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Finding a Single Bi Woman
February 13 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mission impossible.. we have been looking for over a year still no luck at all.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was once one of the mythical creatures, and when I got with Mr Otori we tried looking for another white unicorn. We gave up looking ages ago. I can say, having been on both sides of the fence, I much MUCH prefer being in a couple and playing with other couples. There was more chance of dramas when threesoming than there ever have been in foursome play. Furthermore, as a single woman, you get absolutely inundated so you really are able to discriminate, pick the absolute cream of the crop. One thing I will say that would work in your favour is if the female is the one doing the searching. I was always aware of safety concerns when meeting a couple and only agreed to meet people that I felt really comfortable chatting with. In short, yes, it is intimidating for the single woman. You need to be very understanding of the fact that she can't just drop everything and come over. Take a lot of care in the wording of your intro message and in your profile. Don't send flirts, they get so many they can't respond. Anyhow, good luck with it all, hope you catch one! You could always investigate the clubs as another avenue to find them.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Here's some ideas why couples might find it difficult to find that elusive unicorn. 1. Most Unicorns - or single Bi Ladies - don't want to be someone else's "experience" 2. We are spoilt for choice - i probably get on average, between 10/12 messages from couples a week, often that many in a day or two. 3. Many unicorns don't want to play with married couples - they just see it as being fraught with problems, jealousy issues etc. We are quiet capable of getting a couple of friends together and organising our own fun 4. Unicorns may not want to play with first timers, if the female partner isn't Bi, then this can just be uncomfortable if she discovers she actually isn't getting turned on by it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with what Karynb has said plus: * meeting up with a couple can be a lot of hassle...coordinating 3 schedules instead of 2. * in my experience - more often than not its all about the Couples enjoyment they forget that even the third person is there to enhance the couples experience the third person also has needs to be met. * some so called bi women receive only and dont give - no thanks! * too often I have come across women who are doing it solely because hubby wants it...I want people who are comfortable with themselves and each other * because not all bi women want to play with both a male and female at the same time. Some of us prefer the full on attention that comes with a one on one encounter instead of sharing the attention with someonelese (yes Im selfish but this also about my sexual pleasure) Kisses Focus
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DTE_couple
12 years ago
I get the single females - I would be in the same frame of mind even as a couple finding a *real* bi-female is a hassle and sometimes I even wonder if they exist! Given that we've had some fantastic experiences with *experimental* & *bi-Curious* females and had a lot more fun on the evening so don't give couples a miss! Then again it depends on what you're looking for - are you just looking for FFM action with the male of FFM action with the female? If it's the latter you will definitely have more fun looking for couples.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi! whilst i can understand & relate to all of the above....if ur seeking a single bi female for cpl fantasies or other, I'm your girl!let's chat & if we click i'm pretty keen for a good time. no hasslesG
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm a single bi girl, I have caught up with a couple of RHP. We have had a meet up a few times (had a awesome time) and can't wait to catch up again. I played with both of them recived from them both and gave to both.....:) Any couples from Perth want a catch maybe a drink and see were it goes :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Lost_Focus' I agree with what Karynb has said plus: * meeting up with a couple can be a lot of hassle...coordinating 3 schedules instead of 2. * in my experience - more often than not its all about the Couples enjoyment they forget that even the third person is there to enhance the couples experience the third person also has needs to be met. * some so called bi women receive only and dont give - no thanks! * too often I have come across women who are doing it solely because hubby wants it...I want people who are comfortable with themselves and each other * because not all bi women want to play with both a male and female at the same time. Some of us prefer the full on attention that comes with a one on one encounter instead of sharing the attention with someonelese (yes Im selfish but this also about my sexual pleasure) Kisses Focus Yes, that definitley reflects some of what I experienced in my early 20's when i was a unicorn. Couples seem to forget a lot of the time that you are not a hooker, you aren't there to please them and not get attention or your needs met in return. You aren't there to please someone's husband, nor are you a Birthday/Christmas/Easter/Valentines present! The single gal is a person with her own needs and desires that should be met by the experience. It should be just as pleasurable experience for her as it is for the couple. I recall one session, frakkin years ago now, where the wife turned to the husband during the play session and actually said "happy birthday"... Nothing like feeling used at the end of a play meet I can tell ya! Another I recall in the profile, she was bi-sexual, but when I got to meeting them, she had magically turned straight/receiving only and didn't even want to be present when it came time to playing... ehh fail! So yea, playing as a single chick is fraught with fuck-arounds and not always a freeing and exciting experience when the couples are out only for their own pleasure.Single ladies really have to be very choosy with whom they meet to avoid disappointment. I had a great regular couple that I'd play with who really just treated me as any other friend, not as a prize or some cool gadget from the adult storeAs part of a couple now, we are both conscious of ensuring that everyone gets what they want and gives what they want during a play meet. I know that Mr Otori has fantasies about us as a couple giving a single lady an awesome night, but at this stage, I'm content with other couples as I've found there's more of that "any other friend" attitude to the way couples treat each other during play times.
