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FIFO workers
July 14 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
Maybe ask her if she will become your Sexting Buddy Oh wait, we've got another new one, SB Gotta love these acronyms
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's a good question to ask Crezz, a considerate number of the Australian workforce are FIFO workers and have become so quite quickly without a lot of talk about how it affects relationships and romantic developments. My sister is FIFO, she's about to go from seeing her boyfriend 3-4 times a month to a full time living arrangement without a decent transition period. I'm wishing them all the best but there's so much potential for disaster.
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RHP User
10 years ago
In one answer it does interfere.4 on 1 off must be the worst roster it takes a week just to get back into normal life, then you have to go back to work for another four weeks. I gave that up years ago.Skype and face time is great but it is just not the same as tasting smelling and touching
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RHP User
10 years ago
Nothing better then a lady whose partner/husband is a FIFO worker. I'm sure it works well and improves the relationship for some OP, but plenty of examples of 'while the cats away'. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
No, we're not in that type of relationship..But may we comment to say we have good friends where one of them is a FIFO worker. It has a major impact on their life/relationship as you would personally know that when you have your week off, you want to catch up on a bit of rest, and if your partner works, you only get to see them really later in the day and on the weekend.. Ok it's good coin, but is it really that great, cause you are missing out on so many other things in life being away for so long? Each to their own, but you can have that!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well i wouldnt have relationship with Fifo now , i have done it in the past for 7 long years and at the end of the day i have to say i cant do it anymore , and terminated the relationship , and he was a nice guy-beautiful man inside -out but distance proved too hard for me , and i dont believe in cheating either , so i did say , i want to be his friend/sister and not his lover no more , it was hard at first for him to excepted it and i was feeling guilty too for leaving him behind,but all good now..we both moved on with our lives .
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RHP User
10 years ago
…You want to have a relationship with someone on site, on the same roster as you. Unfortunately that IS living the dream and not as easy to find as you'd like it to be. But, what's easy about finding the right girl back in the real world either? Out of the last 5 and a half years of working FIFO, nearly 3 of them on a 4 & 1 roster, I've spent 3 ofthose years in 2 relationships with girls I worked with. With the potential for a third in the middle there somewhere.The reasons they ended were the usual reasons relationshipscan end..unrelated to the industry. No one was hurt..and I'm still good friends with both. Don't many relationships blossom first in the workplace, wherever you are?Admittedly, I work for a catering company..the ones that run the camps..and they have a higher proportion of females than an engineering company say. But I'm nothing special.My advice?Be friendly, humble and decent to the domestic( room cleaners ) you meet. Or the girl in the dining roomwhen you get your lunch/dinner. Or the girl at the bar when getting a beer. Etc, etc…Don't ever, EVER be rude, cocky, arrogant, sleazy and so on. Don't be needy or weak either.Believe me, a young woman working in the dining room gets phone numbers handed to her ona daily basis if she wants them. Ie. being a bit flirty or even just friendly.Some girls are cold to avoid the unwanted attention. But, the irony is that there are plenty of single girls on a big site BECAUSE they are so sick of and wary ofthe sleazy ones! I know this because I work with, talk with and drink with these girls. They too are looking for the ideal relationship..someone close by. You don't even have to be big and muscly..just like the real world..they just want someone decent. I could go on with examples, but I think you get the picture. Good luck
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hubbies work changed and he was away 2weeks out of 4...... Thankfully we had friends and interests that always kept us 'innocently' occupied. Although, I think my friends had more issues than we did.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes, this isn't the first time I've done FIFO work, this will be my second year. Last time I didn't commit to anything because I didn't want to have someone to depend on me and my being away make me feel helpless etc etc... This time however, I'm not sure. Any tips and tricks? Ultimately I see it as a personality thing that will either make it or fake it... See what happens i guess. It would be for 'our' future though... But yea see what happens I guess :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
You are spot on. Too often lovely girls are put off by the sleeze and lack of respect. A little bit of manners goes a long way. Ms S - Posted from rhpmobile
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precious142
10 years ago
I live nearly 10 yrs in a FIFO relationship.Loved my job that kept me very busy, had a 5 acre property to look after as well.....But our time together was very special and hot, most times I managed to get a few days off during his week home.I knew what I was getting into when we hooked up, had no desire to cheat on him..... Its not for everyone......but it can work!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm FIFO, and I have a camp bf, makes it easier because he's on the same roster. At the end of the working week, we kiss each other goodbye and head to our homes and life, makes it all that hotter when we head back to work!! It definitely has it's advantages, but gee whiz it's tough if they aren't at the same camp with you or home when you are. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sorry that should read " have had a camp bf". - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I worked week on week off and it ended my relationship which I was sure was staunch. It isn't the going away but when you look at it the stay at home partner is the one who in reality is left alone.she never cheated nor did I we just drifted apart to become another statistic
