Etticate - meet up for drinks...

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  As long as everyone involved is clear that if there isnt mutual attraction, then you simply have a drink and go no further, it is isnt an issue.. In the past Mr island has simply said to the guy, thanks, but not what shes looking for right now.. great to meet you, etc etc..

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  sweetnsensual

  5 years ago

  For us just communicate Say something like thanks for the drinks it has been lovely but we are not feeling it.

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  snowytoes007

  5 years ago

  Cool - doesn't sound to bad. I guess if you haven't got the self confidence to handle that, then you should probably be looking at other options to meet people in the first place. Do you generally put a time limit or something? just to try and force a conclusion or at least a decision point? We've been in "regular" scenarios with people where everyone is too polite to end the conversation and move on. I guess this is a scenario where everyone knows the deal and just gets on with it? Thanks for the responses

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  People know if "it's on" inside 30 seconds so ramp up awareness to 11 before you go shouting lunch and bubbles. Personally I like ask or be told fairly up front not at the end of 3 hours of chit chat, that doesn't mean I throw dolly from the pram and leave, I'm quite happy to have an amicable chat and a goss, I just like to know the score to avoid any misapprehension for both parties.

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  As a couple we often left the prelim meet and went our way without the play. And I recall a least two occasions when we should have walked. The memory of a 'not fun' play has lasted longer than the recall of a friendly drink or meal with a nice chat that ends with just that. A nice chat. Some folks seem ideal on the profile and the online banter, but when you meet face to face you have a far better appreciation of who they are and if a couple, the dynamic between them. There is always the trip to the bar or powder room to have that quick yay or nay convo.It's so hard to find four personalities that click.

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  Sawadee

  5 years ago

  Unless its a red hot attraction which is rare . Everyone is there to check each other out and see if its a go'er or not. Wanting to sleep on it ' does not mean no ' only room for a breather.. On the few occassions we played , first we meet , slept on it ' then got in touch to meet up... Use the KISS principle.. Keep It Simple Stupid ...

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  classcoastcouple

  5 years ago

  We normally make sure we have had enough of a conversation to feel we are on the same page and seen enough pics to make sure there is an attraction before we meet so we are virtually certain we will progress past dinner On the very rare occasions where there isn't chemistry we had one couple say we might just leave it at dinner for the moment. We weren't in the slightest bit offended as we were thinking the same. We always go into meets thinking we are just going for a nice dinner out and anything more is a bonus. A cool swingers hack we learnt off an experienced couple and we use on all our dates is the female wears a ring with a stone out to dinner. Our signal is if the gemstone is facing up she is keen to continue on after dinner. If the gemstone is twisted under the finger she would like not to play afterwards. It's the perfect non verbal communication to as a couple whether to continue or abort.

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  When I was actively meeting people as a single, and I hold the same view, the first meeting is just that...a first meet. It’s to gauge the chemistry and to see if the connection still exists face to face as it did whilst messaging. It’s not designed for play from my perspective, that’s for a later meet.

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  Mr Dragon btw

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  MrKentia

  5 years ago

  Sorry for not adding up anything to the discussion itself. I don't think anyone mentioned it already, about the spelling of 'etticate', it's spelt: etiquette.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  5 years ago

  and? Posters got the gist of the topic. Here is some light reading. https://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Spelling-and-Grammar-a-bit-of-class-with-your-kink-61013?mid=781977#Post781977 Ms Foxy 😊 PS when one person isn't keen and the other is, redirect. 😛

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  snowytoes007

  5 years ago

  Re: typo... Whoops!!! That's almost as embarrassing as the situation I was asking about :) Strangely, I knew it didn't look right. Really should've checked, especially as I'm one of those grammar judging people. Karma and all that...

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  Sawadee

  5 years ago

  lt was noticed , but not worth mentioning. The topic was the important factor...

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  https://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Forum-Help-Stay-On-Topic.aspx In a nutshell: DO: Answer the OP's question or share your opinion about what the OP has shared. DO: Encourage people to stick to the original topic.

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  I found we liked to make that two separate occasions to help with awkwardness after early experiences just so we knew what we were up to in our minds. It helped to build anticipation as well. Stories, soz, we did have many great times and some were just plain memorable, and some were just no! No details for you though. Peachy

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  BeachOasis

  5 years ago

  As mentioned by ClassCoastCouple it is worth having a signal of some description. It isn't always easy to find an opportunity to discuss the pro and cons of a couple you've met over dinner or drinks. We do like the orientation of a ring as a signal between a couple. Via a podcast we'd heard of another less subtle signal. If your lady is keen on the other couple she can return from the bathroom placing her knickers into your hand. Or the less subtle option, placing her knickers in the hand of your date. We haven't done this yet, more likely to use the ring option, however let's not real it out 😉😊

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  wanude

  5 years ago

  Another option is a quick text during a bathroom break, I know if my pocket vibrates while Mrs WA is in the loo, she isn't interested in going further!

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