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First Date!
May 21 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
The trick is do not try to sleep with her on the first date, or second or third, yep be that old fashioned guy and make her simmer with wanting that. yes again, open the door and escort her with your hand just on the small of her back. lean in now and again, like your almost going in for a kiss, but reach for the fork I guess to be honest, be yourself that's why she said yes to the date in the first time, she saw something in you she liked. don't be nervous, after all its like riding a bike, you soon get back into it. good luck and do not talk about your shit past relationships
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Don't TRY to make things perfect..... because there is no such thing. Focus on being fun, interesting, engaging..... and just an all-round decent and socially desirable guy. Try too hard to impress with plans and offerings.... and you're setting yourself up for a fall. Were it me, I'd switch the order up and take in a cocktail FIRST, then suggest dinner when you're hungry. Dinner means sitting opposites, like an interview. It's structured and formal and not really conducive to light free flowing interactions which is what you SHOULD be having this early on in your interactions. Cocktails in a bar are casual, informal, you sit side by side slightly facing eachother.... it's relaxed and not confrontational. Plenty more I can say about dating behaviour, but the principle if walking before you run applies..... focus in being a Man of character, interest, courage and curiosity, be interested in her if she's interesting (not simply nice to look at).... and allow your masculinity to ignite her femininity. And smile..... you're meant to have fun!! DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you guys. That's a great idea to have a cocktail first. Dinner won't be till 8:30 anyway so might loosen me up a little also. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
Tell a lot, have some fun, if it has got too the point with going on a date, then chances are you may become friends, friends have fun. It was a long time ago that I dated Tara, but I will never forget the smiling eyes as our friendship began. These days I date her a little different, but there is no way she would let me if we were not such good friends. The love just happens, the world has been a cunt too us at times but the universe has been kind. Mado Tara xx
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
To mr young This lady has already said 'yes' to meeting you. The way I see life is that women WANT men to succeed with them, because it ultimately helps her. Our role as a man is to BE a man by not fucking it up! So what you've shown her has already worked thus far. Keep doing it. PS.... It was a big part of your life this far, but don't talk about your ex.... if it comes up, sum it up. "We decided that we weren't suited and to let eachother go". You're with this lady.... so be present with this lady :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Pay attention to her,ask her questions about her,not the prying kind of course and don't rabbit on endlessly about you,your ex or your work.....no woman wants to be put into a coma on the first date:-) and good 'luck xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
If something goes wrong...... The old saying, if it all goes wrong, then it can only get better.......... Listen for her cues, pick up on what she says and follow...... First date kiss!!! Don't dive in, don't peck, if you clicked and you both felt it, just gently hold her chin and a soft brush of lips is perfect.................. I still remember my first date with my man 24yrs ago :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
but don't just agree with everything she says... it's attractive to have your own point of view and be able to stand by it. Oh, and sorry for the off topic, but this: Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' The way I see life is that women WANT men to succeed with them, because it ultimately helps her. - looks hilarious sitting next to the 20,000 forum threads asking why women don't respond to messages
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yankmychain56
11 years ago
cant offer any advice, other than just be polite, charm her without making it look like your tongue is hanging out too much, and let her make the first move.If nothing else, just thank her for a nice night out, maybe a kiss on the cheek and thats its, hopefully it might grow to more.I was married for 17 years, and was too scared to go out for about five years after that, then married for ten years and STILL had trouble making that first step on a real 'date'.Feel like i am in high school again.hope it helps.you are not alone
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RHP User
11 years ago
And show respect, suggestion is not to sleep on the first date, also it creates anticipation and something for her to look forward to. Just get to know each other ie. general information and likes(ie. music, interests, sport or not).
