F46
FB or FWB
July 19 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
No, but you have all sorts of different friends. Some you see all the time and speak to most days and others who you may chat to a few times a year. But for a person to become an FWB you need to hit it off in some way. So I suppose the guys you have met so far maybe didn't feel the friendship element with you perhaps? But it does happen if you are patient.
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RHP User
10 years ago
when does your FWB become your boyfriend?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Oh wow thAnkyou for defining it! I am so after fwb but only have fb. I crave more. I want the occasional wining/dining, conversation and then NSA fun in bed! All I get is booty calls! I even advertised on another site tonight for an intelligent conversation over dinner then NSA fun. All I got was replies for sex. So yes I believe the fwb has gone with the wind. Sad but true. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Think I am worth more than a booty call at Christmas or birthday...just saying. I'm no mans doormat or a beck and call type of person to anyone. LOL......Thank you, but I'd rather sit on my finger and twirl around. What I need and want is to be treated with the respect and dignity I deserve. None of this FB/FWB labeling of relationships...stuff that! And if someone tried to label what our relationship was, I'd be like turned off them... stuff that as well! In my eyes loving relationships do not fit into a formula! That's how I see it. BUT playtime_4_me you are married (well that's what your profile says), maybe a reason why your having a hard time finding what you after? Who knows? Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have a couple of FWB and a FB and I have to say it is always the FWB's that I look forward to spending time with the most. While my FB is very respectful and attentive etc...its just not the same ....my FWB's are both extremely affectionate and offer that warmth and the communication between the fun that like you I find so important,When does a FWB become a boyfriend you ask Meeka..... that's a very good question especially when you have more than one and its quite open!
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RHP User
10 years ago
You can have more than one boyfriend can't you JayJay? LOL.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Booty calls and fuck buddies, There is nothing wrong with that. It isn't being a doormat or any other negative thing. Sometimes it just a mutual need that is being satisfied between two consent adults. Women derive as much pleasure and satisfaction as the man, and if they don't. They simply don't go back. So I for one take exception that someone would imply that I am a doormat. And I quote. Fuck that. People are not labelling relationships. They are just saying they would like a friendship. What is wrong with that? Relationships are different, and quite frankly not all relationships become "loving " relationships. Clearly some people do need boundaries placed on them because they just take things to a level it is never meant to go.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Never settle for less than what you are looking for. If you want just a FB, great, that's up to you.If you want a FWB, that's also great. I don't think they are impossible to find. Eventually your learn to tell which people are saying they want they same thing just to get into your pants and which people do want the same things. Sometimes you might want a FWB but then you meet someone who you're happy to have as just a FB. Meeka, I think your FWB becomes your boyfriend when he leaves at least two pairs of his socks at your place
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tamworthguy46
10 years ago
Different people are after different things, and power to the people who find what they are looking for !Me at this time in my life, I am only really interested in a friend with benefits, someone to be a lover, a friend to talk to, someone to laugh with, a shoulder to lean on and in turn be leaned on your self, and maybe more.Anything less than that, is probably to cold for me, If you want to share the best things with someone, one may have to share some not so good things as well. Love and peace Tam
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' when does your FWB become your boyfriend? Well Meeks, it's acronym symmetry. The F swaps with the B and the W cancels out as it's symmetrical ~ then viewed as BF (boy friend).Or perhaps the transition occurs from FWB to partner when both parties get tired of stirring other peoples porridge..Shallow/Convenient attachment is alll very well till the damaged become undamaged and the non-committed become committed. Call it love.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sure I'd love a FWB but I want to add coffee buddy and cuddle buddy into it... For me it's about the connection with a degree of freedom
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RHP User
10 years ago
FWB The Relationship you have when you're not having a Relationship ! A very Fine Line indeed . GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
10 years ago
I actually think a lot of guys think they are the same thing and are interchangeable. I've done the whole fb thing and while I believe it has it's place and I will keep one always, I want more these days. I want to be taken out to a movie or cuddle up at home and I what to enjoy conversation with a male because it is so different to talking to females. It is nice to have someone to dump on occasionally when it's all gone wrong in a day and have a completely different perspective thrown into the mix. I really do kids having a man around as a friend. I think this is partly because my best friend is/was male (completely unsexual relationship) but he now has a serious girlfriend so things are changing 😔..... I want a man friend damn it that I can have sex with to! As for when they start to become your boyfriend is say if they start meeting your family and friends then things are moving in a different direction.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am only interested in FWB. Fun and friendship outside of the bedroom is a must for me. I am not just after one exclusive FWB though and I think when it becomes exclusive its a GF, which I am not after. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Hottie1