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MissSarahCurious
10 years ago
As long as you could keep it casual. It'd be a lot harder for those people relying on emotional support from the other person during the time apart. The happy to be home guy would be fun, the lonely bored in the middle of nowhere guy not so much... xx Sarah
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
I have often thought about this....it would depend on what roster they work Sometimes I do then sometimes I don't - I get cold feet easily so don't know really how I would go. 4 weeks on 1 week off roster is a hard one Crezz - don't think I would cope to well if it was just relied on Skype and Facetime and all that technology stuff...Guess I would miss that human touch after a while. Sadly I don't think I could rely fully on that. My tolerance levels would just go "Fuck it", and I would loose all hope..don't have much tolerance when it comes to technology and relationships. So I don't think a 4 week on 1 off would suit me I'm afraid. 2 on 2 off would be better, 2 weeks is not that long apart- or roster like that. I do love my own space, so would suit me to a tea or Chia. :) Foxy PS- Congratulations on FIFO work tho. :)
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Also my biggest fear would be (if in fully committed relationship with a FIFO) is what others say...meet someone on site. If that happened, would I blame them for wanting intimacy while away for that long? It's the nature I guess, for being away for so long - if they are happy, well who is anyone to deny them of happiness. If they tell me all good if they don't well...that's their choice. It would hurt, but I'm a big girl soon get over it. If it's just a FWB situation, nope wouldn't care less what they do, as long as they treated with me with respect and dignity I deserve when they do want to see me and not rub it in my face they have another on site - How I see it is there's no full on commitment what so ever. Either way a 4wk on 1 off has it's pros and cons. Foxy
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inspirit
10 years ago
There is no place for FIFO in any relationship unless the person at home is well aware of the lifestyle and in saying that, has been a FIFO them selves. Skype etc does help.
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Missb4u
10 years ago
As I haven't been in this situation myself it is hard to say. But being someone that isn't really looking for a full on committed relationship it sounds ideal to me. I do think that 4 on 1 off is a bit rich though. 2 an 2 would be good I think. And I'm a good SB (sexting buddy, thanks l4q) and having him around for 2 weeks would meet my need for a SOP (sleep over partner) Acronyms rule! We should do a whole thread of just acronyms. My industry is built on them. lol... - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
10 years ago
I am intrigued though on what industry is built on them. I only know of one and that is the defence industry.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I guess the simple fact of the matter is that it does work and it doesn't work, depending on the couple. I've worked FIFO for nearly thirteen years now, with a two year break not long ago when my son was born, and returning to it actually made my marriage better. It has since ended for other reasons but that happens. Fortunately I now do week on week off which is the best working roster to do anywhere imho. Anyway, over the years I've seen many relationships both fail and strengthen due to the FIFO rosters so I guess that at least if you find someone now they know exactly what they are getting into so I believe that gives you a head start. Having a relationship with someone at work and at home (same person) more often than not ends in disaster so go for one or the other! Other than that you could try and find a better roster, not a construction one? Eventually what you seek you will find, just be patient. Happy hunting!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
it sucks. I work 26 days on/9 days off but usually 4/1. The poor wife is stuck hiome alone with kidlet and it really does suck. Planning my exit strategy now as simply had enough of being away.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have did the 4 and 1 roster whilst in a relationship it was challenging. Although the time we did spend together was good it all fell apart. Also a 2 and 1 with a different partner on the same roster and we lived together and worked together. I felt I had no space to breath. That also fell apart. I was on 7 days on and off. My new partner worked in town. When I was home he called that to his mates 'His week on.' Unfortunately that ended as well. I have been in mining for years nearly two decades. Sometimes things go wrong because you work away other times it just the relationship. Them the breaks. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have done....Oops - Posted from rhpmobile
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Swingingnudist
10 years ago
I do a 3 week on 3 week off roster. I look at it as i work 3 weeks then have 3 weeks holiday. As long as when your back and prepared to do the household duties, run kids to school etc it will work. I find more time with the kids overall because when i'm home i'm not starting work at 6 or 7 finishing at 5 or 6 therefore missing all the kids sports etc. My 3 weeks off i could take them to school every day, sports etc. Only only do even time rosters, money is not as good but lifestyle is great.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Navy personal (probably other Service personnel also) have been dealing with this since the Navy was founded. Long stints away from home. Having a service background myself I can tell you spending 6 months away, and other weekly, and monthly times away from family is no fun, but many relationships survive. Just like anything you have to make an effort. Sure some busted up as well. But FIFO issues are nothing new. The Defence Force have a National Welfare Coordination Centre for issues just like this where family and friends can contact them for support. Maybe the mining industry can do something similar. Bottom line is, if you don't like the FIFO requirements then find another job. Simple really. Unlike service personnel who have to suck it up (or go AWOL I suppose) as that's the life they chose, maybe FIFO workers who chose this life also need to suck it up. Not meant to be mean towards any worker, but it's like any job where you do not like the conditions.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
