Effective Communication = Healthy Relationships

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I'm a single, I like to hear from my lover every so often. Regular FWB it can be a daily check in or a couple of times per week. Just to check in, not less than weekly because then you lose touch a bit. With a casual lover we should be in touch every so often. Not too much though. Some people bombard you. I try to set the pace a bit by either initiating contact or delaying the reply, the latter happens naturally anyhow if you're busy. I also hate it when contact drops off. I'd prefer a definite ending, I suppose people are just keeping their options open? I consider that if i've sent two messages and there's no reply then that's it- not into me, and i give up. The big one though... If we have slept together and you'd like to do it again sometime then you should contact me within a few days to say 'that was fun' or whatever. DO NOT text me a month or so later asking to catch up. I'll have forgotten you!

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I never follow up with anyone I meet. If they want to contact me thats fine.   Its catch and release for me, with all my lovers.   I keep in touch with friends via text but mostly I call them   I am able to cut myself off from people its pretty easy for me, I have never had family when growing up so I became very isolated in emotion. So people never getting back to me well it means nothing to me.   Besides that I do not want them to say, TR sorry your a dud root ............bwaaaaaaaaaaaaaah

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I like definite beginnings and endings - I think its fair, kind and mature, but I also realise I think different fromt he majority of people..so it has to be me rite ?       Im currently having a love/hate relationship with my phone at present...........and out of frustration yesterday I turned it into an I-Frisbee............   As Im on call 24/7/365 for work (although only have one more week of that and then new job yay !!) so I live and die by the phone..... after that childish tantrum..I had to rertieve said irritating phone form approx 7 meters away ...and make peace with it...   Yes Im waiting on a all important phonecall at present..........from a VIP   ...it willl happen...if I stare at the phone long enough it will happen !!!.   I have faith and hope.................and patience...............................Im very patient....   but damn you Telstra for not extending your coverage to like all of Outback Australia !!!

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  lack of interest and move on if someone doesn't keep in touch.What I find annoying is giving someone my number and they call or text weeks later expecting me to remember who ''Rod'' or Dave'' or ''Tom'' is and get quite offended when I haven't a clue..... Recently someone sent me a lovely email ending what had been a special encounter for me...I appreciated that,now I can put a bow on it.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  This is a good one FoxyFor me it comes down to expectations and I know I have them when it comes to communication, which sucks as I tend to cut people loose very quickly if they don't live up to my idea of what's enough, too much or not enough (I'm sure it's a self preservation thing)I'm a text or email only girl and like to be entertained to keep the spark alive, so once per day or every couple of days is perfect - even if it's just to let me know they are had a devious thought about me.I never initiate communication with a potential or current playmate, I only ever respond or not respond.The ongoing communication will always determine if I want to see someone again…always.If it's fun, flirty and feisty….I'm in - if it's boring and ho-hum I'm out.I have to admit though, that I have never said the words to "officially" end something, I just stop responding and it has come back to bite me on the arse a few times. I think I will be much clearer in my communication from now on.Jesus I sound like a control freak...and a bitch I will try to be better though

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Quoting 'Shinas'   Im currently having a love/hate relationship with my phone at present...........and out of frustration yesterday I turned it into an I-Frisbee............   Yes Im waiting on a all important phonecall at present..........from a VIP   ...it willl happen...if I stare at the phone long enough it will happen !!!.  It sounds very much watching the kettle, hoping the water will boil faster. Just do what you are doing and the call will come when it comes. Communication is more than just calling though. To me, conveying what you mean to the other person is more important.

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  Paradisepair

  12 years ago

  The follow up after a face to face is more important than any follow up after some NSA fun. If we're doing all the following up, needing to prod in order to press things forward or they're leaving it too long between reading and replying then they can't be that keen. Our interest will wane... As for after a NSA encounter, we like to send a thanks message, it's only polite, and you're right the timing of the response is a good indicator as to interest in future contact but as a couple I think what we're looking for is probably a little different. Long after an encounter I'll often be the first to initiate text communication with some of the friends we've met here, but it is almost always non-sexual communication at times when I'm a bit bored... Usually twiddling my thumbs out in public. There are some genuinely lovely people we've met here that whether we're friends or NSA playmates I will happily reach out to say gidday.

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