So, by removing the expectations we do get to see more finer details that can even paint a picture of curves in text. Plus, you are so likeable in visual dimension…
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RHP User
9 years ago
That is true. Meeka and I have received messages meant for the other, and we're as much like twins as de Vito and Schwarzenegger. :-P
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RHP User
9 years ago
cock tease 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I find it a bit disappointing when guys don't accept my profile for what it is but it is clear in pretty much all cases that they either haven't read or have chosen to ignore the written part of my profile. Saying that though, I don't get that many messages outside the forum, so yay. .DG, just because we might be displaying a provocative picture doesn't mean we want to be contacted outside the outlines of our profile. I don't even have men or couples as part of my search parameters.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Men are sexualy very visual. So by up loading a photo thats rather provocative that will over over anything you ever write in your bio. They will see it and go 'I won't that' hahaha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You don't want attention , you would think one would take steps to avoid this ? Being in business , I well know how sex sells If I use sex to sell , i would seek out a sexy shapely woman with curves , tits , and pout lips eye etc .. If I want to portray a more serious side to my business this is the last thing I need to use .. Not saying your pics ain't nice.. they are.. Just seems a lil contradictory
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RHP User
9 years ago
And add that my pics do cover the time I've been on RHP and some are not very representative at all anymore. Aside from the pics, I like to keep a low profile and I don't like to confuse people. :-Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
So when you put a provocative pic up your reason is you dont want any attension lolus men leave multitasking at work - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
It really doesn't matter what anyone thinks anyway, you are never going to please everyone, so as long as you're happy doing what you're doing and you're not hurting anyone, who really gives a shit.... I love your pictures, so why not show them off..... P.S. Can I have assess to the PGs now please, because we all know that's where the really good pictures are....😜
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RHP User
9 years ago
Be a passenger on rhp if you want, if you want true love go to eharmany, if you want an experience go to tinder, but dont be mistaken this is a real forum for people who know what they want. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Timmers
9 years ago
I disagree at the end of the day irrespective of what is in or written on a profile I'd send a message as I believe you can't 100% write I'm only interested in ect ect. Well this is my take :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Timmers
9 years ago
And Ps your 101 doing well haha - Posted from rhpmobile
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TallBaldSexy
9 years ago
Over think it sweetie. We - that's all of us - are entitled to have our own profile - our own. No cliche sort - but really - Who gives a rats what others think....if you think your profile cums across as confused - who cares - maybe indeed you are confused right now - today - So? Nice - I mean really nice pics SAx
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TallBaldSexy
9 years ago
Looking up. Oh dear those boobies :-)
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RHP User
9 years ago
I read this thread before I put up any photos. I thought the OP Had to be exaggerating.... But nope... I had a (fairly sexy) photo on my profile for one day and took it down because my messages got out of control, but it was obvious that none of them were reading my profile before messaging and could only say things like "hey babe how r u!" Admittedly a few had read my profile, but obviously my boobs had affected their reading comprehension because they thought that "looking for a submissive" meant "looking to be a submissive" and so tried to be all wannabe dom ... *Sigh* Meanwhile the kind of guys I'm looking for still message me without a photo because they make the effort to read my profile.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think you might have some idea whats in my pg2. Hand warmers. ✊
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Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
Beautiful Miss Willow, hence why I'd love to see them honey.....😍
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RHP User
9 years ago
I just enjoy the fun and profolity of double meanings Does a smile mean your happy or is it a expression of your naughty thoughts - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Your profile, do as you please (within the site rules). I, for one, am deeply appreciative of the marvellous photos that the ladies of RHP have in their public galleries. I am also one of the few who can read the profile that goes with it - so I don't pester them with unwanted messages. Mr71
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RHP User
9 years ago
No special settings, I just use my phone to keep up with the forums. I rarely log on with my computer. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
"She asked for it because she was dressed provocatively your Honour". . So I ignored the big sign around her neck telling me she was available for looking only. Pffft guys. . Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
I do enjoy your pics muchly, and wish people would realise RHP is for all strokes of folks. Peachy ;-)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'bluetiger64' So when you put a provocative pic up your reason is you dont want any attension lol Tiger, I'd suggest you read this forum again, it seems to gave gone over your head there. Quoting 'Timmers' I disagree at the end of the day irrespective of what is in or written on a profile I'd send a message as I believe you can't 100% write I'm only interested in ect ect. I'm glad that someone responded whom this forum was aimed at. You ignore what a woman's profile says because she can't be completely sure what she wants anyway? I think that "Her mouth said no, but her body said yes" way of thinking won't win you a lot of friends.
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RHP User
9 years ago
From my perspective there's many uses to this site. But predominantly, it's meeting people right? So taking offence to people trying to meet u, on this site, even with ur profile wording but combined with ur hot pics, and mysterious private folders..., is like expecting the bear, to not crap in the woods. ;) But. No judgement and just my observation... It might b annoying and possibly flattering at times, but a guy might think it's an old bio and they know things can change with people's circumstances all the time. Plus ur sexy pics revealed and more in private folders to possibly reveal, is a recipe for attention... :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
To deter unwanted men, just give em access to album 2. 99.9% wont be back....... xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Shoosh now. Lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'willowtree_2' I agree with you kiwi, thats what I was thinking and why I wrote this question. But I do like Meanders take on it with dressing sexy when you go out doesnt mean you are on the hunt. Yes but it’s not the same thing or even where you were coming from though is it?Your OP was questioning the use of provocative pics (due to the attention received) despite having stated you’re only here for the forums was it not? Off the top of my head, take Mischeviouslad, Stirry, Freya & JersyGirl. They all have an online presence in here without the use of provocative pics. It’s fair to say that we all have a reasonable perception of who they are as people going by their posts alone, which proves it not only can be done & but it can be done well - which is where I think is where the contradiction lies.