You posted this Forum back in July Crezz, so how's it all going?? FOXY PS-@ comment "while the cats away", it says more about you and total lack of respect for FIFO worker. 👎👎
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Missb4u
10 years ago
i wish a FIFO worker would fly in here occasionally
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RHP User
10 years ago
That only Foxxy commented on Gullivers post. Total lack of respect and more if you ask my opinion. Hopefully he runs into a FIFO husband soon and gets his....and you can take that any which way you choose.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I meet my wife while working 4 and 4 so she new what she was getting into at the start. It is still very hard to be away from her for any time but we have to pay he bills. Being on the bigger dollars you tend to live to your means, so in tern that is another reason you have a to keep up with the big dollar jobs. Like I said before skype and face time just don't cut it but compared to past years where I work and talking to the guys that have been in the trade for 30 odd years say that they only use to talk to the family back at home once a week if they were lucky. So compared to today we have got it very good. In the time that I've been working away I've seen a lot of relationships break up and they seem to be the older guys that have been doing it for a lot of years. I like my job as I only work half of the year so for me that is the up side of it all if it was 4 and 1 I would have been out of it years ago but in the end some one has to do it.The wife and I are very strong and like I said we new from the start what we were getting into.It might be a case of some of the long termer's a case of being scared of being with each other every day of the week as well.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The lack of respect for a FIFO worker, or the lack of respect for ones current partner? I would have thought that it takes two to play
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RHP User
10 years ago
crezz so mate that roster my friend is nasty evil greedy wrong for singles couples any human , no life bro 2 on 1 off rosters are ok but destroy relationships on the most part some can make it work , week on week off good roster work 6 months of the year decent money and have a life but working away is fucked dont blow your cash mate invest in property and pussy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
absolutely completely 100%. It takes two to tango.
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RHP User
10 years ago
A tricky subject with no correct answers really, it all depends on who you are, who your partner is and wether or not either of you has had any experiences with the FIFO situation and the so many different challenges that this life brings. Some can make it work but unfortunately it does not seem to be many. I'm speaking from experience as I have been working oversees in all different parts of the world for some time. I am on a more humane roster off 4 weeks on and 4 weeks off but even that has proved to bring so many problems. The hardest part is when life deals it's rough blows to those you love and care about and when they need you most to be there your hundreds or thousands of kilometres away which leaves both parties stressed and frustrated and the situation escalates over time. Both partners also miss out on so so many important times and events together. A lot of the time the partner at home gets so dependant and so used to there partner being away that they completely form there own life without you, so when you arrive home you actually become an inconvenience to them that disrupts there normal life whilst your away and it feels like you don't fit in, it really hurts. At the end of the day it may be great short term but it will have its consequences long term as neither partner can switch on and off forever to the on/off lifestyle of FIFO. It's not normal and it's not healthy and takes two very special people to make it work. Hope this makes sense. By the way, I'm still oversees, Vietnam ATM and my 10 year marriage failed a few years ago and a relationship I had since felt the strains of the FIFO so I'm still hoping that I'll find that girl who it may work with one day. I wish all of you luck, I have experienced many more failures than successes but I do know that success and relationships do exist with the FIFO.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm sure a lot of FIFO workers would fly to you Missb72, just give them there roster, fly them over, work them hard and send them home fucked 😘 fine line between pleasure and pain sounds really good in the dungeon 😁
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have done all of the above for half my life. I left the Mining Industry 9months ago but had to go back in September i could not get a job here but just walked out of my last job in a gold mine last Monday. I want a normal life where i work, go home to that someone special and spend the rest of my life with. I am over working away from home.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hey mate! As a fifo worker of six years I can say it has its pro’s and con’s. it’s given me plenty of good things and a great lifestyle in ways but has also cost me dearly including two relationships., one long term marriage and my last one which was a committed long distance relationship. You have to sit down and prioritise why your doing it? set out a game plan and stick to it. I was on a roll earning stupendous money and was going places then one stupid decision ruined it all (no I didn’t cheat on her, my licence got suspended) and now have started all over again which has been one of the major reasons my last relationship failed. It’s definitely not for everyone but you can do it if you stay focused and use it as a stepping stone to better things. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Is a fifo worker 2 and 1. So I started to sext him when he was away and I'm so glad I did. They need that extra something as hours are long and often boring. It was hot and added to the anticipation when he got back. LC.
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swingalingson
7 years ago
You are so right. The person at home is often clueless of the lifestyle. That is why mines have partners flown up for a family day to see what it is like.
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