10 years ago
Ok Tam, your comment did some seriously great things to my body. Love it when a man can express his feelings and want to share some not so good times. Mary xx
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
They become your boyfriend when you start farting in front of them LOL.... I don't think there is "always" a hard and fast line separating FWB and FB. It's a case of attitude and moment combining to create an experience. My experiences are significantly towards FWB, because I genuinely care about those people I choose to engage with. If I didn't love women, and respect those who offer their bodies to me willingly, in my mind that would make me a selfish sociopath simply looking for a hole to get off inside...... and there are plenty of those types roaming these halls, sending their stupid messages. But it's just not how I think. Yes, I'd enjoy being in a solid relationship with that one amazing person.... and as the audition process continues, I will have a lot of fun on the way.... and for me, fun is a multi directional street where ALL needs and desires are mutually delivered.... via respectful, open and friendly fun and company. DG
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
@ Meeka Post post was NOT directed at YOU..just saying. It was my point of view and how I answered the OP questions and Topic - how you take it is how you take it. sorry can't do anything about that. I choose to have healthy MUTAL loving relationships with people, with open-honest communication as well as personal boundaries in place. Without those boundaries things become blurred, too messy for me - something I do not want. Sorry but I will not be told or be given a "label" of what some one else wants just to have their needs met at Christmas and just a birthday...that's selfish in my eyes. Yes it's given me a choice - but I choose not to have that. It's called loving and respect myself. As for putting a "label" or "Title" on different relationships, I believe that adds more pressure. I also believe, as relationships (sexual) progresses, with good open and honest communication, people fell comfortable, safe and secure, then there's nothing really then to worry about is there?? It's called having loving mutual respect for each other. Isn't it? Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
@ MissB - exactly. I want a man friend. I have always gotten on better with males then females. But given the nature of where I live (near GC not on it, for those checking profiles for accuracy) it's a small village & everyone is pretty well married with kids (myself included). The guys hang with the guys & the women with the women. Hence why I head to the GC. It's also nice to have a friend who knows my "other" side cause there is no way in hell I would clue anyone in locally. My good girl image would be shatteredAs for being married, yeah that may have an effect, but that actually seems to be a good thing to a lot of guys cause they know that when I say FWB I mean FWB not, well FWB to start but then I will get clingy & want something more serious. Location probably has a bigger effect since I am not right there on the GC. Who knows, I was just curious as to if FWB was still a done thing or in this age where everything is quick & disposable, that FB was now the preference.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Foxxy,you have obviously had some bad experiences which I think you are allowing to colour how you view this. A favourite theme of yours is the "open communication, respect you deserve, honesty" which makes is seem as you haven't had this in the past. But I can tell you that I have all these things with my friends. In fact when you start a relationship which is a casual dating arrangement or FWB as we seem to all call it these days, you have even more communication and honesty because there are no expectations past the friendship and there is a caring and a genuine respect that you have for each other. This is why people like FWB. This fear you have of labelling things is also bizarre. I bet if you were in one of your "loving relationships" you eventually want to put a label on it. Wouldn't you? You want to know what you have, you want to know where it is leading, you want to put a label on it. And if you now reply to me that no you would not, then let me say in advance, that I simply do not believe you. I do not believe you. Telling somebody that you want a FWB arrangement or you are only prepared to have a casual dating relationship is open and honest and showing that other person respect. However for some reason you seem to dismiss this. All I can assume is that you have felt disrespected in the past but you can't decide that this is what having an FWB relationship is like because most of us feel differently. In fact, the way you have worded things is quite insulting to the rest of us. We all want respect, caring, honesty, communication and this is what we get.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think the confusing part is when you are not on the same wavelength. I have had FWB and I enjoy the communication - yes the sex has to be great too! When working out the FWB/FB predicament it is difficult when you talk and work out where you are willing to go and they do not act in the way which is expected - It is mutual respect, understanding and satisfaction. Not there - then you get to move on, no matter how great the sex is. mx
