Expectations, first impressions, how is it now and plans for the future?

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  sweetnsensual

  6 years ago

  We had no idea when we first started and muddled our way through meetings with couples and not knowing any rules. Apart from being ghosted and stood up and fakes we survived. Now we don’t stress or have huge expectations and things have gone along a lot more smoothly. Yes social meet and greets have been amazing and we have been running our own as RHPcountry. There some amazing real people out there and they do come along! We have had ups and downs but hopefully things are looking up now! We have attended some great classes run by sex Ed in the city at Our Secret Spot in Sydney as well as classes run by MisJif and flirt. OSS runs the monthly mingle in the events section and it’s a great way to meet real genuine people as well as go to the best club in Sydney. Love to hear other people’s thoughts?

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  FeistyFatty

  6 years ago

  We joined 8 years ago with an initial interest in other couples. Met a few lovely couples but quickly realised we're not swingers and couple play was not for us. So had a few threesomes then..... MMF, MFF then moved onto BiMMFs which we both LOVE. And as we all seem to evolve through these journeys we decided to play solo and open up our marriage to external partners. This is definetely my preference and I really the connections I've made with long term lovers. As has my hubby but his preference is more for the BiMMFs these days. We found it best to not go into any situation with set expectations. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best kinda thing lol. All of my best friends have been met from RHP and Hubby's closest mate is actually the very first man I played solo with from another site. We have both really embraced the social side of RHP.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Biggest learning curve would be putting ourselves out there to be let down and stood up and how to handle it. Not everyone has the benefit of being able to freely go to meet and greets so that’s not always an option for all. There’s been so much we have learnt and a lot of it has been personal growth. We hope to continue this and this year look forward to creating some memorable moments.

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  ReyandJean

  6 years ago

  We had fun at parties before attending any M&G's. Nameless sex was fun. We initially believed people on the internet were real and genuine in their intentions. Now we know not many are. We now know that M&G's are way better for meeting people than the internet.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  MY expectations were: 1) I would be inundated with offers of sex and more EVERY weekend.2) I would be able to select from a literal Stable of women who would be charmed by my charisma.3) I would find my feet eventually and "Do OK".. Ummm... Ok.. so.. 1, 2 OR 3 did not happen.. BUT, over the years, I have gained some AWESOME friends from RHP, and those friendships, even after all these years, have remained strong and .. well... AWESOME!! Sex wise, I STILL do better by going to a Hotel and just being myself.. Nowhere near as much sex as I got that way 20 years ago, but STILL more successful then on RHP. OBVIOUSLY, I have other reasons for staying here.. and enjoy the relationships I have with those regular contributors to the forums.Some of you I am quite "Smitten" by, others I like, some I don't like, (but people I do like, like them - so that makes them bearable and ok) and the rest I mostly ignore.. EXCEPT TROLLS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Trolls are pieces of shit!! Something that SHOULD be wiped up with shit paper and flushed down a drain to live with the rest of the SHIT..

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  EarthQueen

  6 years ago

  ..... I didn’t know what to expect. It was a shock to find there’s this whole parallel universe where basically I could have whatever I wanted. I was extremely naive and dare I say innocent. That changed quickly. It’s helped make me more confident and assertive. There are good and bad things about meeting people on here but I have learned much about myself and others. My mind is well opened now. I mostly use other sources to meet people now but I like the forums. I find it’s a diverse and interesting community and the conversations on here don’t exist on any other platform.

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  It does seem open and honest in a way. There is judgement and will be where ever we go.

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  countrytouch82

  6 years ago

  RHP is one of many online tools I use to try to have a functioning sex and social life, I search on a number of adult and vanilla sites. I did join here once way back in the past maybe a decade ago, when I had absolutely no experience (and it remained so haha). However since the second attempt I have now been on here over 4 years. As usual I had no expectations whatsoever when I joined, although the forums were interesting as few other sites have them and I got to become more involved. I first met people from here at the first meet and greet. Because of the forums and meet and greets, RHP is a good social tool for me. All private play events have been made through other sites. I did first explore many commercial house/players parties including those that advertise here but also advertise in many other places. Going to these play events was the main continuation of my initial learning curve. Through RHP I have made friendships lasting years with regular message and/or in person contact, which along with intimacy was one of the things I really appreciate and needed.

