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Finding your rhythm...
January 21 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
It all depends on so many things so there is no hard and fast rule for this question. But what's with some guys breaking the rhythm and changing positions every few minutes. I begin to feel like a rag doll or a Pretzel. Yes i can put my legs behind my ears... but do I want a 6 ft 100 kg man pounding me at the same time? Not so much 😜 Mind you this enthusiasm doesn't last into the second or third meeting. So I wonder, are men trying to impress the ladies with all their maneuvers in one go? Leave a little in reserve boys. Sheesh. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Love's climax should never be rushed I say, But worked up softly lingering all the way Ovid
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RHP User
12 years ago
What Freya (and Ovid) said ...
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RHP User
12 years ago
how much sexual tension is there...Sometimes the first time with someone I'm nervous as all sh*t - crapping myself - the sex gets better and better...Sometimes...FIREWORKS BABY- There is no rhythm when clothes a-Rippin.You just gotta ignite the light and let it shineJust own the night like the 4th of July'Cause, baby, you're a fireworkCome on, show 'em what you're worthMake 'em go "Oh, oh, oh"As you shoot across the sky-y-yBaby, you're a fireworkCome on, let your colours burstMake 'em go "Oh, oh, oh"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Yes i can put my legs behind my ears... but do I want a 6 ft 100 kg man pounding me at the same time? Not so much 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile I'm 6 foot but only 88kg.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I find my rhythm slowly, in tune with getting to know someone and connecting with them, heart to heart. No amount of technique will work if my heart isn't engaged. I simply can't have good sex unless there's an emotional, intimate connection - the deeper, the better. I can have average to ok sex without it but I'm not fully present and I can't fully let go - I end up disappointed and I'm sure the guy does too.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You do find a rhythm , you do connect on all or most levels and then you never ever hear from them again They have been swallowed in to that deep dark mysterious void where apparently there is no mobile phone service and you think to yourself why did I bother trying to work their rhythm out ??
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RHP User
12 years ago
Can't speak for all the guys and their way they go about it. But I suggest changing the position every few minutes could be for several reasons 1) muscles start to ache simply in those more strength positions so a change it's more comfy. 2) sometimes that few seconds not pounding you is just enough time to settle regroup and regain composure. To extend the performance level if you know what I mean... But maybe some guys do want to impress you with all his positions but I for one like to save a few for next time lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Fan-tas-tic... Right from the word go... Sigh... Just is! Sometimes... It's all a bit nerve wracking and it takes a few goes to really find a groove. Some people are worth it. Other posters are right, lots of variables. The moon, the stars, how much wine you've drunk, the lead up, how well you get along, whether you slept the night before... And Shinas, I hear ya! This happened to me once. I think if you trust your instincts you actually know when they're not THAT into you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Definitely agree its a "it depends" type of question... but I was curious about the different possibilities.. which I've read with avarice :)Shinasbabe, maybe the answer to your bigger question is the even biggerer (perhaps the biggerist) question: once you've got your collective mojo, and you're so in tune with all the participants that it's become just unfuckingbelievable... where do you go from there? Maybe that's where the void swallows some of them?Given that - for some - this place is more about sex, and sometimes more about casual sex - how long do you give it for the rhythm to be found? Twice? Thrice? More?(and whew, I'm 99.5kgs...)
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RHP User
12 years ago
It varies for me as well.....a few times things have just clicked right from the very first time....but I find more often that it takes a few meetings to become completely comfortable and really get in synch with each other.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is different with different folks. But the first has never been the best for me. Only Once have i experienced that amazing conection where it was awesome from the very first time.....and that was an 8 hour marathon and over 9 months the sex just got better and better. For me, it usually takes time to get know his body, develop the intimacy and the trust that then allows us to explore, relax and enjoy. I find it's more a mental connection than anything else and frankly if that hasn't happened early on, it's just not going to. If the sex is really awful.......it is a reflection of not having that mental connection, not the mechanics of sex, no amount of time is going to fix that so that's when it's time to back out gracefully and say..."..this really isn't working" I rarely find myself in this situaton these days as i say No more often than Yes, i guess i've learnt how to filter better Who could be bothered with mediocre sex??
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Lifes_great
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFox'how much sexual tension is there...Sometimes the first time with someone I'm nervous as all sh*t - crapping myself - the sex gets better and better...Sometimes...FIREWORKS BABY- There is no rhythm when clothes a-Rippin. Crapping yourself's no good! But I hear ya......sometimes its all you can do is rip the clothes off one another other times is slow and sensual. I think it's the joining of the different personalities.....some will cause sparks others may smoulder
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RHP User
12 years ago
If its a one night stand the sex is off the chart....I dont care what he thinks about me nor do I care if I never see him again.....its all "out there" but there's no "depth" to it. Like a performing monkey. With someone I care about I dont overwhelm or initmidate them but gently suggest that I like to "steer" the positional changes. Never had a man feel awkward about that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
whether you've met them before or its someone new first time sex with someone can be amazing, but once you get comfortable with eachother and start tryng different things i find it gets a whole lot better
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