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Are you assuming??? Think I have expressed my self with what "I" want and would like. If you don't agree..that's OK. You don't have to. The OP asked a question I answered from how I see it. I know what I want and don't think I have insulted anyone. Now you are putting words into my mouth and it makes me feel uncomfortable you are doing that. Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am sure I am not the only one who reads your words that way.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Such a lovely old fashioned word ...can be friends....there are of course many different permutations of relationship.... and people change,feelings change...I think what Foxxy is saying,is that if we label relationships then perhaps we are limiting the potential for that relationship to change and grow....the concept of labelling,fwbs,fbs,is a fairly recent one,one I suspect that has been shaped by the internet "dating" culture....and now we perceive it as the norm xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'anname11' Oh wow thAnkyou for defining it! I am so after fwb but only have fb. I crave more. I want the occasional wining/dining, conversation and then NSA fun in bed! All I get is booty calls! I even advertised on another site tonight for an intelligent conversation over dinner then NSA fun. All I got was replies for sex. So yes I believe the fwb has gone with the wind. Sad but true. - Posted from rhpmobile FWB over FB any time!Been there done that with many FB's.Looking for worthwhile men for worthwhile arrangements from now on.Over the rushed booty calls which often are not worth the effort.A friendship with the sex always makes the whole experience better.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Foxxy,your posts are rather formulaic around this subject, you regularly use exactly the same phrases...and it does seem that this has been how you haven't been treated in the past but would like to be....so don't just say the aspirational mantras..live them xQ
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta3' Such a lovely old fashioned word ...can be friends....there are of course many different permutations of relationship.... and people change,feelings change...I think what Foxxy is saying,is that if we label relationships then perhaps we are limiting the potential for that relationship to change and grow....the concept of labelling,fwbs,fbs,is a fairly recent one,one I suspect that has been shaped by the internet "dating" culture....and now we perceive it as the norm xQ Definitely in agreement with you there Q - changing vocabulary - which is the English Language - and we accept the change
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
I think there has been some lovely reflective comments from the men who have posted. Their comments show they have thought about what it is they seek and act in a manner which will attract what they want. It shows a level of integrity on their behalf that I find very attractive. This is not to say the women haven't also expressed similar views. I'm just attempting to bring some positive attention to the men on the site who often get the rough end of the stick. Personally I have had both fb and fwb in my life. I find it difficult to not take fb personally; too often it has only worked when he sent out the booty call and mine were left unanswered. I have one who I see intermittently and we have a great 'relationship' where there is contact on a semi-regular basis, just checking in with each other I guess. Too often fb can be about seeing you as a sexual entity and nothing else; and that is the territory I don't like. If others are happy with fb then thats great, and I applaud their ability to make it work for them. These days I am quite specific with what I seek and if that means I have contact with fewer men I don't mind. At least if they initiate contact they have (presumably) read my profile and have similar thoughts. If I have a couple of fwb at a time I am a happy woman. I totally agree with Being_Me; one FWB means walking a fine line and it can be easy to slip into bf/gf territory.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
That's what I am trying to do, to make better choices and live them in the now. :) Some (not all) past relationships have been awful, some in-fact have been rather tremendous and beautiful. The awful ones have taught me exactly what I don't want and the great ones have taught me what loving relationships are all about. That's what I want, look for and have. There's nothing wrong with that. :) Foxy PS- to anyone reading this...By me saying "f@ck that" means I am not going to lower my dignity, integrity or core values for anyone just to be at their beck and call when they want. I say no thank you to that. :)
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madotara69
10 years ago
For couples, having a FB, even FWB is just fine and dandy. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Clayton's with a Twist ? GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
This is somewhat of a biased question in a forum where the participants like to chat. People who are inclined to converse will also tend to be inclined to FWB relationships because of the added emotional connection of friendship rather than just the physical act. Half the fun is the mental interplay of social interaction beyond just sexual intercourse I certainly favour the FWB scenario because I am used to the emotional connection and just sex for sex sake of FB to foreign for me to feel comfortable with. Lately this has gone to the stage of even Friendships Without Benefits because I would rather maintain the personal connection where they don't want the sex (because they have moved on to a monogamous relationship or they are in a place in their life where sex is low on their priorities) than no longer keep in touch with that person. The Benefits may come back again some day, you never know, but even if they don't, some people are a worth having as friends regardless.
