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Erection issues

May 29 2020

We recently had a mmf. The guy that we were with would literally only stay hard for maybe 30 seconds. Even when he was hard it was only semi hard. Now Mr Mid when hard is hard and stays that way until he cums basically. So looking to get the experiences of others

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  • wildcrazyloving

    wildcrazyloving

    5 years ago

    I met someone a few months ago who got semi-hard and I was wondering what was going on. Upon his departure, I found a tiny bag of bath crystals on the floor. I had no idea this person was under the influence.. Lucky to find my answer.

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    5 years ago

    Nerves got the better of him... happens to the best of us ? Where MrMid40s was in home territory and comfortable .. just saying ?

  • try1ngit

    try1ngit

    5 years ago

    Was it his first time? Maybe a bit of performance anxciety? Worried about performing with another male present, any number of reasons.Have had the same issues myself in the past..........and prob will in the future lol

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    5 years ago

    Maybe he just wasn't that into the whole scene..... happens. In that case, he should have told you both prior to getting down to business that he wasn't feeling it. There's alot of pressure on men. I wouldn't be comparing your hubby's apparent "form" (in his natural environment, with HIS wife) to your guests on this one occassion. I also wouldn't be airing it in a public forum (he could be a member).

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    5 years ago

    Personally, never encountered the issue.

  • nightingale8

    nightingale8

    5 years ago

    Girls can have mechanical issues too. Wine is a girl-boner killer for me. Doesnt say anything about them, doesnt aay anything about me. Other than no wine before play time.

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    5 years ago

    Try1ngit explains it nicely, a problem I’ve had in the early days. “Performance anxiety” can happen to the best of us especially when everything and everyone’s new. KC

  • Phoenix_Rising

    Phoenix_Rising

    5 years ago

    Good topic, I believe forums are the right place to come for such questions..like most here I think he probably was just nervous. It can be a little awkward but maybe spending more time on foreplay could help..? Or maybe he needs to not offer himself up for such activities if thats a problem for him. I dare say it wont be the last time you encounter it though so you need to figure out how to work around it if need be.

  • ctrycple

    ctrycple

    5 years ago

    We were with a woman recently and while she was giving him a bj, she caught him with her teeth, it was all over then. He got hard again and then it dwindles, he’d just lost the mood.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    5 years ago

    If there's lots of talk of doing this and that prior, it probably adds an expectation to him. Some guys can have all the confidence in the world and yet when it comes to the deed, just can't get it up. That's OK. I just hope OP you both gave him reassurance before he left and afterwards, that it is OK so he didn't feel embarrassed. Ms Foxy

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    5 years ago

    👌 Ms Foxy

  • JohnAnn2227

    JohnAnn2227

    5 years ago

    We have had this happen a few times and feel it is normal. Was it his first time having a MFM? Had he a a bit to drink to relax the nerves? How old was he? Did he have any magic blue pills before hand?When this has happened to us most of the time we have still been able to have fun together and all enjoy the experience. Still love two mouths on my boobs and 4 hands rubbing me everywhere.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    So this happened to my hubby during a recent MFM encounter. He definitely put it down to first-timer anxiety, and one couldn't blame him, what with a very well-endowed bull's presence. Nobody took it personally, I got him in the mood with a little extra special attention and we all went on to have a lot of fun together. I wouldn't place too much emphasis on it; maybe just put it down to one of those things that just happens sometimes.

  • EarthQueen

    EarthQueen

    5 years ago

    Pretty normal Its a bit of a high pressure situation. Probably anxiety or possibly he just wasn't feeling it. He may have imagined it would be one way but once he started he might not have felt comfortable or enjoyed it as much as he thought he would. These things happen.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    It happens. I've been in that position as the extra male. Was expected to just perform as soon as I walked through the door. The whole situation just felt uncomfortable and embarrassing in the end.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    5 years ago

    Sorry that happened to you. Yes, it would be rather embarrassing. It also happens to BI females as well. Some (not all) couples can be rather smug and selfish like that. Next! Ms Foxy

  • coolnhotnok

    coolnhotnok

    5 years ago

    Could be nerves. Honestly I like to pop some viagra myself. I don't really need it, but it's nice to not worry & go for as long as she likes too. One thing I learned the hard way (yes, I did...) was not to take it too early. I'm like that boy in the "when you haven't told anyone you're a vegan for 10 minutes" meme :)

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    5 years ago

    .. being with a drop dead gorgeous lady who most would give your left ball for .. When it came time to get naked ' mr happy just wouldnt stand up ? On reflection ' l think i was a little intimidated with her almost perfect everything including confidence and aggressive persona ? Anyway ' after some coaxing and persistance mr happy decided to party... But it was most embarrasing at the time..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Seriously it was probably the drugs you found after he left. And you didn't mention if he was straight or bi. That would have had an impact on his lack of performance if he was straight.

  • ajaussie

    ajaussie

    5 years ago

    How come a man have erection for only little time when having sex with some sexy women...I am glad never had that kind of complain from anyone i have met and played with.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Try not to take it personally..although that's easier said than done.. We've had a few of those too. Just put it down to nerves, too.much alcohol or a combo of the two..

  • SpicyKale

    SpicyKale

    5 years ago

    I came so close to this happening with someone I absolutely adore, but managed to get into the right head space to pull it off! I'd built the moment up over a long time waiting for it and almost let the side down so to speak... attraction and wanting to be with this person couldn't be further from the equation. It's easy to get in your head as a guy! Those on here professing "it's not a problem for me, I don't how you couldn't get hard in front of a gorgeous women" is just bullshit grandstanding. It happens to the best of us, it just depends on how all parties handle the situation!

  • Mrs_Deep_Love

    Mrs_Deep_Love

    5 years ago

    The pressure on men is a bit unfair I think. Cocks go up, cocks go down. Sometimes they stay down. No biggie. All normal

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    It happened to me at the start of my first gang bang. I didnt feel nervous, but my cock was only a semi . The more i thought about it, the more it was going to continue, so I went down on her, Growled her out with purpose! I really got her wet and ready for all those cocks and i was rock hard from then on. When in doubt, Growl her out - thats my motto

  • Plain60

    Plain60

    5 years ago

    Some interesting theories being bandied about here one that is overlooked is prescribed medicines with unintended or more often ignored advice and side affects. There are some blood pressure meds which actually switch off your ability to keep a hard on in a lot of instances the mind is willing but....... blood pressure rises think about it for a minute how you get hard.The drug tricks your body into safe mode first thing to go down is willie. I guess for guys be aware if you have blood pressure medications or the other one overlooked is anti depressants especially if used over an extended amount of time. They can inhibit or stop you from getting an erection or not keeping the erection hard. SO GUYS EDUCATE YOURSELVES BEFORE YOU SUFFER THE EMBARRASSMENT!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    That's my favourite saying. It means the size and hardness do not have dictate how amazing the sex is. So there's a flaccid penis - you have have fingers and a tongue right? Kiss me. Fuck me with your tongue or your fingers. We can work it out. Mrs F

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    Quoting 'Sawadee' Nerves got the better of him... happens to the best of us ? Where MrMid40s was in home territory and comfortable .. just saying ? exactly its easy to judge in the comfort of your own familiar environment. Maybe they should ask themselves the question what they could of done to make him more comfortable so he could perform.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    Nothing a Viagra can't fix