Expectations vs. Reality: The RHP Experience

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  For me, RHP has been a mostly positive experience. I have found the majority here in the forums to be very open, accepting and knowledgeable people. Same as for most that I have connected with. I have been fortunate to make some wonderful new friends and on occasion have had some enjoyable play experiences. Of course there are always the few that are not particularly nice, but they are quickly identified and weeded out so to speak. I have probably been surprised mostly in the positive responses I have received. In the past when I was single and used more traditional online dating I had very little luck, however here, I have been much more accepted!! Maybe it comes down to the ratio of women to men, or that I am now simply looking for FWBs, but I am certainly not complaining!!

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  Eiliethiya

  7 years ago

  that joining a "dating/sex" site would lead to making some of the best friends I've ever known.I don't remember having specific expectations, if I did they've been blown out of the water lol

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  Freaky_Fun

  7 years ago

  Didn't know what to think as l had no idea this was even a thing and l obviously lived under a rock for 45 years 😆 As Eiliethiya said l would never have expected to make the beautiful friends l have from any site let alone this one. Its my village where l feel accepted for who l am. I would say 95% has been positive with only the odd douche thrown in for good luck. But thats what makes it fun. And looking forward to meeting or chatting to many more wonderful people along the way 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  OkeyDoke45

  7 years ago

  I think online dating has changed tremendously since its fledgling days. I remember when the first few dating sites appeared on the Interwebs, I had great success. I think the ratio of men to women was far more even, and I attribute this to most men being too proud to sign up to a dating service (''Me? Ha! I've got women eating out of the palm of my hand, what do I need that for?"). I sort of got sidetracked in a long-term relationship so did away with the online dating thing of course. Becoming single again, wanting a more casual relationship, I signed up here and some other sites. The immediate thing I noticed is the sheer numbers of people now using dating services, and most of them are male of course. This has made things a little more challenging to say the least. I am ordinary at best compared to everyone else so really don't stick out. I'm not a big fan of tooting my own trumpet, a bit too modest for that, so my success has been somewhat - ahem - underwhelming. So am I disappointed? I was, but one of the benefits of aging is you get to acceptance a bit quicker so I'm not really anymore. I love the forums though, they can get quite raucous and a bit venomous which is fun (so long as the venom is not being spat in my direction). Others have quite a tremendous amount of success on here, and good on them. I'm not jealous at all. Nope. Not jealous one bit. I don't hate them or wish them some kind of mild illness or anything. Nope. You know - good on them. The bastards.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I remember when RHP had a vanilla site, which was the one I joined and then a friend told me about the adult side of the site which is what is now RHP. The forums were eye opening for me at the time. I have had some good experiences and some not so good. I've met guys who were lacking in respect and others who were liars. I met a couple of guys who became long -term playmates and lifetime friends. I've had some casual fun with respectful men. I've had numerous breaks and I come back, because it is somewhere where I can contemplate and express my sexuality and sensuality if I want without too much judgement. And yeah, I hang out in the forums from time to time.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  For they will not be disappointed.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  7 years ago

  My expectations have been met in reality, plus more! Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  ...to get up first and make my espresso. No wonder I copped a pillow in the head and again called a cheap bastard for not being a paid member. I'm glad she was and happy to put a 50% strike rate to expectation fulfilment tally on the scoreboard. ⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Thanks for making me laugh!

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  Gr8distraction

  7 years ago

  Tend to just lower my expectations to avoid disappointment . Ok , thats an official lie. I have no expectations, and expect nothing But its great to see Annie back

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  ...just the number of stars of the motel we may share together. What? I'm horny and cheap...just not stupid. Besides, who cares if they're serving corn flakes or Eggs Benedict in the lobby the next morning? At least ya ain't goin' home hungry! ⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  ...but then in the 3-4 years I’ve been here, I changed, a lot and I would credit the loveers who became friends from this site with a large portion of that. I arrived to Rhp not long out of the loss of a partner, jaded, angry, kinda fucked up and partying way to hard. When I look back on it, either I have had a guardian angel working over time or the universe saw fit to keep me safe both physically and emotionally. There have been five men that came into my life during my time here, have irrevocably changed it. I was a caged in, judgmental, self pitying asshat when I joined, moreover, I was terrified of my own sexuality of acknowledging who I am and what I want. I have been taught by these beautiful lovers, in different ways, how to feel comfortable becoming who I am, not only in bed but in life. I believe that a well fucked woman is more creative, productive and driven. I know the liberation I have experienced has had an enormous knock on effect of the rest of my life. I thought for a while there I wanted to try and enter another ‘typical’ relationship, so I added myself to the vanilla dating sites, thinking I would use this site to get my needs met, while using the other site to potentially find someone a wanted to be with. I split my thinking into ‘fuck dates’ and ‘real dates’ and then stupidly wondered why I was not happy. So many labels, so many judgement, so much bullshit, to myself more than anyone else. At risk of sounding like a bad page out of a Mills & Boon novel, I became a woman on this site, I grew the fuck up and was gently and beautiful sexed out of my mind by gorgeous souls a long the way (I hope you lovely buggers are reading this). They have been more honest and open than other men I have met, they have taught me how to have good sex (midndblowingly good) they have held space during lonely times while I wrestled with myself, they became important people who have altered the course of my life dramatically. Some with tenderness, some with unfailing friendship when I felt ugly and unlovable, some with wisdom, some by hurting me & smashing my ego...my current lover freed my wings and reminded me of who I am. Special fucking gifts for a hook up site, huh? Mostly what I learned is, it’s all on me. I belong where I decided to, I raise my expectations these days, those who say they have none - I would question the sincerity of that, even no expectations is an expectation. This site is much like the Petrie Dish of Life. It’s the same as what’s out of the digital night club as it here, it’s kust magnified here and a whole lot more open and honest about why we’re here. We love to fuck... Magic happens when I’m free, this site had a hell of a lot to do with this part of my journey. You will belong if that is what you choose and you won’t if that is what you choose. Have a fucking blast and enjoy the discovery. Femme xx

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  It's a tool, it's social media, it's Facebook by another name and with a liberal twist to the left. Finding my niche was important...because stress, dissapointment and excessive effort are not my recipe for a good time....but, once i had, It's another alternative to use. And the most important question....has it been worth $4 a week for the last 5 years? Absolutely. Despite the relatively lazy way ive used the service at times.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  and a bit more screwing would liven things up.

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