Taby_DK

Taby_DK

M42 F36

Dress to.. Impress?

July 25 2017

Mr and I have been swinging together for over 5 years now and over the last 2 years we have noticed a confusing and growing trend. We are talking about couples or singles turning up to their first meet with us dressed in clothes that: A) Don't meet the venues dress standards e.g turn up in board shorts, singlets and thongs to a classy bar.B) Clothes that are ripped, strained or falling apart and have seen better days.C) Clothes that are sweat stained or its obvious that the person has not showered. We are a couple who love to dress up and show our best features (sexy dress for her, fitted shirt to show his physique etc) when meeting someone in person for the first time and we are confused as to why other people would not want to take pride in their appearance and hygiene and do the same. The people look well dressed and groomed in their profile photo's (or we would not have chosen to meet them in the first place) but when it comes to meeting in person its as if they simply can't be bothered putting any effort in and just expect to get laid anyway? Has anyone else had this problem when meeting couples or singles in person for the first time or is it just us??? Of course the majority of couples and single we meet do dress to impress and quite amazingly I might add, but we have had enough in the last 2 years who don't that we have had to put a notice on our profile about it.

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  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    7 years ago

    But also at parties,yuk ,and it seems to be the guys all the time ,I spotted boxers with wear holes in his ass ,just the other weekend , tracky daks and a old blue bonds singlet better know by another term which I won't use Here in case someone offendered by it ,so not a good look and never going to win Mrs b over when she is wearing her finest Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile

  • LetsFrolic

    LetsFrolic

    7 years ago

    They just dont want their clothes to be ruined or they want them easy to come off.. But yes a dress standard shows that you care about yourself - Posted from rhpmobile

  • DynamicCouple36

    DynamicCouple36

    7 years ago

    We have encountered it a few times and are not sure if it's a lack of respect thing, or due to upbringing/class/culture. Not everyone can afford expensive/designer/tailored clothes . However there is no excuse for lack of personal hygiene & grooming. Showering, washing ones hair, brushing it and your teeth before a planned meet & greet only takes a small effort and shows respect, not only for yourself, but also towards those you are going to be meeting. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    We have been very lucky, men and women we've met ... just lovely :) I'm more turned off if a person doesn't smell nice and isn't clean enough for my standards ... brushed teeth, clean nails, brushed hair ... It is a real problem at venues and parties though ... seriously some people are complete morons lol 😂. We feast with our eyes and at parties attraction needs to be more or less, instant. At a Saints and sinners last year, a guy was wearing tidy whities jacked right up, black work socks and his black dress shoes ...He asked me to play and I said no ... he pushed the point and I said 'mate, have you seen what your wearing ... my vagina has dried up' lol Keep dressing up sexy lady ... I have as much fun in the preparation for a play as I do in a good play ... I shower, shave or wax, lather my body with a light body lotion that matches my perfume. I wear drop dead sexy clothing and lingerie underneath ... makeup and hair all coiffed :) I expect to recieve the same :) Mary xx

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    7 years ago

    but I do dress for the Occassion. Can't see the problem with casual dress pic's here as both sexes have little to nothing on anyway. ? I think some ppl can be too critical on how others prefer to dress. Some can look absolutely fantastic in a pair of well fitting jeans while others might not but that's no reason to knock those who can .. As long as you get it right for the Occassion that's all that matters.. Don't agree with those who don't give a stuff and wear just anything.. At least you know who to avoid..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I tend to keep things fairly casual for a first meet, so at a cafe or occasionally at a bar. If it's during the day at a cafe I don't expect guys to rock up in long pants and a tie - particularly given how hot it often is up here - but I've had a couple of guys show up in ratty t-shirts and shorts that look more like gear to do the gardening in. First impressions count for me so in those cases I knew that it wouldn't be going any further than coffee.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    yeah we've all encountered this problem haven't we!!Yet another reason why I don't meet anyone from these sites anymore.I view it as extremely lazy plus a lack of respect towards the person/people you're meeting if you turn up displaying anything less than the best version of yourself.I've had guys turn up reeking of BO and stale cigarette smoke, guys turn up in dirty old work clothes/high vis gear that looks and smells like it's never been washed, guys turn up drunk/stoned.And don't get me started on the ones whose teeth/breath look/smell like they have never been to a dentist.There are so many out there who've never heard the expression "First Impressions Count" Photos placed in profiles are often misleading. The way people present themselves at dates is often so far removed from how they appeared in their photos that I started to wonder why I ever took any notice whatsoever of people's online pics. BTW Taby you always look fabulous in your photos - you rock girl!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I actually think the personal hygiene is more important than dress so before a meet I'm washed, shaved in all the right places, teeth brushed and some good aftershave applied.If it's a daytime meet then I'll probably dress casual but a night time meet I'll dress up a little, put a well fitted shirt on and some good jeans or trousers. One thing I have to wear is an awesome pair of Starwars underpants and if I really like you I'll even wear my best stormtrooper boxes that I normally save for meetings with secretary of states, royal families or Nobel prize winners! I've had many a giggle and smile when the clothes have come off and they've seen those :) In saying all that the first time I met one of my regular playmates I was actually wearing my hi Vis shirt, work trousers and as I'd just finished work I probably didn't smell the best! I did warn the lady in question beforehand how I would be dressed and it had already been established that this was just going to be an after work drink/meet and greet.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Is bad oral hygiene. We've all had a meal that has caused garlic or onion breath. Plus the dreaded coffee breath .... However, when someone has red/inflamed gums and dirty teeth that is another matter. This shows an ongoing disregard for hygiene. I am not going to kiss a guy with a mouth that hasn't seen a toothbrush for days (if ever) let alone allow said mouth anywhere near my vagina! Not everyone can dress to impress due to restrictions around costs. While I love to see a man in a suit, I don't expect every man I meet to be dressed to the nines. A nice pair of jeans and a shirt/tshirt is appropriate for a casual meet. Clean clothing from the skin out should not be too much of an issue - no baggy jocks or holey boxers please. KH

