Finding a single woman to head out with

December 31 2015

I have been single for quite a few years now and have found it hard to find a good woman to party with. Buy this I mean to take out to event like Saints and sinners purr ect. I would love too go to the s&s party tonight but as single male I wouldn't get in. So my question is what am I doing wrong? Or where should I be looking, to find a person that is happy too be taken out For dinner drinks and a dance once in a while. I don't expect anything in return just a fun night out. I'm not looking for relationship just a female friend I can take out as a friend. Didn't think it would be a big deal. Would love some feed back please people. One confused man. - Posted from rhpmobile

Comments

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    9 years ago

    If you find out what the problem is... I've got nothing... Been looking for the same thing (only male) for nearly 2 years. I just put it down to men don't do the friends bit of fwb. Not with me anyway.

  • Ashisalwayshorny

    Ashisalwayshorny

    9 years ago

    I just don't understand It should be as easy as putting up a add on the date app. Then heading out for a fun night on the town. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    but I could be a bit Aspergers too.... Why would you want to go to a swingers party....just to dance??? Seems like an expensive option to me.... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Ashisalwayshorny

    Ashisalwayshorny

    9 years ago

    Good question!!! I would be looking to play!!! But always enjoy a good dance. I never go to out to party with the intention of hocking up. But if it happens then it was ment too be. Hope that clears it up. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Not sure he said he only wanted to dance at a swingers party but maybe wrong - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'Stirry' but I could be a bit Aspergers too.... Why would you want to go to a swingers party....just to dance??? Seems like an expensive option to me.... - Posted from rhpmobile Especially considering he's "always horny" :)

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    9 years ago

    He might just want to get into the swingers club and then when there he is really free to hook up with whoever he wants. Just because you go together doesn't mean you have to play together hit make sure those parameters are clear before you venture out or It could be awkward...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I am going to a Rodeo tonight...To dance...I went to one some years ago in Qld.. and I was dancing up a storm.... I nearly fell over eventually.. when some lovely lady.. straightforwardly.. came up and said..."You pretty good for a fella who knows absolutely SHIT about dancing.. want me to teach you some moves...?"She took me home.. and didn't teach me shit about dancing... but hell... the sex was good..MAYBE some ol' cowgirl will take pity on me again tonight...OF course...Being a Rodeo.... I COULD go there and try to ride a fckn bull again... But "Nah.. I will dance... and not hold my breath......"

  • chevtrek

    chevtrek

    9 years ago

    But since my partner split to do drugs I have a hard time finding love.There will come a time you will feel as I do and you might look for more than an FWB.I will spend new years with 3 kinky gals 21 to 33 but will still feel empty.

  • Mr_MrsAraps

    Mr_MrsAraps

    9 years ago

    For me it was being on forums for a number of years and going with one of the peeps that I had chatted a number of times off line with. Also there was straight up no expectation of sex from either party. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    9 years ago

    Summer I have only been once with a group of people. It didn't appear to me that couples only played together. I didn't mean to dicth your date and run off. But if he went and played with someone else and then back for a drink and she went and did her thing I don't see that as an issue.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    9 years ago

    You say you've been single for a few years. To me, therein lies your answer. Look into why you've been single. The words you e used in subsequent replies tell me you're not single through choice but through circumstance, and possibly personality. And if that's the case, those same traits will affect how you interact with people who are open to the kind if friendships you are seeking. If that sounds all a bit cryptic it is only because all I know if you is what you've written.... but you've written asking for an answer and that is my answer to you. Oh, and Chevtrek.... It's all getting pretty boring now. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    And some have been great and some very ordinary. I MUST trust the single guy I'm taking because at the end of the day I'm vouching that he'll be respectful and appropriate at the party/event! The most successful times with single guys at parties have been when my 'date' is obviously into me and isn't there to just fuck everyone else. I want my 'date' to have an awesome time with lots of people as long as I'm not left feeling like I'm simply an entry ticket-which, I have felt as before. If I'm taking a single guy to a party I'm obviously attracted to him and I know I can trust him to enough to ensure that he'll look after me and my needs as well as his :) I'll also be looking for opportunities for him, which I've done before too! Mary xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I'm with MissB on this, in MY experience, men struggle with FWB and more regularly prefer a FB, I find I've been more of the latter in the past! Mary xx

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    9 years ago

    The author asked for comments.... mine may have been interpreted as harsh due to it's brevity, but some know I have offered assistance away from the forums and thus know I'm not just about sledging someone mercilessly. As I said, assumptions have been made to offer that opinion, and sometimes that external opinion is what we really need to hear to shake us out of the rut we are in, or to nudge us towards the path we seek. So it stands to reason that IF the OP is not single by way of his own choosing, and IF he isn't meeting the kinds of people he is asking assistance to meet, then there is an impediment to him meeting those goals. I DID NOT suggest he has a poor personality.... quite the opposite as he seems intelligent and communicates well in this arena so far. I am merely saying that IF he is after assistance, then he recognises that he needs to change his approach.... and that some elements of his thinking and approach.... which he presents to the world as his "personality" .... needs that nudge in the direction towards his goals. And as has been the case in the past, im happy to offer the nudge and guiding word off the forums DG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Sh just needs to meet the Two Pussys Whisperer when he comes to town 😜😜xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Meant to say Ash,but shhhhs works too 😜xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'Summer_solstice' Quoting 'Missb72' He might just want to get into the swingers club and then when there he is really free to hook up with whoever he wants. Just because you go together doesn't mean you have to play together I've seen men go their own way at the Couples Club after coming in with a woman, and management would be all over them (read: the guy). One man was actually told to leave. The rule there is that couples must always stay together. Whenever I've been there, couples didn't have to stay together, as long as they were both downstairs. Not the wife upstairs and the hubby downstairs.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    by choice.... just simply have not found anyone (male) I would consider giving my freedom up for - does that make me a bad person? Selfish may be :) but that does not mean I am a bad person, impossible to get along with - I just prefer to be on my own more than attached....