M43

Feeling frustrated

May 23 2017

I am unquestionably bi-sexual, I enjoy sex with other men and will do so when the whim takes me. I don't do intimacy with other men, it's all about getting off and feeling good (this in no way reflects how I like to have sex with women by the way). I also enjoy bi sex with couples and have done so numerous times and hope to do so again. However, I am feeling frustrated because I have made contact with quite a few couples who are looking for a single male to join them (according to their profile) but I am being knocked back because I am bi and the male half of the couple isn't. What's frustrating about this is the fact that even though I'm bi it doesn't mean I'm going to try and have sex with the male half of the couple. I wouldn't dream of coercing someone into doing something they didn't want to do and I'm not the sort to try and trick someone into doing something they don't want to do either. Are these men so insecure with their sexuality that the thought of having a naked bi man in the room is scary for them? I'd love to know other people's opinions here. I'm not bashing all mf couples here or straight men so don't go on a crusade to protect the honour of the straight man. I'm just amazed that people may consider me to be unable to control my urge to have sex with another man just because we may be naked in a room together with his wife! I have been to swinger clubs and parties before and didn't announce I was bi and it wasn't a problem then. Look forward to reading what people think. M

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RHP User

8 years ago

Most straight guys freak out at the thought of being in close range with another guy, let alone a bi guy. I can't understand why and completely understand your frustration. Come on guys, do you really think a bi guy would poke you when you when you weren't looking lol or accidently on purpose touch your cock with their hand, ooh this is making me horny, but jeez what's the worst that can happen. I think the real fear is they might actually enjoy it 😉

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AnnieWhichway

8 years ago

Where it's fashionable for women to be bi, irrespective of if they are or not and men are ideally straight until behind closed doors. It's changing in our modern times but slowly. All it's done is made it confusing about who is bi and who is not and of course all the variants in between. It's amazing how many straight men there are on this site who would like to play with my cock. I find it interesting OP, you say you aren't intimate with men, which I presume means kissing? You put that out there for what reason? Is it not intimate to suck his cock and fuck each other? But let everyone know that you don't cross the line? Be bi, be proud, be yourself. Have fun.

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langton11

8 years ago

Fear of the unknown But I could be wrong I have been wrong before many times according to my wife

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RHP User

8 years ago

Doesn't matter how deep you analyse it or what label you stick on it it's their call. Get over it.

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RHP User

8 years ago

you want 'these men' to accept you and who you are, while you refuse to accept them for who they are... - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

Perhaps men are not used to being viewed as sexual prospects as they are usually the ones chasing, so they are uncomfortable with another guy viewing them sexually - even though you wouldn't come on to them in a straight threesome. Takes the control out of their hands.

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RHP User

8 years ago

Appreciate your comment but I don't think it is very helpful or empathetic. It must be very frustrating being knocked back because of your sexuality. Something straight men don't really understand. Sometimes straight men are so totally frustrating! Lol. Xx

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Dirtyandfriendly

8 years ago

A lot of males with their partners have probably had bi guys before and a lot have made a bad impression on them. Some are extremely pushy and don't listen. I've hosted group play before and some guys just don't listen. On a side note I am straight as an arrow, but watching another guy fuck a woman is a major turn on for me. I have tried during my single life to find a partner who loves fucking other guys is a big turn on for me, I like watching a cock please a woman and if he is bi I don't care as there will be no guy on guy, but I'm sure he'd enjoy knowing I like him pleasing her while I watch and eventually join in

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Sawadee

8 years ago

I'm not bi sexual, but the way I see it is if the male half of a Cpl is straight , you either roll with the flow and enjoy what you have in front of you ( the wife ) , or you wait until you have a couple with a bi male . Also gets back to your profile and what you wrote about yourself. If you put bi I would suspect that would send a straight couple a message to start looking elsewhere for someone they're more comfortable with. Occassionly , and when it happens , I love being the third cog.. but I do state in my profile I'm a straight male to avoid any confusion.. So far no problems..

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AnnieWhichway

8 years ago

Quoting 'Dirtyandfriendly' A lot of males with their partners have probably had bi guys before and a lot have made a bad impression on them. Some are extremely pushy and don't listen. I've hosted group play before and some guys just don't listen. You make a statement with "probably". Not summisable your Honour..... Yes guys are pushy but you will find bi guys won't push bi play in a group setting. I find your post a typical bi bashing statement. Bi guys are just that. Happy to play either way and very happy to have a woman to play with. They won't want to fuck that up without an invite in the right setting. Yeah maybe I'm generalising but so are you with less knowledge

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RHP User

8 years ago

... I reckon the men are just scared that in the heat of the moment they will suck your dick.. and then their women will know they are bi and tease he fuck out of them..IF any of them are reading this thread..."Fuck fellas..... Don't be scared... your Women will LOVE it"

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RHP User

8 years ago

I feel and know your frustration and must admit to having just about given up on this site period. I wish you luck. - Posted from rhpmobile

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