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FIRST DATE EXPECTATIONS
July 29 2017
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
I won't meet up unless I'm having a threesome with 2 danish models that are human...(had to put that in there in case there's a smart arse like me or DG, lurking to paint a different picture 🖕🏻) Bitches can pay their own way, otherwise they start to expect you're gonna buy them shit every time you hang out, and well....fuck that :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
the_antichrist, I mean. Missed you, dude 😀
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Smilingwithfun
7 years ago
Nice advert
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inspirit
7 years ago
A Guy with a nice looking shlong, preferably draping out of his expensive JOCKS, so I can see the outline of the helmet. I'd also meet him at a nice quaint very expensive restaurant, just coz I know his paying for my time and I'm a bitch and worth it. Suck on that Anti. I know you wanna. 😂😂 Welcome back shit stirrer. 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Lunch, or drinks with the possibility of extending to dinner, is a good first date. Like Meander, I prefer a quiet bar, with nice lighting and a relaxed vibe. I also wouldn't ever expect my date to pay for my drinks/meal.
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inspirit
7 years ago
I'm with Meander. Although I do like to go see a live band. That way you can also decide if said date has any life in them. It's all about the groove......right 😁😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
7 years ago
But you are Dutch. I've never had Dutch 😜 *Need a weekend in Sydney to get my Dutch on* 😜🍻😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
I'll gladly suck on it, and then turn my attention to you to finish the job like a Hoover in a hoarders house 😘 And this time I expect breakfast 😂😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Them turning up is a great start, but I've learnt my lesson about even that expectation, even at a coffee shop (see stood up thread). In general I have absolutely no expectations, it's my strategy to avoid constantly getting hopes up then leading to disappointment. A side effect of this is that I might appear less interested than I actually am. Although from responses above, perhaps a coffee shop (as opposed to a bar etc) doesn't have the privacy to engage in more flirting or variety of conversation to get mutual interest flowing more easily. Unfortunately I'm one of those pesky morning people and not a night owl... - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
7 years ago
NEVER
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RHP User
7 years ago
Is most of the time like blind dating as you never really know who will turn up. So a short first date someone public is the go.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I treat an RHP meet the same as a regular first meet...just because it's someone from RHP who is a bit more open about their sexuality doesn't mean you get to skip the niceties assuming you're going to get lucky. A quiet drink somewhere to relax both parties, where you can get in close for some quiet flirting and some touching, and see where the night goes :-) That said, if the first date ends up being at a swingers club because that's the direction the online conversation takes then who would I be to complain?? :-)
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RHP User
7 years ago
I keep things very casual for a first date, usually just coffee at a cafe during the day. If daytime isn't possible then a drink at a bar is usually the go. I do this on purpose, because if I don't click with someone it's rather annoying to have to sit through an entire meal. The last guy I met up with, it was bad enough to sit through one coffee so sitting through a meal would have been torture. However, if we do click then coffee can easily transition into lunch or dinner, or a move to another venue such as a nice bar. I also pay for my share on a first date. Even if the guy says he'll pay with no expectations I much prefer to keep it on a level playing field.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I'm not sure if it's just me, but I'm finding a lot of guys are happy to chat on here, then quickly move over to kik or similar to chat dirty and ask for pics etc, but when it actually comes to meeting in person, they are too busy. Maybe a single, strong independent woman with no children and who is available to meet at anytime is a rare thing on here ... and God forbid we click and I might want to catch up for hot sex on a regular basis ... !! To be honest I'm beginning to wonder whether it's even worth the time and effort chatting to guys, when I could be at the gym or doing something else I love for me. Trying not to become too jaded, but I'm considering sticking to my toy collection. It never disappoints and I'm always guaranteed a happy ending (or multiple as the case usually is)
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
Maybe they think that it's a too good to be true scenario?? It's an easy rut to fall into when for some reason a stunner would be interested in taking things to the next level that the deer in the headlights become apparent.... My ex next door neighbour, a 23 year old sexy little lady, I had naked in my bed....I brain farted and started thinking "wait up....she's 23, fucking mad as fuck hot.....I'm fat, 38...wtf is she doing here?? This isn't right, it's just not normal for someone like her to be wanting to get her groove on with me....." Needless to say I was a dick, lost all interest and asked her to leave...... Yes I'm aware that she probably blamed herself, and that's not ok.... But the old saying goes "if it looks too good to be true....it probably is" ..and that's probably what they're thinking....it's not your issue though to take responsibility for... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks for your perspective and insightful comment. I've been asked whether I'm 'real' or not and I find it so frustrating, as I'm just a genuine woman who happens to be very sexual and honest about my high libido.... and I'm on here to hopefully find a naughty exclusive playmate for some hot dirty sexy fun on a regular basis. Too much to ask ? It seems so :( I am very clear in my profile about what it is I'm seeking ... Maybe men are intimidated by a sexy Alpha female, but you are right when you say that's not my issue, and it says more about them than it does about me ! But FFS, what does a girl with high standards and a higher sex drive have to do to get laid by a sexy man on a regular basis ? 🙄 Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
You're certainly not the only woman here who is having those frustrations. Hence why I'm taking a break and really re-evaluating how I'm going to approach this whole 'trying to find a semi-decent guy who actually wants to have regular sex' thing.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I expect sex 😎
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RHP User
7 years ago
Lot of them want to fuck you and move on to the next, which shits me no end also, particularly when the chemistry and heat has been there, all talk following it about seeing me again, then nothing, one contacted me a month later after apparently being euphoric at the time. That got a no reply btw 👎but you will find many just keep moving on to look for the grass greener, they just don't get it, that sex is so much better with a connection, an ongoing connection. I share LD's frustration, I was lucky a few years back, I had about half a dozen on the go at the same time lol but as they slowly departed my life, I've struggled to replace them. Part of reason I'm not as active as I was then, because it's so time consuming vetting/enlisting lol new guys. It gets tedious and has worn me down over time
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
Frustrating I know....some of us mere men piss our pants at the thought of meeting a straight up woman...I've thought it myself "wait what?? No drama?? No headfuck?? Nahhh she gotta be crazy no one woman is like that surely?" Once again, onward and upward, kiss the toads, and one will surely turn into the alpha male that compliments your confidence...... It's definitely not you though....