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RHP User
10 years ago
that's a minimum for me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
All depending on the situation between the two Some are purely FB which works great for some ...No strings attached and it's easy ,compared to FWB where they share a actual friendship ... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes but Miss Q I do believe that everyone wants to know what they are up for at the beginning. I think everyone would ask this question wouldn't they? What do you want? What are you after? etc etc. It's like your job. You need to know what they expect from you, you need to know what your tasks are and what your KPI's are, and most want feedback too. Now you and I may think we deserve a 50% salary increase but that doesn't mean the boss thinks so. So like casual relationships and friendships........ just because one person wants it to change that doesn't it will or that the other wants to change. I agree that it is frustrating when you feel that a relationship could become more serious but the other person is sticking to the FWB tag. But at the end of the day, what does this mean? It means they are just not that into you. And you can say all you like that you don't want to label something but by not labelling it you are trying to change it aren't you? Into something potentially more serious.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Of our times Meeka,that is what I meant,internet "' dating" is so cut and dried... When you meet someone in real life the process I think is a little different...Maybe I am wrong but I personally find all the labelling very proscriptive and often confusing..I no lonnger meet men from internet sites... this is one of the many reasons why xQ
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madotara69
10 years ago
Quoting 'MisterGreen' Clayton's with a Twist ? GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile I like to think I am relatively composed, however, I also think Tara just uses a FB for sex, like a kid on a set of monkey bars. That's about it then everything back to normal lovin in the homestead.
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RHP User
10 years ago
My goal when I first joined this site was to find a FWB or three :P I've had a couple of FBs and the distinction between FB and FWB is blatantly obvious. However, the distinction between FWB/lover/BF is such a feint, fine line. I admire anyone able to walk that fine line and not cross it. I couldn't - not that I'm complaining at all, as it's been the happiest time of my life :) [ And Babe, according to the wise sources above and your unselfish caring and sharing of Hydrogen Sulphide, that must make you my BF :P Love you *muah* ] - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Being newly separated I've discovered the lack of my own friends. Lots of empty evenings that could now be filled with phone conversations, going out for drinks or a movie; getting to know someone. Benefits would be a bonus. Being a man I wouldn't turn down a booty call, but can't imagine myself being the person to initiate one. I suppose it depends on both parties as to how much time and effort they can each commit....
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you have an implied Friday night or Saturday night "date" then you are in GF / BF territory. In response to the original question.. no, FWB's are not on the endangered species list!
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tamworthguy46
10 years ago
Quoting 'ag4mg92' Ok Tam, your comment did some seriously great things to my body. Love it when a man can express his feelings and want to share some not so good times. Mary xx Thanks Mary........Yes I just can't see the point....like to have a lover, and like yeah, I want your body, but I don't want to know the rest, and I only want to fuck you when your at your best, and the list goes on....that's not what I want, or how I believe people should behave !.....Anyway I'm glad you could relate to what I said, and it made you feel good, that makes me happy also. Tam xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
My FWB's are all girls, my FB's are boys........ works for me. Mrs Nudies
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RHP User
10 years ago
Isnt that why you got married to the person you married haha.... Your best friend,with a deep connection.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Good_Times81' Isnt that why you got married to the person you married haha.... Your best friend,with a deep connection. Yeah but it's nice to have more then one friend & after 15yrs we know everything about each other. I am exploring what I don't know about myself.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'playtime_4_me' Quoting 'Good_Times81' Isnt that why you got married to the person you married haha.... Your best friend,with a deep connection. Yeah but it's nice to have more then one friend & after 15yrs we know everything about each other. I am exploring what I don't know about myself.