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  countrytouch82

  6 years ago

  Future hopes are obviously to meet/date/form a relationship with a single woman, and/or find a social&play event I can attend as myself with a couple, and/or even though I enjoy them, find a play event that isn't about multiple men per woman ;)

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  summersolstice

  6 years ago

  First entry into a swingers party was eye opening to say the least! We had high expectations after that and met some nice couples, dabbled a bit, but ultimately didn't find people we clicked with on all levels in order to continue something ongoing. A foray into meeting people individually/separately also was initially somewhat disappointing. After being so selective those that we finally met just didnt match what we were looking for. Until... we finally figured out the dating etiquette and fixed our search strategy. Thoroughly interesting, smart, decent, sexy open minded people out there. And the one or two who make your heart skip a beat. Not always getting our kit off with either (although a bit of that too). It was us all along. We're now hoping we can get out there and learn the same in the swinging world. It's just so much harder coordinating four people's timetables and childcare.

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  MrPlayful

  6 years ago

  Right on the money for me too. Almost like you read my mind... Didn’t take long did it 🤣

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  EarthQueen

  6 years ago

  Mr Playful Another plus....It’s also made me psychic 😂 Once Pandora’s box is opened there’s no going back.

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  usrightnow_Again

  6 years ago

  In January 2016, we saw a doco on The ABC on polyamory. This was something we had discussed for some time and we had dabbled in "the lifestyle" for about two decades. We sat down one night soon after watching the doco, can't even remember what we typed into the great god of Google but this site came up. We looked at eachother and said should we sign up and thought yep, why not. .. Had no clue what we were doing and how to use the site that first two weeks. Compounded by this being, And remaining, our Only social media or dating site profile of Any kind. After that first two weeks, we stumbled upon The Adult Forums. .. Yeah, we were let down, stood up, led astray by quite a few in those initial months, Pretenders we guess. From that, at times steep learning curve, re the on-line world, we found our feet. We've also had many a great conversation through PM, and met many regular Forum contributors and others at the 2016 Sydney M&G. Although we left, after many of our pics were used by other profiles as their own, we have, as so often happens with this little Hotel California here, returned, although, No pics this time 'round and here at the moment , just for The Forums, as our profile states. As we have mentioned in the past and EQ said above, this is a very particular platform and one that can introduce you to people, experiences, conversation and ideas that you may not come across easily elsewhere. So, enjoy. .. Mr. & Mrs. urn. .

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  deepestpurple

  6 years ago

  I expected to be inundated with pussy and well, I was. But it took a bit longer than I was expecting, I had a few things to learn and a couple of skills to master. It was a tough 8 months on the ego but I came out a better sex freak. It all started with a line from Fight Club; "All the ways you wish you could be, that's me. I look like you wanna look, I fuck like you wanna fuck, I am smart, capable, and most importantly, I am free in all the ways that you are not." I decided I wanted to be Tyler and not the Narrator anymore. RHP changed my life.

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  teamaj2

  6 years ago

  Expectations and first impressions ! Interesting topic . I feel we didn’t have many expectations as it was jumping into the big unknown . Maybe that’s been a good thing . We feel we’ve been very lucky to meet some amazing , sexy , relaxed , truly wonderful people on here . We’ve learnt , only from experience how to speak up and say what we are seeking without fear of hurting peoples feelings . I found that a bit tricky , my not wanting to offend . We really enjoy the forums . We find it enlightening to learn about others experiences, fears and learn from others knowledge . After joining RHP we were contacted by people that suggested we attend an event . Another step in the right direction to meet like minded sexy people . For us the events , meet and greets we have attended have enabled us to expand our social circle with people that ‘get us’ and the way we choose to live our life . Like most people we juggle everyday work , family commitments . It’s wonderful we can make the most of our down time . We feel as a couple our experiences would be very different to those single. We’ve loved all that this has brought into our lives . It has certainly helped me to become more confident ( I’m female ) , it has eradicated any jealousies that surrounded our relationship. For the future we can only hope to continue on this journey of discovery and make the most of what this life has to offer .

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  bonefide

  6 years ago

  The RHP crowd is good company and slowly slowly starting to see things from different angles and other peoples prospective. Quote “Be curious, not judgmental.” Unquote Safe happy travels all.

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