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sorry, that last comment wasn't for the op It was meant for Sexy_Vivacious 👍
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RHP User
7 years ago
Perhaps they are married and are only looking for online satisfaction while wifey is looking after the kids? It's happened to me before. That was why I decided to meet people early on rather than engage in photo swapping and lots of emails. It is time consuming as you say and quite frankly, I couldn't be bothered with it. I don't date anyone at the moment, but I definitely remember the frustration of it all.
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RHP User
7 years ago
A second date.
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lovman8
7 years ago
no disappointment .............and anything else that happens is a bonus.Although if I was meeting I touch I'd make an exception and my expectations would be very high!
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RHP User
7 years ago
The problem is that you're in the wrong cities. Now, down here, south of the border, you'd have no problem whatsoever getting laid regularly by sexy men... - Posted from rhpmobile
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The_Antichrist
7 years ago
Is that they won't show.....so before confirming things, I make sure there's a plan b.... That way there's no disappointment.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
Plain and simple ,expect nothing and you may pleasantly be surprised, put pressure on and expect nothing will be coming your way from us Ld ,touch and sv,to be honest you prolly confuse and intimidate guys, just cos your straight up , and honest about your sexual desires ,and said guys feel like they have had the man hood and desire to be the dominate one ripped out from under them ,me ,pfffft, You could take the lead and do wtf you want with me or Mrs b or mmmmm both of us , that would put us in heaven and we would use it as a learning curve in what some women want in the future ,don't change ladies the world needs more sexually assertive women Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Oh you would? 😊 now that's what I like, being flexible to individual needs. I'm usually flexible but won't tolerate dating without sex 😂😂 maybe that's why they don't want to take me home to meet the family, worried what I'll do while I'm there 😉 They have every reason to worry 😇
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RHP User
7 years ago
when I have an unfulfilled fantasy of doing two brothers at the same time 😇
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RHP User
7 years ago
@Standard_Deviate I was in Canberra for work 3 days last week too ... who knew what I was missing out on ?? lol @boobs_or_bust Mr B thanks for bringing a smile to my face .. I needed it today I have actually decided to hide my profile for a while, as I'm just a bit disillusioned by it all right now to be honest ... but no, I will never change who I am and agree 100% that the world needs more sexually confident and assertive women like us who are not afraid to go after what we want ... that shouldn't be intimidating, it should be stimulating ... in my humble opinion 💋
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RHP User
7 years ago
Mr_B 👍 What a nice thing to say. I'm a dynamo on here, and pretty much in RL these days, but that all changes, turn into a pile of goo when with them 😉
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Dirtyandfriendly
7 years ago
How far I have to travel
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RHP User
7 years ago
I dont expect anything...but I'd rather not do all the talking. A conversation would be adequate 🙄
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RHP User
7 years ago
I would love to take you out. Lets check days we have off together and your choice. Mark
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Lot of them want to fuck you and move on to the next, which shits me no end also, particularly when the chemistry and heat has been there, all talk following it about seeing me again, then nothing, one contacted me a month later after apparently being euphoric at the time. That got a no reply btw 👎but you will find many just keep moving on to look for the grass greener, they just don't get it, that sex is so much better with a connection, an ongoing connection. I share LD's frustration, I was lucky a few years back, I had about half a dozen on the go at the same time lol but as they slowly departed my life, I've struggled to replace them. Part of reason I'm not as active as I was then, because it's so time consuming vetting/enlisting lol new guys. It gets tedious and has worn me down over time I hear ya!
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks for that :) In my case at least I know there other a couple other factors at play, but given the battering my self esteem has taken over the last year or so I'll definitely take that compliment with much appreciation ;-)
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