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Plain
10 years ago
I went in what many mens eyes backwards started out as FB and ended up being FWB, she is intelligent forthright and understanding of our situations, as well as very good sexually, well in my humble opinion and we are both happy. Now I am an older guy and no longer interested in the score card and appreciate being in the company of females who want more than just a FB, coffe,e cake, conversation and just chilling with a dash of mutual body exploration does wonders for this old bloke.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Too right Plain, I agree. And I don't have to worry about shaving my legs all the time and if I really can't be bothered I can meet my FWB in my trackies!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was recently in a long term FB relationship that turned into a FWB after about a month. It was really great! The connection and fun was there and the sex was incredible too. It was a win win for both of us. She has now moved on and found a great guy and I couldn't be happier. Yes I miss the sex and the chance to hang out with her but if she is happy then I cant really complain much can I
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' You can have more than one boyfriend can't you JayJay? LOL. Tis called Polyamory
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't think it is up to anyone on here to judge why someone is here. We all have our reasons. If someone wanted us to know their motivation for wanting specific things they would tell us. Whether she is married or not she is still entitled to wanting a deeper connection with a FWB.
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PL1963
10 years ago
Fitz, I know where you're at man, I'm lucky, I recently found a great FWB lady, we both had LTR's end badly 2yrs ago, so we aren't goin' there for along time. She is very time poor atm, due to work and kid's, I'm understanding of her situation, sometimes we can't meet for 2wks, but we chat and txt and when we are together it is great. She is a special lady, our libido's match perfectly, we are back up for each other when "shit happens" after only meeting twice her cards were stolen and her $ gone, I offered her money, she refused politely. She understands my strong libido and has told me to find other ladies and couples for me and she will join in when time permits, I've offered to wine & dine her, sleepovers etc, but there isn't time atm. I think we will probably end up lifetime friends, most likely later without benefits when we find partners. It works well for both of us. Hang in there man, it's worth it in the end. Cheers P.L.
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RHP User
10 years ago
FB,is a mutual sexual arrangement,(fwb)more intimate want to know more about life not just sex Chance of future perhaps,funny really ultimately we all want sex ,but if you do care for someone on a more Spiritual level you will end up (fwb) anyway xxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wasnt a judgement at all... Was more out of curiousity...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've found that fb and fwb are slippery arrangements, liable to morph into something else entirely. Everything changes, buddy into friend, buddy into enemy, friendship into love, lover into ex-lover... I'm obviously not a mathematician, but it is interesting how many permutations are possible from a simple meeting.
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Seachange
10 years ago
Quoting 'tamworthguy46' Different people are after different things, and power to the people who find what they are looking for !Me at this time in my life, I am only really interested in a friend with benefits, someone to be a lover, a friend to talk to, someone to laugh with, a shoulder to lean on and in turn be leaned on your self, and maybe more.Anything less than that, is probably to cold for me, If you want to share the best things with someone, one may have to share some not so good things as well. Love and peace Tam Well said and articulated Tam. I can relate to that. But that is for me and for others it may be different. No judgment.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wow,wow,will i don't really know what it's called what i have experience in the past few weeks,even if it's for Christmas and birthday😏😏,but boy that's a amazing experience😋😋😋, rather than,on my own,as always.but that's the first time that i fill I'm sexy,but i do want a relationship,but relationship start from friend with benefit right?😇😇thanks to all,at least it gives me understanding what,s its all about FWB AND FB,😱 - Posted from rhpmobile
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tamworthguy46
10 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' Quoting 'tamworthguy46' Different people are after different things, and power to the people who find what they are looking for !Me at this time in my life, I am only really interested in a friend with benefits, someone to be a lover, a friend to talk to, someone to laugh with, a shoulder to lean on and in turn be leaned on your self, and maybe more.Anything less than that, is probably to cold for me, If you want to share the best things with someone, one may have to share some not so good things as well. Love and peace Tam Well said and articulated Tam. I can relate to that. But that is for me and for others it may be different. No judgment. Thanks Lily Yes I suppose no matter how we categorise our relationships, they will all have to be tailored to suit the individuals needs, and expectations to make them work. Tam
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