  • Starburst106

    Starburst106

    7 years ago

    It is a classic case of you get out what you're prepared to put in. Any person willing to invest in themselves, and no it doesn't need to be much or expensive, says they are prepared to invest in any potential interaction. Oh and Mary (@Hotwives_Inc)...we totally agree with your last paragraph!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    You're right, not everyone can afford designer clothes. Nice clothes, quite often designer or label clothes, can however be purchased cheaply from op shops or markets, sometimes online. I buy all my clothes second hand and wouldn't consider my current poor status an excuse to turn up in tracky dacks lol boobs_or_bust - really? People turn up like that? If that was my party, I wouldn't let them in the door, and I'm usually pretty easy going about suitable attire for normal meets. Parties are different though. It doesn't take much effort to look clean and neat. op, your guy in fitted shirt mmm smelling nice, yummy smell of men's products and shirt showing physique, massive turn on. I'd be instantly drawn to them and slink away from the guy with holey boxers lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Yes I agree for normal meets, I'm about the least fussy person you'd come across, whatever both are comfortable in, obviously clean is essential. 99% of my meets are during the day, I like daylight meets 😄 and I've never had a guy complain about me being in a bikini, low rise shorts and a sexy see-through tank lol quite the opposite actually. But that might be different depending on what type of meet it was. A proper date, which I rarely engage in, I might wear a little summer dress, depends on the venue too. Unlikely I would rock up to a swanky restaurant in shorts, wear a coffee at the beach, shorts all the way 👍 but I agree the heels, done up to the nines, just for a casual meet, is overly fussy. Poodles I call them. Oops, running to hide in a cupboard now 😇

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    wear should be where, for coffee at beach. Need one now 😛

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I assume your first meets are in trendy bars in the city or similar? If so, then yes dressing nicely I would think should be a given. Most of my meets are opening the door and it's on, not much point in putting too much effort into dressing up, it's only coming straight off. True story, that's how I like it, lose all the small talk and get down to doing what we both want to be doing. Most of the time anyway. I could count on one hand though, how many dates I've been on, aside from coffee which is my favourite thing anyway, but appreciate what you're saying. I'm actually quite shocked people turn up at those kind of venues looking like that. Unclean is just wrong, yuck, instant turnoff

  • Haleakala

    Haleakala

    7 years ago

    I very rarely meet people in my latex catsuit;) Btw luck Dragon, love the new profile pic - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Totally agree! Makes a huge difference (particularly for Jess) if the other party turns up scruffy or inappropriately dressed. Dress smart and smell great!! X - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    On a first meet I always made an effort. And the guys I met always looked good. When I go out now, with my man, I always frock up. Dress, bit of make up and perfume. He loves it. I wear dresses anyway but I have day ones and evening ones. It says a lot if you meet someone and they have made an effort to look good. As for holes in boxer shorts and not showering.....its laziness and bad manners. Having a shower and change of clothes isnt exactly a hardship.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

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  • Mask_007

    Mask_007

    7 years ago

    I believe that when you go to meet up someone you have to look good. Is more exciting and temptation is a big ting. Is the desirability factor. Your first stimulation to get you up is your eyes and the smell. In my case is Nothing more desirable than a well dressed woman that smells amazing... So turned on... And I guess then same go to girls? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Taby_DK

