FWB and Emotionally Protecting Both From Hurt

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  If you are not exclusive do you really want to know about each other's other lovers?..I never have ,as I think that is a complication I don't need and in a way breaches someone else's privacy..But I know that some people love hearing about their lover's exploits xxFreya

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Helps a lot for me. Also trying to maintain some barriers, such as not socializing with family or friends as a couple.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  From the very beginning make it clear with your lover that you can be great friends but you can never provide a full commitment outside of the brief time you spend together. Don't talk about what you do with your wife, with your lover. And vice versa, unless they specifically ask for information or details. Then be completely honest. But unless it's asked for, unnecessary discussion at the wrong time about playtime, is just going to lead to jealousy. Make up some ground rules and don't proceed further until you and your wife agree to them. Lastly if any of the people in the mix starts to get A. Jealous or B. Feelings toward the lover, stop. Discuss things calmly. Take a break from the arrangement and let things cool down. Good luck and have fun! Wild kinky naughty fun! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'Freya70' If you are not exclusive do you really want to know about each other's other lovers?..I never have ,as I think that is a complication I don't need and in a way breaches someone else's privacy..But I know that some people love hearing about their lover's exploits xxFreya I suppose Freya,it comes down to an interpretation of the term "open communication". To me the agreement is based that if I think it is going to impact her I need to tell her. :)

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  MsSuperFoxy

  9 years ago

  Can you please explain what you mean by "Emotionally Sanity" ?? What does it mean exactly to the both of YOU? I really do not believe it's just "open communication" and making a statement that you're not available... what your post says to me, neither one of you are emotionally available, cause if you are you would be exclusive.. There's more to it I think.... How long has this been going on for?? What's your personal bounderies?? Do you hang out together? Show affection in public?? met each other's friends... Jealously??... How are you two going to handle that?? What happens if one is more into the other?? Will the other persons sanity be emotionally healthy if that happens?? Anyways labels on relationships like FB and FWB make things too difficult and not allow each person a choice. It makes me cringe when someone puts a label on my relationship with them... it adds too much pressure and does not allow me the freedom. Why not just enjoy each other's company and give each other the freedom for what it is?? 🤔🤔 Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  for me it helps to have a a little communication between meets but nothing over the top maybe every few days a message doesnt go astray. no sleep overs... none or very little after sex cuddles.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Don't get too confused about what it is.I had a very nice friend several years ago. It was fun and of course no strings attached.The problem is when it goes on for too long and deeper feelings and emotions creep into the relationship.That's when it's time to say goodbye and move on. Unless you want more, then it becomes something different and is no longer just a fwb.You are saying you have open communication. That already sounds like the relationship is becoming complicated.If you are just fwb's do you really have to explain anything to each other. Aren't you just supposed to enjoy each others company and leave it at that?That's the way I see it anyway.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  is cutting down any communication outside of actual play sessions, to two main types of questions. The first involves asking about the other's wellbeing, and the second to set a 'play date'. For some, including more personal questions to build the friendship side of things can work. However, my suggestion here would be to be deliberate in one's choice of vocabulary, so as to not set particular trains of thought in motion (and possible development of feelings). What hasn't worked for me, was allowing myself to engage in far too much conversation prior to a meet up, as well as detailed discussions surrounding boundaries - the latter being a topic discussed, to set a plan of what to do in the event of a proper relationship developing. Through these processes, I feel that I allowed myself to get caught up in something that will never be reciprocated; which is fine, as it has been a nice lesson in learning how to guard my heart better, whilst keeping NSA fun as delicious NSA fun. Hope this offered some insight to your question, singlefyi20.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I would have thought there would be no emotional involvement unless it was an exclusive relationship? A friendship with benefits is (for me) having a friend who you can talk to, have dinner/drinks/go to the movies with and have sex with from time to time. A casual arrangement. But....I know couples who met on here with such an arrangement and it has developed into something more, so good luck to you both xx

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  This is an ongoing problem for many people. The benefits part is not too difficult it's the degree of friendship that causes the issues, if communication is minimal outside of the bedroom it's not much of a friendship is it ? I have had several 12 month long FWB type arrangements that have worked well, the key ? I'm not really sure, I think being honest with yourself before even getting involved is a big one, is it really what you want or just a foot in the door ? And being upfront when things change or bother you a simple question or reiteration along the way can keep everyone on the same page. On another note discussing other relationships is what led me to my first MMF so not necessarily a bad thing at all !Afterthought, if the friendship thing bothers you plain FB is much simpler which I think some above have more accurately described than FWB.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  A true FWB relationship, as Koko said, is primarily based on friendship. Therefore they know you as a friend, and know what you do and do not want. They accept you just as you are, and enjoy the time you spend together whether it be in bed, at a pub, the beach, a party or on a golf course! A fuck buddy on the other hand is just that. You text them(sometimes at 2 in the morning!), you meet, you fuck. They don't know much about you, your friends, your life, but damn they are hot in bed! Learn to differentiate the two, and apply your energy and emotions accordingly!

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Quoting '50wetfigs' This is an ongoing problem for many people. The benefits part is not too difficult it's the degree of friendship that causes the issues, if communication is minimal outside of the bedroom it's not much of a friendship is it ? I have had several 12 month long FWB type arrangements that have worked well, the key ? I'm not really sure, I think being honest with yourself before even getting involved is a big one, is it really what you want or just a foot in the door ? And being upfront when things change or bother you a simple question or reiteration along the way can keep everyone on the same page. On another note discussing other relationships is what led me to my first MMF so not necessarily a bad thing at all !Afterthought, if the friendship thing bothers you plain FB is much simpler which I think some above have more accurately described than FWB. 50wetfigs, I agree with you and applaud you for noticing that there is a difference between FWB and FB and can relate to the rest of your post.The same words can have different meanings to different people and we must "need first to understand" other peoples currency.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I have know this lady off and on for a few years and it is a friend situation plus extra's.We have had numerous talks over years with the end result being just friends.This time it is a mutually beneficial relationship, so to speak and I am not planning to wreck a good thing. I appreciate everyone's input, even if it is not what I want to hear

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I first joined this site I had no idea about FWB vs FB..the first man I met from here soon made it clear that I was just a convenient FB... .that was not what I wanted so I soon ended it..some months later he invited me to lunch..I pointed out the irony xxFreya

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'Freya70' I first joined this site I had no idea about FWB vs FB..the first man I met from here soon made it clear that I was just a convenient FB... .that was not what I wanted so I soon ended it..some months later he invited me to lunch..I pointed out the irony xxFreya PMSL x

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