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Feedback...when and how

November 28 2014

People of RHP-land, answer me this...when and how do you give feedback? We've probably all been there, a willing but misguided partner going like crazy but not managing to press your buttons. When do you give feedback? During the act or afterwards? If it's a swinger party do you even bother? And how do you let them know? Candid explanation, more physical response when they get closer to the mark - or suggest that you try something else (probably my main method).

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RHP User

10 years ago

It's customary to hear the word NEXT yelled out with some regularity.

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RHP User

10 years ago

I have told some one "This is not working for me" or "I'm not ready" but I do usually tell a partner what I want or what I enjoy and I'm just as clear about what I don't enjoy if they try something I'm not into. I expect them to tell me too and if I notice I'm not getting quite the response I was aiming for I ask them. I have been lucky in that only one person didn't push my buttons at all and I stopped it straight away. If a partner kisses me the way I like to be kissed the chances are that he is going to be pushing all of the right buttons.

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RHP User

10 years ago

I was recently doing something to a lover which he had told me was a huge trigger for him. I wasn't quite getting the mark so I got him to demonstrate on me exactly how he liked it done. I now understand exactly where he was cumming from

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RHP User

10 years ago

Just like puppy training: Ignoring the behaviours you don't want and reinforcing the ones you do. Atta boy.

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RHP User

10 years ago

I've found speaking up to be a huge hurdle for me. If someone is hurting me I'll say something, but short of that I have a lot of trouble saying anything. I respond much better to someone who asks questions. I had a lover who would say "do you like that?" "how about that, is that better or worse?" I don't know if it was his usual technique but it worked really well for me. I do get a lot better at communicating when I'm comfortable with someone though, one of the main reasons I don't enjoy blow and go encounters.

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RHP User

10 years ago

Generally after I've won the item, and it's arrived on my doorstap. Oh, wait..sorry...wrong feedback..

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Mischeviouslad

10 years ago

The entire time. I will tell her how she is making me feel, how she feels to me, and how her body is responding to me.

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RHP User

10 years ago

Quoting 'looking4quality'You can always make it fun Thank you

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RHP User

10 years ago

Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' The entire time. I will tell her how she is making me feel, how she feels to me, and how her body is responding to me.

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RHP User

10 years ago

Pull out....blow it on her hair... Then when she goes batshit crazy; say this... Now ya know how it was for me!! Lol - Posted from rhpmobile

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TheLuckyOne

10 years ago

Snap!

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RHP User

10 years ago

I don't want to be critiquing someone mid act. And really, if anyone was listening BEFORE the act, they should definitely know what I like but chances are they were stroking away to what I was saying rather than actually taking it in. For that reason, I am quite abrupt at telling guys how lousy they were when they were armed with information and refused to use it.

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