First Meetings

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  to meet it a club or bar than a private residence as long as it wasn't a dive! Great night out and no pressure...

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  TWOfourYOU

  13 years ago

  Hey each to there own we think. We prefer to meet at a cafe or a bar, have a chat and a drink, we ALWAYS advise up front, there will be no play on first meet. We had thought about arranging to meet at a Swingers club, but we sought of thought that may indicate that we would play (possibly in others minds) and if we didn't, we didn't want the drama, if you get where we are coming from...could be taken in two ways. Certainly by meeting at a club, if you did hit it off, could be all goer from the start! lol We will confess we have meet a single guy at his house, after sevral convo's though....both very nervous! But it panned our very nicely intend!

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  We only meet single ladies so we prefer to meet in a public place for their sake. We usually meet at a bar and have a chat and if things go well, the bars walking distance to our place. ;)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  imagine this wasn't a sex site for a minute..... hypothetically speaking,, let's just say we were meeting to play ping pong or have a game of yahtzee... hmmm, there would be no pressure then hey. *musing*depends which way you look at it really... i'm easy going and have always been comfortable around other people... so i guess i'm saying, for me, there is no pressure on a meet.... a fun pub maybe, alcohol is a good conversation lubricator.... wherever the person i'm meeting feels comfortable i guess.... i'll go with that

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Cafe or bar as its always just a social meeting first time. Its quick, convenient ,inexpensive and and takes all the pressure off people as its something most people would feel comfortable doing with friends anyhow. If we all get on at the first quick meet then the people are no longer strangers and are happy to be more spontaneous or just invite them over and host at home at a later date.Some people like the clubs and they offer something different and each to there own. I'm not sure of the numbers favoring each one or the other. We have met quite a lot of people and never had anyone refuse to meet when we give them a choice of cafe or bar.Try and pick some place easy for both people.If we are going to the effort of getting over night babysitting and spending a bit of money and committing to a big night . Then we prefer to do that with people we have already met and know we like.Tim

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  As a newbie about to dip my toe (perhaps several) into the swinging scene this is a topic very close to heart. So is the consensus that meeting at a swinging club or a bar is the best place for a first meeting - especially if it is the very first meeting.   Steve

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  We like to meet for a drink and a chat first at a bar or pub, so everyone can be relaxed with the surrounds and what is going on as its all about feeling safe n happy :)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I suppose meeting at a club or bar provides an opportunity to set the rules of play (or should this be finalised in previous chat); and allows either party to safely walk away if things don't feel right. At this piont it is a meeting between strangers and i know that my butterflies will be in full flight.

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