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RHP User
12 years ago
some woman can feel a little scared especially if they are only just starting to experiment with women (eg me). or the woman may not be single but play as a single as well as a couple.
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RHP User
12 years ago
As a LIGITIMATELY single girl, I know how hard it is to find other single women who are bi.I get plenty of messages from SINGLE female profiles, however they all want their partner to be involved (get a couples profile already!) It is SO frustrating!We are out there, unfortunatey there just aren't too many of us.
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Vintagetatu
12 years ago
Quoting 'buttsylicious' As a LIGITIMATELY single girl, I know how hard it is to find other single women who are bi.I get plenty of messages from SINGLE female profiles, however they all want their partner to be involved (get a couples profile already!) It is SO frustrating!We are out there, unfortunatey there just aren't too many of us. I was just about to post this.... I get single female profiles and messages and then they mention their husband or bf (despite their profile not mentioning them at all!)...As for couples - married, engaged or whatever the status. I've found a few times I'm attracted to one but not the other which obviously can be a problem for the couple if they won't play alone but I'd rather be upfront about it....xo
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'buttsylicious'As a LIGITIMATELY single girl, I know how hard it is to find other single women who are bi.I get plenty of messages from SINGLE female profiles, however they all want their partner to be involved (get a couples profile already!) It is SO frustrating!We are out there, unfortunatey there just aren't too many of us. or if you do find someone who supposedly does want to play on their own after suggesting a meet they go running and you never hear from them again. Find truly bi women who are willing to play (either on their one on one or with a couple) for the OP i strongly recommmend visiting clubs or finding another couple. I honestly believe that far more couples have had luck doing that than those seeking a vi female to join them. Kisses Focus
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RHP User
12 years ago
I would class myself as 'curious' and would really love to find a lady to show me the ropes so to speak. I am single and have only ever been with men but do notice some beautiful women around. My problem is I live in a country town and it is so hard to find someone! I would also be interested in a threesome with a couple. Looking at all of your profiles (Sorry Ladies ;) you are all way too far away for me, unfortunately......... I wont be giving up though ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
The above commenters have pretty much covered the main reasons why single girls may be reluctant to meet with couples. And yes it can be intimidating as well, especially if you don't have much experience. I've met up with one couple so far, and that actually ended up as a foursome with another single guy. Out of all the other couples that have contacted me I've expressed definite interest to only 2 or 3 others. As has already been said, you can be quite picky, and with a lot of couples you just get a weird vibe about what it is they're actually looking for (e.g. if the female says something like, "hubby / bf would love to see me with another girl" then I don't read any further. I'm not a circus act there to put on a show. Another thing I've discovered is that I often only find one member of the couple physically attractive, and for me personally I need to be attracted to both for it to work.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Karyn, Focus and Luckdragon have said everything I was thinking.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Otori' Quoting 'Lost_Focus' I agree with what Karynb has said plus: * meeting up with a couple can be a lot of hassle...coordinating 3 schedules instead of 2. * in my experience - more often than not its all about the Couples enjoyment they forget that even the third person is there to enhance the couples experience the third person also has needs to be met. * some so called bi women receive only and dont give - no thanks! * too often I have come across women who are doing it solely because hubby wants it...I want people who are comfortable with themselves and each other * because not all bi women want to play with both a male and female at the same time. Some of us prefer the full on attention that comes with a one on one encounter instead of sharing the attention with someonelese (yes Im selfish but this also about my sexual pleasure) Kisses Focus Yes, that definitley reflects some of what I experienced in my early 20's when i was a unicorn. Couples seem to forget a lot of the time that