    Taby_DK

    7 years ago

    Ok there seems to be some confusion around what we mean by dress to impress. We don't mean designer clothes, suits (Mr hates suits and would never wear one haha) etc. We mean nice clothes that actually look new or newish that don't have holes, strains or rips in them. 99% of our meets take place at night at cocktail bars so for us turning up to a nice bar dressed in broad short, singlet and thongs is not suitable attire for that venue, a dress shirt and jeans or a sexy dress is. We get that everyone has different budgets and we are not asking people to dress in designer clothes ect but a nice pair of jeans for the guys with a nice dress shirt or fitted t-shirt and a sexy dress or skirt and top for the lady is what we mean by dress to impress. Hell I am a bargain shopper myself and I buy 80% of my clothes online from popcherry or ally's fashion and I refuse to spend more that $50 on a dress unless its for a special occasion lol Does this mean that I can't look nice on a limited budget? Of course not. You don't have to have lots of money to look nice :) Taby xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    That I always wear great clothes and always look good and I can tell you there's not one 'label' in there at all lol.... but I love dressing up. I dress to my body shape first and then my budget (I will not spend lots of money on any outfit ... full stop ... and then I have a personal and financial pain threshold and if I don't see the real value and potential in an outfit I don't buy it) I have to say, I do love a lot of the current fashion but it's not made for 'a voluptuous, short arse with E bobbies'. Stretchy fabric is my friend lol... done right it showcases my body ... not done right and I look like the Michelen Man blimp. Myself, its all about effort ... and if you don't realize that looking good (clean, tidy and washed, to meet people who you very well may have sex with) is one critical aspect of a meet (first impressions and all) then you really wouldn't get a second chance with me ... that's fickle but that's just common sense, which obviously isn't that common ;) Mary xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I always wear a suit and tie to venues, so much so that a couple I'd only ever met at clubs commented when I turned up for a coffee catch-up in smart casual saturday jeans and shirt :) You can always dress down a suit, but you can't dress up thongs. I guess for some people, the only focus is sex. For me, the focus is a fantastic experience, which includes stylish prep, play and post.

  • OkeyDoke45

    OkeyDoke45

    7 years ago

    Quoting 'boobs_or_bust' But also at parties,yuk ,and it seems to be the guys all the time ,I spotted boxers with wear holes in his ass ,just the other weekend , tracky daks and a old blue bonds singlet better know by another term which I won't use Here in case someone offendered by it ,so not a good look and never going to win Mrs b over when she is wearing her finest Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile You mean a wife beater?

  • Starlet1

    Starlet1

    7 years ago

    Whether that means dressing in our best threads, or dressing in hardly any 👗 🙊😉 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • BacioCouple

    BacioCouple

    7 years ago

    We tend to meet in a bar or club first time and make an effort. To date we've been really lucky in that everyone we've met has made a real effort to dress for the occasion, and in some cases brings something a bit more revealing to get changed into should the meet become a bit more intimate or move to a location where it's appropriate. You definately get out what you put in. Taking the time to consider the venue's dress code, the meet type (casual coffee vs trendy bar) and considering personal hygiene shows that you value and respect yourself, and are likely to respect the couple you're meeting. And frankly, who doesn't like to pamper themselves before going out for a good night out?

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    7 years ago

    That's me , unless otherwise stated , it's fashionable jeans and dress shirt.. Never had any complaints so far and the ladies still like to chat, so it can't be too bad...

  • HappyCbrCouple

    HappyCbrCouple

    7 years ago

    We both look forward to first dates with new friends. Now for us the fun starts at home when we are getting ready, Mrs Happy (that's me) will try on about a million different outfits and parade them to Mr Happy who is always complimentary on my choices which makes me feel great, I'll select a number of shirts / trousers / shoes for him to wear - but I get the final word of course. The whole preparation time is quality time shared together, tempting and flirting with each other before we even head out the door. It is an absolute delight to then meet a well presented couple and let the evening take its course. But to meet up with a couple who obviously couldn't care less how they presented would be a turn off for us. Luckily we have met mostly awesome sexy wonderful people. And we thank you all !!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I must agree 100% with you on that. We are new to the scene, so yet to meet with others but whatever the situation taking pride in oneself is a must. This also includes hair, nails, personal hygiene. Dirty fingernails or messy hair (not brushed) big turn off.

  • OkeyDoke45

    OkeyDoke45

    7 years ago

    The past - Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn. Come to think of it though, the subject matter is rather relevant. Marriage ruin, people becoming strangers, couples dragging each other down. No stabbings to throats though. The present - Emergency Sex (And Other Desperate Measures) by Kenneth Cain, Heidi Postlewait and Andrew Thompson. Definitely not the content on this one though, just the title.

  • OkeyDoke45

    OkeyDoke45

    7 years ago

    Managed to post in the wrong topic. Oh dear.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Dressing well indicates that a person takes pride in their appearance and personal hygiene.