Finding time

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Who had 5 kids and an excellent relationship, stlll do (kids all grown)...they had a weekend away once a month. Luckily they had very supportive families and friends. They found the time and made the effort because they were both equality dedicated to making it work and work well. I never had the feeling that a job or other interests were more important even though they had other interests and jobs. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Thanks to my mum I get 'me' time. Sometimes I use it to play, sometimes to study and sometimes to relax. Either way I couldn't be without my mum.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  My son lives with me and hardly ever spends a night away from the house. I have to meet people whenever I get a rare couple of hours to myself. But my son is number one, so thats how it is. There are some people who dont understand that and expect you to drop everything and make time to meet them. Ive managed to do it though and people worthy of my time get my time. But all you people who have weekends to yourself, enjoy and make the most of it, you are very lucky xx

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Couldn't agree more Koko .... kids are number one ..... but so are you :) .... don't forget yourself as well

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Our daughter usually stays at her aunties or a friends house which allows us time to go out and socialise or have people over for drinks/spa/pool.

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  horneycouplewa

  9 years ago

  We have a 18yr old and a 12 yr old as of now. Started with RHP about 6 months ago as we felt we have that freedom to do so but only a one nighter and back early. Our kids are in boarding school so week days we have our time Boarding was our only option as to where we live, BUT I still pick them up every friday and take back early Monday. Understanding that we NEVER did childcare and very rarely did babysitters, so our life life was based on them. We live in the sticks too with no family and as the kid's are at a good age it's ok for us. They now understand that we need to go out with the sacrificies we made, plus they have food internet foxtel etc lol

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  MsSuperFoxy

  9 years ago

  Hi OP, you're not alone as there's many people here in similar circumstances. I think the key is finding out what's important in your life right now, and making that a priority. What works for me (as a full time shift worker) is making sure my health and well being is in top order first before anything else. Then it's a case of having a good balance of flexible time management and putting personal boundaries in place. I know that if I want to meet people from here, I have to put in that time and effort that works for me. As selfish as it sounds, I look after number one first, then family, then what ever after that. RHP is somewhere down the ladder, it's not a high priority for me. Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Although this isn't about finding time to get out and have fun with others (although it was always a problem with 6 kids when my wife was alive, just to get out with friends for a drink or dinner). We often had dinners at out place, but there's always a child wanting something or when younger, not wanting to go to bed. Even finding time to enjoy with my wonderful wife was a problem. There was always one of them knocking on the door wanting something of NO consequence. I think they just do it because they feel they are being left out if Mum and Dad disappear into the bedroom for anything more than 5 minutes. My point is, when you have kids, especially a larger than usually brood, you will have problems finding time to do anything on the fun or relaxation side. It's part of being a parent. They are little people who need all the love and attention you can give. But you also have to make time for yourself, otherwise you'll burn out and possibly even resent their presence, which is just not on. It will always be a juggling act until they either get to an age where they understand the need or they move out... My experience, anyway...

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