you are not a hooker, you aren't there to please them and not get attention or your needs met in return. You aren't there to please someone's husband, nor are you a Birthday/Christmas/Easter/Valentines present! The single gal is a person with her own needs and desires that should be met by the experience. It should be just as pleasurable experience for her as it is for the couple. I recall one session, frakkin years ago now, where the wife turned to the husband during the play session and actually said "happy birthday"... Nothing like feeling used at the end of a play meet I can tell ya! Another I recall in the profile, she was bi-sexual, but when I got to meeting them, she had magically turned straight/receiving only and didn't even want to be present when it came time to playing... ehh fail! So yea, playing as a single chick is fraught with fuck-arounds and not always a freeing and exciting experience when the couples are out only for their own pleasure.Single ladies really have to be very choosy with whom they meet to avoid disappointment. I had a great regular couple that I'd play with who really just treated me as any other friend, not as a prize or some cool gadget from the adult storeAs part of a couple now, we are both conscious of ensuring that everyone gets what they want and gives what they want during a play meet. I know that Mr Otori has fantasies about us as a couple giving a single lady an awesome night, but at this stage, I'm content with other couples as I've found there's more of that "any other friend" attitude to the way couples treat each other during play times. Hard enough to find one person that you are compatible with & finding two people you "click with" is even more difficult... Having said that, I have been lucky enough to find some lovely couples in the past & have made some good friends on rhpand I'm thankful for that..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' The above commenters have pretty much covered the main reasons why single girls may be reluctant to meet with couples. And yes it can be intimidating as well, especially if you don't have much experience. I've met up with one couple so far, and that actually ended up as a foursome with another single guy. Out of all the other couples that have contacted me I've expressed definite interest to only 2 or 3 others. As has already been said, you can be quite picky, and with a lot of couples you just get a weird vibe about what it is they're actually looking for (e.g. if the female says something like, "hubby / bf would love to see me with another girl" then I don't read any further. I'm not a circus act there to put on a show. Another thing I've discovered is that I often only find one member of the couple physically attractive, and for me personally I need to be attracted to both for it to work. Agree wholeheartedly with what you've said & can't add any more ....I'd like to say more but need more sleep!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Vintagetatu' Quoting 'buttsylicious' As a LIGITIMATELY single girl, I know how hard it is to find other single women who are bi.I get plenty of messages from SINGLE female profiles, however they all want their partner to be involved (get a couples profile already!) It is SO frustrating!We are out there, unfortunatey there just aren't too many of us. I was just about to post this.... I get single female profiles and messages and then they mention their husband or bf (despite their profile not mentioning them at all!)...As for couples - married, engaged or whatever the status. I've found a few times I'm attracted to one but not the other which obviously can be a problem for the couple if they won't play alone but I'd rather be upfront about it....xo YES!! Agree with VT and Buttsylicious!I too, get the occasional message from a SINGLE BI FEMALE that isn't really SINGLE &she has a PARTNER or a SIGNIFICANT OTHER that wants to join in the fun!? They need to put up a COUPLE's PROFILE & make it clear what they are searching for & have one or two nice clear face pics in their PRIVATE GALLERIES....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes I hear ya there...its very hard wish i knew the answer ive been trying for ages but no luck :-(
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Wantlots
12 years ago
Have read your response Can you give me some positives way on how to intice his unicorn
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RHP User
12 years ago
We have found that it depends on not only what you are seeking as in 'unicorn' but also why you are seeking, is it 'for hubby' or 'just to try' etc. There are also a lot of single female profiles that say they have a partner that they want to join. I understand that they get more people viewing their profiles this way, but I am guessing less messages.Lastly I think it also depends on where you live and how many available and interested woman are around.