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RHP User
9 years ago
My previous pics have been either face shot, or knees or something similar.limited new messages.2 days before I posted this topic, I changed it to what I have up now. And recieved a jump in messages. Thats where my question came from. Even though a lot of the messages started with"I know you arent looking but...", so my profile was read before sending. My thoughts were that mixed signals were being recieved by ppl who messaged.And I thought to ask opinions on here. Very diverse answers,just like any community really. how it should be too.Now,this outfit I have on is what I would wear at hellfire or fetish empire.(which was on last weekend)These venues arent swinging clubs.Its pretty standard wear,I blend in as the norm, and it doesnt percieve that I am interested in hooking up with anyone by what Im wearing.But totally different perception as a public pic online as it hints at availability apparently And fair enough.I understand now. Ive asked a couple of guys that messaged me why and their replies were mostly the same vague " just thought I would give it a go in case you change your mind" not really answering me why, but its their reasoning. So now, do I go back to my face pic or knees and blend in here with the norm of "only here for the forums", or do I be who I feel like at the time? Will leave it up while the topic is being discussed anyway. Im finding it very interesting.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes, love looking!!! Especially when a lot of effort has been made to produce a tastful, tantalising shot! But we are often disappointed when they have not written much about themselves, we would much rather get a deeper insite into their mind as that is what makes them tic? Often we have sent a message to a very well written profile that captures our imagination in the hope that we will be equally impressed whith the pic's xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
On wether or not you like the attention generated I would've thought and with provocativity being the norm (in here), there's the added bonus of blending in too Seriously though, confusion and/or perceived availability may not even come into it at all. Could simply be liking what they see enough to act on impulse regardless
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RHP User
9 years ago
If people cant be bothered and take the time to read and acknowledge who you are and what your looking for.not worth it anyway xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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hot1handle
9 years ago
that's a bit harsh isn't it i'd have to say (my opinion only) that if (not saying that what you wear makes you a sort of person) but it doesn't help you out as this sites main objective is for sex and if naughty pictures are going to be used and a profile is going to be different then it will send mixed messages I have some listed friends that have some naughty pictures but it doesn't mean that I think one way or the other of them the right people will enjoy the pictures and read the profile then make a decide if they are right for them or not...
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RHP User
9 years ago
you be allowed to provide a provocative photo with guidelines and not expect to be messaged. Respect and courtesy would suggest that it should be abided. Of course admire all we wish but don't cross the line, and breach the rule.
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inspirit
9 years ago
Who cares if it is mixed or not. People have their own perceptions on things on life in general. However if you don't want the attention then don't put up provocative pictures. I have a great pic of my cleavage, though I am not seeking any attention, so it doesn't go up. Personally I feel if I put it up then I would be contradicting my profile. HAHAHA How about some contradiction then..............................<<<<<<<< ( . Y . )
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lovman8
9 years ago
Its your AGE! There's heaps of us old perves out here just looking for appropriately aged women and 101 year old's are very thin on the ground.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Our profile clearly says we are no longer together, let alone playing, and we still get about a quarter of the flirts we did when we were active. That's with our sexy pictures removed. T&S
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TheDoorMan
9 years ago
Hi I just read your profile . I understand what you are on here for but if that is all you want don't provoke the small minded persons on this site . If it is for what you say you are on here for why do you even put a photo up you are your own instigater and possible looking for attention. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Lots of different views and valid points from everyone.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'steveslooking'why do you even put a photo up you are your own instigater and possible looking for attention. Seems like you were provoked, and you are putting yourself in the "small-minded persons" basket.
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RHP User
9 years ago
"Just because we are not looking for action doesnt mean we cant put up a photo that represents our mood." People are here for many and varied reasons, lurking is as legit as actively seeking IMO. Have you tried an auto reply re-stating that you are not looking at the moment and so will not reply? That could get the message across. PS. I just sent you a flirt saying send me a message ;-)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Unrushed1'Have you tried an auto reply re-stating that you are not looking at the moment and so will not reply? You're replying saying you're not replying? Unrushed, sending replies like that opens up the possibility for the other to respond. Some will respond nicely, others with not so pleasant messages like we've read here. (I've found that those people who didn't read and/or disregarded my profile are much more unpleasant when told "no thanks", so I can understand why some women would prefer to ignore.)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nope not doing that because I actually do message with friends on here. Plus I organise local bi nights so I need to send and recieve messages.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Fat Freddys Drop is still on repeat. 🎶
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RHP User
9 years ago
ok... Quoting 'Meander'Quoting 'Unrushed1'Have you tried an auto reply re-stating that you are not looking at the moment and so will not reply? You're replying saying you're not replying? Not just that. Replying saying she wont be replying, so please don't reply!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'willowtree_2' Fat Freddys Drop is still on repeat. 🎶 Unrushed1. Making the world a better place, one stereo at a time
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RHP User
9 years ago
I dont blame men to be honest. How many friends do we have or know who have left a b/f or perter for another guy?? How many of us have done it ourselves? While we play the monogamy card often, we are also keen to reach greener grass, so men don't see (no interested or taken) as true
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RHP User
9 years ago
The one's who've suggested that your profile doesn't egt read at all... It happens on all types of sites. Peopl (women too). People see something they like and go straight to the 'message option'... I've always put a distance limit on my profiles, especially on Vanilla sites and I continual;y get messages and flirts (kisses there) from people who are interstate, whoop whoop, and places I wouldn't venture for a holiday because of the distance...
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