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On_Safari
11 years ago
It takes alot for any guy who approaches me to gain my interest, by the time I accept a date I AM HOPING that he'll be someone I want to know more about. And hopefully that feeling is reciprocated. OP be yourself, laugh, smile.....if there's an attraction there she'll respond to it. Good luck!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nothing worse than someone being in your face over nice.. Just be yourself.. you really dont need any pointers.. It will be OK on the day .. Just relax
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RHP User
11 years ago
It is so lovely to hear, enjoy yourself :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you all for the feedback! :) I think I'm just going to be myself and enjoy the company. Should be a good night anyway. - Posted from rhpmobile
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wildesires
11 years ago
yep anyway keep your focus of the prize...if another pretty girl struts by ..ignore her don't even look...good luck
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's been a while since I went on a first date but I say make her laugh and lots of eye contact so she knows she's got all your attention . And most of all smell good ..I can't resist a guy who smells good !! Xx mrs cs
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'youngsweet' Thank you all for the feedback! :) I think I'm just going to be myself and enjoy the company. Should be a good night anyway. - Posted from rhpmobile if you put a heap of bullshit pressure on yourself, you are going to be awkward. Just enjoy it for what it is. Go get that girl :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Laugh, smile, listen and enjoy :) :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Quoting 'kinky_gemini' but don't just agree with everything she says... it's attractive to have your own point of view and be able to stand by it. Oh, and sorry for the off topic, but this: Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' The way I see life is that women WANT men to succeed with them, because it ultimately helps her. - looks hilarious sitting next to the 20,000 forum threads asking why women don't respond to messages Looks even more relevant when you know what those messages and the profiles which own them... are.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
How you feeling, youngsweet?? Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm feeling good now. I think I was putting too much pressure on the situation. Like I said it has been awhile! I'm just going to be calm about the night and don't get caught up in it. If it's right I'm sure it will just flow and we both can enjoy ourselves. One more question though. If the kiss is there, do I go for it? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
...Is that you're supposed to listen twice as much as you talk. Women/girls aren't so impressed by a guy 'talking himself up' as they are by someone who shows genuine interest in getting to know them......and as someone else said I think....don't strive for 'perfect'. Puts too much pressure on you ; nothing is perfect. Good Luck !!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I wasn't going to add anything...two reasons for that, but they're irrelevant and I'm just mentioning it to boost my post so it looks like I am helping you. Lol :) But.... Think about this..... If a woman throws her vagina at you, and throws everything she is/has as at you....hamming up the compliments and all that shit... You're going to want to slap her face for being so god damned pathetic right?? Same with you.... If you want her to give you shit about how you spilt spaghetti down your shirt, and be your equal....then damnit do the same... Just remember to make it light hearted teasing, not an insulting teasing. There's nothing worse than laughing your balls off at a compound fracture at the bottom of the stairs....you'll come across as a right dick. Now that my post is lengthy enough for me to consider it worthy good luck and may you cover her with the love that can only be tasted not just felt ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
On a one I. One sat that rule can't hold true for both parties.....the key obviously threeses then everyone can listen twice as much!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Languid
11 years ago
so what happens if you both listen twice as much as you talk haha?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Think about anytime you've met anyone... The times you walk away from that person going wow they're great... And then you ask yourself what do I know about them, not much... What do they know about me??? A damn side more... Ask her questions... Find out as much as you can? Her likes, her dislikes, where she wants to go in life... All that sort of stuff..don't be an "I " specialist and take over the conversation. Don't go d and m into relationship stuff, you need to get a feel for each other by finding out the real stuff... Too many focus on what they want out of a relationship in the first few conversations instead of getting to know each other... I've done this myself... Good luck - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
So I just received a text from my date informing me that she has been seeing a guy on and off for about ten months now. Supposedly they were off when we met and as of last night they're on. Grrrr! So thank you all for the words of wisdom but I'm going to have to rain check on using it all. Although if there are any Adelaide ladies free tomorrow night I have an 8:30 reservation at Conqubine. Message me or let me know if you're interested :) Enjoy your night people. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Wtf - that's terrifible -pulled your chain bad- please Adelaide ladies look after this young man :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ya poor bastard lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe... She read this forum??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I am so sorry to hear that. I guess she was emotionally unavailable to start with but you were unaware. This happens and there's not much you can do about it. It it what it is, get yourself a little box and tie a pretty ribbon around it. Keep putting yourself out there, you never know what is around the corner. Your still young, there will be plenty more dates and meets to come. Best of luck. There is someone for you, they just haven't found you yet. :) Foxy PS - Cock_Suckers - Your profile pics are fucking smoin HOT as! LOL I'd turn into a unicorn for both of you... xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Exactly right. There's plenty of beautiful women out there! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Just be cool.... I'm hoping that you were aware enough to tell her that she SHOULD go to the other guy..... because you're not her option B..... and you may be surprised down the road. :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I said it was awesome that they could work it out. :) I'm not bitter. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Still you lost nothing in your endeavour and still gained insightful information, support, the chance she may regret her present decision with Mr On again off again and you also achieved a wonderful networking opportunity with US your friendly RHP Forumites 😉 win win all round. Stand tall mate you did us all proud even if you didn't get the girl.
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RHP User
11 years ago
now that the circumstances have changed.... ask her if she's up for a date at a seedy motel?
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