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StookyAndChooky
12 years ago
its a hit and miss thing you have what they are looking for or you don't I guess, depends on how approachable you are as well I guess, we haven't had alot of luck on rhp ourselves so can relate what everyone is saying. We have finally got the perfect profile that females don't feel isn't over the top easy to read know the bottom line what we are looking for. We have more luck at swingers parties these days. I am guessing with all the choices single women has she can pick and choose who ever she chooses.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe the ones you contact are not attracted to you. I looked at your profile. I like you but not him. So that's saying something isn't it. When I was single I met only one couple as I didn't really care for the rest. Most intelligent women are discerning and have certain tastes. I would not have met you guys because your partner is not for me. I am guessing that this is the case with others too. Maybe some like him and not you. A couple is a complete package and you have to like both partners. Not saying that you are unattractive at all. Just saying that there has to be an attraction there for a woman to want to meet you in the first place. I dont think jealousy is really an issue as the women that will meet couples know all about that, are prepared and I would never meet couples unless I was sure that it was not an issue with that couple. Good luck with your search. You just havn't contacted the right lady yet.
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RHP User
12 years ago
No, it's not intimidating for a single bi woman at all.As a 'Unicorn' I've met up with a number of couples from RHP, some I've played with, some I haven't. I've been to organised events, turning up alone to a party full of strangers. No problems with feeling intimidated.I agree with wefukugood. I need to be attracted to BOTH members of the couple in order for me to want to meet with, and then possibly play with them. There is no need to take one for the team - I AM the team.
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Gypsy_Girl
12 years ago
I would need to get to know the couple in person at least a little before playing, be attracted to both, and certain both parties are keen for involvement. So far contact with couples profiles has only been from 1 of the two (the male) speaking on behalf of both and I've only been given access to photo's of the female. I'm also expected to be the one to travel (average 4 - 6 hours), then I would also need to book a place to stay if things don't work out. All too difficult really. I've recently taken couples off my 'looking for', I live in hope for a spontaneous meet with a random couple with instant fireworks between all three of us...like that will ever happen in Remote Western Queensland.- Posted from rhpmobile
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Gypsy_Girl
12 years ago
I noticed you have pics of both of you and like to reply together...I don't think your doing a lot wrong (based on my previous comments / opinion regarding my experience with couples on here). Maybe some new pics showing off your best assets, you could take pics of each other instead of self portraits...make them interesting and seductive, it may help.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Very well said, Advent Couple.. :)
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sensualplay
12 years ago
Quoting 'GirlCorrupted' Hi! whilst i can understand & relate to all of the above....if ur seeking a single bi female for cpl fantasies or other, I'm your girl!let's chat & if we click i'm pretty keen for a good time. no hasslesGHi GirlCurupted ,We are just down the road from you and are seeking a bi female nearbyWe would love to connect with you. Mrs is bi and has been in both triad and lesbian live in relationships.We are both very skilled in sensual and tantric arts, and we are both multi-orgasmic. I wonder how we get in touch? our user name where yipee au might find us? Welcome to the north coast btwwarmlyB&A
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RHP User
11 years ago
I used to be a single bi girl who only wanted women and couples....I found that I really only wanted to see one or two couples at a time, so out of all the couples sending me messages, I only messaged the ones who sounded like they suited me. and the female was totally bi...... I did try to answer all flirts and messages but it was hard.......Actually it was the ones who flirted a few times and messaged a few times that I took more notice of, and some I even met. As for the single bi girls that I met has a single.....only one I actually met.......the rest....who knows....Now I am in a couple and look for single bi girls, both of us don't swing and are not into couples...the male part anyway......but, we have been on this site for under 2 months and have talked to lots, met over 6 girls...on amm....over the last 6 months have talked to lots, met will most of them..not all we played with...but they are there....and we go out into the city, valley and met new friends there too....ps...we have played with a lot of bi curious girls so don't think all will not met at the last minute, they do met and sometimes are the most fun...hehe...mmmmmmmmmAlso if there are any bi girls who read this post, have a look at our profile, we love new friends....xxSince Mikes Place is couples looking for couples, we have fun there but have never played with anyone there.......
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RHP User
11 years ago
wantingathird.....we see our special play friends as an extension of us, when we are out dancing or at home playing...we are all joined together to explore each other noone is left out..we really don't have silly rules...eg...stopping when someone leaves a room......we never call our play friends the third......it makes it sound like a she is there but separate...only there for you both and not her......our newest play friend says she goes to met couples and doesn't play because a lot so far (she is new to it all), have so many rules, making it all so serious, that it takes the fun out of it...........maybe change your profile name....as a single bi girl I wouldn't have answered in a 'yes, lets chat;... mainly because of your username.....sorry...
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